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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by RaeMystix: 6:10pm On Feb 13, 2015
Very childish op.....You weren't ready for marriage, cos if you were, you wouldn't be texting another woman other than your wife; Your wife wouldn't leave the house over a simple friendly text.....So you need to get over yourself and grow up.

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by kikelomojessy(f): 6:12pm On Feb 13, 2015
princesslucy83:
She was not ready for Marriage. what if she catch you slaming a gal, would she die?
only Sms she wants DIVORCE,

SHE NEVER CHI CHUM CHIN.\\\\\\\\\\\\\\

If U̶̲̥̅̊ tink the OP is right just say amen to dis prayer: may ur spouse cheat on U̶̲̥̅̊ and may U̶̲̥̅̊ remain happy seeing him slaming other gurls!

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by jackymfon: 6:12pm On Feb 13, 2015
charles009:
Hey guys,

I got married to my wife last December, we have been living happily. But last night, events took a bitter twist. She woke me up 2.09am today and started raining abuses on me. Be for I could talk, she smashed my phone on the floor.

The question is why is she angry? She read an exchange of sms between me and a certain girl. I stead of her asking questions, she went extreme.

I don't visit her phones and I expect her to do the same. Am still asking how she managed to get the password.

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

Now I ask?? Is it right for her to breach my privacy and get into my phone?


There is nothing like breach of privacy when you are married both of you become one... You went into marriage without knowing what marriage is about... Afi you will not allow her in..... You are so full of yourself you need to change your attitude.....

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by DuchessLily(f): 6:13pm On Feb 13, 2015
@op What privacy r u talking abt?? She is ur wife 4 crying out loud...

...And d both shall become one... If she does not have d right to touch ur fone, den its because u r a very unfaithful husband.


Most men cheating since d days of Adam...

Dat was what Adam was out doing and left d wife he was supposed to be with 4 devil to tempt grin

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by batista73: 6:13pm On Feb 13, 2015
Get upset, yes. Refuse to speak to you for a while, yes. Even report you to your pastor or folks, yes. But pack out over an sms chat, unless it was a sex video , there are better ways to punish you. Shouldn't be so quick to leave her home. What would that really achieve?
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by ooshinibos: 6:13pm On Feb 13, 2015
charles009:
Hey guys,

I got married to my wife last December, we have been living happily. But last night, events took a bitter twist. She woke me up 2.09am today and started raining abuses on me. Be for I could talk, she smashed my phone on the floor.

The question is why is she angry? She read an exchange of sms between me and a certain girl. I stead of her asking questions, she went extreme.

I don't visit her phones and I expect her to do the same. Am still asking how she managed to get the password.

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

Now I ask?? Is it right for her to breach my privacy and get into my phone?

apologies to her if you have been caught out ..but next time add a PIN ( personal identification number) to the interface of your phone , these PINs are there for a reason you know ..and if you have lose ur fone , u want worry because ur infor is secure and lock

Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by femi4: 6:13pm On Feb 13, 2015
charles009:
Hey guys,

I got married to my wife last December, we have been living happily. But last night, events took a bitter twist. She woke me up 2.09am today and started raining abuses on me. Be for I could talk, she smashed my phone on the floor.

The question is why is she angry? She read an exchange of sms between me and a certain girl. I stead of her asking questions, she went extreme.

I don't visit her phones and I expect her to do the same. Am still asking how she managed to get the password.

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

Now I ask?? Is it right for her to breach my privacy and get into my phone?

They were both naked and never ashamed.

Privacy no longer exist.
BTW, how old are you?
What do you know about marriage?

You sound very immature

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Nobody: 6:13pm On Feb 13, 2015
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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by SomebodyLovesMe: 6:13pm On Feb 13, 2015
Breaching your privacy is a secondary issue.

The primary issue is that you have cheated / flirted with another woman. You have hurt your wife. Face the issue like a responsible man and stop trying to put the shoe on the other foot.

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by chiamanda1234: 6:14pm On Feb 13, 2015
Guys and phone privacy....makes me wonder at times...is der supposed to be secrets n privacy in relationships...if derz ntn to hide den y d restriction
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by uchennamani(m): 6:16pm On Feb 13, 2015
charles009:
Hey guys,

I got married to my wife last December, we have been living happily. But last night, events took a bitter twist. She woke me up 2.09am today and started raining abuses on me. Be for I could talk, she smashed my phone on the floor.

The question is why is she angry? She read an exchange of sms between me and a certain girl. I stead of her asking questions, she went extreme.

I don't visit her phones and I expect her to do the same. Am still asking how she managed to get the password.

