babyosisi:


I am telling thee
Imagine a man asking females,people's wives if they are pregnant yet
What nerve !!
And actually thinks it is appropriate to ask such a stoopid question
Isn't that what you expect to hear from illiterate wicked toothless mothers in law in the village
Anyway

So sissy-ish!

Sophyrocks:
Anyways, to add to the topic inspite of it being successfully derailed, humans (both males and females) have been their worst enemies from time immemorial. Several events in human history have proven that. The reason that phrase came up is because women have used their emotions and inadequacies to bring each other down In the most ridiculous and petty ways that shocks everyone and they tend to take matters way tooo far!! women love to compete for frivolous reasons that involve men , the same men who dnt really give a damn. and this is why it is shocking. When men knock their heads to start a fight amongst them, they play right along and cause a tsunami. SMH. Only women with extremely low self esteem bring down other women. It is that low self esteem that is the problem. If you notice very well, women who feel deficient in any way, be it beauty, character, social class, e.t.c are guilty of being enemies to their fellow women.

I am quite selective in making female friends. I love to associate with females with high self esteem because i learn a whole lot from them and they are drama free. Once i smell any sign of the opposite, i take off.

Lets just say that men become their own worst enemies once a group decides to deflate their fellow men Ego. Men compete for different reasons and go about it differently from women.

I do agree that women are their own worst enemies
Women can be very mean to other women
If a man can give an excuse why he beat or cheated on his wife and there are women to support his views then what else can we say.its an all too common trend on here.

The reason for instance wicked practices of widowhood and persecution of women yet to conceive continue is the attitude of fellow women towards it.
They are the main perpetrators of the evil meted out to these women.
We were talking about adoptions the other day,it is a woman that will open mouth and call an adopted child derogatory names and ridicule the adoptive mother.
It is also a woman that will will see an ongoing marriage with children yet open up her legs to conceive for the man,sometimes multiple times,destroy a family without any remorse and even engage the wife in a fist fight.
Men have their issues but women without common sense especially where you expect them to,are more pathetic IMHO

Finally

babyosisi:


I do agree that women are their own worst enemies
Women can be very mean to other women
If a man can give an excuse why he beat or cheated on his wife and there are women to support his views then what else can we say

The reason for instance wicked practices of widowhood and persecution of women yet to conceive continues is the attitude of fellow women towards it
They are the main perpetrators of the evil meted out to these women.
It is also a woman that will will see an ongoing marriage with children yet open up her legs to conceive for the man,sometimes multiple times and even engage the wife in a fist fight.

Exactly so. And this is why i hammer on this low self esteem issue. A woman with high esteem will not degrade herself to such level as to compete with another woman. There was a quote i saw in a blog saying that 'ladies who accept to be side chicks do not see themselves worthy of being the only lady in a man's life'. A lot of men will pat themselves in the back when they dnt tolerate sh1t but women? Its a different case entirely. You want to hear the wrongest advice? You will hear it from a lady with the lowest self esteem. I stay away from such ladies as far as i can. I stay away from ladies who allow men knock their heads together as bait to cause a tsunami. Wanting to compete with another lady is enough sign of deficiency in you already. Thats how i see it.

cococandy:


Jirikwa nwayo nwayo on that road.
Safe driving.

Lol anyone who frequents NL and still accuses women of being more verbally abusive must have wool covering their eyes.

Hahahahahahahaha
No be men send you email about how I chopped their father and to beware of me
You no see threads with supposed pictures of me and my family plus addresses how many have been started by women?

Sophyrocks:


Exactly so. And this is why i hammer on this low self esteem issue. A woman with high esteem will not degrade herself to such level as to compete with another woman. There was a quote i saw in a blog saying that 'ladies who accept to be side chicks do not see themselves worthy of being the only lady in a man's life'. A lot of men will pat themselves in the back when they dnt tolerate sh1t but women? Its a different case entirely. You want to hear the wrongest advice? You will hear it from a lady with the lowest self esteem. I stay away from such ladies as far as i can. I stay away from ladies who allow men knock their heads together as bait to cause a tsunami. Wanting to compete with another lady is enough sign of deficiency in you already. Thats how i see it.

