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Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Nobody: 8:55pm On May 12, 2015 |
Jobos:#deep 1 Like |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by MrsChima(f): 8:57pm On May 12, 2015 |
Jobos: I am AGAINST bride price and think it is stupid. No need to pay someone to take their hands in marriage if it wasn't an issue then so many men wouldn't be bishing about it! |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Nobody: 8:59pm On May 12, 2015 |
Chiam55:The guys are coming for ur head, plz be on the lookout dear 1 Like |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by yorubaboiy: 8:59pm On May 12, 2015 |
netizenbuzz:e ma binu oo |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Nobody: 9:00pm On May 12, 2015 |
Chiam55:Some one might be ready to marry u though .... |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by MrsChima(f): 9:01pm On May 12, 2015 |
mmsen: You did add to your original post and it's not that serious. I won't change my response to your original statement. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Nobody: 9:01pm On May 12, 2015 |
yorubaboiy: Y must u always compare urself to the white man? Wat kind of slave mentality is this? There was nothing like surname in our culture b4 sef, so y r u giving urself unnecessary headache? Gaidenk:Head? Do you even know what it means to be the head of a home? Me thinks not. You think it's all about bringing in the cash and being waited upon tooth and nail? Or you think it's about your wife bearing your name or always having the last say? Me thinks not. Can you stay up through the night just to pray for your family? Can you starve just for your family to eat? (most men I know are served their food first before even worrying about the kids). Will you willing lose your life before you allow any member of your family drop a pint of blood? Most men today want the tilte of being the head of the home without the responsibility that comes with it. When the responsibilty comes, they push it to wife. She's a woman anyway, it's her duty to keep the home. See how Jesus lead the church and see all the sacrifices that came with it then search yourself again if you actually deserve to be called the head of your home. My dear feminist or not, if you think surname=being the head, then I honestly don't know of you o. 2 Likes |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Dragonking: 9:04pm On May 12, 2015 |
MrsChima: This is reality of life..Why do you think the husband always want a male child? That's because the male child always carry the father's name while the female don't...I have said it b4 and will say it again, most ladies doing this always have issues with their marriage. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by boynigeria(m): 9:04pm On May 12, 2015 |
MrsChima:Honey im not being judgmental im just saying it how it is i dont give a damn abt anyone's relationship, im simply stating u facts just telling u its as natural as it is, not societal at the same time i do believe every relationship has a uniqueness, im anti-cliche, i like it when people find themselves and build something original so if it makes u feel any beta, make it work for u in the end, nobody really changes, we can only become a beta version of ourselves so why will anyone fuccken judge |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Bowaley17(m): 9:05pm On May 12, 2015 |
I will be back to comment when i marry |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Beface(m): 9:08pm On May 12, 2015 |
Justfollowit:Pardon me but i don't seem to understand what you meant by being in control? |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Dragonking: 9:15pm On May 12, 2015 |
Beface: Thank u jare, and don't mind mrsChima, if she is truly married.. women then were willing to bear their husband's name once they get married and marriage then was far far better..but since the coming of gender equality and femism, divorce has taken over the land. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by MrsChima(f): 9:20pm On May 12, 2015 |
Dragonking: LMAO. I know you would love to know if I am truly married or not...try minding your business. Secondly....if feminism is the reason why divorce is rampant then why are dumb as men talking about they divorced their wives because of cheating etc? You blame cheating on feminism too? Foolishness! 2 Likes |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by MrSplurge(m): 9:22pm On May 12, 2015 |
That's why you have 'Nee' smh. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by MrsChima(f): 9:23pm On May 12, 2015 |
boynigeria: Yes...why would anyone judge is the question of the century but Africans (non-Africans) do! |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Nobody: 9:24pm On May 12, 2015 |
Beface: I like being control of the outcome, so that it won't come as a surprise when either happens. I find it easier to move on that way. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by MrsChima(f): 9:27pm On May 12, 2015 |
