Back den when we use 2 treck far distance 2 primary sch nd we will cross xpress road but my children no go suffer dat kain tin o

Good write-up.

Well, We Children Also Have A Part To Play.

And What To You Expect From Stolen Money? To Train Thieves And Liabilities Of Course.

If My Father Doesn't Want Me To Suffer, He Must Start By Giving Me The Ideas To Strive For Survival And Share His Own Experiences Not By Flooding My Account With Money (I'll Be Needing A Little Tho). #HustlePays

mmsen:
Every month one of you morons rehashes this same stupid article.

Learn to think for yourself instead of regurgitating someone else's words.

mmsen:
Every month one of you morons rehashes this same stupid article.

Learn to think for yourself instead of regurgitating someone else's words.

mmsen:
Every month one of you morons rehashes this same stupid article.

Learn to think for yourself instead of regurgitating someone else's words.

ONE OF THOSE CHILDREN THAT OP WAS REFERRING TO IN THE ARTICLE


EVEN IF THE ANGEL COMES FROM HEAVEN TO TELL THEM THE TRUTH, THEY WILL STILL NOT LISTEN.

LIKE A YORUBA ADAGE SAYS "THEIR EYES ARE COVERED WITH WOOL SOCKED IN PALM OIL"

I grew up here through mid teens and now 29 and when Ajebo kids come they live free of hustle and want.
I started my first job at 16 working as a motorcycle store apprentice, before moving to retail and IT while through college. In that time I've been in charge of projects, and been a merchandising expert

Most Ajebo kids here I've seen lack living experience in a working environment, I can't see how they intend to fit into society

Insightful!

Nigerian is a screwed up country from ground up!

I was born and grew up abroad. As a child I was always taught to be honest, tell the truth no matter what, so I was the kind of child who would say "my mom said I should tell you she is sleeping". My mother never had a problem with me or my siblings being honest but when we came back to Nigeria everyone kept telling us "you children have no sense " my grandfather would punish us severely for our honesty which he and everyone else saw as stupidity! It was I Nigeria I heard for the first time number 6, ie the ability to outsmart your neighbour.

So something is definitely wrong with the orientation of the average Nigerian child
Nigeria is a country where the garri seller in the market would change the cup or rubber she is using to sell garri to a smaller one once the customer looks away right in front of her child! So what morals is that child learning?

All of us here on nairaland waste our time abusing politicians for stealing when the truth is that we would do same or even worse if given the opportunity...

So what gives

Bobbyjay001:
I once met an"ajebutter" lady of about 25 years of age who couldn't cross a "not busy" 2-lane road, seperared by culvert in d middle at Ijebu-ode. When she approached me to take across the road, I was like "ode ni e ni abi o ya dindinrin nu?"

Se omo ijebu ni yin ni?

Omo ijebu ni emi na!

Op is on point and most Nigerians parents make this mistake.

You're rich ? Fine . But letting your kids know that you're so rich that they don't need to be strong and strive to be their own man and woman gives them a relaxation that they wouldn't think of if they see themselves as normal individuals and citizens that would end up poor if they don't work hard enough and this is one reason why the issue of connections in Nigeria has become a plague to an extent I was talking to a mod cum forumite back the days that lives in the U.S. that believes that for you to hook up anything tangible in this country you must be connected and this ideology is totally wrong .
Well, I don't blame them anyway - When you see folks bowing down to Nigerian Officials then there is fire on the mountain.
My money won't belong to my kids - The only thing I owe my future kids is education and a father's direction but you're on your own after school.

This thing has repeatedly entered front page in various modifications.

I now pity the original writer. Smh.. .

Bobbyjay001:
I once met an"ajebutter" lady of about 25 years of age who couldn't cross a "not busy" 2-lane road, seperared by culvert in d middle at Ijebu-ode. When she approached me to take across the road, I was like "ode ni e ni abi o ya dindinrin nu?"

That one pales in comparison to my experience, I saw parents who drove their wards to the centre where we were to write a job placement aptitude test

mayorjosh:

Se omo ijebu ni yin ni?
Omo ijebu ni emi na!

