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Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Nobody: 8:20am On May 21, 2015 |
@ Moana If he was an abuser then she shouldnt leave the kids with him at all, and she should be fighting tooth and nail to get them back. I havent heard her say that and that concerns me more than the money she is talking about. 2 Likes |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Moana(f): 9:38am On May 21, 2015 |
tearoses:and of what use will she be to those kids, if she takes matters into her own hands and she ends up 6ft under or in ICU " fighting tooth and nail". Is she not doing the right thing my seeking for a lawyer who will help her deal with it in a civilised manner where no one might get hurt? You still didnt read the part she says they care for the children jointly? 5 Likes |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Nobody: 9:57am On May 21, 2015 |
tearoses: The kids are not in danger. It was just me being abused and he has sworn tobfightbme tooth and nail if I try to take d kids. I don't have a house now so cant even taken them. I don't mind paying their fees and have asked for the right to have them with me at certain days. He is brandishing a cane and using tr kids as bargain. I also asked that he contribute to their upkeep when I have them over since I Wil be doing same for him. That passed him and I wonder y Yes I Wil get legal advice since my attempts are hitting a wall. I am a responsible mother and have contributed all their life not only to their education but to everything in d house including rent. I don't tjink my husband is willing to let go those contributions. I don't blame him but he too needs to budge 2 Likes |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by freshvine(f): 10:09am On May 21, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Why so much hate on the man when actually it is the wife that is irresponsible here. Ask your self what she has been doing all this while not to cater for her kids. In as much as I don't support the man's action, this is a deterrent for women who ran away with kids and even prevent their men from taking responsibility because the men refused to marry them or as a result of unfavorable circumstances |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by freshvine(f): 10:23am On May 21, 2015 |
Blackbeauty: You cannot understand what she is passing through until you hear from both ADULTS. DON'T use emotion to ruin everything. The man has access to a lawyer too |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by KanwuliaJara: 10:53am On May 21, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: You can always smell them I swear! Gossip-board owners are running out of ideas! These are desperate times indeed! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by SAMBARRY: 10:58am On May 21, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by KanwuliaJara: 11:10am On May 21, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: What a long way we have come! From the "can I meet you" phase. . . . To the "GANG" phase. . . . To the "park well jor" phase. . . To the "what is this one saying?" phase . . . To the "face front" phase. . . . To the "Garri GANG" phase . . . . To the "FTC" phase. . . . To the "Space-Booking" phase. . . . WOW!!!!! Then don BAN TAYA!!!!!! Can't wait to see what comes next! |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by SAMBARRY: 11:46am On May 21, 2015 |
you are sooo damn right you're talking waaaayyyyy down memory lane I think we have passed France students too anyway life is in phases men are in sizes this is throw back Thurs d KanwuliaJara: |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Obodo999(m): 11:54am On May 21, 2015 |
I don't understand why some men stress themselves by involving themselves in children custody problems. Men who does that risk dying early of high blood pressure. If you are separated, leave the children for their mother . If you cannot afford to pay child support, just don't see the kids. Its not by force you must see them. When they grow up to certain age, the children will look for you . How can you even be sure that the children are yours.... Nonsense. |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by i1: 1:00pm On May 21, 2015 |
Mrs Emeify pls contact me. Sincerely I am sure the children are quite mature for you to be able to leave them with their dad. All we seek now is a mutually consented agreement for visitation rights and access to the kids which is your right as the mother. The reason for separation can be treated in a divorce but custody and visitation rights can be treated in the family welfare courts. Pls call 08093779782. 1 Like |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by plaetton: 2:29pm On May 21, 2015 |
tearoses: Please, let me ask again. What is an Abuser? What defines a man as an abuser? More importantly, what makes a man a danger to his own children? We should be more circumspect and categorical in our use of that word. Abuser is one of those ambiguous, meaningless blancket words borrowed from western media , with which women use to call a dog a bad name in order to hang it. 6 Likes |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Nobody: 3:07pm On May 21, 2015 |
Blackbeauty: I'm a little lost here, are you saying Nigerian law recognises verbal and emotional abuse as tangible means of separation or divorce? |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by KanwuliaJara: 4:09pm On May 21, 2015 |
You SAMBARRY: Oh yeah! The FRANCE FAGGGS! |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Emaprince: 4:10pm On May 21, 2015 |
