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Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:08pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
bukatyne: And you will never know the degree until marriage Didn't someone share how they hide their laces and wrappers when their MIL come visiting Imagine |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:08pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: Buhahahahahahahaha. |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:11pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by iiichidodo: 8:12pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:Yeah for all we know the bloke must have grown a pair and sent his wife away to percolate and think about her ignominous role...He will be very crazy to share a bed with one who almost painted her home with his mother's blood..Trust the sight of a mother's swollen bloodied face to give a man trauma and nightmares never mind wiping off his konji. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by crackhaus: 8:12pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
moca:Are we not saying the same thing? She knew her MIL never liked her but she went ahead with the marriage. Her only luck is that this MIL isn't the imposing type, the type that would always visit her son and try to enforce her rules. If this MIL was anything like the one in the OP or anyone of those other ones you women refer to as MILs with no boundaries, who do you think should be blamed when problems begin to surface in the marriage? Do you blame the MIL who has always shown her disapproval of the woman her son married, or the woman who always knew this but went ahead with the marriage thinking she could miraculously make her MIL love her later on? I'm not saying women should just outright give up on a marriage, but if they can't get their fiance's mother on their side before walking down the aisle, then they better clear out or continue with the wedding knowing what they are in for. 4 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:13pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Sophyrocks: You just went all over the places just to give an answer to a simple place. Why would he hire a financial manager, while he thinks his mother is a much better, professional financial manager for the job. Just accept that you made the statement without thinking most into it. I have a co-worker whose mother is his financial manager. Why? This is because his mother is a highly regarded financial advisor at Chase bank. More over, having a financial manager does not mean the person is not good with money. This mindset is the reason why family wealth mostly last for a single generation in Africa. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by freecocoa(f): 8:15pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
bukatyne:Did you not read that they were okay as that the time of this incident? What other issue needs resolving na? Seriously you are asking if I want to compare? Any sane person knows where to draw the line, but being married doesn't mean your family become strangers, mama did no wrong wanting pics, people who love each other take things from themselves all the time, there is no boundary with pictures you can always get back with family, unless someone is very malicious, in which case, the DIL is the culprit, unless you believe mama wan jazz her grandchildren. Then, I must say, your family isn't close knit if they can live like this. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by justwise(m): 8:16pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: When you talked about my mum...you are talking about blood, somebody who carried me for 9 months and brought me up, it's never the same as MIL and DIL relationship, the bound is never the same. Yes slapping her because she refused to give her the picture is a sign of a control freak. They are not best friends before so she knew exactly what she is doing. 4 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:16pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Well, I also believe the DIL shouldn't have retaliated by getting into a physical fight with her MIL. Not because she respects her MIL, but because she respects herself. At the end of the day, the DIL appears like an agbero. On a serious note, what grown woman physically fights with anyone? So immature, and so animalistic. The op needs to tell us why his wife wouldn't give his mother those pictures. I know my mom wouldn't, I just don't know if the op's wife denied her MIL those pictures for the same reasons my mom would. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by freecocoa(f): 8:18pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:If there had been any hitting before, the OP won't be this confused and would have mentioned it. |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:19pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
donedy: How does a mother become a financial manager of a grown man without any issues cropping up? Is this man married or single? who will be his financial manager when he gets married? I gave you an answer. if it doesnt suit you then ignore. No back and forth epistles with you. |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:20pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: The OP needs to shed more light on the previous issues between his wife and mother No love lost is what he called it,my suspicion is that his wife has seen pepper at the hands of his mother |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by freecocoa(f): 8:22pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
justwise:Now I see why you are sounding this way, if you can't take the woman who contributed to the DNA of your wife and children like your mum, you will never be able to give her the respect she deserves. |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by crackhaus: 8:23pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
BABE3:The default competitive nature of most women is what I presume to be the reason for this - and a little dose of desperation as well. Some women believe that the sex they give a man is enough to get him fully on their side even when they know they have never gotten along with his mother from day 1. 4 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:24pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: That's not true He has carefully,like a good son chosen not to cast his mom in a bad light He summarized previous events by telling us they didn't get along That statement is pregnant with twins I wish he could talk more but then I understand why he wouldn't After all she's his mom and he loves her The situation that led up to the sad events of the day and the aftermath tells you the man is frustrated at the mother 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Chillis: 8:24pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
