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Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by AreaFada2: 7:37am On Jul 20, 2015 |
enoqueen:I disagree. Keeping financial secret is bad for a marriage. @OP, fact is your hubby doesn't share your dreams. He's also not very disciplined economically. I doubt if he has life insurance to help baby through at least part of education in case God forbid, the worst happened. Such dreams and goals need to be tabled before marriage. Money is the single biggest issue causing marital discord. Tell firmly that you need to save to achieve your goals. He's lucky to have an ambitious wife wife. Keep being honest about things. And be respectful always. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by juwoonn(m): 7:39am On Jul 20, 2015 |
FavorofGod:what kind of project are we talking about here? are they capital project that will bring in a lot of money in the nearest future? if so, I hope you come back here to open another thread when he start lavishing the money on you. well my wife knows about all my projects and she understands me well. we co-foot some bills and I foot others alone. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by steppin: 7:43am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT:You're not being bias, and then you add that men ain't worth it? What silly planet are you from? @OP, Your husband is careless with money and he doesn't care. You shouldn't allow him to have access to your money. He should work hard and make his own money. He should even be ashamed of spending his wife's money recklessly. It's even annoying that one of his supposed projects he needs money for, is having a baby shower or something like that. Abeg, save up for the future of your children. Even he's not happy with it, he should make money for himself! 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by aameyah(f): 7:45am On Jul 20, 2015 |
kilode100: jaybee3: In headmasters voice* What's going on here? 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by oshaosha2014(m): 7:46am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Iam sorry about your situation but iam not going to advise you. The more you put your family story on the internet, and follow advise from people who have their own problems they are dealing with, the more you will destroy what you have built up with you own hands. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by juwoonn(m): 7:46am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT: wicked stereotype so women are worth it abi? mtchew 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Domwiz4all(m): 7:47am On Jul 20, 2015 |
You did d rit tin. U have more rit to his money dan he has wit urs |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Toks2008(m): 7:49am On Jul 20, 2015 |
jaybee3: NEWS FLASH: I have been technically married for 11years and officially for 5 years until 3years ago and why the split? 70%FINANCE so you sit your ass down no matter how old you are and be objective enough to learn from people and even the unmarried because we can learn one or two things from anyone. A MAN DOES NOT OFFICIALLY SHARE FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY WITH HIS WIFE It is unmanly and shameful. Even if your wife suggests it be quick to let her realize that you appreciate but should rather save up the money while you try your best to still provide for her and the children if any. Now get this clearly, a man can lose his job or suddenly finds himself broke and there is nothing wrong in a lady helping her man out in this ituation nevertheless its not by asking her for 2k today and 5k tomorrow. If she is a very low income earner or money monger then GOD help you. The subject matter is about a man practically going into sitting agreement with his wife to share financial responsibilities.IT IS TOTALLY ABSURD. If i make 100k monthly and my wife makes 400k,i will plan my family with 100k and if she decides to bring in any other stufs i will appreciate but rather advice that she saves up that money. I agree to financial transparency as in knowing how much she makes and i will never abuse that privilege. While i was still with my ex, i set her up in business,and she was making some money yet I STILL GIVE HER WEEKLY ALLOWANCE not minding and i make that a top priority even when there are times i had good reasons not to give her due to financial constraints. Look if you are a man reading this, NO WOMAN RESPECTS A MAN WHO ASKS A WOMAN FOR PETTY CASH OR DEPENDS ON HER FOR FINANCIAL SUCCOR. The best you can do is sit down and think of the least thing you can start that will bring in the required minimum to take care of your family and find a way with her to generate such EVEN IF IT MEANS HER HELPING YOU OUT then go ahead and invest,start making the money with GOD's help and be the man you are meant to be. 4 Likes |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by morason(m): 7:50am On Jul 20, 2015 |