Ewe so

This doesn't apply to us here, how many of our thieves, sorry politicians were ajebutters, what percentage of our population live like that,

LagosBoi2:
Although the advise is for every parent but much of it is for high class parent...leave them let the monies they have looted destroy their children's future...that's karma's reward for them...my daughter dare not mis-behave, after learning how to make hair, she is already begging to join me in farming and she will be 8yrs by next yr Feb...i'm a proud father already

Unfortunately, it is this same children they will post to occupy political positions and continue the looting they inherited. They could even be worst. May God help Nigeria, myself, and my family

Dis article was on fp 2weeks ago

Did u just say queen of England n British royalty have no private jets u can lie oo

allanphash7:
Street credibility

Oh boy! I be mushin Guy. Where did u get dis's pix? It's very much Old cos d new1 had been painted 2 Green & White... Weldone Bro..#Mushin_2d_Bone#

ladyF:
Have I read this on FP before or is it just me?

Modified: Found the link...I even made FP there
https://www.nairaland.com/2538922/call-change-children-not-suffer

It's [size=20pt]LadyF[/size] again

i think i have too

sweatlana:
Nigerian is a screwed up country from ground up!

I was born and grew up abroad. As a child I was always taught to be honest, tell the truth no matter what, so I was the kind of child who would say "my mom said I should tell you she is sleeping". My mother never had a problem with me or my siblings being honest but when we came back to Nigeria everyone kept telling us "you children have no sense " my grandfather would punish us severely for our honesty which he and everyone else saw as stupidity! It was I Nigeria I heard for the first time number 6, ie the ability to outsmart your neighbour.

So something is definitely wrong with the orientation of the average Nigerian child
Nigeria is a country where the garri seller in the market would change the cup or rubber she is using to sell garri to a smaller one once the customer looks away right in front of her child! So what morals is that child learning?

All of us here on nairaland waste our time abusing politicians for stealing when the truth is that we would do same or even worse if given the opportunity...

So what gives

perfectly said !

imagine being persecuted for trying to do things the right way.

Nigeria is rotten to the core and needs a quick and ruthless overhaul of the status quo otherwise there will be no hope in a million years.

@OP

Maybe they never told you that plagiarism is a crime punishable by law in almost every country of the world . Pretense is worse than laziness . The article made sense , however , next time don't take credit to what is not yours . This article has been on the mass media since 12 years- at least that was the first time I read about it from the punch newspaper .

Op...you have a nice point there. Corruption will keep thriving in Nigeria unless if our government agencies collectively put hands together to recuperate the way to which most of us (particularly the elite members in our society) frivolously spend our money.

yaskarahyelhope:
LETTER TO NIGERIAN PARENTS (PART 1)

Dear All- Let's be real.

I wish to start by adding the benefit of my time as a student and then resident in the UK. Living in Abuja now. The first thing that I discovered about UK-born, white, English undergraduates was that all of them did holiday or weekend job to support themselves – including the children of millionaires amongst them. It is the norm over there – regardless of how wealthy their parents are. And I soon discovered that virtually all other foreign students did the same – except status – conscious Nigerians.

I also watched Richard Branson (owner of Virgin Airline) speaking on the Biography Channel. To my amazement, he said that his young children travel in the economy class – even when the parents (he and his wife) are in upper class. Richard Branson is a billionaire in Pound sterling. A quick survey would show you that only children from Nigeria fly business or upper class to commence their studies in the UK. No other foreign students do this. There is no aircraft attached to the office of the Prime Minister in the UK. He travels on BA. And the same goes for the Royals. The Queen does not have an aircraft for her exclusive use.

These practices simply become the culture which the next generation carries forward. Have you seen the car that Kate Middleton (the wife of Prince William) drives? VW Golf or something close to it. But there’s one core difference between them and us (generally speaking), they (even the billionaires among them) work for their money, most of us steal ours

If we want our children to bring about the desired change we have been praying for on behalf of our dear country, then please, please let’s begin now and teach them to work hard so they can stand alone and most importantly be content and not having to “steal” which seems to be the norm these days.

We have Nigerian Children who have never worked for 5 minutes in their lives insisting on flying “only” first or business class and using the latest cars fully paid for by their “loving“ parents.

I often get calls from anxious parents” my son graduated 2 years ago and is still looking for a job, can you please assist!”

“Oh really! So where exactly is “THIS CHILD?” is my usual question. “Why are you the one making this call dad/mum?"

I am yet to get a satisfactory answer, but between you and i, chances are that the big boy is cruising around Abuja with a babe dressed to the nines, in his dad’s sparkling new SUV with enough “pocket money” to put your salary to shame. It is not at all strange to hear a 28 year old who has NEVER worked for a day in his or her life in Nigeria but “earns” a six figure “salary” from parents for doing absolutely nothing.

