OP nawa for you. since you saw all those good qualities you listed in your later post, why focus on the bad ones to start with?
anyway i'm glad you've adopted a stand for resolution.

Dyt:

Seriously I've stopped complaining. At this stage of my life, after how many years of nuptials, no reported bad behaviours from him , na nosebits & oily granite I go quench ontop?

I told him Omo olomo ko le pa omo olomo jare, I want to witness my children graduations, marriages & see my grandchildren looking ever young not wrinkled forehead & age spots .
he said my sharp mouth won't make him stop

O wa lara e .. E dey for hin body

omaa4:
Then the spitting issue am not a crazy person that will quarrel with someone spitting while taking a bath. It's usually while he pooing he jus keeps spitting into the bath area sometime pee's on the bathroom floor sometimes there by leaving d bathroom in d room always smelling. It hurts me cuz I knw it can be better I have been as rational as possible. I get him water to flush most times I flush for him I clean up the toilet he messes up with tissues buh I guess I complained cuz I want him to atleast be a good example to our baby.

omaa4:
Thanks everyone for your comments, @Kimoni, thanks for the candid advise, @TV01 will love to share notes with your wife. Honestly, my hubby is not as bad at it sounds, maybe it's just me trying to be overly worried about the issue. because he ends up bathing and washing away his spittle from the bath. And he's really not so careless in a lot of other things, except this particular bathroom habit of his. On the contrary, he's quite a decent and well-trained young man from a good family. And he's also of good general hygiene like hand-washing and wardrobe cleanliness. Infact it was him who introduced the footmat in front of the bath. I even threw away two of his bathroom slippers which works better that than the new one I bought, without his consent. Maybe i'll have to buy a more absorbent footmat. I guess I will just handle the situation more gently and with love and I believe with time he will get over the habit. And he does not do this everyday, just sometimes. *lso he does not pee on the bathroom floor as I said, just some pee on the toilet seat but this too he wipes with a tissue . He's also not a bad influence on our daughter, rather he's a caring and doting dad who enjoys spending quality time with his family. Infact he was there in the delivery room with me in the US when we traveled to have our daughter. Maybe I need to appreciate more what I have.

@bolded. two very contradictory statements. what were you thinking when you just logged onto a public forum to lie against your husband blatantly and embarrassingly so.
imagine the dirty names hes been called already before you retracted your statement.

all's well that ends well i guess but you didn't try. I'll tell you if no one else will.

omaa4:
Thanks everyone for your comments, @Kimoni, thanks for the candid advise, @TV01 will love to share notes with your wife. Honestly, my hubby is not as bad at it sounds, maybe it's just me trying to be overly worried about the issue. because he ends up bathing and washing away his spittle from the bath. And he's really not so careless in a lot of other things, except this particular bathroom habit of his. On the contrary, he's quite a decent and well-trained young man from a good family. And he's also of good general hygiene like hand-washing and wardrobe cleanliness. Infact it was him who introduced the footmat in front of the bath. I even threw away two of his bathroom slippers which works better that than the new one I bought, without his consent. Maybe i'll have to buy a more absorbent footmat. I guess I will just handle the situation more gently and with love and I believe with time he will get over the habit. And he does not do this everyday, just sometimes. *lso he does not pee on the bathroom floor as I said, just some pee on the toilet seat but this too he wipes with a tissue. He's also not a bad influence on our daughter, rather he's a caring and doting dad who enjoys spending quality time with his family. Infact he was there in the delivery room with me in the US when we traveled to have our daughter. Maybe I need to appreciate more what I have.

Op Don make u turn.

From hubby spitting and pissing.
He Is now washing and arranging wardrobe .


N'a you sabi

omaa4:
Then the spitting issue am not a crazy person that will quarrel with someone spitting while taking a bath. It's usually while he pooing he jus keeps spitting into the bath area sometime pee's on the bathroom floor sometimes there by leaving d bathroom in d room always smelling. It hurts me cuz I knw it can be better I have been as rational as possible. I get him water to flush most times I flush for him I clean up the toilet he messes up with tissues buh I guess I complained cuz I want him to atleast be a good example to our baby.

This is serious, I will be throwing up regularly if i lived in your house. Are you aware that as a woman it's easier to contact toilet infection than a man? This isn't fair at all, he needs to change his nasty toilet habits. Please ignore everyone that is being mean to you. If they had to constantly see big shit, flush smelling poo, clean stinking urine and spit, pick wet tissue with mucus and spit mixture, all done by a perfectly healthy person they would be more sympathetic (hugs)

Pidggin:

This is serious, I will be throwing up regularly if i lived in your house. Are you aware that as a woman it's easier to contact toilet infection than a man? This isn't fair at all, he needs to change his nasty toilet habits. Please ignore everyone that is being mean to you. If they had to constantly see big shit, flush smelling poo, clean stinking urine and spit, pick wet tissue with mucus and spit mixture, all done by a perfectly healthy person they would be more sympathetic (hugs)

It's not really about not being sympathetic to her plight, but being angry on her behalf. Well, I was when I first read her opening post, but now, I don't even know what to think.

