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Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by malele(m): 4:07pm On Jun 24, 2015
I need som advice on what really went wrong.

I was chatting a girl (my town girl sha) via BBM last year September, during Christmas we later met in there home town which happens to be mine hometown too. Infact our house is 3mins away from each other house.

When we met in the Christmas, I spent some time with her family, I was really impressed.
After Christmas we went to our different states to work, I stay in lag, she stays in the east, but I made it a routine to be visiting her every end of month.
My first visit, I told her ma intention, I was straight, I told her am coming for marriage, I also told her no sex till after our intro (wanted her to know am not coming to have sex and run).
I call her twice a day to know how she is doing in the east, I really love her, I even told her to come to lag so that I can introduce her to ma people atleast let them know her.

Third month into the year, I noticed her phone is always biz when I call, our communication began to drop.
She now fares up over little things.

I decided when I get to east I will see whether I can resolve things.

When I got to east I was faced with a long list
From her.
Some of the things in the list includes
she does not think I find her attractive.
I don't encourage or scold her.
A lot she wrote.
Because of that she pulled the plug.
Am still in pain cause I gave a lot into the relationship and I really wanted it to lead to matrimony.
my question is, we're did I go wrong,
Cause she told me I did nothing wrong, just that the connection was not there.
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by boynigeria(m): 4:12pm On Jun 24, 2015
well it sounds ure actually very boring cos it like ure a routine bf or lover or whatever
nothing fun abt u two dat u mention shows ure probably boring her

sorry if i sound abusive but im just being honest
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Nobody: 4:12pm On Jun 24, 2015
Lol . . . dude, it's over undecided
Stop grieving and move on.
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Nobody: 4:17pm On Jun 24, 2015
boynigeria:
well it sounds ure actually very boring cos it like ure a routine bf or lover or whatever
nothing fun abt u two dat u mention shows ure probably boring her

sorry if i sound abusive but im just being honest

Correctwink

He sounds really boring, I would have done the same too......... I can't deal with those kind of guysundecided
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Tallesty1(m): 4:27pm On Jun 24, 2015
adeh39:


Correctwink

He sounds really boring, I would have done the same too......... I can't deal with those kind of guysundecided
This what they say when they have sugar daddies.

Every other guy becomes boring.


Listen, if your boyfriend is boring, tell him. He will adjust if he loves you.

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Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Heineken(m): 4:35pm On Jun 24, 2015
Sorry Op.. That why its not good to Love a girl too much... You see now? Girls are bad news.




Quote Me and run mad.

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Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Nobody: 4:44pm On Jun 24, 2015
There is a woman out there who'll love you for who you are, you just have to move on coz if you beg her to stay you'll end up begging for every other thing when you both get married. Be yourself, don't live a life that is not yours to please anyone.

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Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by ihedinobi2: 4:44pm On Jun 24, 2015
malele, sorry about the hurt. Contrary to your thinking, young women do not really hate being sexually propositioned before marriage. An expression of sexual interest makes a woman feel attractive. It doesn't repulse her. In fact, it arouses her own sexual interest in you. Speaking typically, of course.

That is what went wrong. Women of today make a huge deal out of sexual desire. That colors their definition of love and makes them decide a lot of things about you.

I leave the solution to your morals and imagination.

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Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by malele(m): 4:46pm On Jun 24, 2015
LaDivva:
There is a woman out there who'll love you for who you are, you just have to move on coz if you beg her to stay you'll end up begging for every other thing when you both get married. Be yourself, don't live a life that is not yours to please anyone.

Thanks
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Nobody: 4:49pm On Jun 24, 2015
Tallesty1:
This what they say when they have sugar daddies.

Every other guy becomes boring.


Listen, if your boyfriend is boring, tell him. He will adjust if he loves you.

Funny guy....... Well I don't do sugar daddies, but from my own view, Sugar daddies are more boring than young guys nah, they only hv money to spray around......

Do u really understand what it means to be in a relationship with a boring guy?

Though I think the lady should hv try to spice it up a bit, But please...... It's really really annoying to be in a boring relationship......

It's only ladies that can understand what I meanwink
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Nobody: 4:49pm On Jun 24, 2015
You're welcome
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by boynigeria(m): 4:54pm On Jun 24, 2015
Tallesty1:
This what they say when they have sugar daddies.

Every other guy becomes boring.