I see them in my office once in a while, 26 years old with absolutely no skill to sell apart from a shiny CV, written by his dad’s secretary in the office. Of course, he has a driver at his beck and call and he is driven to the job interview. We have a fairly decent conversation and we get to the inevitable question- so, what salary are you looking to earn? Answer comes straight out – N250,000.00. I ask if that is per month or per annum.

“Of course, it is per month”

“Oh, why do you think you should be earning that much on your first job?”

“Well, because my current pocket money is N200,000.00 and I feel any employer should be able to pay me more than my parents.”

No wonder corruption continues to thrive. We have a society of young people who have been brought up to expect something for nothing, as if it were a birthright. Even though the examples I have given above are from parents of considerable affluence, similar patterns can be observed from Abeokuta to Adamawa.

Wake up mum! Wake up dad! This syndrome – “my children will not suffer what I suffered" is destroying your tomorrow. You are practically loving your child to death.

I learnt the children of a former Nigeria Head of State with all the stolen (billions) monies in their custody, still go about with security escort as wrecks. They are on drugs, several time because of the drug, they collapse in public places. The escort will quickly pack them and off they go. What a life! No one wants to marry them.

Henry Ford said “hard work does not kill.” We are getting everything wrong in Nigeria now, including family setting. It is time to prepare your children for tomorrow, the way the world is going, only those that are rugged, hard working and smart working that will survive. How will your ward fare?

Please forward this to all the parents you know and love. We must begin to save our young children from unintended consequences of "too much love" and weak parenting. It is the only way we can build a strong and decent Nigeria.

I had to quote ur long post in replying cos I need to often look at it and pick specific points to address.
Nice write up by the way. But I strongly feel that ur write up is full of generalisations and over simplification of basic issues. However some of the points u raised are valid and true so I will skip emphasis on those. Lemme just address ur wrong notions.
There are also white kids who do no holiday jobs and live very reckless lives like their naija counterparts.
Do not also forget that in UK, dia are strong and growing limitations which prevent students of non EU origin from undertaking any kind of work while studying.

Do not judge a parent wrongly for undertaking to solicit for a Job on behalf of the child. Also u shud not quickly conclude that such a child is unable to seek for a Job on his/her personal merit. Am sure that sometime or the other in ur career growth, someone, even if it is not ur parent, had to speak on ur behalf to get u a foot in d door. It is a common occurrence the world over.

I am also reluctant to judge pple based on the way they chose to spend their money or based on the arrangement of their value system. Ur research is really poor if the only role model of prudence and frugality u can site is princess Kate. For heaven's sake, that useless royal couple spoil our children over and again with the kind of fantasy the media especially the tv media showcase to the public concerning their "fabulous royal life" and the couple make so much money in doing this. Why the hell would u want to make an example using the hypocritical golf car driven by the lady? What about the limo and the fabulous trips and the royal castles and designer clothing they live on?

I was not born with a silver spoon and my parent taught me the virtue of hard work and perseverance. By God special Grace I am a man of my own today and earn a a modest living. But one lesson I learnt early in life is never to generalise based on very narrow information.

Thanks.

AM SURE YOU ARE TALKING MOSTLY ABOUT CHILDREN OF NIGERIAN POLITICIANS............MOST CAPTAINS OF THE INDUSTRY i KNOW GAVE THEIR WARDS SOUND EDUCATION AND UPBRINGING. A LOT OF THEM ARE ON THEIR OWN AND DOING VERY WELL. I DO NOT THINK WE SHOULD GENERALIZE.

NICE WRITE UP ALL THE SAME

HAPPY NEW MONTH

adonbilivit:
my children must be ajebutters. in other words, I must be rich.

by fire by force oooo.....They must enjoy the luxury of life....The fact is that every1 don't have to struggle to gt up there ...some people already have a ladder while some must build the ladder....which ever way... na up b the aim.

ladyF:
Have I read this on FP before or is it just me?

Modified: Found the link...I even made FP there
https://www.nairaland.com/2538922/call-change-children-not-suffer

It's [size=20pt]LadyF[/size] again

same here. I don't like repetition sha.

Where is the social media share button wen you need one

Thumb up jare. u av spoken well. I also wondered on nonchallant attitudes of some parents towards dere children. I pray dat next generation won't be filthy wt corruption. Sighs!

OP, this finally made first page!

You rehashed the topic?

Nice write up though Naija will tell you to work hard to give your children a "good life"

codemaster2much:
All this doesn't apply to Africa jo

ssys who

did someone actually finished reading that?