Self esteem,very very important
The things women do can be mind boggling
Hiding in bushes to trail philandering husbands and such
Imagine that
Risking poisonous snakes and broken bottles to catch somebody,checking phones and emails and spending precious time following their fellow human being around
Have you had women very hostile and rude to you when you call their husband
I have
You find the phone number of a childhood friend or neighbor and family friend and happily call either to get their sister's number or ask about them and their parents,parents you called aunty and uncle and some wife answers the phone like she is his guardian with a very unfriendly attitude
Life is too short nne m
I don't like women with low self esteem either

Now we are back on track.

softysparky:
Now we are back on track.

Yes o

Ije uwa

babyosisi:


Hahahahahahahaha
No be men send you email about how I chopped their father and to beware of me
You no see threads with supposed pictures of me and my family plus addresses how many have been started by women?

softysparky:
Now we are back on track.

You know another line that makes my skin cringe when people write it
Things like, "you need to keep your husband away from your female friends or from so and so"
" don't let your husband go to such and such"
Are you kidding me?
What I read there is a woman whose self esteem is at gutter level
Like men are some fragile brainless beings that need to be rescued by a wife before he errs
Why do women tag on to themselves jobs like that?
How much can you police a fellow adult?
It is annoying to read
If you have to spend that much energy to keep anyone in check,you need classes in self esteem

babyosisi:


I do agree that women are their own worst enemies
Women can be very mean to other women
If a man can give an excuse why he beat or cheated on his wife and there are women to support his views then what else can we say.its an all too common trend on here.

The reason for instance wicked practices of widowhood and persecution of women yet to conceive continue is the attitude of fellow women towards it.
They are the main perpetrators of the evil meted out to these women.
We were talking about adoptions the other day,it is a woman that will open mouth and call an adopted child derogatory names and ridicule the adoptive mother.
It is also a woman that will will see an ongoing marriage with children yet open up her legs to conceive for the man,sometimes multiple times,destroy a family without any remorse and even engage the wife in a fist fight.
Men have their issues but women without common sense especially where you expect them to,are more pathetic IMHO

Women will continue that way until the Government decides to do what's right and protect vulnerable peope but again how can the same government do anything for women when most of them in the same Government have more than two wives and too many concubines.

Though Nigerian women can do better the moment they stop seeing a man as a means to an end.

Truckpusher:
Women will continue that way until the Government decides to do what's right and protect vulnerable peope but again how can the same government do anything for women when most of them in the same Government have more than two wives and too many concubines.

Though Nigerian women can do better the moment they stop seeing a man as a means to an end.

To relate it to thread,the question is why would a woman in 2015 agree to come into an existing marriage as a wife or concubine to hurt another woman?
Many of these girls in a place like nigeria have been carrying blokoss the size of their father's since JSS
Some pass through uni and all the fees were paid by someone's husband and the lecturers they slept with to get passing grades were people's fathers and husbands.
Then tomorrow they enter church begin shout alleluia ,casting and binding and demons will refuse to shift

babyosisi:


Self esteem,very very important
The things women do can be mind boggling
Hiding in bushes to trail philandering husbands and such
Imagine that
Risking poisonous snakes and broken bottles to catch somebody,checking phones and emails and spending precious time following their fellow human being around
Have you had women very hostile and rude to you when you call their husband
I have
You find the phone number of a childhood friend or neighbor and family friend and happily call and some wife answers the phone like she is his guardian with a very unfriendly attitude
Life is too short nne m

You know wetin that woman don see for where her husband dey? Maybe she has witnessed different calls from different ladies. She must have had it up to here. Women turning to james bond because of marriage. what sort of life is that? Nigerian women dey try o. They preach fasting and praying and turning the blind eye to a man's irresponsibiilities and then they turn around to bite you in the a$$. All because of Men who dnt give a damn and still in the end disrespects them! All for what? They end up as nagging and depressed housewives. I just dnt know how they do it psychologically. You create a mess that bites you in the a$$. I have no pity for some of them because they are reaping what they sowed when they were single causing other women pain. I have an aunt who is reaping hers. A friend back in school used to preach saying 'If man matter heavy you for shoulder, drop am down o'. I have stuck to that saying all my life. Women will always be women jare.

