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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Onegai(f): 12:49pm On Mar 17, 2015
Marriage benefits or punishes both parties.

But when you start mouthing off about how women are "evuls" but deep down you're looking for one princess to heal your broken heart, sigh #lame
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by kandiikane(m): 12:53pm On Mar 17, 2015
Op, you should do research on the history of marriage before saying that it is for women etc. Marriage was for men, for expanding family, building up alliances, having people to work for you etc. You cannot just have bastards roaming around everywhere, when you can have a family under your home that you can oversee. Don't come here stating marriage is a woman thing when women have been forced to enter in them for eons just to make daddy happy or expand daddy's Kingdom/empire. It was a way for families to create peace between themselves, a way to enter into a higher class society.
Who invented modern day marriage? Bible
who invented bible? Men
Who reformed it-roman catholics-men
Who dislike and disrespect women who aren't interested in marriage? Men
Who's always insulting Rita Dominic for not being married? Men
Who insults an unmarried woman in her 30s saying her eggs are turning to dust? Men

it's cool if you don't want to get married but don't sit there and say it is an ideal for women. There are many who are suffering in marriages they never wanted, there are many who are being pressured to marry when they are not ready just because they are women. There are many who feel indifferent to it. Lay off women for once and concentrate on yourself.

Have some respect for yourself and for women and you won't be hurt. From your post it seems you have no respect for yourself, no self worth, unable to find love so you want to go through life just sleeping around without an ounce of respect for yourself and body.

It is ok if someone does not want to get married but don't disrespect women for it. Just because you cannot find" the one" doesn't mean that women should hear you rant about them. You should look in the mirror and start working on yourself and have a better attitude towards the world, for there you shall find peace.

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 1:14pm On Mar 17, 2015
bukatyne:


You have a really low opinion of women.

Wonder How you relate with your wife, mother and female relatives.

Or is This a case of all women are fish brained except my family members?
I'm sorry you feel that way. The truth is I see women for what they are, it's nothing personal. You'll never hear me call women fish-brained, they are what they are and, as men, we have to deal with it from a place of understanding and tact not malice.

I'm just against "pedestalising" women except anyone who has personally shown me unconditional love. All I'm saying is any man expecting his love interest to be shittting roses will weep in the end. Just be real

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by 5minsmadness: 2:02pm On Mar 17, 2015
tobechi74:
Before you get married,visit the brides family.

look at the mother to see what the GF will end up being. That’s true enough, but look at the father as well. If he appears worn down and henpecked then take a good look at your own future .
grin
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by ichidodo: 2:11pm On Mar 17, 2015
Nice exposé,OP....
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by 5minsmadness: 2:15pm On Mar 17, 2015
So far the op has spoken nothing but the truth.
Unbiased and funny yet seasoned with wisdom and a deep understanding of the female psyche.

Op I think if you imbibe what you have written here you would make a good husband smiley

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Wendy80(f): 2:20pm On Mar 17, 2015
OP.
Wetin Ur Mama, sister or girlfriend doo u na?

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by TV01(m): 2:42pm On Mar 17, 2015
kandiikane:
Op, you should do research on the history of marriage before saying that it is for women etc. Marriage was for men, for expanding family, building up alliances, having people to work for you etc. You cannot just have bastards roaming around everywhere, when you can have a family under your home that you can oversee.
Marriage is for both men and women - and by design wider society. It benefits both and the whole. However, I believe it's fair to say that it benefits women more - all told.

kandiikane:
Don't come here stating marriage is a woman thing when women have been forced to enter in them for eons just to make daddy happy or expand daddy's Kingdom/empire. It was a way for families to create peace between themselves, a way to enter into a higher class society.
The fact that marriage was "used" for something, does not mean that is what it is for or why it came into being. For eample, some people marry in order to obtain papers - does not follow that that's why marriage came into being wink! And it's women who typically marry up cool!

kandiikane:

Who invented modern day marriage? Bible
who invented bible? Men
Who reformed it-roman catholics-men
Who dislike and disrespect women who aren't interested in marriage? Men
Who's always insulting Rita Dominic for not being married? Men
Who insults an unmarried woman in her 30s saying her eggs are turning to dust? Men
This is both factually incorrect and somewhat "rantish" - Marriage has been shown to be universally extant, and not just in those societies that practice Christianity, and even before Christianity was established. And women are the chief culprits whern it comes to shaming other women about marriage. Likewise when it comes to reminding them that "they are not getting any younger" grin

kandiikane:
it's cool if you don't want to get married but don't sit there and say it is an ideal for women. There many who are suffering in marriages they never wanted, there are many who are being pressured to marry when they are not ready just because they are women. There are many who feel indifferent to it. Lay off women for once and concentrate on yourself.

Have some respect for yourself and for women and you won't be hurt. From your post it seems you have no respect for yourself, no self worth, unable to find love so you want to go through life just sleeping around without an ounce of respect for yourself and body.