This woman have evaded so many questions here. Like; the cause of the seperation. I'm sure everything going wrong right now will be her fault. She only came here to tell a one-sided story which even shows how she really don't care living without her kids untill the women here started blaming her for being that way. Guilty conscience is making you claim you have no problem leaving them with their dad. You were a responsible mom? I doubt if you were a responsible wife! Your husband is definitely angry and wanted to punish you for something bad you did(which you are hiding). Women do this also to their husbands when the have the kids in their custody. Especially when they were hurt by their hubbies. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by lolababe331e: 4:39pm On May 21, 2015 |
Emaprince: Will that make it right? As she rightly said the reason for her divorce is irrelevant except if he can say she's violent or something that affects the kids. Being an bad spouse does not necessarily translate into being an irresponsible parent. Let's say she cheated , so? If the children are taken away from every cheat how many fathers will have access to their kids he marriage is not under debate here, what ever happened she's decided to move on and he has no right to use her children to "punish" her. Same with the women that do the same, the only thing that is relevant when discussing child custody is what's in the best interest of the children and not the injured ego of the parents. That is why a court is usually in the best position to determine because the judge is not deciding based on emotions 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Nobody: 5:20pm On May 21, 2015 |
plaetton: I dont know Im confused too If he is an abuser why leave the children with him? Is it healthy mentally for children to remain with an abuser? |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by plaetton: 5:24pm On May 21, 2015 |
tearoses:We can only answer that question is we define what an abuser is. That what I am asking. What an abuser? |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Ishilove: 5:28pm On May 21, 2015 |
plaetton:"is" Feel free to thank me effusively 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by justwise(m): 5:35pm On May 21, 2015 |
emeify: Nothing wrong with this, women do the same to men. 1 Like |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Nobody: 5:38pm On May 21, 2015 |
plaetton: The person being abused is in the best position to explain it They are the ones who know what its like Someone looking in from the outside cant really know What A may consider abuse may be different from B Not all abuse is physical Ive explained my concerns to the op Its up to her to decide whether her children are safe or not and to get her priorities right The whole society suffers when damaged kids grow up If she hadnt mentioned abuse, i would not have said anything. Lawyers are the best people to deal with finance and visits and tbey can deal with that. 2 Likes |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by publicenemy(m): 5:38pm On May 21, 2015 |
coogar: I love this 2 Likes |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by onila(f): 5:40pm On May 21, 2015 |
emeify:take him to court my mother took him to court when are my father banned us for seeing us and she won 4 Likes |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by freecocoa(f): 5:42pm On May 21, 2015 |
emeify:How can the kids not be in danger if he is abusive? 2 Likes |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by lordprosh(m): 5:42pm On May 21, 2015 |
You're goint tru a difficult time nd ur hubby is paying u with what other women to dia hubby.. My advice if u love ur kids nd u can't go to court just pay d money he's asking for nd stop puting a bad show in front of doz kids BTW how come he won d custody of the kids.. Hmmm OP u must be a very bad mother and wife for dat to happen... Am sorry but u need to CHANGE nd seek help on how to resolve ur marital ish 1 Like |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by write2obi(m): 5:43pm On May 21, 2015 |
If you are earning good money then you should contribute in your children's upkeep. How did you got separated in the first place? Did you ran away, leaving him with the kids to suffer? Only to show up from nowhere demanding to see your kids? Their is more to this story abeg |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by toyoutoyou: 5:47pm On May 21, 2015 |
If the cause of the separation is not important,then there is no need to ask for a way out from Nairalanders since u've decided to hide the worse part of ur mistake with the people u're seeking their advice. emeify: 4 Likes |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 5:48pm On May 21, 2015 |
emeify: Better try and settle with your hubby IF POSSIBLE You don't want to experience what women go through after divorce especially those who have had children from previous marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Truckpusher(m): 5:48pm On May 21, 2015 |
emeify:Madam ,you're in the wrong room. As a continental African I would be the last person to accept money from a woman under this circumstances but again this is what your culture has been doing to the men's folk so kindly pay up and stop talking. Between, the court should have communicated this to both of you. This thread stinks of attention seeking . Yes , I said it . 1 Like |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by proudlyhandsome: 5:51pm On May 21, 2015 |
cococandy: You will hardly see a lady coming up with solution to their friends' marital problems. All they do is to add more problems. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 5:53pm On May 21, 2015 |
emeify: Must you go through this stress? Look here lady,im in good position to advice you and i have mended many broken marriages even if im still battling a divorce issue at the moment. Trust me,itss not worth it and you may realize too late. There is too much headache in divorce than reconciling especially when children are involved. Trust me,there is no perfect man out there and the earlier you get this the better.RECONCILE NOW IF YOU CAN. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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