babyosisi:


To relate it to thread,the question is why would a woman in 2015 agree to come into an existing marriage as a wife or concubine to hurt another woman?
Many of these girls in a place like nigeria have been carrying blokoss the size of their father's since JSS
Some pass through uni and all the fees were paid by someone's husband and the lecturers they slept with to get passing grades were people's fathers and husbands.
Then tomorrow they enter church begin shout alleluia ,casting and binding and demons will refuse to shift

This is a socio-economic problem that can't be solved until there is a great awakening in the land .

Some region control their women 100% but regions are losing control and these are two parallel lines that can't meet .

Nigeria's problem is encompassing and no end in sight .
Two different ideologies will always clash and until the women in Kano amd Maiduguri has the same right like the women in Lagos and Port Harcourt we are going nowhere.

Truckpusher:
This is a socio-economic problem that can't be solved until there is a great awakening in the land .

Some region control their women 100% but regions are losing control and these are two parallel lines that can't meet .

Nigeria's problem is encompassing and no end in sight .
Two different ideologies will always clash and until the women in Kano amd Maiduguri has the same right like the women in Lagos and Port Harcourt we are going nowhere.

The morality in the land is zero
When you have a young girl in the university who hasn't received a penny of fees from the parents
Do they pretend not to know how she is sponsoring her education
She will even be training her younger ones sef
The country is messed up
The average person in Nigeria has no concept of right and wrong
Anything goes

The women in Kano and maiduguri are bound by culture and religion
The ones in PH and Lagos are bound by greed
Many of those girls have done countless abortions for men their father's age then They enter prayer house after marriage begin jump up and down when they killed all the available ration of kids God gave them

Sophyrocks:


You know wetin that woman don see for where her husband dey? Maybe she has witnessed different calls from different ladies. She must have had it up to here. Women turning to james bond because of marriage. what sort of life is that? Nigerian women dey try o. They preach fasting and praying and turning the blind eye to a man's irresponsibiilities and then they turn around to bite you in the a$$. All because of Men who dnt give a damn and still in the end disrespects them! All for what? They end up as nagging and depressed housewives. I just dnt know how they do it psychologically. You create a mess that bites you in the a$$. I have no pity for some of them because they are reaping what they sowed when they were single causing other women pain. I have an aunt who is reaping hers. A friend back in school used to preach saying 'If man matter heavy you for shoulder, drop am down o'. I have stuck to that saying all my life. Women will always be women jare.

People reap what they sow
If a girl was sleeping with people's husbands and depriving the family of love and income in the household, she shouldn't expect to marry and have him to herself
Not possible

Some monikers are bitter for one reason or the other and are always waiting for this kind of opportunity to show their bitterness. The funny part is these same monikers accuse others of holding a grudge and taking things personal. But reading through their posts one deduce they are just as guilty......



I wonder what happened to the family section of before.


**This is not directed to anyone in particular,just my general view**


Now to the topic.....



We get This women are their worst enemies thingy from a lot of women which makes me wonder.... who are the friendly ones?


Answer: Who are the friendly ones? Depends on those who call friendly,some can turn on you when you least expect it. They are rare and hard to find.


Some ladies like to have male bosses as female bosses are wicked Why brings about the questions...

Answer: mostly because of their experiences. Some ladies when faced with issues both at home and at work tends to take it out on others,likewise some men. Which percentage of the two is higher?I don't know but if i am to judge from the number of complaints I have read/seen, I would give it to the ladies. Bearing in mind some of these complaints might be untrue.


Are you not aspiring to be a boss or will you be horrible when you are a boss or are you immune to the spirit of female wickedness?

