Noloss:
Wife is expected to do house chores before going to office in d mor, do d laundry, prepare d kids for skool while hubby drops them @ skool, hubby is @ home all day long but how can d wife expects him to help with d house chores! What a mark of disregard, simply because hubby is not working. D whole house is dirty but how on earth is dat a man's work. We've all forgotten dat a woman is also made of flesh and blood like man, she is face with strees in d office, traffic on d road plus house chores @ home, any attempt to make man see d need to help is tagged pride. NIGER MEN, do unto ur wives what u would want them to do unto u. Thanks

But the data, such as it is, tends to support the view, crudely put by Morris, that men find not being the breadwinner a little unsteadying. Pew research shows that most Americans still believe that having a mother at home and a father at work is the best arrangement for raising a family. And it’s true that men’s self-esteem is very much tied up in their ability to do well at work and to make money. Studies have found that men are more likely to cheat and feel worse about themselves when their wives make more than they do.

Joy1706:
Men always say that a woman becomes disrespectful as soon as she becomes the breadwinner. But what you guys fail to ask is, how was the man treating her when he was the breadwinner. Was he constantly cheating on her, physically, emotionally and financially abusing her? If that's the case I wonder why she'd be expected to show such a person love when he is down. Secondly, you men always say that no man wants a liability, justifying the man's ill treatment of her. Why do you now expect the woman to be happy when he becomes a liability? #justaskingsha

pickabeau1:



Why do you think this is a naija phenomenon
Must we bash anything naija to feel better
This is an American debate which happened a few months and still generates tons of debate till today
See Fox Debate here http://mediamatters.org/blog/2014/05/04/fox-is-just-asking-are-female-breadwinners-a-pr/199162


Excerpts from a TIME article on this http://time.com/87890/fox-news-female-breadwinner/


Oh.. I forgot that whites don't cheat.. only naija men do

However as usual, bashing naija males is the favorite pastime of the females here

Joy1706:
Men always say that a woman becomes disrespectful as soon as she becomes the breadwinner. But what you guys fail to ask is, how was the man treating her when he was the breadwinner. Was he constantly cheating on her, physically, emotionally and financially abusing her? If that's the case I wonder why she'd be expected to show such a person love when he is down. Secondly, you men always say that no man wants a liability, justifying the man's ill treatment of her. Why do you now expect the woman to be happy when he becomes a liability? #justaskingsha

coogar:


why are most men always happy even when they have liability for a wife? why should the roles change just because a woman becomes the breadwinner? the truth is most women cannot handle success without being arrogant & disrespectful.

the money he makes is their money.
the money she makes is her money.

bukatyne:

I believe men handle the successes better
Ask wives fully dependent on their husbands

coogar:


o FCCit's a traditional & God-given role to the men. many men have been taking care of their girlfriends even before marriage - why would he see it as a burden to provide for his family after marriage?

it's a new experience for most ladies. if you add in the natural penny-pinching attitude of women to the equation, it's not hard to see the reason women mostly misbehave when the responsibility falls on their shoulders.

bukatyne:


I laugh in Spanish

A lot of ladies are bitter because of Cococandy's post

I nor fit type abeg

Chillisauce:
The husband should make sure her bath is ready, dinner ready, bath the kids and put them in bed . do the laundry, clean the floor, dishes. Serve her food fresh and hot etc.

After eating she will just sit on sofa and watch Kim Kardashian, episode 19.

Then, wake up tired husband up from sleep for a good jigijigi.

coogar:


don't quote me next time if you cannot type.

cococandy:
Truth is female sole bread winners will never be able to get away with half of what male some bread winners get away with.
If he says something and she asks why,it is interpreted as pride because she's the one making the money.
No one will think it out of place if a working man comes home and gets upset because the wife was home all day and didn't make dinner for him.
Make a female sole bread winner try that one na.
All hell will be let loose.
She's controling him and turning him into a houseboy because he's not making money.
So basically if in naija, a female breadwinner has to take on 90percent of the family responsibilities and must remember to smile,grind and bear so that she won't be labeled proud and arrogant.
I mean seriously. Do you get to work in the morning,come back late and have the nerves to ask him why there are dirty dishes everywhere?
Also make sure to tell people he's the one that bought your car for you so that you won't be the bad wife that's taking the 'glory' for being financially responsible.

bukatyne:


Lol

World war 3

bukatyne:

okotv:
this household chores is a worldwide debate not only in Nigeria whether the man works or not. With all this petty fights over what and who to what is becoming boring...

To each his own..

I believe that lack of sanctification is the cause of petty issues been thrown overboard.

coogar:


how's that post relevant to my point?

Chillisauce:

, my sister.
If husband no fit make money, he can take over the house chores .

Abi him be handicapped ni

bukatyne:


Why female breadwinners seem 'bitter' or 'arrogant '

bukatyne:


Funny

However in all honesty, all hands such be on deck to make the home run.

The hubby can do the day to day maintainance and wifey takes over weekends or during her spare time.

donpeey22:
Instead of being in a position where my wify is the sole breadwinner, I will go and push wheel barrow.

bukatyne:


I laugh in Spanish

A lot of ladies are bitter because of Cococandy's post

I nor fit type abeg

coogar:

it's a traditional & God-given role to the men. many men have been taking care of their girlfriends even before marriage - why would he see it as a burden to provide for his family after marriage?
it's a new experience for most ladies. if you add in the natural penny-pinching attitude of women to the equation, it's not hard to see the reason women mostly misbehave when the responsibility falls on their shoulders.

Chillisauce:


Takes over weekend, after hustling all week.
What will the husband be doing ? Watching champions league and screaming sai buhari

bukatyne:


Pastor pastor!

Sanctification How?

Something is on my mind but want you to spill first