pickabeau1:
So his only redeeming qualities are his goodlookingness?


So where is he based ....

Has he even met your own parents

How serious is he

Does he have a job or apartment of his own

You want to throw away a chance to be financially independent on the chance his mom likes you?

OwKay

missamanda:
I'm a fresh graduate who finished last year dec. I moved to lag as soon I was done with project, still awaiting my final year result. I decided to enroll in a fashion academy here in Lagos of which I'll resume on monday.
There's this guy whom I've known for quite sometime now. He's working and goodlooking, also well groomed. I like him. He's insisting on getting married later this year, probably Nov/Dec. He said I should come to where he is this march, that his mum wants to see me, and if possible I'll leave lagos and the fashion academy. He wants me to be closer to him.
Now, I've already paid for the academy and won't get the money back. I told my mum about it, she siad I should pray about it and there's no way I'd leave the academy. She said if the guy can't wait for me to finish, then I should forget about him. The training will last for nine months of which I'm not sure of completing since service is around the corner.
I really don't know what's best, should i just continue with the training or should I just take a break and go and see his mum, then come back to complete the training?

missamanda:
I'm nt only interested in his physical appearance, I said he's well groomed too.

PunkyBrewster:


Education is more important. His mom can wait. You can't be putting your dreams aside for somebody else. If he is serious then there's no rush. The meeting can wait until you achieve what you came there to do, because if you show him now that your dreams are less important than his, then he'll expect you to make such sacrifices even when you two are married. You'd be setting the course of the relationship, unwittingly.

BTW, why can't you go see her on weekends? Or set a day when you're both not busy with other commitments.

funkyjms:


This is so true. I know of a woman who experience this.

englishmart:
you are considering leaving your career pursuit for a good-looking young guy, who might proly dump you for someone else?

If really he fvking loves you, he wouldn't trade your career for anything....

But, if you are too desperate to get married to someone because of his good looks, then be ready for a divorce, for there are a million guys who are more goodlooking

menix:
Sure beau, go see d mum buh pls i mean Please!! leave out goin to stay wiv him.

Visit is ok.

Since u know service might not allow u finish d programme, y then should mum insist he should wait 4 u.

If d guy is close to ur heart desire kindly book ur ticket nd every oda thing will fall in place..

pickabeau1:


Yes further proving my point

All you have said is surface and superficial attributes

3cycle:

What is wrong with you sef? Y are you attacking her? What is wrong if she likes his physical appearance? If you can't help her just free her joor.


@op nov/dec is still far, let him know you really want to continue at the Academy.

missamanda:
who cares about physical attributes? What matters is the fact that the decision is serious, probably he wants me to come so he could engage me, then I'll come and continue with my training, he has spoken to my mum on phone. Dnt want to inform my dad yet till everything is set.

englishmart:
seems you already know what to do

pickabeau1:


Exactly

Wait for the thread in two years with a new user name

Everything she has said about this guy is superficial..nothing on character

If he is a wife beater..no idea
A womanizer..no clue

Yet they complain when some say women are too emotional

Let me call Miz MyColi

I'm here Sir

missamanda:
I'm a fresh graduate who finished last year dec. I moved to lag as soon I was done with project, still awaiting my final year result. I decided to enroll in a fashion academy here in Lagos of which I'll resume on monday.
There's this guy whom I've known for quite sometime now. He's working and goodlooking, also well groomed. I like him. He's insisting on getting married later this year, probably Nov/Dec. He said I should come to where he is this march, that his mum wants to see me, and if possible I'll leave lagos and the fashion academy. He wants me to be closer to him.
Now, I've already paid for the academy and won't get the money back. I told my mum about it, she siad I should pray about it and there's no way I'd leave the academy. She said if the guy can't wait for me to finish, then I should forget about him. The training will last for nine months of which I'm not sure of completing since service is around the corner.
I really don't know what's best, should i just continue with the training or should I just take a break and go and see his mum, then come back to complete the training?

If your going to pay his Mom a visit, won't, I repeat, won't affect your training, then please go ahead, but if it will, please, your future (personal) is equally important, so the visit can hold on for now, except of course, his mom is critically ill.

Btw, How long is "quite some time"?

Before, I read your post, I saw Pickabeau1 mention the word "superficial"

Sweery, going by the characters I highlighted in your post, I'd have to agree with him.

Sincerely now, tell me, if he suddenly looks smelly and tattered, loses his job and his face becomes somewhat unpleasant to look at, would you still like him? Would you love him?

On the guy's part, two things are involved, either his motive are unpure or genuine.
There's a possibility his Mom is pressuring him seriously and he just wants to get over the marriage ish, or......there's something more sinister
You have to be really sure.
And there's no way to go about that other than Taking Your Time.

Y'see, you need to make him understand you're not desperate (except of course you are). This is the journey of a life-time we're talking of here.
If he is for real, trust me dear, there will be no pressure. He'd wait for you, as long as he knows you're not stalling unnecessarily.

Na small small dem dey take chop food wey hot.

Don't let my comments get you incited at him o, don't let my comments give you the impression he's bad, and don't go asking him silly questions because you want to ascertain his true motive. All I'm saying is that it could go both ways. Just think for yourself and see the wisdom in your mother's unspoken words.

I say you continue with your academy plans. I would if I were in your shoes, even though it might shitty scare me I'd lose him.
But I reckon that wisdom is always profitable to direct our paths.

pickabeau1:
MizM yColi you are just writing

This girl has fallen in love with fine groomed dude.

All else does not matter

Either ways, it is still good I do what I can from here.
Sometimes, experience is the best teacher sha.

MizMyColi:


If your going to pay his Mom a visit, won't, I repeat, won't affect your training, then please go ahead, but if it will, please, your future (personal) is equally important, so the visit can hold on for now, except of course, his mom is critically ill.

Btw, How long is "quite some time"?

Before, I read your post, I saw Pickabeau1 mention the word "superficial"

Sweery, going by the characters I highlighted in your post, I'd have to agree with him.

Sincerely now, tell me, if he suddenly looks smelly and tattered, loses his job and his face becomes somewhat unpleasant to look at, would you still like him? Would you love him?

On the guy's part, two things are involved, either his motive are unpure or genuine.
There's a possibility his Mom is pressuring him seriously and he just wants to get over the marriage ish, or......there's something more sinister
You have to be really sure.
And there's no way to go about that other than Taking Your Time.

Y'see, you need to make him understand you're not desperate (except of course you are). This is the journey of a life-time we're talking of here.
If he is for real, trust me dear, there will be no pressure. He'd wait for you, as long as he knows you're not stalling unnecessarily.

Na small small dem dey take chop food wey hot.

Don't let my comments get you incited at him o, don't let my comments give you the impression he's bad, and don't go asking him silly questions because you want to ascertain his true motive. All I'm saying is that it could go both ways. Just think for yourself and see the wisdom in your mother's unspoken words.

I say you continue with your academy plans. I would if I were in your shoes, even though it might shitty scare me I'd lose him.
But I reckon that wisdom is always profitable to direct our paths.

MizMyColi:




Either ways, it is still good I do what I can from here.
Sometimes, experience is the best teacher sha.