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Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by marriagebliss: 1:07pm On Jul 21, 2015
Refuse to see the glass half empty rather see it as half full-
DO NOT take irrational decision
DO NOT entertain any evil thought against your husband or marriage
DO NOT entertain idle talk or gossip from friends and relatives about your marriage
STOP stalking him – get busy if you are presently not
DO NOT resent him
Shut your eyes to his perceived short comings
Focus on the man you married and make the best of your home,
Your marriage is for eternity but your BIL’s stay is a temporary arrangement
(Talk to a good (female) soul that has bn married for more than 12 years)
The above conditions may not be easy but trust me this cup will pass you by, if you handle it this way- one day you and your hubby will look back and make joke out of this ugly incident.

The Wounded Healer
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by delishpot: 1:07pm On Jul 21, 2015
Your Bro Inlaw did funny move you no raise dust? Abeg, women of today when soneone of trust makes funny move. Run and shout it out. Shout and talk to a neighbour or two to come and see what has just happened. Call your spouse, let the world know what he did so that he can be removed from the vicinity. When you bottle it up, you end up becoming the victim. Do not remain in that house with such a man or person. You could be harmed to keep the case hidden.
If you say it out, he will be too embarassed to continue living with you.

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Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by amInigerian: 1:09pm On Jul 21, 2015
Will be nice if you can get evidence of his trying to get with you.

Then just keep it as an ace in your stack of cards.

Help him get a job too (with your husband as the in-between person) and speak worriedly to your husband about his getting married and settling down as he is not getting younger.

Do not confront again. It doesn't change men like that
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by obinna1984(m): 1:12pm On Jul 21, 2015
lagmostkuit:
What I could induce from dis story is that your husband's brother controls him...


Why on earth would an older brother who has a family allow his younger brother do that to him?



My advice is u talk to ur husband family, could be d mother, father or his sister or any relative of his.

that will be a wrong move why not to his friends and see if that can change her and as for u lagmostkuit am new here and am having a crush on u
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by cuteoly(f): 1:25pm On Jul 21, 2015
I don't know why men forget that they can ruin their life and that of their families when they cheat on their partners.

Op, I will advice you not to discuss it yet with his family members because it won't solve the problem. If you guys do pray together, keep praying against any man or woman that is out to destroy your home. And always discuss the implication of adultery with him. You can also share these passages with him; Ephesians 5:31, Hebrews 13:4 and proverb 6:32.

Don't worry, God will see you through. I have once been there and I know how it hurts. You have to intensify your prayers, and do not leave night vigil out.
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by kkboy(m): 1:30pm On Jul 21, 2015
If you have Children concentrate on them, Ignore your husbands attitude and actions. Be more loving and prayerful and watch out. "Agaracha must come back" with a beg for that matter. Try it and you will testify.
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by xtervaganza(m): 1:54pm On Jul 21, 2015
so your brother in law wants to break your home? wheres rat poison when u need it grin grin angry
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by maureeoy: 1:54pm On Jul 21, 2015
soonest:
Your husband is the one that wants to break your marriage not his brother.

very true

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Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by maureeoy: 2:03pm On Jul 21, 2015
He does not fear God and respect u as his wife.
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by maureeoy: 2:06pm On Jul 21, 2015
kkboy:
If you have Children concentrate on them, Ignore your husbands attitude and actions. Be more loving and prayerful and watch out. "Agaracha must come back" with a beg for that matter. Try it and you will testify.

It is not every time agaracha comes back to beg ooooooo before u know it another woman DON TAKE OVER
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by wurnoahmad(m): 2:08pm On Jul 21, 2015
My friend shit happen sometimes, but notwithstanding women are known for cleaning up their husbands MESS. Talking to him was the first approach to be taken by any wise woman and you did just that, the second step is left for you if you really love your husband. from negotiation to action. got it?
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Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by refreshrate: 2:25pm On Jul 21, 2015
6ty6ix:
38years old jobless guy living with his brother n chasing girls every where, you should find a way to take him for deliverance

Or just put poison in his food. one less piece of waste product.

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Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by chamstick(m): 2:32pm On Jul 21, 2015
MixedMan:
Please I really need your advice my fellow nigerians.. My brother in law is breaking my family and my marriage..

I got married with my husband 2011, it was going all well and lovely.. I really loved my husband,he's the most caring man on earth and gentle,gives me listening ears and take care of the family.. By. Sept 2014, he's immidiate younger brother visted us, I was thinking it was a short visit only for me to discover he wants to stay with us pending on when he gets new job within the city.. I learnt he lost his former job at abuja due to some personal issues he never want to revealed to us.. And he's 38 not yet married.. As at jan this year, he made some funny moves with me.. That shows he's interested in me.. I gave no room for that,just recently only for me to discover he's helping my husband to arrange other women outside.. According to some of the people telling me.. This is not the first time nor even the sixth time.. He will arrange girls for my husband in hotels,clubs etc
Just last two weeks,I decided to stalk them, when he told me he wasn't coming back tonight.. Just for me to see them at a popular club at ikeja with some girls.. I have confronted my husband and told him but till now he's stll haven't changed, this past friday it repeated itself again.. Right now I'm confused,I don't know what to do.. I need your help my fellow nigerians.

