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I saw this story online, read it, told my peeps around me... come see argument.
So I brought it here. What do you think??






Ada Okeke shared her true life story online… My
people, I need your advice… I am the one involved!
My cousin (male) came home last Christmas
looking for a wife, I told him about my girlfriend anhink? Did I do the right or the wrong
thing?

changes1:
I saw this story online, read it, told my peeps around me... come see argument.
So I brought it here. What do you think??






Ada Okeke shared her true life story online… My
people, I need your advice… I am the one involved!
My cousin (male) came home last Christe is
and not for what he is)…wrong
thing?

barcanista:
No sir! Everybody have their choice and taste. Honestly answer these questions, what will be your reaction to see your graduate sister bring home a bricklayer that lives in Ajegunle and introduce him as her fiance? What will be your reaction should your sister bring home an Investment Banker as her fiance? What will be your reaction should your sister tell you she rejected a bricklayer that proposed to her? Pls answer

Let us not be hypocritical here. While the girl has her right to either accept or reject a bricklayer, she does no wrong if in her judgement he doesn't meet her specs. It's about choice bro!

barcanista:
Her response was a polite way of saying "I'm not interested in your bricklayer cousin"

DickDastardly:

Thats how i married. Told my wife back then i was a bricklayer and she was like ''as long as there is life there is hope''. Only for her to visit me and found out i'm an Arab prince equivalent. Naamean

I am planning to go over to their place today to explain things to her sisters and apologize too

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lies get grade and size shaaa

barcanista:
90% of people blaming the girl in this movie are hypocrite. Seriously, how many people/graduates will agree to get married to a bricklayer in mushin via a 3rd party? How many people will agree to marry an agbero in motor park? This is a very straightforward case. The babe never discriminated him but her choice of marriage wasn't a briklayer or capenter. It's her choice.

The friend and the dude were at fault here. I support the lady demand for apology.


But the film sha

DickDastardly:

Thats how i married. Told my wife back then i was a bricklayer and she was like ''as long as there is life there is hope''. Only for her to visit me and found out i'm an Arab prince equivalent. Naamean

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meaning she wants an already made man abi? what now happens to the struggling men? mk dem no marry abi konji should kill them?

lyfe:
I wouldn't be interested too, If I was the lady. Imagine security man in Lagos proposing marriage where all the "rich swagger " guys are in abundance.

This is the reality most guys should embrace. Women want some sort of security and 99% of the women would fail that test.

Closecall:
That is how I am planing to get married told my girl that am. Poor she left me. I told her am unemployed but I own my own business ceo that I don't have N1000 but am worth N37million naira liqiud and N60million naira fixed asserts some girls are short sighted daft and fools she broke up with me last week and gave me N800 transport not knowing I had N30k in my wallet and N2million in my diamond bank savings account I walked out of her house smiling......[]

adanduka:
Lying isn't the right thing to do.
When a woman is in it for money, you'll know.
But the so called rich businessman is really in a hurry to get married. How long did he date this one he's settling with?

bashydemy:
I know the kind of person you are the day you left APC for already made and money arena PDP... But everyone are not like you, You just prove yourself to be a greedy and selfish man.

seemples:


But this Ada Okeke sef .... If she were in her friend's shoes, an undergraduate, she will agree to marry a regular Nigerian security man?
Na so desperation for marriage reach? Abeg the man should go marry his former girlfriend that understood him and where he's coming from cos it's not EASY
Anyway, I guess she didn't first think it round and through.

I hope the man also started by telling this new fiancée he was a gatekeeper too.

Go ahead and apologise o...close friends don't do each other such strong things

barcanista:
People are just hypocritical. Marriage is about choice. There is difference between that and discrimination. Whoever "test" a girl/guy isn't a sincere person. Even God said "Thou shall not tempt the Lord thy God". When Satan asked Jesus to turn stone into bread, he'd have done it but he refused. For a girl to love you for who you are, you also need to approach her for who you are. It is very easy to spot a gold digger. You don't have to fake it.
Only ppl that worship money will subject people to such emotional test.

barcanista:
You see why I said people are hypocritical? I'm not a money freak and I don't worship money. But I can't take out the fact that ppl have their own criteria. It is not about MONEY...it is about choice and requirement.

barcanista:
People are just hypocritical. Marriage is about choice. There is difference between that and discrimination. Whoever "test" a girl/guy isn't a sincere person. Even God said "Thou shall not tempt the Lord thy God". When Satan asked Jesus to turn stone into bread, he'd have done it but he refused. For a girl to love you for who you are, you also need to approach her for who you are. It is very easy to spot a gold digger. You don't have to fake it.
Only ppl that worship money will subject people to such emotional test.

lyfe:


I admit to some of the things you said, but not only people that worship money will subject potential partner to such test. You won't be loved if you are normal nowadays.Yes it is the sad truth. Marriage is a serious thing. You have to find someone worth the while

I used to be that "okay" "normal" "average" guy and oftentimes ladies would friendzone me at sight without really wanting to know what potentials I have or what I could be. I wooed some girls hoping to settle down if they behave themselves. Guess what? They said they couldn't find the feelings. The problem was that I was being nerdy and normal trying to find my direction in life and where I live you really have to be trendy for girls to give you attention. By trendy I mean swag, gyming, tattoos, chains, sport cars and other nasty stuffs. Which I didnt have it . Did I get laid being a normal guy? No (had some luck when I decided to pull out my bad boy side)

To cut my tale short, 2 years down the line graduated with a good grade got a very nice car and I made sure this ladies heard the news about my high paying job. Then call started coming in, they start thanking me for calling them and remind me I have not spoken with them in for a while... Apparently, the feeling they couldn't find just resurfaced after news of my success.

bashydemy:
Yes the choice of the girl is that he cannot marry the guy cos he is a security man living in Mushin.... meaning she want a rich guy from the city... and you support her claiming everyone know what they want so why is she angry when he find out the guy is rich.

bashydemy:
I know the kind of person you are the day you left APC for already made and money arena PDP... But everyone are not like you, You just prove yourself to be a greedy and selfish man.

But she should give him a chance, and try to know him very well… She told me she wasn’t interested, not ready for marriage yet, I tried all my best to convince her but to no avail, I let go!

barcanista:
From the story her anger is/was that her bestie lied to her. To me it is a legitimate concern

lyfe:
I wouldn't be interested too, If I was the lady. Imagine security man in Lagos proposing marriage where all the "rich swagger " guys are in abundance.

This is the reality most guys should embrace. Women want some sort of security and 99% of the women would fail that test.

barcanista:
No sir! Everybody have their choice and taste. Honestly answer these questions, what will be your reaction to see your graduate sister bring home a bricklayer that lives in Ajegunle and introduce him as her fiance? What will be your reaction should your sister bring home an Investment Banker as her fiance? What will be your reaction should your sister tell you she rejected a bricklayer that proposed to her? Pls answer

Let us not be hypocritical here. While the girl has her right to either accept or reject a bricklayer, she does no wrong if in her judgement he doesn't meet her specs. It's about choice bro!