But you've got a very valid point about females being more prone to catching infections. I'm even more concerned about her daughter and when she starts toilet training. Would mum always be around to wipe and disinfect the toilet seat, before her little girl mounts it? Or is the child going to have to learn how to sit on a messy toilet seat and ignore?

Abeg I'm done here. To each their own.

***THREAD UNFOLLOWED***

Pidggin:

This is serious, I will be throwing up regularly if i lived in your house. Are you aware that as a woman it's easier to contact toilet infection than a man? This isn't fair at all, he needs to change his nasty toilet habits. Please ignore everyone that is being mean to you. If they had to constantly see big shit, flush smelling poo, clean stinking urine and spit, pick wet tissue with mucus and spit mixture, all done by a perfectly healthy person they would be more sympathetic (hugs)

very graphic images you are painting here..

But seriously, after talking, communicating and discussing this issue severally, and he refuses to change but gets defensive instead, what practical steps should she take? He is a good guy in other areas oo

Options:
Continue to nag him till kingdom come
Report him to his parents
Pack out of the house
Pack his things outer the house
Keep malice with him till he changes

@EfemenaXY, if you actually have a man in your life, then you will learn how to get him change his habits. Till then or if you care to know, you need to understand that no man is perfect! I can assure you that many men have worse habits. And if you're concerned about the newborn, I can assure you the habit won't last long if the issue is approached in a more subtle manner.

@Pidggin, the OP never mentioned not flushing poo, I guess you're just spicing things up to make the situation look so terrible. And I do think if the toilet is that stinking then the man will also find it uncomfortable. As a matter of fact, toilets are meant to be disinfected regularly provided they are in use.

What is going on here?

Lol, I think the second option is the best

( author=Kimoni post=36306067]

very graphic images you are painting here..

But seriously, after talking, communicating and discussing this issue severally, and he refuses to change but gets defensive instead, what practical steps should she take? He is a good guy in other areas oo

Options:
Continue to nag him till kingdom come
Report him to his parents
Pack out of the house
Pack his things outer the house
Keep malice with him till he changes

bebrief:
@EfemenaXY, if you actually have a man in your life, then you will learn how to get him change his habits. Till then or if you care to know, you need to understand that no man is perfect! I can assure you that many men have worse habits. And if you're concerned about the newborn, I can assure you the habit won't last long if the issue is approached in a more subtle manner.

@Pidggin, the OP never mentioned not flushing poo, I guess you're just spicing things up to make the situation look so terrible. And I do think if the toilet is that stinking then the man will also find it uncomfortable. As a matter of fact, toilets are meant to be disinfected regularly provided they are in use.

Listen, stop dragging me into this filthy thread. I already unfollowed it. Lots of other posters share my views. Why're you so fixated with mine? Eh?

And for your information, all the men, women, boys, girls, and even cats in my life are very clean and maintain a high standard of hygiene.

You must be the man in question. You're the @OP's husband aren't you? She's only got 18 posts or so, and yet you both follow each other. Pls, go sort out your issues. Your wife obviously isn't happy, hence her coming on here to seek opinions. Too bad some of the responses she got aren't what you were expecting.

Nobody is anyone else's slave labourer. You know your shortfalls. Rather than expect her to clean up after you as though you're an invalid, try doing it yourself. It isn't that hard.

I'm sure you've heard the saying, "cleanliness is next to godliness". I don't subscribe to dirty habits but you obviously do, but I'm not going to slug it out with you. If you like clean up. If you like, don't.

Now this is my last post on this thread. Feel free to continue discussing it but don't expect any response from me.

Goodnight Sir!

Kimoni

very graphic images you are painting here..

But seriously, after talking, communicating and discussing this issue severally, and he refuses to change but gets defensive instead, what practical steps should she take? He is a good guy in other areas oo

Options:
Continue to nag him till kingdom come
Report him to his parents
Pack out of the house
Pack his things outer the house
Keep malice with him till he changes

Pidggin:
Lol, I think the second option is the best

Lolllzzzz

You try. You never jam wicked in-law baa

Best thing is to ignore him and quietly move to another toilet/bathroom in the house. At least, that's what I will do. I won't give myself HBP cuz of his wee wee abi na spit. I won't even bother discussing the issue again.
Guilty conscience should set in after that to make him change.

bebrief:
@EfemenaXY, if you actually have a man in your life, then you will learn how to get him change his habits. Till then or if you care to know, you need to understand that no man is perfect! I can assure you that many men have worse habits. And if you're concerned about the newborn, I can assure you the habit won't last long if the issue is approached in a more subtle manner.

@Pidggin, the OP never mentioned not flushing poo, I guess you're just spicing things up to make the situation look so terrible. And I do think if the toilet is that stinking then the man will also find it uncomfortable. As a matter of fact, toilets are meant to be disinfected regularly provided they are in use.