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

Now I ask?? Is it right for her to breach my privacy and get into my phone?

Why tell us all this? We are not in the least interested.
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by SomebodyLovesMe: 6:16pm On Feb 13, 2015
femi4:
They were both naked and never ashamed.

Privacy no longer exist.
BTW, how old are you?
What do you know about marriage?

You sound very immature

Good question.

So many women married to immature men.

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Nimrod81: 6:17pm On Feb 13, 2015
Brother I know its annoying but come on don't be mad... U love her and will let her in when she comes back... Just play it cool... Shit happens you know...
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Chidonc(m): 6:18pm On Feb 13, 2015
Closetoheart:
Forgiveness is a choice. My husband cheated on me with his long time gf barely two months into our marriage. I saw the messages... I wanted to commit suicide. I was pregnant at that time. I felt abused, disappointed and bad. He apologised and I forgave him. Eight months later, I saw him send his unclad picture to the same girl. I threatened to pack out of the house, he apologised again, and promised not to do it again.

Now, you know what? I don't care any more. Whether he is still seeing the girl or not is his problem. He is answerable to God. He is a xtian, he ministers in church now. So if he still indulges in such acts, he will have God to answer to.

Do you why I kept on forgiving him? Because he apologised. It still pains me, but I have promised myself that the forgiveness will stand, and I will continue to forgive him, even if he does something worse. Because I cannot continue to bear grudge in my heart. I want to make heaven.

The best I can do is to be wise. When I say being wise, it means protecting myself and my children from whatever inactions or actions of their dad that might want to cause harm to us.



GOD BLESS U MUMMY
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by DuchessLily(f): 6:19pm On Feb 13, 2015
princesslucy83:
She was not ready for Marriage. what if she catch you slaming a gal, would she die?
only Sms she wants DIVORCE,

SHE NEVER CHI CHUM CHIN.\\\\\\\\\\\\\\
na waoo...if u r a babes, and talking like dis, den probably its because its what u do ....have affair wt pple's husbands.

Abi na u b d bae rolling with d hubby? undecided

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by drey076(m): 6:19pm On Feb 13, 2015
Op, the truth is dat u are not ready for marriage

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by kikelomojessy(f): 6:19pm On Feb 13, 2015
I use password on ma fone to avoid kids pressing it without my permission, also since its a touch screen, to avoid d fone dailing itself. Aprt from these reasons I dnt use password. There shld be no secret in marriage, U̶̲̥̅̊ can give her ur password and U̶̲̥̅̊ know hers.
OP is angry, and I mean very angry for the fact that she went thru ur fone, and yet U̶̲̥̅̊ cnt be angry at ursef for wanting to ruin ur fresh marriage. SMH for U̶̲̥̅̊!
U̶̲̥̅̊ had beta just calm ursef down and talk to her nicely. But CO̶̲̥̅̊M̶̲̥̅Ɛ̷̃̊ tell us wetin U̶̲̥̅̊ and dat side chick dey chat.

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Eluwilussit(m): 6:20pm On Feb 13, 2015
charles009:
Hey guys,

I got married to my wife last December, we have been living happily. But last night, events took a bitter twist. She woke me up 2.09am today and started raining abuses on me. Be for I could talk, she smashed my phone on the floor.

The question is why is she angry? She read an exchange of sms between me and a certain girl. I stead of her asking questions, she went extreme.

I don't visit her phones and I expect her to do the same. Am still asking how she managed to get the password.

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

Now I ask?? Is it right for her to breach my privacy and get into my phone?


There is nothing like privacy in marriage. There's nothing like breach of privacy in marriage. There's no personal space.

Your wife overreacted. We don't know what she saw, because you didn't say. Whatever she saw, threw her off badly. Go fetch your wife and make amends.

On her part, it was wrong for her to go behind your back to obtain your pw. It simply means you can't trust her. You guys need to sit down and talk. Marriage is full of fuckups. You treat each fuckup as it comes.

She will calm down eventually. Everybody does. Make sure you turn a new leaf and don't hide anything from her. My wife has all my passwords. Phone, bank, email, name it, she does. My passwords are there to protect me from outsiders and not from her. Remember, 1+1=1 in marriage and not 2.