Listen, if your boyfriend is boring, tell him. He will adjust if he loves you.
well dt maybe true but some dudes are fuckenn boring as a male friend and to now imagining dem with a babe is terrifing
some guys are just questionnaires; how are u? what did u eat? how was skool? u gatto spice up ur sitty game mehn, ure d man

boringass niggass are d ones always saying dat though "this what they say when they have sugar daddies" like seriously?......why will babe wanna leave u for sugardaddy in d first place.
by the time i start giving her d sugar, she will definately call me Daddy

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Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by malele(m): 4:55pm On Jun 24, 2015
ihedinobi2:
malele, sorry about the hurt. Contrary to your thinking, young women do not really hate being sexually propositioned before marriage. An expression of sexual interest makes a woman feel attractive. It doesn't repulse her. In fact, it arouses her own sexual interest in you. Speaking typically, of course.

That is what went wrong. Women of today make a huge deal out of sexual desire. That colors their definition of love and makes them decide a lot of things about you.

I leave the solution to your morals and imagination.

Thanks too bro
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by yorubaboiy: 5:00pm On Jun 24, 2015
guy if u die with dis pains......she go marry anoda man........gt over it nyt

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Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Tallesty1(m): 5:00pm On Jun 24, 2015
boynigeria:

well dt maybe true but some dudes are fuckenn boring as a male friend and to now imagining dem with a babe is terrifing
some guys are just questionnaires; how are u? what did u eat? how was skool? u gatto spice up ur sitty game mehn, ure d man

boringass niggass are d ones always saying dat though "this what they say when they have sugar daddies" like seriously?......why will babe wanna leave u for sugardaddy in d first place.
by the time i start giving her d sugar, she will definately call me Daddy
nah person wey go river water dey carry shey? Nah person wey give you chance you go give your sugar?



Listen, some babes are just not interested in doing guys.
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by boynigeria(m): 5:00pm On Jun 24, 2015
adeh39:


Correctwink

He sounds really boring, I would have done the same too......... I can't deal with those kind of guysundecided
even guys cant deal with those kinda guys or maybe its just me
those dudes will wanna man and at the same time bore d shiitt outta d bae and will always complain to his padi on how most girls are always not trustworthy and after ur money, like i dont kn dat already.
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by yorubaboiy: 5:05pm On Jun 24, 2015
adeh39:


Do u really understand what it means to be in a relationship with a boringuy?

It's only ladies that can understand what I meanwink
plz o.....i want to knw.....bkos my ex G broke up with me bkos am boring.
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Vivly(f): 5:07pm On Jun 24, 2015
I just kept on seeing 'East East East' in the opening post.
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by malele(m): 5:13pm On Jun 24, 2015
Vivly:
I just kept on seeing 'East East East' in the opening post.
East is a region in Nigeria
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Vivly(f): 5:18pm On Jun 24, 2015
malele:
East is a region in Nigeria
whoa... I had no idea.
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by boynigeria(m): 5:19pm On Jun 24, 2015
Tallesty1:
nah person wey go river water dey carry shey? Nah person wey give you chance you go give your sugar?



Listen, some babes are just not interested in doing guys.
likewise some dudes dont give a shittt abt some baes.
boss i dont waste my time on baes who showed me d "i dont feel u" sign from d onset
the world is damn too big for me to stickup on one babe who doesnt want my lil yansh when beta ones are still gonna love me
but i hate it when guys keep circling one bae when she doesnt want ur ass, last thing she will date u outta pity and dats worse
if na sugadaddy she wants who are u to stop her, its her life but dont thing all babes leave dudes cos of sugardaddy

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Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by boynigeria(m): 5:21pm On Jun 24, 2015
adeh39:


Correctwink

He sounds really boring, I would have done the same too......... I can't deal with those kind of guysundecided
likewise some dudes dont give a shittt abt some baes.
boss i dont waste my time on baes who showed me d "i dont feel u" sign from d onset
the world is damn too big for me to stickup on one babe who doesnt want my lil yansh when beta ones are still gonna love me
but i hate it when guys keep circling one bae when she doesnt want ur ass, last thing she will date u outta pity and dats worse
if na sugadaddy she wants who are u to stop her, its her life but dont think all babes leave dudes cos of sugardaddy
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by misspicy(f): 5:22pm On Jun 24, 2015
sorry Op but that lady does not love you asin she is not into you.
thank God she let you know on time please move on.
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Nobody: 5:29pm On Jun 24, 2015
yorubaboiy:
plz o.....i want to knw.....bkos my ex G broke up with me bkos am boring.