I preach togetherness in everything (including joint account) between husband and wife. I also practice it. Believe me it works wonders for a blissful marriage. Your case is not strange to me. There is a fundamental gap between you and your husband that both of you need to bridge (Amos 3:3). Start from serving God together, praying together, praising and worshiping together, fasting together. If you pay tithe, pay jointly. These will establish you as one and you will have a common course and a common mind. Once you achieve this you will such a blissful marriage that you will like to marriage each other even in the world to come. Start now and thank me later |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by jaybee3(m): 7:53am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Toks2008: First and foremost, you aren’t the only one with years of marriage experience so get that straight. Second of all, I would like to know the reason why your marriage didn’t work since you’ve claimed on this board weeks back that it had nothing to do with infidelity. Perhaps it had something to do with your egocentric nature? You can’t go into a marriage with a superman mind-set and expect it to work. Obviously, It’s safe to assume you had be the type that will demand she does all the manual jobs in the house because you’ve made yourself the sole breadwinner. Obviously, it will be difficult for her to have an opinion when it comes to finances and/or decisions on major projects because it’s your money which you have singly earned with outright right to spend as you wish Toks2008: It’s simply idiotic and outright stupid for you to consider a position with just one possible outcome. So you will basically continue working 24/7 just to prove you are the man even if it’s clear your wife can support the family where possible? Toks2008: This is just plain ridiculous to be honest with you. How can you establish a mind-set that you will always provide then suddenly expect her to support you when you can’t ? Why sell a lifestyle that you know won’t/can’t be sustainable since you’ve rightly agreed that there is the possibility of you being incapable of fulfilling your responsibility You are simply a perfect example of those men that will cry foul that their woman ain’t supportive even though you’ve done this that for them. Why would they I ask if all you had be trying to do is introducing a new phenom into an already established agreement Toks2008: How is it absurd if the contribution is entirely going towards the household? Toks2008: How stupid of you, so you had deliberately restrict your family from life of luxury just so you can massage your ego? You had basically send your kids to public school even when it’s clear that investment in good quality education almost certainly yield desired results in the long run Toks2008: I’m interested in why it didn’t work despite being a superman Toks2008: Good righteous women won’t see it as such since they had be seeing whatever contribution they make as their shared responsibility for the success of their marriage 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by afrika(f): 7:53am On Jul 20, 2015 |
If ur hubby give u nice hot fxxxxxxk, u will never bother writing it on this front page for help. Some mentioned experience to wayward husbands. Actually most of these men were guys that we begged, urged to get married to. How come they re wayward now? What goes around.... U can make ur man understand some things and gradually u can keep aside some monies in another account than in a general account. MONEY THEY SAY, IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL. If this world was to begin afresh, the scene of the first man and woman wud be broken from "who steal my money" |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by OCTAVO: 7:54am On Jul 20, 2015 |
FavorofGod:Based on your narration, you've done nothing wrong. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by morason(m): 7:54am On Jul 20, 2015 |
I preach togetherness in everything (including joint account) between husband and wife. I also practice it. Believe me it works wonders for a blissful marriage. Your case is not strange to me. There is a fundamental gap between you and your husband that both of you need to bridge (Amos 3:3). Start from serving God together, praying together, praising and worshiping together, fasting together. If you pay tithe, pay jointly. These will establish you as one and you will have a common course and a common mind. Once you achieve this you will such a blissful marriage that you will like to marriage each other even in the world to come. Start now and thank me later . I wish you grace. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by basadenet: 7:57am On Jul 20, 2015 |
since you people had started in that way then stopping it now may create big wahala for you, it may even lead to break up id care not taken. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by braine(m): 7:57am On Jul 20, 2015 |
wisdomiskey:spot on! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Toks2008(m): 7:57am On Jul 20, 2015 |
oshaosha2014: Bravo! So what would you rather advice she does? Run to the myopic pastors that will ask her to pray over it? Oh let me guess, call a family ,meeting which is the real exposure and may never recover from that? Or just continue to sulk in silence? If people follow your secretive advice i guess we will have many suicide cases in marriages. Social media is the best place to share your problems especially an interactive fora because by so doing you will most likely find many people with similar experiences giving you sound advice and of-course we will have other seemingly baseless advice which stil has an iota of sensibility. Its your duty to be intelligent enough to sieve out the bad from the good advices. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by braine(m): 8:02am On Jul 20, 2015 |