I am aspiring to be a boss and I'd like to believe that everyone does. One can never tell with these things but they can make sure as much as possible not to turn into a 'wicked boss'. So to answer your question,when I become a boss I hope I get the required control not to enforce my 'wickedness' on subordinates

babyosisi:


You know another line that makes my skin cringe when people write it
Things like, "you need to keep your husband away from your female friends or from so and so"
" don't let your husband go to such and such"
Are you kidding me?
What I read there is a woman whose self esteem is at gutter level
Like men are some fragile brainless beings that need to be rescued by a wife before he errs
Why do women tag on to themselves jobs like that?
How much can you police a fellow adult?
It is annoying to read
If you have to spend that much energy to keep anyone in check,you need classes in self esteem

That moment after the side chic with low self esteem becomes wifey and realises her old postion just opened up

I asked my dad about this topic and he was like, what do you expect when a woman willingly agrees to marry an already married man only to start fighting for attention or front seat of his car with the first wife. And that same woman would want to do everything possible to stop the man from marrying another wife after her.

babyosisi:


You know another line that makes my skin cringe when people write it
Things like, "you need to keep your husband away from your female friends or from so and so"
" don't let your husband go to such and such"
Are you kidding me?
What I read there is a woman whose self esteem is at gutter level
Like men are some fragile brainless beings that need to be rescued by a wife before he errs
Why do women tag on to themselves jobs like that?
How much can you police a fellow adult?
It is annoying to read
If you have to spend that much energy to keep anyone in check,you need classes in self esteem

I can relate with this .

Just like some men feel like a knight in a shinning amour.

If your partner wants to sleep around , they'll always sleep around.
You don't lose sleep over what peeps wants to do with their lives.but you still need to be vigilant .

I personally hate surprises , tell me everything the way it is and I'll think for myself .
Though some ladies still believe that the moment you don't keep tab on them ,then you're fuccking lost and outta ya mind because women can't be trusted but men can do shiit and no one questions them ,but again most women deserve what they get .

babyosisi:


The morality in the land is zero
When you have a young girl in the university who hasn't received a penny of fees from the parents
Do they pretend not to know how she is sponsoring her education
She will even be training her younger ones sef
The country is messed up
The average person in Nigeria has no concept of right and wrong
Anything goes

The women in Kano and maiduguri are bound by culture and religion
The ones in PH and Lagos are bound by greed
Many of those girls have done countless abortions for men their father's age then They enter prayer house after marriage begin jump up and down when they killed all the available ration of kids God gave them

Everything still boils down to the authorities first amd parenthood.

Create an enabling environment , create the jobs and every individual will key into progress.
Your parents can't give you what they don't have.

You are right, in essence parents should have few children.
Too many African children are left to fend for themselves...using marriage as an escape route.

Truckpusher:
Everything still boils down to the authorities first amd parenthood.
Create an enabling environment , create the jobs and every individual will key into progress.
Your parents can't give you what they don't have.

Truckpusher:
Everything still boils down to the authorities first amd parenthood.

Create an enabling environment , create the jobs and every individual will key into progress.
Your parents can't give you what they don't have.

And the KEY to creating that environment is EDUCATION for ALL our children and adults too.

Hence my annoyance when some nitwits ascribe 'excellence' to a governor who scored 14% in this sector!

Most of us forget that the federal government gives states EXTRA money to ensure our children are FREELY educated for 9 years!!!

armyofone:
You are right, in essence parents should have few children.
Too many African children are left to fend for themselves...using marriage as an escape route.

Sex is the only extracurricular activity for most nigerian couples
There are no recreational facilities
They don't take vacations
People don't really set out to have those kids
They are just the consequences of the only free enjoyment they can get
The poorer the family,the more the kids

The thread don enter government matter?

cococandy:
The thread don enter government matter?

Lol, it's at least better than the initial karate

softysparky:

Lol, it's at least better than the initial karate

dat kind thing

Good morning peeps

Glad This thread is back on track

Will be back later

This is the thread that has received my highest mentions. oga ju

Anyway since sanity has returned, I will post what I think about the matter.

There are many aspects to this. . . Ive heard this statement many times too.