It is ok if someone does not want to get married but don't disrespect women for it. Just because you cannot find" the one" doesn't mean that women should hear you rant about them. You should look in the mirror and start working on yourself and have a better attitude towards the world, for there you shall find peace.
Kind of agree here. OP should focus on ordering his marriage - if he chooses to have one - in a beneficial way. He should seek to understand women and get to grips with the dynamic, rather than hating on them - whatever he chooses - as it changes nothing.

You and OP don't sound to far apart - hint, hint wink!


TVMIC

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 3:22pm On Mar 17, 2015
Onegai:
OP, your heart will heal one day. This breakup is not the end of the world ehhhhh. Pele! grin

Cococandy, girl mba!! You need to lose that lace wig and makeup, its too dark for you! Lighter colours henceforth. This is 2015, your time to marry some diamonds, errr I mean, marry a good man grin
Hmmm going for looks unlike me.

I did that for the eccentric essence smiley

Maybe cut my hair and pierce my nose next. Still thinking about it
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 3:24pm On Mar 17, 2015
SAMBARRY:
coco that your lace wig na die. See as the person lace the wig on your head. You con resembu all those peutorica girls cheesy



bet why you con escape albino like this cheesy
who escaped albino?

I will kee you o.
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 3:26pm On Mar 17, 2015
I'm fine thank you smiley
TV01:

...on the contrary, gays are the worst misogynists. Any pallying up with women is purely "strategic". They are also extremely racist and ageist, as would be expected given how narcisitic the lifestyle is.

How are you? I trust well.


TV

Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 3:30pm On Mar 17, 2015
OP comes and says women are disposable (like tissue or styrofoam) and he's being hailed as wise and true.

Most of you guys on this forum have woman issues. I hope y'all find healing.

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by kandiikane(m): 4:47pm On Mar 17, 2015
@TV01
If you actually read my post instead of quoting to argue against, you will see where I specifically wrote modern marriages, op is to referring love and hurt. And I specifically referred to the history of marriage. I am sure you went to school and can differentiate when someone speaks of history and when someone speaks of modern.

The modern day idea of marriage, the idea many people have even by non-Christians has its origins from the bible, involving love, etc. The idea has been bastardized for so long that it has turned into a fairytale, people should be happy and grateful that they can actually now freely marry for love and not just for some contractual reasons enacted by men to further their interests. You should read up on the history of marriages, maybe even try your own culture. Ask a Nigerian about marriage and see whether he won't quote bible.

Can you please explain to me how it benefits women more?
what because she won't be called names anymore?
Because she can have a child since women are the only humans who want children?
Or what because she "needs" a husband to look after her?
Maybe, the husband bringing in another woman to help the wife with the sex, bearing the children and house chores is beneficial? Or the woman staying in the marriage playing suffer head because of the "children?"


What if she doesn't care about the name calling?
What if she doesn't care about having a child outside of wedlock??
what if she can provide all her needs for herself and for her child?
What benefits will marriage provide for her after achieving everything she needs for herself?

Oh, a faithful man she can have unprotected sex with?
A responsible father?
A man who will be there forever?
These are not guaranteed so how exactly is marriage more beneficial for a woman.
Is it only marriage that a woman has the benefit of having sex every night if she wants to?
Or is it that a woman can only find support in marriage?

The op and I are quite different as I do not hate marriage, I just don't see how women benefit more from it or why it is being painted as a "heaven" where women should aspire to be, especially in these times when single women are achieving more than they ever will if they were married. You make it seem like men are doing women favours by getting married to them.

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by 5minsmadness: 4:53pm On Mar 17, 2015
cococandy:
OP comes and says women are disposable (like tissue or styrofoam) and he's being hailed as wise and true.

Most of you guys on this forum have woman issues. I hope y'all find healing.
Same with the females in this forum. A lot of angst and unnecessary poison against the male gender.


There should be some sort of forgiveness/healing session or something.

TV01 can moderate it cheesy

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 4:55pm On Mar 17, 2015
5minsmadness:

Same with the females in this forum. A lot of angst and unnecessary poison against the male gender.


There should be some sort of forgiveness/healing session or something.

TV01 can moderate it cheesy

Why don't you start the praise and worship session before the minister comes.
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by ArewaSweetheart(f): 4:58pm On Mar 17, 2015
tobechi74:
Thread for those who hate marriage and prefere not to get married .

Sign in here ,lets discuss


Lol grin
Then you are suffering from gamophobia @op tongue
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by 5minsmadness: 5:01pm On Mar 17, 2015
cococandy:


Why don't you start the praise and worship session before the minister comes.

Grabs mic
Testing testing, 1...2...3...icccee wateeeeerrrr!