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Ojoariyo(m): 6:21pm On Feb 13, 2015
princesslucy83:
She was not ready for Marriage. what if she catch you slaming a gal, would she die?
only Sms she wants DIVORCE,

SHE NEVER CHI CHUM CHIN.\\\\\\\\\\\\\\
why are you talking like this, let's call a spade by its name, this marrage is too young for the man to start miss behaving.
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by absoluteSuccess: 6:22pm On Feb 13, 2015
princesslucy83:
She was not ready for Marriage. what if she catch you slaming a gal, would she die?
only Sms she wants DIVORCE,

SHE NEVER CHI CHUM CHIN.\\\\\\\\\\\\\\
THE WALL STREET POST.
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Nobody: 6:22pm On Feb 13, 2015
elantraceey:
You are married not dating !!!!!! Should there really be such privacy and secrets in marriage?


I can't imagine dating someone that i can't go through his phone not to talk of getting married to one. undecided

What was the chat like? Why am i even asking ? What kind of chat will infuriate a wife like that? undecided


And you could still get angry undecided



lemme stop joor angry

Women are hypocrites. If the husband happens to be the one who looked through his wife's phone, women ll start calling him names; they ll say that the husband is possessive and insecure
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by DrGroove(f): 6:22pm On Feb 13, 2015
All husbands cheat


A wife who threatens divorce on finding out her husband is cheating wasn't ready for marriage



She should be grateful to God she is aware of the situation and Her concern should be how to protect herself from HIV not getting angry
If women are to get angry n divorce cos of cheating husbands,The society would be filled with angry divorcees



Besides what was she looking for in somebody's "passworded " phone?


She no get her own phone ni?
She no sabi put password?
Abi she no sabi chat with "certain guys "?


E be like she no get work



She really get time sha.
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by stagger: 6:24pm On Feb 13, 2015
Op,

I have 2 phones, a tablet and a laptop and none are passworded. My wife always checks the phones and tablets looking for evidence and after more than 14 years of searching, a Daniel did not need to tell her to stop.

I have nothing to hide. You need to realize women are always searching for security and if you go having some silly chat with some silly girl outside, you are to blame when trouble comes out of it.

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Missy89(f): 6:24pm On Feb 13, 2015
"certain girl" ? What was in the message? grin

If you dont want someone going thru your phone occasionally, dont make commitments like getting married or lay down the ground rules. If you have the opportunity to check out her phone wont you do it? and what if you see a message from a "certain guy"? what will you do?

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by hedonistic: 6:25pm On Feb 13, 2015
Marriage is no longer what it used to be. These new era girls think they are smart and enlightened, and have therefore developed an outsized sense of entitlement with unrealistic expectations, there is zero chance of coping with such. Simply can't deal.

A Nigerian wife got married in December and merely two months after, storms out of her husband's house with threats of divorce merely because she saw a text. What a joke. They have turned marriage into something to be analysed with their Wendy Williams Show mentality.

If it's not the old school sort of wives who know better than to make a mountain out of a molehill, then it's not worth it. Guys need to be firm on that.

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Joshuadon: 6:25pm On Feb 13, 2015
charles009:
Hey guys,

I got married to my wife last December, we have been living happily. But last night, events took a bitter twist. She woke me up 2.09am today and started raining abuses on me. Be for I could talk, she smashed my phone on the floor.

The question is why is she angry? She read an exchange of sms between me and a certain girl. I stead of her asking questions, she went extreme.

I don't visit her phones and I expect her to do the same. Am still asking how she managed to get the password.

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

Now I ask?? Is it right for her to breach my privacy and get into my phone?


She acted childish...... But remember the very oat:for better for worse
Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Mrsfaithhh: 6:26pm On Feb 13, 2015
charles009:
Hey guys,

I got married to my wife last December, we have been living happily. But last night, events took a bitter twist. She woke me up 2.09am today and started raining abuses on me. Be for I could talk, she smashed my phone on the floor.

The question is why is she angry? She read an exchange of sms between me and a certain girl. I stead of her asking questions, she went extreme.

I don't visit her phones and I expect her to do the same. Am still asking how she managed to get the password.

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

Now I ask?? Is it right for her to breach my privacy and get into my phone?

Now first of alll......



I don't want to bliv u wre normal wen typing dis..Me tinks dat u were high on somtin.. cheesy
Ok now. Let's just assume dat u were ok typing.
So she can touch ur body and u can touch hers but not ur fone.. How great u are.. cheesy
So u even passworded ur fone and "UR WIFE" dosnt know ur password...there's no one like u.. cheesy
And u typed dis witout lettin US know what she read? U must b high jor.. cheesy
My advise...don't let her enter na,marry anoda wife ,password ur fone again,cheat on her again,wen she findss out again,plz chase her away again again....u knw? Just go on and on like dat... Mumu guy cheesy

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by onadana: 6:26pm On Feb 13, 2015
You think marriage is by power...bro marriage is wisdom.If you think the grass is greener at the other side..bro you are wrong.She woke you up at night,she broke your phone...you should be lucky she didn't stab you in your sleep.Some people don't take kindly to infidelity.In marriage there is nothing like my phone...my space..my privacy.You lost all that when you said I do.You were wrong be humble enough to admit it and win her back.