Patience from Lagos.

Don't you have a pastor? Or a spiritual leader? As a woman u should... Coming only for advice will confuse u more cos u get diverse ideas and evry 1 with different opinion . So I expect U to. Tnx *mr.calikor @gmail.com
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by grandstar(m): 2:38pm On Jul 21, 2015
MixedMan:
Please I really need your advice my fellow nigerians.. My brother in law is breaking my family and my marriage..

I got married with my husband 2011, it was going all well and lovely.. I really loved my husband,he's the most caring man on earth and gentle,gives me listening ears and take care of the family.. By. Sept 2014, he's immidiate younger brother visted us, I was thinking it was a short visit only for me to discover he wants to stay with us pending on when he gets new job within the city.. I learnt he lost his former job at abuja due to some personal issues he never want to revealed to us.. And he's 38 not yet married.. As at jan this year, he made some funny moves with me.. That shows he's interested in me.. I gave no room for that,just recently only for me to discover he's helping my husband to arrange other women outside.. According to some of the people telling me.. This is not the first time nor even the sixth time.. He will arrange girls for my husband in hotels,clubs etc
Just last two weeks,I decided to stalk them, when he told me he wasn't coming back tonight.. Just for me to see them at a popular club at ikeja with some girls.. I have confronted my husband and told him but till now he's stll haven't changed, this past friday it repeated itself again.. Right now I'm confused,I don't know what to do.. I need your help my fellow nigerians.

Patience from Lagos.

I really don't know what to say.

Adultery is wrong.

Its better you make your point clear that to you husband that his brother is irresponsible encouraging him to womanise. Here in Nigeria, womanising is belittled by men and even seen as normal. It is not.

Let your husband know its irresponsible and must end the habit.

Next "set" up your brother in law. Always have a means of recording events on you. Whenever he makes a move on you, record it and expose it to your husband.

He is a good for nothing fellow
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Nobody: 2:53pm On Jul 21, 2015
Mancity26:
1. You need to pray hard.
2. When you gobto bed, talk 2 him with luv voice.
3. Take it to your pastor b4 going to his parents.
4. Do you ve children for him?
5. Finally, update yourself..I mean packaging to look sexy more than those babe. Learn Calaba style to support it.. Thank me letter. #funnynation

Which one is calabar style?
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by FRANKOXY(m): 3:06pm On Jul 21, 2015
pray and remain faithful to him. exodus 14 Vs 14 is OK for you to stand on.
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by NobleG1(m): 3:12pm On Jul 21, 2015
MixedMan:
Please I really need your advice my fellow nigerians.. My brother in law is breaking my family and my marriage..

I got married with my husband 2011, it was going all well and lovely.. I really loved my husband,he's the most caring man on earth and gentle,gives me listening ears and take care of the family.. By. Sept 2014, he's immidiate younger brother visted us, I was thinking it was a short visit only for me to discover he wants to stay with us pending on when he gets new job within the city.. I learnt he lost his former job at abuja due to some personal issues he never want to revealed to us.. And he's 38 not yet married.. As at jan this year, he made some funny moves with me.. That shows he's interested in me.. I gave no room for that,just recently only for me to discover he's helping my husband to arrange other women outside.. According to some of the people telling me.. This is not the first time nor even the sixth time.. He will arrange girls for my husband in hotels,clubs etc
Just last two weeks,I decided to stalk them, when he told me he wasn't coming back tonight.. Just for me to see them at a popular club at ikeja with some girls.. I have confronted my husband and told him but till now he's stll haven't changed, this past friday it repeated itself again.. Right now I'm confused,I don't know what to do.. I need your help my fellow nigerians.

Patience from Lagos.

Your problem is NOT your brother-in-law, it's your husband.
A man who doesn't want to cheat on his wife will not cheat. If he was the type that doesn't cheat, your brother-in-law would know and won't try to "help" him to cheat.

Your husband has been cheating on you even before your brother-in-law came. You only noticed it now because you don't like your brother-in-law and realized since he came to the your home, you noticed your husband has been coming home late frequently.

Your brother-in-law is a blessing to you in disguise because without his presence, your husband would continue cheating under the radar unnoticed by you.

Now you have confirmed his cheating ways, give him a serious ultimatum to either change or lose you and the children! Keep monitoring him secretly and gather as many evidence as possible in case of divorce because that's where the marriage should be heading if he doesn't change.