enoqueen:You lack manners. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Toks2008(m): 8:06am On Jul 20, 2015 |
afrika: There is no intensity of hot Bleep that will douse the overwhelming effect of finance in our lives. At the beginning it will not matter but at a point it always will. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Kimoni: 8:07am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ebonflex: Who is this rude and mannerless thing? Who asked for your opinion in this matter? Do I look like someone who discusses with goats? Your curses are redirected back to you in a million fold. Idiot!!! |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 8:11am On Jul 20, 2015 |
OP, tell ur hubby u are savin for a program and its important to u, and let him understand ur reason(s) for not allowin him touch ur money. Forget all this advice this azzzholes are givin u here cos if shiiiit begins to happen in ur home courtesy of what they told u and its effect, they won't be there to bail u out. Don't see why some ladies e.g OP comes to the internet to discuss her marital life, were u not warned against involvin any third party in ur marriage? Before we know we will see headlines of divorce case on here in one court. A stitch in time saves nine. (What's even wrong with sharin ur money with ur hubby if its for the right reason) |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by MaziOmenuko: 8:17am On Jul 20, 2015 |
I can assure you op, none of the advices you get from this board will help matters. You seeking advice from peeps 75% of which are not married: the married once will give you advice they cannot implement in their own marriages. Look at the kids calling your husband names, asking you to watch-out for yourself alone. No qualms. 3 Likes |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by emmatok(m): 8:22am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Toks2008: How do you know the woman is tell the whole truth here. You don't judge another man without hearing his own side of the story. But this thread is an eye opener about women folks in marriage, women will always want openness from men but they always do otherwise. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nicepoker(m): 8:27am On Jul 20, 2015 |
enoqueen:u sound pathetic. And u are free to spend his money I guess. Ino. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Princevally(m): 8:35am On Jul 20, 2015 |
enoqueen:What??¿? You called 'helping your hubby financially' a mistake? Well, note that the moment your hubby allows you to work or open a business for you to run, he needs your financial support in the family. To the topic, my advice is: u are free to keep ur savings for now cause of ur pursue but not always. Mark my word my dear, once u've started keeping money secrets from your hubby, quarrel will start. I rest my case 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by xtervaganza(m): 8:44am On Jul 20, 2015 |
FavorofGod:why is he having so much projects? Na wa ooo Is your hubby a governor or mayor? |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 8:46am On Jul 20, 2015 |
enoqueen:ur brain need some sanitizer ASAP. Sorry I quoted u, but I can bet that u are not a happy woman in ur house... Ur idea about marriage was all instrumental to that. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Eshinery(m): 8:50am On Jul 20, 2015 |
FavorofGod:keep your financial buoyancy to yourself for now then after having done the necessary things academically then try render him the necessary assistance in your capacity there is always love in sharing |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Toks2008(m): 8:51am On Jul 20, 2015 |
emmatok: Oh i know that women are the greatest liars but lets just assume she is saying the truth. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by hollypagan: 9:01am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Court need to sentence you to death by hanging |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by emmatok(m): 9:07am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Toks2008: In marriage don't assume anything until you hear the whole story. Marriage is a legal emotional institution and everything you hear is an emotional baggage. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Acidosis(m): 9:08am On Jul 20, 2015 |
This one u running your home like a bank ehn. Only you, you don use over 20 banking, accounting & finance terminologies deficit deferential suplus capital projects loan demand ahan! It is a family, a relationship not a business |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by wrongnumber: 9:09am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Toks2008: LOL! That moment when a lady tells you she has never done any wedding with a man and you send her a pics of her and a man coming out of marriage registry with marriage certificates and holding hands. Many men have been sent to early graves dating and professing love to married ladies who claim they are single. If only due diligence can be done on the immediate past affairs of whoever we are really interested in dating or marrying,the better it will be for us. Women are the worst liars on earth. Proverbs 30:20:"This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, 'I've done nothing wrong.'
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