This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push.


"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a"Husband Scarcity"problem? Or,maybe there were more men than women then,or there was an adequate corresponding
numbers of both genders. I don't think so.
Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home.

Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman
really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We
created what we now see as "Husband
Scarcity" for ourselves.

Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband,
you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at
least, and be presentable" and then she adds
"God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls
around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man."What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have
everything you want and there is
no suffering, and later in the marriage, the
table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start
small and end big, than start big
and end small.

Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a
man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want,legally (except those involved in Internet fraud)
even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue (iron ladies), who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married.

The easiest way to find a husband now, is to
change your view of who a husband is.
A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled (according to Mosco's
definition sha )


Marriage is not a poverty alleviation program
for those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, Women are home builders, not home warmers...
don't confuse a man's path with his destiny.
Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be
tomorrow. Another truth is that you may be
the only fast means to that his destiny .Join in alleviating "husband
scarcity". pick up the right values. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am
saying is that you should stop setting your
standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances(he mustn't look like Chris brown ). WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.

if this is coming from a lady, then I say ......... IMPRESSIVE!
I guess there's plenty of hope for people like us who are actually doing honest 'things' for a living and working hard legitimately, daily. Thank you.

Cowgirl.. Wow, am impressed

brb

just incase

Future good husbands like me.... We are not commonplace.

nice one

I wish ireneony will start making sense like this

Nice one

The expenses of marrying a wife nowadays might even scare hustling men. You see father of 8 daughters happy, and reliant on the money of bride price

If husbands like they should be rare, if they like they should full ground.
Buhari becomes boss tomorrow and that is all that matters!

I just like hearing that stuff ... Tall ..dark ... Handsome ... Rich and Godfearing.... blebleswag come read what ur fellow lady write Oo ... If u like no hear ..

This is thoughtful of u,nice write up @op. u know, our women especially those that just graduated think of marriage as a poverty alleviation program and thereby paint the kind of man they want in mind(nt really bad) buh they do it as a do or die matter.

impressive masterpiece...

It must be because of the higher percentage of girls compare to guys in this present generation.
According to nigeria last census, the percentage of girls is higher than that of boys, which was actually opposite in some years pass.

Well I just got turned down not long ago here and tomorrow they will scream husband scarcity.

Hummm dat wan no mean say i should marry a poor man ioiioo,,,he gats to takia of me,,,.can't imagine y enemy marrying and still looking haggard and shabby coz she has to bear most of the responsibilities..

jrerico1:
Nice one

The expenses of marrying a wife nowadays might even scare hustling men. You see father of 8 daughters happy, and reliant on the money of bride price

*sips Tea*

octopusfreaky:
Hummm dat wan no mean say i should marry a poor man ioiioo,,,he gats to takia of me,,,.can't imagine y enemy marrying and still looking haggard and shabby coz she has to bear most of the responsibilities..

It depends on your definition of who a poor man is. A man who can take care of himself and his wife isn't poor. .

if that woman had a child or two not more she won't be looking haggard and shabby,that's the main reason why new couples need good family planning.

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DEIFIED:
It must be because of the higher percentage of girls compare to guys in this present generation .
According to Nigeria last census, the percentage of girls is higher than that of boys, which was actually opposite in some years pass.

why am I finding this difficult to believe until people start protesting of scarcity of the opposite sex will I give the embolden a second thought

CashdownNG:


let me get this straight. someone steals an article that had been on NL for a while and then goes all happy with smiles collecting accolades and all and we're indulging the plagiaristic bit.ch?

shame on all ya of short memory.

indeed only and empty girl would use a cow's moniker.

waris dis? share the article here then lemme see

Good

i agree with totally....ladies want already made men.but its not alwaays their fault....d intimidation frm d society can cause it.




p.s. i smell FP frm a distance.

cowgirl9090:


waris dis? share the article here then lemme see

This topic has been dealt with before. This is one the things Nigerians knows how to do best,"copy-copy"
Copy in exam hall
Copy some1esle song
Copy foreigners fashions
And now copying some1else's topic.
Copy anytin copy-able

2dice:
I just like hearing that stuff ... Tall ..dark ... Handsome ... Rich and Godfearing.... blebleswag come read what ur fellow lady write Oo ... If u like no hear ..

Everytin abt d write-up is true, buh it doesn't mean I shouldn't hav my taste.

1.Cowgirl,u didn write this on ur own, I ve seen this on NL and on FB.

2.Nice points, the article is correct.

3.Another reason is the fact that our fore fathers are polygamous in nature, 1man-3wives, now that it is 1man-1wife, who will marry the leftovers? No one, because dey re mannerless, if not dey must have been married earlier instead of being leftovers.

4.All these gals wey de talk all dose nonsense, uptil now from when their papa married their mama, d old man never ever dreamt of owning a bicycle tyre talk more of building a house(na still dere grand papa house dem de live) yet he trained dem upto marriageable age.


5.Since husband is scarce out of una own making(high demands) na I'm be say na babymama's sure pass, I no blame celebrities dem.

6. U all want made men that are legit abi? Let me break it down for u all.

*an average guy graduates from school @ 22-25yrs,

*him go go NYSC ,dat na 1yr.

*him no fit find work, him come go do Masters @least 18months, keep counting and adding oooh.

*assume him come finallly land job wey dey pay am N100k - N200k( I am exegerating ooh, some de collect less than 80k.)

*howmany yrs him go save 100k to buy land come build house? 12 months multiplied by 100k na 1.2 mill,by 5yrs, na 6mill,and I know say for dis our economy, ee no go buy land still build house and furnish am.(I know say my guyman go de chop na,buy clothes,pay rent, spend TP.+ other expenses,I no add am join oo)

*by now,my guyman don de pass 35yrs, den, him go come begin save for sharp ride like 2mill. Choi, women una don kill men ooh.

*38yrs him go come begin plan to marry,now na another expenses,so another time to save for both white and trado weddings.(A rich guy of ur standard gats do both na)

*him go come save for as per say him na rich man, him gats get savings nah.

*meanwhile all these while my guy don forget say him get papa n mama for villa ooh,him forget say na person train am,him forget say him get siblings oooh, him don troway all of them because of say him wan marry u.

*by now,my guy don de knack better 45yrs ooh. Meanwhile that ogbanje go dey around 24yrs, u go like marry ur papa mate?


*see,all these gals wey get "all made man mentality" the thunder that will fire all of una still de receive my 20 pages instructions on an ms-word document of 8font size and 1.5line spacing.


THUNDER fire all of UNA


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There are over 150 millions of Nigerians in Nigeria so how is the hell we have husband scarcity