Hello house, please I will like your input on this issue I had with hubby. This morning he was in the bathroom making use of the toilet. Suddenly I heard him spitting on the shower (tiled) floor (a habit he has and does even when I jus wash the bathroom) and I find it disgusting. He also does get into the bathroom with a bathroom slippers therafter matching water around the room. Though he makes use of the footmat in front of the bathroom though that's not very effective. Each time I try to let him know it's not hygienically okay to do that he always picks offense with me. I called out to him this morning while he was in the toilet and here is our conversation....
Me.. sweethert are you spitting on the shower floor? asking twice then I started to say: u shouldn't be doing that, I find it disgustin and besides I will end up hiding ur bathroom slippers so you walk barefoot around the house that way u understand how it feel (though I also wear bathroom slippers in the living room, kitchen and bedrooms when I feel the house is sandy as there are also other people in the house who contribute to that)
Him.. in btw my comment he is saying it's not appropriate to be addressing him while he is in the toilet

NB; this issues has been discoursed at various times in the past, please tell me my offense?

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I beg let your husband be. Who doesn't wear bathroom slippers to have a bath, heck! It is called 'BATHROOM SLIPPERS'. I spit while having bath if need arises, in the tub obviously, which is subsequently washed off by water. You say it's an habit, habits are not stopped with force, for the spitting encourage him to always wash away with water, if he doesn't. Find a more absorbent material and place in front of your bathroom, this should reduce the amount of water dripping from his slippers, when he comes out. This should not be a case.

If you married Dangote, will you ask him that question?
Some people, men and women inclusive have bad habits which they are not aware of. You have to point it out gently and with love. A habit is a behavior that one is used to and it takes time to drop.

Walks pass the thread on bathroom slippers.

Me.. sweethert are you spitting on the shower floor? asking twice then I started to say: u shouldn't be doing that, I find it disgustin[s] and besides I will end up hiding ur bathroom slippers so you walk barefoot around the house that way u understand how it feel [/s]( though I also wear bathroom slippers in the living room, kitchen and bedrooms when I feel the house is sandy as there are also other people in the house who contribute to that)
Him.. in btw my comment he is saying it's not appropriate to be addressing him while he is in the toilet

@struckout, nagging, unnecessary.
@bolded, hypocrisy
@italics, He's already irritated and is replying like this isn't the first time you are saying stuff like this while he's trying to enjoy defecating in peace!

Jeez lady! Tone it down a bit will ya!




Next time he spits on the floor and you see it tell him to come and see and when he sees it tell hi it disgusts you and u don't like it. Then jejerly rinse it away before he can complain /reply. Don't say anything else Biko. He 'll get the message. It's a bad habit so it might take some time to break.

As for bathroom slippers I do the same so I can't help you there. They are called BATHROOM SLIPPERS for chrissakes!

I too know.

Lol
Bad habits era
Everyone is got that bad habit
I am just here to laugh at others bad toilet/kitchen habits

I rem I used to remind him to flush
If he comes out
I ask
Have you flushed? With my eyesbrow up

Poster, do you think you haven't got some nasty habits that disgusts him too?

We are all humans .. be more tolerant and less nagging

Your respect level is zero,it seems you are talking to your age mate

omaa4:
Hello house, please I will like your input on this issue I had with hubby. This morning he was in the bathroom making use of the toilet. Suddenly I heard him spitting on the shower (tiled) floor (a habit he has and does even when I jus wash the bathroom) and I find it disgusting. He also does get into the bathroom with a bathroom slippers therafter matching water around the room. Though he makes use of the footmat in front of the bathroom though that's not very effective. Each time I try to let him know it's not hygienically okay to do that he always picks offense with me. I called out to him this morning while he was in the toilet and here is our conversation....
Me.. sweethert are you spitting on the shower floor? asking twice then I started to say: u shouldn't be doing that, I find it disgustin and besides I will end up hiding ur bathroom slippers so you walk barefoot around the house that way u understand how it feel (though I also wear bathroom slippers in the living room, kitchen and bedrooms when I feel the house is sandy as there are also other people in the house who contribute to that)
Him.. in btw my comment he is saying it's not appropriate to be addressing him while he is in the toilet


NB; this issues has been discoursed at various times in the past, please tell me my offense?