Why do I have a feeling that you are the OP's husband? You said your wife didn't say she flushes your poo, please go back to her post and read it well before responding. The situation may not be stinking to you, because you cannot differentiate between cleanliness and filt. Besides flushing your shit, and picking up your used tissue, she's also expected to take care of your kids, cook your meals, go to work and be as good as the ladies you watch in those filthy porn videos. You need to realize that you didn't marry a slave but a companion.

Pidggin:


Why do I have a feeling that you are the OP's husband? You said your wife didn't say she flushes your poo, please go back to her post and read it well before responding. The situation may not be stinking to you, because you cannot differentiate between cleanliness and filt. Besides flushing your shit, and picking up your used tissue, she's also expected to take care of your kids, cook your meals, go to work and be as good as the ladies you watch in those filthy porn videos. You need to realize that you didn't marry a slave but a companion.

Jeez, did the op tell you that the husband is a porn addict?

What is wrong with you women? Op said that she is OK with his behavior. Save your epistles. Ahhh.

Op,see what you have caused. Ladies like this one who can get someone to marry her ,have the audacity to insult your husband.

It's funny @EfemenaXY, you still don't get the point of @OP's question, rather you're asking my relationship with OP. Maybe you need to read her question properly. Sometimes it's important you give advice within the context of the question. And most importantly either from experience or with a personal example to buttress your point. And you seem not to have done so.

I am very familiar with such a situation, that is why I have a better understanding of what form of advise to give to @OP based on the question. As a person, I value personal hygiene very much and I also understand that the result you derive from any given situation is dependent on the manner by which it is approached.

@Pidggin, I guess you rather stick with your response to @Kimoni's question. And I wonder if that will be the same answer you will give to your sister if she is in the same situation.

charles316:


Jeez, did the op tell you that the husband is a porn addict?

What is wrong with you women? Op said that she is OK with his behavior. Save your epistles. Ahhh.

Op,see what you have caused. Ladies like this one who can get someone to marry her ,have the audacity to insult your husband.

He is acting like one, as he doesn't seem to know the difference between appropriate and inappropriate behavior

OP was made to feel bad about this issue, so she started making excuses for him

I think you should edit your post, it should be 'can't' not 'can' which ever one you choose, am wondering how you know so much about me? Lol

Regarding audacity, I have been given authority to declare and decree

Lwkmd...lol.@ not proper to be talking 2 him once he is in d bathroom. is he yoruba?

Blonchilli:
Lwkmd...lol.@ not proper to be talking 2 him once he is in d bathroom. is he yoruba?b

What has Tribe got to do with this.

But I kinda see his point , I too don't like being ruffled with squabbles while on 'the throne'.. It just defeats the whole mission.

Funny thread.

jashar:


For how long will she continue to clean up after him ehn?

Leave them na. The guys are not truthful. I consider it such a bad attitude to deal with. And the hubby doesn't see it as one.

Hian!

MarvellousGod:
I wonder oo my sister. . A man wouldn't behave like an adult. . Why does he spit around? He get belle? .. so disgusting. .

Maybe you should start depositing your own mucus, cough, catarrh, eetttcc inside the bathroom just before he uses it, that way he'll understand how it feels

In fact she should add used pad so he will understand how disgust feels.

Some men just want to be babies.

Jamean:


In fact she should add used pad so he will understand how disgust feels.

Some men just want to be babies.

@op, try talking to him in a friendly tone,
Advice him on the importance of hygiene, and the disadvantage of the unhygienic things he is doing.

Ask him why he is not making any effort to change his ways.

Ask him if he can clean after you like the way you have been doing.

Note: it should be on a friendly tone, tell him if he dose not change you will start doing some things to irritate him also .

Ewuro4:


What has Tribe got to do with this.

But I kinda see his point , I too don't like being ruffled with squabbles while on 'the throne'.. It just defeats the whole mission.

Funny thread.

nothing bro...

This thread is insightful.

In a fit of pique a wife comes in and dishes out a one-sided rant trashing her husband. Mature, sensible advisors come in and counsel patience, wisdom and long-term strategies to effect the change she desires. Others come in spitting bricks, insisting on being victimised on OP's behalf and taking the liberty of traducing someone elses spouse. What can I say?

KYP - Know Your Posters !

Ewuro4:
Hahaha tell me about it TV?

Men.

I specially asked last night as we were pottering in the kitchen - a big smile came over her face as she sensed the opportunity to dish all my ills - with jara

After much thought she could only find 1 thing. I exhorted her to try harder. Finally she claimed that I leave the liquid iron supplement bottle "sticky" when I use it, and she has to "rinse it sometimes before use. "You old nag" I said, "upstairs, I will show you rinsing".

I've come a long way baby !


TV

I think you should tolerate it if you love him. It's not that bad a habit, people have habits much worse than that.

pinetulips:
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Sorry oh ur husband grew up in a face me I face you house.. Toilet used by 20 families. Lol. Madam DAT man no go change oh. Its inmate. Put a sign in d toilet, flush after use I.e on d door .where he can b seeing it while pooping

pls I sent you a Pm, can you respond

Sookul:
pls I sent you a Pm, can you respond

This is my email....cleverjap@gmail.com


I don't do pm, sorry for the late response