crackhaus: still doesnt sound right, you know why? Because if you said it in OPs presence, you may have some missing teeth before you could finish speaking. Disrespectful could serve in this. change is here 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by freecocoa(f): 8:26pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:So you are basically saying that, MIL and DIL not getting along means, somethingg's wrong with MIL? DIL can't be the reason why they don't get along? |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:28pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: I am talking about this event You always come up with this always and never questions and scenarios of woulda coulda shoulda Don't take me there Focus on this very one,that's where we are 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Ewuro4: 8:30pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
bestestgirl: Lol . But honestly, ripping out pictures from an actual album is madness. I don't think that's how it played out. Who uses photo album these days anyway? |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:30pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: My late paternal grandma gave my mother hell because she had all girls. I don't enjoy typing long stories, so I would leave it at that. I know for a fact my mom would never give our pictures to anybody from my father's side. Why do want the pictures of children you never accepted? I strongly believe the wife has a legitimate reason for denying her MIL those pictures. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by crackhaus: 8:30pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Chillis:Lmao... and what will I be doing when the hand is coming towards my teeth? You're kidding! With your own bad mouth on NL, do you think you would have any teeth remaining by now? Anyway, do you mean the Buhari as president kind of change or my change? Because I'm willing to change for you bebe, all you have to do is say yes to me. |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by justwise(m): 8:32pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: She will get one when she earned it, people deserve respect they earned. Hitting your DIL is hardly the best way to go about it. 3 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by kaboninc(m): 8:37pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: Me too |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by freecocoa(f): 8:37pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:The funny thing is that you start with the assumptions and when you are challenged at your game, you get cranky. Which other event am I about? You opined that the statement means something and that OP is shielding his mother, you already concluded on what it means, I asked if what you concluded is the meaning of the statement and you are? 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:39pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: I hear you I maintain,unless a daughter in law is outrightly mad,no woman comes into her husband's house with hatred in her heart for her inlaws Instead we have this fantasy of everyone living happily ever after But some wives go in to find out the MIL hated her family background Had in mind a type of DIL that she didn't fit into and whatever she did was criticized Make the mistake of taking more than one year to conceive,you may suffer in the hands of your inlaws and let that one year reach 3 years and more,many MILs including deaconesses in pentecostal church will go and bring a virgin for their son to marry and give her kids Then everyone expects that wife will be happy and welcoming of the MIL All these unmarried girls here talking ill of this girl,if I were you I won't talk much Go and marry first,deal with your MIL then get qualified to speak on the issue All these theoretical things dey taya person 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by crackhaus: 8:41pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
bukatyne:This is true... and if a woman (maybe out of true love) decides to go ahead with the marriage knowing that there's a degree to which she gets along with her husband's mother, then anytime her husband informs her that his mother would be visiting, the onus is on her to apply wisdom in all their encounters. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by freecocoa(f): 8:41pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
justwise:You keep missing the point, who doesn't know that hitting a DIL is not the way to go? The issue is, what do you do if you are hit? |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by damiso(f): 8:42pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
crackhaus: Like seriously who does that... . Over pictures Some women are just too petty. I feel so sorry for the OP cos I know what an awkward situation it is having to take sides between a spouse and a parent where there was even no actual physical or verbal altercation. Try to get some older people to talk to your mum so your wife can apologise and you draw a line under this episode. Hopefully lessons would have been learnt and boundaries will be drawn. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:44pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Shollypopzz:alas! That explains alot. Therefore a (fanatical) feminist is born out of circumstance(s). 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:44pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: You are the same person that told us somewhere else in a case where a man hit the wife that the wife may have been running her mouth But in this situation the same wife should have run off to cry? You folks are confusing the heck out of me 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by justwise(m): 8:45pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: I hit back even harder. |
Re: Pls Help!! My Wife Fought With My Mother Following A Quarrel. What Should I Do? by freecocoa(f): 8:47pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Shollypopzz:This is an example of an exception. OP's case doesn't sound similar, a MIL who hates you won't get cuddly, you sound like there aren't bad DILS. |
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