If you try everything and he still cheats, DIVORCE him. Remember, gather enough evidence to have leverage in your divorce case. It will help you win the custody of your children, properties (if there are) and cash for child-support.

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Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by fortunechy(m): 3:22pm On Jul 21, 2015
srry,i dont put mouth on marriage issue. just go down on ur kneels.
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by mimiwhite4real(f): 3:38pm On Jul 21, 2015
My dear my advice 4 u is go on knees and ask God bundle him out of home
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by toniet: 3:43pm On Jul 21, 2015
Pray about it and also try to talk things out with your husband
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Dbboy(m): 4:27pm On Jul 21, 2015
lantessy:
@op, you need to pray. Try and talk to your husband concerning the dangers in his act too. May God change his mind.

You are as clueless as your president. Some one is in an active problem and your recommendation is prayers, no wonder Nigeria is bad by the day, if you don't have any relevant solution, I suggest you keep your invisible God one side because for all I care that is not a solution.
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Sparkles003(f): 5:04pm On Jul 21, 2015
MixedMan:
Please I really need your advice my fellow nigerians.. My brother in law is breaking my family and my marriage..

I got married with my husband 2011, it was going all well and lovely.. I really loved my husband,he's the most caring man on earth and gentle,gives me listening ears and take care of the family.. By. Sept 2014, he's immidiate younger brother visted us, I was thinking it was a short visit only for me to discover he wants to stay with us pending on when he gets new job within the city.. I learnt he lost his former job at abuja due to some personal issues he never want to revealed to us.. And he's 38 not yet married.. As at jan this year, he made some funny moves with me.. That shows he's interested in me.. I gave no room for that,just recently only for me to discover he's helping my husband to arrange other women outside.. According to some of the people telling me.. This is not the first time nor even the sixth time.. He will arrange girls for my husband in hotels,clubs etc
Just last two weeks,I decided to stalk them, when he told me he wasn't coming back tonight.. Just for me to see them at a popular club at ikeja with some girls.. I have confronted my husband and told him but till now he's stll haven't changed, this past friday it repeated itself again.. Right now I'm confused,I don't know what to do.. I need your help my fellow nigerians.

Patience from Lagos.
Prayer is thy key.
Prayer is thy key.
Prayer is thy master key.
Jesus started with prayer and ended with prayer.
Prayer is thy master key.
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by borntwice2008(m): 5:09pm On Jul 21, 2015
As already mention, pray for your husband, package yourself and look more sexy than before, give yourself to him on bed with different styles ....... Finally use women power to get him( your husband ' s brother out of your home
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Nobody: 5:21pm On Jul 21, 2015
Your husband is going to club and you're accusing his younger brother for his actions.

Since you're not truthful to yourself by shifting blames, I don't see your husband stopping soon . The problem here is your husband not his brother.
I see no reason why a 38yrs old man is living under his elder brother's roof, tell your husband to pay for an apartment for him.

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Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by phintohlar(f): 6:15pm On Jul 21, 2015
0luwatope:
Dont panic... Break his head...
hey.. U style wicked ooh 4ny anyway.. But like seriously na only God go save us 4rm dis our so called husband's chai..

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Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Mancity26(m): 6:21pm On Jul 21, 2015
lonelydora:


I disagree with the bolded. What if your pastor is a guy man who will wish to start offering help to you on the absence of your husband? I have seen it happen like twice, so I'm talking from experience of others.
Dats tru
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Mancity26(m): 6:22pm On Jul 21, 2015
RedBenson:


Which one is calabar style?
Na for my mouth u wan hear am? I mean sabiness
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by phintohlar(f): 6:24pm On Jul 21, 2015
No kill ur sef cos of 1 man ooh cos if u do..Thousands women go match ur grave.. D only thing u can do in dis kind of situation is 2 be prayerful, eat good food,put ur mind at rest & leave d rest 4 God & pls don't also 4get 2 protect ur sef anytime he said oya.. Cos even if u talk 4rm now till next year he no go hear untill dem teach dem lesson outside their head no dey correct & as for dat ur broda in-law leave dat 1 ooh na God go handle hin case.
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by bemyguest(f): 7:50pm On Jul 21, 2015
Organise three days dry fasting and prayers on top your brother in law head. pray him out of your home. he is definately a physical escorter to your marriage.
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Nobody: 7:58pm On Jul 21, 2015
obinna1984:


that will be a wrong move why not to his friends and see if that can change her and as for u lagmostkuit am new here and am having a crush on u
Thanks for crushing on me.. grin
Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by KanwuliaJara: 9:51pm On Jul 21, 2015
Frankly my dear, YOU ARE JOBLESS! kiss
Since when did having a husband become a full-time JOB? undecided

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