My dear we all ve bad habbits that in our own eyes we dnt see any big deal in it.

Well as for the bathroom slippers, it is called a bathroom slippers for a reason, jst for d bathroom alone and not for room. Gently wit luv, if possible try taking a shower wit him den tell him to always leave his slippers in the bathroom rather than wearing it insidie the room.

Then as for his spitting on d floor, if he normally washes it out will taking his shower, then i dnt see any problem wit that, but if he does not, calmly tell him to remember to wash it out. Gracias

madam, just buy a separate slippers inside d bathroom. another at d entrance of d bathroom door, so that after using d one in d bathroom, he comes out to use the other one outside. as for d spitting, when u notice, just enter n rinse d floor with water, by so doing, he will get d message. Thank u

Thank you all for ur various opinions, they are all appreciate buh I think some people ain't understanding the real situation.. what we have is a bedroom with a bath innit, I have no ish with him wearing a bathroom slpps in d bath that's what it is for. the problem is after wards. There is a mat jus by d bathroom door of d bathroom which doesnt work for him. He ends up spilling water in d room. I usually clean up after him as often as everyday then considering we also have a 6mnths baby who is at the verge of crawling. I have explained the reasons why he needs to take charge of the situation. i have been gentle, I have been nice abt this I have even constantly cleaned up after him Buh my issues is that he doesn't make efforts as this didn't start today. I have suggested he should leave d slpps by d door as soon as he comes buh it hasn't worked.

Then the spitting issue am not a crazy person that will quarrel with someone spitting while taking a bath. It's usually while he pooing he jus keeps spitting into the bath area sometime pee's on the bathroom floor sometimes there by leaving d bathroom in d room always smelling. It hurts me cuz I knw it can be better I have been as rational as possible. I get him water to flush most times I flush for him I clean up the toilet he messes up with tissues buh I guess I complained cuz I want him to atleast be a good example to our baby.

For some of you who have made useful contributions I appriciate that and will take ur advise am not a saint I have my own habits which he pointsout frm time to time n I try to make amends I usally dnt nag him unless I knew am trying to improve him which I think that is what it's supposed to be!

omaa4:
Then the spitting issue am not a crazy person that will quarrel with someone spitting while taking a bath. It's usually while he pooing he jus keeps spitting into the bath area sometime pee's on the bathroom floor sometimes there by leaving d bathroom in d room always smelling. It hurts me cuz I knw it can be better I have been as rational as possible. I get him water to flush most times I flush for him I clean up the toilet he messes up with tissues buh I guess I complained cuz I want him to atleast be a good example to our baby.

Now that's pure disgusting!

You can potty train him

I really don't think any sensible man will spit on the bathroom floor without pouring water to rinse it or bathing to do so therafter, and I really don't believe any decent man will pee on the bathroom floor without rinsing it if there is water to do so. That is why I believe you're only trying to shade the story to defend yourself from not acting like a loving wife that you should be! You will find it hard convincing anyone that your husband does not have his baby's interest at heart or he enjoys the smell of a filthy room. That is why I advise you head the advise of @5minsmadness and emulate the subtle example of @dyt if really your intentions is to get results or a change of attitude from him. Moreover, you admit to having your own bad habit which he gently reminds you of. And if you know he had such "disgusting" habits, why marry him in the first place? You don't change a man by force, it's done with love. And this is the least of problems some families have, that is why I advise you show some respect to the man who took you to the altar, and whom you promised to love for better for worse.

In your very situation is where the love you supposedly have for him should be evident. U dated and should have noticed this but married him. Meaning u were ready to put up with it. For d sake of peace, better put up with it and device other less confrontational, more respectful methods of dealing with this so he's not forced to bully you. So many marriages have broken over less. Even as little as where to squeeze toothpaste.

There are lessons you have to learn in life about love.

No one is perfect. I do tell my friends that if a girl got 70% nice in everything, i think i can tolerate 30% depending on what those 30 are.

He can not be like you. And you cannot be like him. Love for me is the ability to tolerate those annoying behavior friends and loved ones exhibit. You can't call him sweet heart and proceed to nag about nothing.

For me i don't like snoring and would not have a girl that snores. I will not ask her to change who she is. I either live with it or take the exit door.

