Jennydoris:



You know some Nigerian men and their mentality... some of them will feel somehow that their wife is leaving the care of their child for them. And some don't know how to take care of a baby especially when it comes to changing diaper and feeding the baby. So it's better I take the baby to my mum or my mother in law. But in a situation whereby both grandmothers are not disposed then my husband has to take care of our baby since I don't have any other option. But I have to let him understand why he has to do that to avoid him viewing it from another angle. Ima na unu bu umu nwoke siri ike.

. Well said dear. Thumbs up.

wristbangle:


Guess she wants to pick her market from some people @ port and it arrived earlier than expected.

lol. So the woman has a business or trade of some sorts right? Yet somehow the we believe the fathers alone provide fianacncial support for the family.

You said you don't mind as long as it doesn't become a norm for you? So what if it does and you have to do that many times a week.

You people better repent of this unnecessary and destructive pride that doesn't benefit anyone.

I was in the clinic on Friday. Come see fathers who accompany their wives for prenatal checkups signing up for classes in baby care. Learning to change diapers, feed them, bathe them and what have you. Some who learned a long time ago teach others. They have the infants to themselves anyday the mom has to work or isn't around or just for the heck of it. It's their baby too. And they aren't jobless. They all have jobs too but manage to balance child care with their wives.

Na for "face me I face you" in one slum in ajegunle you will see a father forming king of jungle towards his own little baby.
Where's the love?

Better repent y'all.

wristbangle:


. Well said dear. Thumbs up.

cococandy:

lol. So the woman has a business or trade of some sorts right? Yet somehow the we believe the fathers alone provide fianacncial support for the family.

You said you don't mind as long as it doesn't become a norm for you? So what if it does and you have to do that many times a week.

You people better repent of this unnecessary and destructive pride that doesn't benefit anyone.

I was in the clinic on Friday. Come see fathers who accompany their wives for prenatal checkups signing up for classes in baby care. Learning to change diapers, feed them, bathe them and what have you. Some who learned a long time ago teach others. They have the infants to themselves anyday the mom has to work or isn't around or just for the heck of it. It's their baby too. And they aren't jobless. They all have jobs too but manage to balance child care with their wives.

Na for "face me I face you" in one slum in ajegunle you will see a father forming king of jungle towards his own little baby.
Where's the love?

Better repent y'all.

Hahahaha. Coco madam wan kill me with laugh.

U see the thing is some ladies will take advantage of such situation as a bait to shoulder the responsibilities on their husbands. Too much of something is not good.

Speaking of fathers accompany their wives to prenatal or natal wards, I can do that if I am off duty or take excuse from work except if I am running my business, then I can accompany her anytime.

The fact that I can't accompany my wife today doesn't labelled me a bad husband. If she will give birth irrespective of my work (sorry to digress), na to abandon my work and see how my fine bobo or litlle daughter go look like.

wristbangle:


I mean you gangan lol. If the situation occured during the weekend, can u babysit your child?

Why not..if your wife is busy Abi Which kind question be this

Your child is a SHARED RESPONSIBILITY.

My father earned well o, yet he had time to teach me how to fry an egg, take me to school, pronounce words and wake me up to bath (he did that for all his kids).

My brother changed Baby E's diaper and fed her last week. My other brother stayed with me in the delivery room and even took time off from work to care for her. Hubby is right now putting Baby E to sleep, after feeding her.

None of those guys are doing badly financially. Their masculinity has not been reduced by 1% for caring for their blood.

But y'all's manliness is challenged by being responsible for the human you helped create, to the point where you say "on my wife can't ask this of me often as she may abuse it", whose genes and last name does that child carry, that there will be a question of abuse when asking you to simply be responsible for your own flesh and blood

truly the King of the Jungle in Ajegunle

Most of our nigerian men need reorientation uhave to know that helping out @ home or with de kids won't reduce ur status as a man if anything it builds love nd trust in a rellationship

olajorn:
Why not..if your wife is busy Abi Which kind question be this

E ma binu egbon. If u ask some guys this question, dem go say I can't.

wristbangle:


Bros, Imagine a 6month old baby in which u have to babysit for few days as your wife need to travel for urgent matters. Can you combine it with your workload?

I think I understand where you are coming from, but if I have to face such conditions, it'd definitely not be this kind you just used as an instance.
buh kai! Children yaff suffer o, pikin wey neva even finish exclusive B-feedin na im im mama go leave waka *smh*
Wetin wan urgent pass dat pikin? Abeg if it must be done, do it with ur pikin *lol*

wristbangle:


E ma binu egbon. If u ask some guys this question, dem go say I can't.

bad orientation caused theirs...

olajorn:
bad orientation caused theirs...

dont mind them o
how r u

MrsPhyno:

dont mind them o
how r u

you are happy abi

am fine,day not stressful like others...and u?

After ya'll will be asking why children prefer their mothers to their fathers. Smh

okabe:

I think I understand where you are coming from, but if I have to face such conditions, it'd definitely not be this kind you just used as an instance.
buh kai! Children yaff suffer o, pikin wey neva even finish exclusive B-feedin na im im mama go leave waka *smh*
Wetin wan urgent pass dat pikin? Abeg if it must be done, do it with ur pikin *lol*

Now u know what I am talking about.

Joy1706:
After ya'll will be asking why children prefer their mothers to their fathers. Smh

Lol. Well it's being like that from the onset. No matter how caring a father maybe, the motherly touch, care and nurturing will be different.

Done it a couple of times, no biggie for me.