***in Ron kenolly's voice***
I have so much been blinded by hate%oh Lord % Forgive meee...
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 5:04pm On Mar 17, 2015
5minsmadness:

Grabs mic
Testing testing, 1...2...3...icccee wateeeeerrrr!

***in Ron kenolly's voice***
I have so much been blinded by hate%oh Lord % Forgive meee...
lol cheesy
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by tobechi74: 5:10pm On Mar 17, 2015
muafrika:
You just hate women. Not marriage.

nooo, women make great friends

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by tobechi74: 5:12pm On Mar 17, 2015
Rose2014:

If I say 'g' you say 'a' another man say 'y'
Omo na you sabi

no, i am not gay...
You can say i get attracted to girls. May be i haave commitment issues
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by tobechi74: 5:13pm On Mar 17, 2015
cococandy:
You will get married before 2015 is up. tongue

your kids will get married before me

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by freecocoa(f): 5:13pm On Mar 17, 2015
tobechi74:


nooo, women make great friends
So what's your point and why are you disparaging women instead of concentrating on not getting married as your thread states?

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by tobechi74: 5:15pm On Mar 17, 2015
bukatyne:
@OP:

Is This conclusion of yours due to What you saw in your parent's and relatives' marriages?

Do you have sisters? Are they married?

astrologically, i am the air type who deal with reasons. I am not emotional and see no reason for marriage

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by coogar: 5:17pm On Mar 17, 2015
tobechi74:
Thread for those who hate marriage and prefere not to get married .

Sign in here ,lets discuss

tobechi74:
Understand and get the mentality that girls are disposable. The moment you begin feeling that some girl is not disposable, you are setting up yourself to be hurt


tobechi74:
Before you get married,visit the brides family.

look at the mother to see what the GF will end up being. That’s true enough, but look at the father as well. If he appears worn down and henpecked then take a good look at your own future.

Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by tobechi74: 5:17pm On Mar 17, 2015
undercat:


When is the girl to be disposed off; is it after a year, 2, 5, 10, 20 or at the end of your life?

whenever she mentions marriage,run

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 5:18pm On Mar 17, 2015
tobechi74:


your kids will get married before me

Hehehe. cheesy

Well then make sure you garner loads of money because by then you will be so old that no lady in her right mind will marry your old assss except for money.
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by tobechi74: 5:18pm On Mar 17, 2015
KanwuliaJara:
Hate marriage, but LOVE the certificate! cool

will the certificate get you job?

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 5:18pm On Mar 17, 2015
kandiikane:
Op, you should do research on the history of marriage before saying that it is for women etc. Marriage was for men, for expanding family, building up alliances, having people to work for you etc. You cannot just have bastards roaming around everywhere, when you can have a family under your home that you can oversee. Don't come here stating marriage is a woman thing when women have been forced to enter in them for eons just to make daddy happy or expand daddy's Kingdom/empire. It was a way for families to create peace between themselves, a way to enter into a higher class society.
Who invented modern day marriage? Bible
who invented bible? Men
Who reformed it-roman catholics-men
Who dislike and disrespect women who aren't interested in marriage? Men
Who's always insulting Rita Dominic for not being married? Men
Who insults an unmarried woman in her 30s saying her eggs are turning to dust? Men

it's cool if you don't want to get married but don't sit there and say it is an ideal for women. There many who are suffering in marriages they never wanted, there are many who are being pressured to marry when they are not ready just because they are women. There are many who feel indifferent to it. Lay off women for once and concentrate on yourself.

Have some respect for yourself and for women and you won't be hurt. From your post it seems you have no respect for yourself, no self worth, unable to find love so you want to go through life just sleeping around without an ounce of respect for yourself and body.

It is ok if someone does not want to get married but don't disrespect women for it. Just because you cannot find" the one" doesn't mean that women should hear you rant about them. You should look in the mirror and start working on yourself and have a better attitude towards the world, for there you shall find peace.


see this one, who sleeps in church when they turn 29 =women
who spends all their money on olive oil from marriage prophets= woman
who spends their time reading on how to catch that perfect husband = women
who blames men for all their problems = single frustrated NL women

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 5:21pm On Mar 17, 2015
tobechi, you dont hate women, the problem is dat you are yet to see a woman with sense, dont worry, thy still exist, when you meet one, marry her

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by tobechi74: 5:22pm On Mar 17, 2015
5minsmadness:
So far the op has spoken nothing but the truth.
Unbiased and funny yet seasoned with wisdom and a deep understanding of the female psyche.

Op I think if you imbibe what you have written here you would make a good husband smiley

no,i will make a terrible husband,
i am not emotional. Wont give her the love she wants
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by tobechi74: 5:23pm On Mar 17, 2015
Wendy80:
OP.
Wetin Ur Mama, sister or girlfriend doo u na?

girls are too emotional for my likening

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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Feraz(m): 5:28pm On Mar 17, 2015
coogar:



Omoi shiro i!!

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