nairalife2013:
if it is a closely knitted family were the siblings and parents are all bonded in a kind of inseparable union, talking to third parties could escalate to unmanageable levels in her disadvantage. I think she should just play it cool and avoid the randy brother in close circuits and show more love and understanding and forgiveness and take greater steps in church activities while showing intense commitment to the bornagain traits of a true christian to discourage the seemingly possessed brotherinlaw! They all will come to thier senses and apologise. Some men dont joke with their siblings no matter who they are married to. Some wouldnt care if thier marriage crash, as far as they dont have issues or skirmishes with thier siblings or parents...this kind of home is not for any kind of lady. Only ladies with special qualities and luck survive here...and when they overcome the turmoil, thier conjugal bliss in the everafter has no limits.

Mancity26:
1. You need to pray hard.
2. When you gobto bed, talk 2 him with luv voice.
3. Take it to your pastor b4 going to his parents.
4. Do you ve children for him?
5. Finally, update yourself..I mean packaging to look sexy more than those babe. Learn Calabar style to support it. . Thank me letter. #funnynation

nairalife2013:
if it is a closely knitted family were the siblings and parents are all bonded in a kind of inseparable union, talking to third parties could escalate to unmanageable levels in her disadvantage. I think she should just play it cool and avoid the randy brother in close circuits and show more love and understanding and forgiveness and take greater steps in church activities while showing intense commitment to the bornagain traits of a true christian to discourage the seemingly possessed brotherinlaw! They all will come to thier senses and apologise. Some men dont joke with their siblings no matter who they are married to. Some wouldnt care if thier marriage crash, as far as they dont have issues or skirmishes with thier siblings or parents...this kind of home is not for any kind of lady. Only ladies with special qualities and luck survive here...and when they overcome the turmoil, thier conjugal bliss in the everafter has no limits.

lagmostkuit:
What I could induce from dis story is that your husband's brother controls him...


Why on earth would an older brother who has a family allow his younger brother do that to him?



My advice is u talk to ur husband family, could be d mother, father or his sister or any relative of his.

MixedMan:
Please I really need your advice my fellow nigerians.. My brother in law is breaking my family and my marriage..

I got married with my husband 2011, it was going all well and lovely.. I really loved my husband,he's the most caring man on earth and gentle,gives me listening ears and take care of the family.. By. Sept 2014, he's immidiate younger brother visted us, I was thinking it was a short visit only for me to discover he wants to stay with us pending on when he gets new job within the city.. I learnt he lost his former job at abuja due to some personal issues he never want to revealed to us.. And he's 38 not yet married.. As at jan this year, he made some funny moves with me.. That shows he's interested in me.. I gave no room for that,just recently only for me to discover he's helping my husband to arrange other women outside.. According to some of the people telling me.. This is not the first time nor even the sixth time.. He will arrange girls for my husband in hotels,clubs etc
Just last two weeks,I decided to stalk them, when he told me he wasn't coming back tonight.. Just for me to see them at a popular club at ikeja with some girls.. I have confronted my husband and told him but till now he's stll haven't changed, this past friday it repeated itself again.. Right now I'm confused,I don't know what to do.. I need your help my fellow nigerians.

Patience from Lagos.

OREMUSSANCTUS:
Rat poison full everwhere

6ty6ix:
38years old jobless guy living with his brother n chasing girls every where, you should find a way to take him for deliverance

milychocs:
@ Roland17
....in response to your bolded

Many families are poor...really poor, I tell you
Take a situation where some parents raise say, six kids....with their toil and sweat they channel all their resources on the first child, send them to school with the money that would been used to send others to learn a trade or something...you get the drift...with the tacit understanding that they would finish school, get jobs and help train others....(maybe they are naive, delusional, etc....bit yeah, that is the plan)

Said human being finishes school, falls in love (eye roll) and decides to marry
They do this....maybe thinking they can manage the old, and the new responsibilities (best intent here) or maybe just plain forget where they are from
The spouse. not understanding the home agreement, may be resentful of the siblings and come here and rant.....I am not blaming ooo

My point is that at times...we know just the single story (to paraphrase Adichie).....which could be dangerous
Some people are sooo selfish it is mind boggling
In cases like this, the whole family where they were raised should move into the new home and get their due!

Our society is a dividual one, our actions are determined and influenced by the people around us...family, relatives, etc
This is something we have to deal with....it is Africa....we do not have an individual society
I think any body who knowingly enters a union where one person has serious obligations to their family....only to expect them to renege on them because of "love" is supremely selfish
However...I reserve my main grouse for that ingrate who turns back on their family in order " to marry ...the whole works" ...without fulfilling their blood obligations.....SMH

So your emphasis does not work all the time
Thanks
(This is my humble opinion)
..but, I digress....back to reading
....................................................................................................................................... I seldom air my opinion....but this is a sensible piece...

TwentySeven:
Madam, just make sure you're using protection with your husband. AIDS is real!

MixedMan:
Please I really need your advice my fellow nigerians.. My brother in law is breaking my family and my marriage..

I got married with my husband 2011, it was going all well and lovely.. I really loved my husband,he's the most caring man on earth and gentle,gives me listening ears and take care of the family.. By. Sept 2014, he's immidiate younger brother visted us, I was thinking it was a short visit only for me to discover he wants to stay with us pending on when he gets new job within the city.. I learnt he lost his former job at abuja due to some personal issues he never want to revealed to us.. And he's 38 not yet married.. As at jan this year, he made some funny moves with me.. That shows he's interested in me.. I gave no room for that,just recently only for me to discover he's helping my husband to arrange other women outside.. According to some of the people telling me.. This is not the first time nor even the sixth time.. He will arrange girls for my husband in hotels,clubs etc
Just last two weeks,I decided to stalk them, when he told me he wasn't coming back tonight.. Just for me to see them at a popular club at ikeja with some girls.. I have confronted my husband and told him but till now he's stll haven't changed, this past friday it repeated itself again.. Right now I'm confused,I don't know what to do.. I need your help my fellow nigerians.

Patience from Lagos.

0luwatope:
Dont panic... Break his head...

GodnGold:
.[s]Do you have kids,do you want to live long and see what your kids will be?do you have a job?do you cook well?do you perform your conjugal duties properly?If you are positive to all these,then wipe your eyes seven times RELAX and[/s] tell God about it,[s]you will see drama unfold between the duo.You can't keep a man under lock and key ma'am.[/s]

cinedu:
Men are polygamous in nature, deal with that.

Swissheart:
It probably run in their blood.....aburo nd egbon oniranu........try talk to ur husband ....remind him of d good old days.....if he doesn't become remorseful ....wahala dey b dat

OREMUSSANCTUS:
Rat poison full everwhere

Ewizard:


deduce...
most appropriate!