There are aspects that babyosisi has touched on, where we have gone against our own, ie the women that nick other ladies men & there are the bad bosses at work

The aspect I want to touch on is that women tend to have more deeper and more detailed relationships. We know everything about our friends. We also talk more (this is not a dig but has been scientifically proven)
because we talk more, we also run the risk of saying things that can be used as ammunition against us in days of trouble.
We also dont tend to get physical, so we fight with our mouths, going for the jugular, hence when 2 women fight they say unspeakable things to each other.

I always say one thing and that if you are happy, you will want other people around you to be happy too. its infectious.
Many people are not happy within themselves, so it reflects on the outside too with the things that they say and do.

The female boss that is giving you a hard time, is probably facing hell at home and just cant help herself.
The MIL from hell, most probably had MIL from hell themselves and the cycle continues.

Men have their own issues too. There are cases a man will give priority to a undeserving female over a more qualified man just becasue he wants to sleep with the lady. So it could be argued that in that instance that the man is the mans own worst enemy too. Men use money and power to steal other mens wives and girlfriends too

Personaly, the better question would be why are humans their own worst enemies.

cococandy:
see example of bad mouthing.

If you give this one small dose of his medicine back now he will start lamenting and increase his pace of chasing from thread to thread

By the way charles316, what's your regular moniker?
You're one of those guys that I actually try to ignore when they start showing themselves because I no understand or fit to explain where da heck you crawled out from or what your case with me is.

But the more I ignore you, the more you can't seem to get enough of the snobing which tells me you have another moniker that I must have really bashed and you're venting with this one.

Otherwise, I can't seem to recognize what your problem with me is or my DH (that does not know of your existence) for that matter.

How may we help you?

Babe, that was a total knockout.

Now, how does it feel to finally discuss the issue for which the thread was created in the first case...
Life is very easy I tell ya.....

As regards gender bashing on what almost every thread these days, arent you people fed up of it?
I mean who are we kidding?
We have husbands/wives that we love
brothers/sisters that we adore
Sons/daughters that we think the world of
Mums/dads that we cherish
.. . . .and the list goes on!

I love men o! I have 2 wonderful cute men in my house - (no pictures please, Hello magazine has sole rights)
one of them is in my bed & doing great things .

Yes some NL men can be annoying sometimes, so can some NL women. But do they make up the whole populatin of men/women? . .. of course not.

The garri and the french peeps made me laugh more than thus unnecessary gender bashing day in and day out. So many beautiful threads ruined and gone to the dogs.

Some People cant even have a decent debate these days and automatically go on the attack even when its glaring that there is no substance to their stance, just becasue its the opposite sex . . . . .Its rather boring now. . . very boring sef.

Another thing is that we are all different and have different experiences, make up and all that.
If you dont agree with a poster, no need to tear him/her to shreds, just state your argument and move on. No one and I mean NO ONE knows it all, you only know as far as your own mind.

Driving to work soon . . .wish me safe journey Im teasing babyosisi

tearoses:
As regards gender bashing on what almost every thread these days, arent you people fed up of it?
I mean who are we kidding?
We have husbands/wives that we love
brothers/sisters that we adore
Sons/daughters that we think the world of
Mums/dads that we cherish
.. . . .and the list goes on!

I love men o! I have 2 wonderful cute men in my house - (no pictures please, Hello magazine has sole rights)
one of them is in my bed & doing great things .

Yes some NL men can be annoying sometimes, so can some NL women. But do they make up the whole populatin of men/women? . .. of course not.

The garri and the french peeps made me laugh more than thus unnecessary gender bashing day in and day out. So many beautiful threads ruined and gone to the dogs.

Some People cant even have a decent debate these days and automatically go on the attack even when its glaring that there is no substance to their stance, just becasue its the opposite sex . . . . .Its rather boring now. . . very boring sef.


Another thing is that we are all different and have different experiences, make up and all that.
If you dont agree with a poster, no need to tear him/her to shreds, just state your argument and move on. No one and I mean NO ONE knows it all, you only know as far as your own mind.

Yes yes chair, I think you are right