The only thing is thier mom got upset when she found out i was giving her kids beer to help them sleep at night...She refused to leave them with me after that

olajorn:
bad orientation caused theirs...

Ipledge!!! Na u be this??

5minsmadness:
Done it a couple of times, no biggie for me.

The only thing is thier mom got upset when she found out i was giving her kids beer to help them sleep at night...She refused to leave them with me after that

. Your moniker has said it all. U don turn your pikin to drunkard @ their fragile age. Which kind papa u be self?

cococandy:

lol. So the woman has a business or trade of some sorts right? Yet somehow the we believe the fathers alone provide fianacncial support for the family.

You said you don't mind as long as it doesn't become a norm for you? So what if it does and you have to do that many times a week.

You people better repent of this unnecessary and destructive pride that doesn't benefit anyone.

I was in the clinic on Friday. Come see fathers who accompany their wives for prenatal checkups signing up for classes in baby care. Learning to change diapers, feed them, bathe them and what have you. Some who learned a long time ago teach others. They have the infants to themselves anyday the mom has to work or isn't around or just for the heck of it. It's their baby too. And they aren't jobless. They all have jobs too but manage to balance child care with their wives.

Na for "face me I face you" in one slum in ajegunle you will see a father forming king of jungle towards his own little baby.
Where's the love?

Better repent y'all.

The new fathers in my office brag to tell us that they can care for their new babes alone (even if it is just feeding, carrying and changing of pampers )

My cousin had to pet his new born to sleep every night for the first few months (and yeah, he is a bank manager)

It is only here you see every guy saying it is a woman's job, only men provide nonsense.

I am sure all the women working put their salaries in their pockets every month

Good morning dear

Onegai:
Your child is a SHARED RESPONSIBILITY.

My father earned well o, yet he had time to teach me how to fry an egg, take me to school, pronounce words and wake me up to bath (he did that for all his kids).

My brother changed Baby E's diaper and fed her last week. My other brother stayed with me in the delivery room and even took time off from work to care for her. Hubby is right now putting Baby E to sleep, after feeding her.

None of those guys are doing badly financially. Their masculinity has not been reduced by 1% for caring for their blood.

But y'all's manliness is challenged by being responsible for the human you helped create, to the point where you say "on my wife can't ask this of me often as she may abuse it", whose genes and last name does that child carry, that there will be a question of abuse when asking you to simply be responsible for your own flesh and blood

truly the King of the Jungle in Ajegunle

....So true,i cant wrap my head round this 'oh i will only do it once in a while so she wont get used to it' mentality of some men'...Get used to what? ..superiority complex over the welfare of your own child/children again!..Pathetic indeed

..Some men simply have no business getting married and fathering kids honestly cos they simply do not know where to draw the line between forming silly ego and macho and being a responsible husband and father.

wristbangle:


Hahahaha. Coco madam wan kill me with laugh.

U see the thing is some ladies will take advantage of such situation as a bait to shoulder the responsibilities on their husbands. Too much of something is not good.

Speaking of fathers accompany their wives to prenatal or natal wards, I can do that if I am off duty or take excuse from work except if I am running my business, then I can accompany her anytime.

The fact that I can't accompany my wife today doesn't labelled me a bad husband. If she will give birth irrespective of my work (sorry to digress), na to abandon my work and see how my fine bobo or litlle daughter go look like.

Imagine!!


So taking care of YOUR child all by yourself is now too much of a good thing?


You better change this your she-will-take-advantage mentality. Is the baby not yours too? Why take care of him/her with a grudging heart?

cococandy:


In the stories and on nairaland alone.

In real life, the wives also work to contribute to the home.

God bless you a million times.

That "alone" should be in uppercase and the font size increased to 50.

wristbangle:


Ipledge!!! Na u be this??

shii...no let ishilove know

My own child? What you should be asking is if the child would miss mummy at all, while I'm babysitting.

Of what use is a dad that can't spend time with his kid(s)?

MzCorleone:


Imagine!!


So taking care of YOUR child all by yourself is now too much of a good thing?


You better change this your she-will-take-advantage mentality. Is the baby not yours too? Why take care of him/her with a grudging heart?

If I do that, what will now be the responsibility of my wife. I can babysit her for few days but for all days?? Who is going to provide the financial assistance for the upkeep of the family.

Anyway dear I understand u are speaking from the emotional aspect but I am speaking from a logical perspective.

Oahray:
My own child? What you should be asking is if the child would miss mummy at all, while I'm babysitting.

Of what use is a dad that can't spend time with his kid(s)?

There is absolutely nothing wrong bro but we have guys owing to their ego that can't babysit their children for hours.

wristbangle:


There is absolutely nothing wrong bro but we have guys owing to their ego that can't babysit their children for hours.

yeah, seen some on this thread. A shame though. Every child deserves a good father.

When i got a new job, my husband who was self-employed at the time looked after the kids and I paid him half of what I would have paid a nanny. Win-win

Good morning

bukatyne:


The new fathers in my office brag to tell us that they can care for their new babes alone (even if it is just feeding, carrying and changing of pampers )

My cousin had to pet his new born to sleep every night for the first few months (and yeah, he is a bank manager)

It is only here you see every guy saying it is a woman's job, only men provide nonsense.

I am sure all the women working put their salaries in their pockets every month

Good morning dear

SalC:
God bless you a million times.

That "alone" should be in uppercase and the font size increased to 50.

Hahaha

wristbangle:


There is absolutely nothing wrong bro but we have guys owing to their ego that can't babysit their children for hours.

Like you right?!


Keep making conflicting statements.