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by kikelomojessy(f): 6:27pm On Feb 13, 2015
Closetoheart:
Forgiveness is a choice. My husband cheated on me with his long time gf barely two months into our marriage. I saw the messages... I wanted to commit suicide. I was pregnant at that time. I felt abused, disappointed and bad. He apologised and I forgave him. Eight months later, I saw him send his unclad picture to the same girl. I threatened to pack out of the house, he apologised again, and promised not to do it again.

Now, you know what? I don't care any more. Whether he is still seeing the girl or not is his problem. He is answerable to God. He is a xtian, he ministers in church now. So if he still indulges in such acts, he will have God to answer to.

Do you why I kept on forgiving him? Because he apologised. It still pains me, but I have promised myself that the forgiveness will stand, and I will continue to forgive him, even if he does something worse. Because I cannot continue to bear grudge in my heart. I want to make heaven.

The best I can do is to be wise. When I say being wise, it means protecting myself and my children from whatever inactions or actions of their dad that might want to cause harm to us.


great for you! god will protect u and ur kids. u hav a gud heart! but just know dat the day u will make one mistake he will...

u ar bless!

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by somsom(f): 6:27pm On Feb 13, 2015
@Op. you are married and you still talk about privacy. she cannot touch your phone but she can see and touch your unclad body. what is more private on this world then your bodies? still wondering why men always want their women to stay off their phones. to me it's the best way to know unfaithful and irresponsible men.
op. please your wife has right to your phone and she is entitled to get angry if she sees what is bad. go and ask for her forgiveness.

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Bebetter: 6:27pm On Feb 13, 2015
[size=14pt]Look.. i want to make a comment and this is targeted to all the guys, forget what the wife did for now let's focus on the guy.... brother, e no easy oh.. but marriage is for the mature... when i say mature, no be age i dey talk oh but in cunny and wisdom.

I tell you as a married man going to two years now, it's not easy but you really have to save yourself the stress and the trouble that an extra-marital affair or communication will cause you.. I dey tell you, i have one of my edo babes wey like me die, we dey f.uck before i marry. she now had a place like just an okada ride from my house... bros, i no dey pass that street at all! i dey avoid that area like plague... i even thank God say her line don change and we no dey yarn only to see our posts on facebook... brothers you have to dodge! that is the only way! the other day i saw one smally in my area wey dey trip for me then, omo, the girl don bad gan! see kegs, she come portable... as i greet am, "how are you have you finished now... she say yes...i will soon go and serve, this is my moms shop... i say, ok... i dodge... i no collect number because that one na direct road to gobe! brother i repeat... dodging is the only way. As a married man, ladies be not deceived, we dey get temptation left, right and centre.. it is not easy... you know wetin i dey see for office? but mehn.. i don turn to dodging master because that is the only way. It is even worse, when you are a fresh dude with small money... if you don't restrain yourself you will end up in gobe and family disgrace....

See, i'm not saying i'm a saint oh! let me say it clear... like once in two-three months, me and my guy fit enter strip club, rub yan.sh, press breast, finger, whatever... come house, fun don end be that, na back to status quo but to come dey keep relationship with somebody other than your wife, either emotional connection by chat, text, call or otherwise or physical connection (#sidechick) is unacceptable and a high speed train to gobe! and that is where the OP has found himself. peace out.[/size]

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Re: She Went To My Phone, Now She Is Threatening A Divorce. by Jeflox: 6:27pm On Feb 13, 2015
inasmuch as the husband is wrong by keeping secret affair yet the wife is very wrong by smshing the phone on the floor, rainning abuses on the man and even went ahead to leave the house, dat shows she was never prepared for marriage. i keep on sayng it, there is serious need to get all our single ladies under serious discipleship by seasoned disciplers so that the word of GOD will cut through their flesh and kill those excesses b4 marriage. this is the only remedy to all of these broken homes scattered all over the world. The lady in question should sell her pride and go back to her matrimonial home and appologise to the husband for that rash reaction, then the man should be ready to appologise to her with an open hand and never allow himself go into extramarital affairs with any lady bcoz it's deadly and have serious repercussion. FOR WHATEVER GOD HAS JOINED TOGEDA LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER.

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