Dragonking: What does a child have to do with the woman I know plenty of women with hyphenated names and their children has the father's name. I don't see what is the issue here. If you think a married woman with a maiden name is a sign of troubled marriage...please don't get married and if you are...divorce the vixtim! Foolishness! 2 Likes |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Apina(m): 9:29pm On May 12, 2015 |
MrsChima:They are no longer two but one. Little things are little things, but they are the foundation on which d bigger picture leans. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Nobody: 9:30pm On May 12, 2015 |
truthalways:Y call it craze. Na him papa born me or he wan nmake my own origin erase?. I'd so gladly retain surname rather than take my husbands. There r cultures around the world dat practise that and the notion of changing to one's husbands family name is an english one copied by the rest of us. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Divinecosmas(m): 9:32pm On May 12, 2015 |
Not in my house... |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by MrsChima(f): 9:32pm On May 12, 2015 |
Apina: If you read my other posts I have spoken about man and wife becoming one. It has nothing to do with surname though. 1 Like |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by boynigeria(m): 9:35pm On May 12, 2015 |
MrsChima:yea, its all around the globe, its what people do to feel beta about themselves even when they are worse i like ur reasoning, ure intellectual, smartest person ive spoken to on nairaland and ive spoke to so many people here |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Beface(m): 9:35pm On May 12, 2015 |
Dragonking:My friend you have said it all. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Kazrem(m): 9:41pm On May 12, 2015 |
I told my wife voluntarily to include her father's name in her name after our wedding. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by MrsChima(f): 9:46pm On May 12, 2015 |
boynigeria: Thanks dear! Let me go kick this manbish down on Romance section! 1 Like |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by boynigeria(m): 9:48pm On May 12, 2015 |
MrsChima:lol uwc |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Vivipop(f): 9:53pm On May 12, 2015 |
[b] I see nothing wrong with that. It should be a mutual agreement between a man and his wife. People should learn to mind their business and not try to meddle into other people's affair with their shallow and bad complex. Besides, we take on our father's name because we are our father's children, i don't see a husband becoming his wife's father after they get married. A child bears it's father's name not because it is "under" the father, but because it needs to be "identified". A child's father's name should not die or be forgotten simply because she is a girl-child. Again, it's high time these shallow minded individuals on nairaland stopped calling women who frown on their inferiority complex feminists. I've read this thread from the first to the last page and i noticed that a significant amount of males see nothing wrong with a woman retaining her father's name after marriage. Do you call them feminists too? . Finally, there is nothing wrong with that, it all boils down to understanding between couples, and it does not make a husband any less of a man if his wife wishes to keep her father's name. [/b] 2 Likes |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Beface(m): 9:54pm On May 12, 2015 |
Justfollowit:In as much as i agreed with you,we just have to face the fact there are some things we have no control over. That is where the expectancy theory come into play. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Nobody: 9:55pm On May 12, 2015 |
MrsChima:Go and sit your butt down hypocrite and you had no other thought than to create MrsChima? Get your egoistical self outta here. |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by Adex001(m): 9:57pm On May 12, 2015 |
Hollamydey:soro niyen |
Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by codedearner(m): 9:58pm On May 12, 2015 |
Therefore for this reason a woman shall leave her parents house and live with her hubby as one not two...women retaining their parents name after marriage is absolute rubbish, let her ask if her mummy did so to her daddy..if this tarry on then there won't be an estimated value between men and women...guys let's protest aganist this nonsense
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Re: New Craze In Town- Ladies Retaining Their Fathers Name After Marriage by urchmanx(m): 10:02pm On May 12, 2015 |
irunoko:You didn't need to envy her. People around do envy and respect us. Read what I said, When it comes to basic like this the is no point dragging it. She knows the tradition of marriage before she marries me. I am not acting movie in the house. She has her freedom and she does want she wants in the house, that doesn't mean she will take the place of dictating what happens in OUR home. Its a decision we both make. Like I said her mother didn't keep her name so why should she? And I will not support or subject my daughter in retaining my name. Wtf If my daughter is getting married she will answer her husband name and not my. You didn't know me and you shouldn't call me names. I said my opinion and I am not married to you. |
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