So i suggest you live with it and stop bugging the man. Besides it just a tile and was not made of gold,

Thank you all for your suggestions @ bebrief people can change after marriage or better still people can pretend a lot. thou, that's by the way I will take the advise of well meaning people here and will be hoping for a change for the better. @ melodies I will be less confrontational for the sake of peace afterall it's a man's world!

omaa4:
Then the spitting issue am not a crazy person that will quarrel with someone spitting while taking a bath. It's usually while he pooing he jus keeps spitting into the bath area sometime pee's on the bathroom floor sometimes there by leaving d bathroom in d room always smelling. It hurts me cuz I knw it can be better I have been as rational as possible. I get him water to flush most times I flush for him I clean up the toilet he messes up with tissues buh I guess I complained cuz I want him to atleast be a good example to our baby.

Awwwww, some men can be sooooo........ I dnt even knw what to say, well, if u ve a help instruct him or her to always come and clean up d place after ur husband but if u dnt ve, u re sure to be standing on a long thing cos u’ve got to be one cleaning the mess which will always upset u.

U alone holds the key to ur hubbys heart, find the key look for that part that can be opened, use that channel and ve a heart to heart talk, pls keep pleading with him on d issue, and also give him some time to change. Gracias

Ewww, spitting on the toilet floor, quite disgusting! I feel like throwing up.

Op i know what it may feel like but id like you to know that everyone has a habit in d toilet that is offensive to the person they share with.please learn to clean up after your hubby and correct him jokingly all the time too,take your mind off it and you wont know when it will stop,dnt let it ruin ir home ma'am,if you handle it with patience,it will go away!

I wish you new, beautiful ideas
Its well

omaa4:
Thank you all for your suggestions @ bebrief people can change after marriage or better still people can pretend a lot. thou, that's by the way I will take the advise of well meaning people here and will be hoping for a change for the better. @ melodies I will be less confrontational for the sake of peace afterall it's a man's world!

Just clean up after him while still reminding him to keep the bathroom clean whenever he uses it.Get a new pair of slippers and place it outside of the bathroom door.Tell him to remove the pair he uses before stepping on the footmat and he can wear the other pair.

You will have to take your mind off some things in marriage.You didn't marry someone you grew up with in the same house.
There are some couples still quarrelling over where to press the toothpaste tube - the bottom or the middle.

The issue of dripping water can be solved by placing a thick folded towel down on the bathroom floor so he steps on it as he comes out of the bath.
You can also buy a good quality bathroom mat

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omaa4:
Then the spitting issue am not a crazy person that will quarrel with someone spitting while taking a bath. It's usually while he pooing he jus keeps spitting into the bath area sometime pee's on the bathroom floor sometimes there by leaving d bathroom in d room always smelling. It hurts me cuz I knw it can be better I have been as rational as possible. I get him water to flush most times I flush for him I clean up the toilet he messes up with tissues buh I guess I complained cuz I want him to atleast be a good example to our baby.

Sorry oh ur husband grew up in a face me I face you house.. Toilet used by 20 families. Lol. Madam DAT man no go change oh. Its inmate. Put a sign in d toilet, flush after use I.e on d door .where he can b seeing it while pooping

thorpido:
Just clean up after him while still reminding him to keep the bathroom clean whenever he uses it.Get a new pair of slippers and place it outside of the bathroom door.Tell him to remove the pair he uses before stepping on the footmat and he can wear the other pair.

You will have to take your mind off some things in marriage.You didn't marry someone you grew up with in the same house.
There are some couples still quarrelling over where to press the toothpaste tube - the bottom or the middle.

For how long will she continue to clean up after him ehn?

@OP - is that it? If only you could share notes with my wife, you will drop to your knees in thanksgiving

Now, let me give you a tip; you've made it very clear that it displeases you. Don't ever mention it again and give strong focus to doing the things he likes and pleasing him in other ways.

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jashar:


For how long will she continue to clean up after him ehn?

I wonder oo my sister. . A man wouldn't behave like an adult. . Why does he spit around? He get belle? .. so disgusting. .

Maybe you should start depositing your own mucus, cough, catarrh, eetttcc inside the bathroom just before he uses it, that way he'll understand how it feels