Lolcheesy

BORING GUY:

1) HE DOES THE SAME THINGS, SAY THE SAME WORDS OVER AND OVER AGAIN.....* That d lady knows the words by heart*

2) HE DOESN'T TAKE THE GIRL OUT, *I mean to different places, you don't have to spend all your money before satisfying your Gf*

3) HE'S BORING IN THE ROMANTIC ASPECT TOO *I dont really need to explain thiswink*


Jeez I'm not really good in explaining things like thiswink

I think Wristwatch or Tosyne2much can explain betterwink
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Nobody: 5:33pm On Jun 24, 2015
boynigeria:

likewise some dudes dont give a shittt abt some baes.
boss i dont waste my time on baes who showed me d "i dont feel u" sign from d onset
the world is damn too big for me to stickup on one babe who doesnt want my lil yansh when beta ones are still gonna love me
but i hate it when guys keep circling one bae when she doesnt want ur ass, last thing she will date u outta pity and dats worse
if na sugadaddy she wants who are u to stop her, its her life but dont think all babes leave dudes cos of sugardaddy


You are right dearwink
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by mayorski01(m): 5:35pm On Jun 24, 2015
Vivly:
I just kept on seeing 'East East East' in the opening post.
Vivly darling, no one is attacking your dear East here, hmmn. So just relax, grab pop corn and lets watch NL figure this one out
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by yorubaboiy: 5:41pm On Jun 24, 2015
adeh39:


Lolcheesy

BORING GUY:

1) HE DOES THE SAME THINGS, SAY THE SAME WORDS OVER AND OVER AGAIN.....* That d lady knows the words by heart*

2) HE DOESN'T TAKE THE GIRL OUT, *I mean to different places, you don't have to spend all your money before satisfying your Gf*

3) HE'S BORING IN THE ROMANTIC ASPECT TOO *I dont really need to explain thiswink*


Jeez I'm not really good in explaining things like thiswink

I think Wristwatch or Tosyne2much can explain betterwink



her father!!!.........
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by tosyne2much(m): 5:41pm On Jun 24, 2015
adeh39:


Lolcheesy

BORING GUY:

1) HE DOES THE SAME THINGS, SAY THE SAME WORDS OVER AND OVER AGAIN.....* That d lady knows the words by heart*

2) HE DOESN'T TAKE THE GIRL OUT, *I mean to different places, you don't have to spend all your money before satisfying your Gf*

[s] 3) HE'S BORING IN THE ROMANTIC ASPECT TOO *I dont really need to explain thiswink* [/s]


Jeez I'm not really good in explaining things like thiswink

[s] I think Tosyne2much can explain betterwink [/s]



I don't know what you are talking about cool
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Nobody: 5:42pm On Jun 24, 2015
yorubaboiy:
her father!!!.........
Lolcheesy
You dey vex ni? grin
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by malele(m): 5:43pm On Jun 24, 2015
misspicy:
sorry Op but that lady does not love you asin she is not into you.

thank God she let you know on time
please move on.

It took 5months oo.
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Nobody: 5:44pm On Jun 24, 2015
tosyne2much:
I don't know what you are talking about cool


Haaaaaaaahahagrin grin

Na only ladies matter you sabi abi?

God don catch u todaygrin

You beta create a thread now titled

*10 THINGS GUYS DO THAT MAKES A RELATIONSHIP BORING* tongue
Re: Need Some Advice (from Someone In Pains) by Nobody: 5:49pm On Jun 24, 2015
adeh39:


Lolcheesy

BORING GUY:

1) HE DOES THE SAME THINGS, SAY THE SAME WORDS OVER AND OVER AGAIN.....* That d lady knows the words by heart*

2) HE DOESN'T TAKE THE GIRL OUT, *I mean to different places, you don't have to spend all your money before satisfying your Gf*

3) HE'S BORING IN THE ROMANTIC ASPECT TOO *I dont really need to explain thiswink*


Jeez I'm not really good in explaining things like thiswink

I think Wristwatch or Tosyne2much can explain betterwink




U have said it all e-wifey. Ladies love varieties. How u dey? kiss

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