SonOfEl:


Abraham didn't have to, and Sarah chose to as a symbol of honour she had for her husband. today, nobody is asking you to call them lord, what husband want is to be treated with honour in his home, and serving his food is not a taboo, it is another way to show honour. get that into your brain. are your so busy or handicapped to serve your husband food? it is your type that demands for heaven and earth from their husband, that Is if they ever successfully settle down with a husband.

read ur bible well, sarah never even served abraham food, he had servants to do that for him(gen 18:7) . verse 8 shows us he even prepared the milk and butter himself.
Also, he treated sarah like a queen, banishing Ishmeal for her sake.
A man that says e will not eat because his wife did not dish the food b4 him is an inconsiderate idiot that does not hold his wife in esteem. But i dont blame him, i blame his father for teaching him rubbish. If a simple thing like dis will make a man look out, then his wife is walking on eggshell and as a man who saw is mother on eggshells i wud not wish that on any woman. Those kind of men would insist their wives cook 4 dem even wen they see she is hot with fever. God forbid. If dat kind man near my daughter na pump action i go take pursue am. And if a man's criteria for measuring honor is his wife dishing food in front of him, he has low self esteem and should get a new measurement criteria

naijababe:


In my books, you have no business visiting a man you are yet to be married to for a few days. Why would he not disrespect you, when you put out yourself as 'oshofree'

Naijababe

My Advice for u is to kindly follow up ur man in prayers,there might be forces out there fightin ur hapiness.table ur case to God almighty who joined. Both 2geda,don't give room to foolish advices ur knees n tongue in prayer can go along way.God bless ur home

Joy1706:

Mothers be raising spoilt brats everywhere. Tomorrow now ur wife will be cursing ur mother for raising such an entitled brat

Pardon, whats your point? She rarely sees me, I visit my her once a year. Anything she does its out of love and thats the essence. Sorry to say, buh with your current state of mind it will be difficult for a man to stay with you. You need to be schooled on how to keep a man happy. Its not sex, Which of course a man can always get anywhere. Its little things like this that will keep a man. And point of correction am not a spoilt brat. Peace

My one kobo to this drama.
If anyone has ever taught you bending to your husband's every will would keep him from straying, that is d biggest lie of the century.
Whether you serve his food with a golden spoon or not, stand at attention when he's eating or be slow dancing ND stripping so you can enlarge his throat or be pouring oil as he swallows to help d food travel down with ease or hold a napkin ND clean after every spoonful, if he will look for someone who doesn't fuss over him, he will.
All this traditional expectations have never kept a man. Like our brothers no sisters in the Lord will say, "Back in our mother's time", Am sure we all know their husbands were still serial cheaters ND those that didn't cheat didn't just cheat. Let's us stop deluding ourselves to believe a wife who is perfect ND jumps to her husband's every wish will stop him from seeing amaka or sidikat or awele or ekaette or hauwa either outside or even in the house.
If he has enough man in him to keep it in the pants, he will.
Men who take offense at silly issues like this have to stop being silly, overgrown babies and should learn to serve nd feed themselves. Your wife is human.. Treat her with a little respect. It's just reciprocal. You can't expect her to treat you like her dad while you treat her less than a slave. If she cooks, then it's fair that you serve it ND eat ND say thank you. Even servants that owe you money deserve that much. Not to say a woman you promised to love, cherish and care for. As your mum still serve your food, remember her mum probably still serves hers too.
When you marry as a sane person who actually has a functioning brain, and for all the right reasons too, you won't make this an issue.
Women, let's train our boys to have plenty sense and learn to respect and appreciate. Not just to nag and moan over petty issues like a girl on PMS..

Deehvahrzz:




@your signature.... So he can sleep well, she should put d food on her head or kneel on the table so it can stand on her back while she's doing d Jane-Jane pose.
It is a very silly thing to ask for. If u can't even dish ur own food for ur self. I guess he would expect d wife to burp him so he can blech too..

According to the OP, the husband requested complete service. Is that too much for a man to ask for from his wife?

Joy1706:

E no go ever pass this yeye threat. Will the world end?

SIT DOWN THERE NA.

Joy1706:

Where is the love the bible talked about?

love does not mean you should not submit to your husband.... you just being arrogant. It takes nothing to dish the food.

dominusgai:


read ur bible well, sarah never even served abraham food, he had servants to do that for him(gen 18:7) . verse 8 shows us he even prepared the milk and butter himself.
Also, he treated sarah like a queen, banishing Ishmeal for her sake.
A man that says e will not eat because his wife did not dish the food b4 him is an inconsiderate idiot that does not hold his wife in esteem. But i dont blame him, i blame his father for teaching him rubbish. If a simple thing like dis will make a man look out, then his wife is walking on eggshell and as a man who saw is mother on eggshells i wud not wish that on any woman. Those kind of men would insist their wives cook 4 dem even wen they see she is hot with fever. God forbid. If dat kind man near my daughter na pump action i go take pursue am. And if a man's criteria for measuring honor is his wife dishing food in front of him, he has low self esteem and should get a new measurement criteria

Honey, I blame his mother... She should have taught him how she would have loved to be treated. No disrespect meant to anyone at all....

Spybradd:


ur head dey there,u spoke da words outta our mouth..........misskiffy must not only..wetin she call am again,ok dish out my ojéun,she must feed me as well..o yes..or else.....

lol

Joy1706:

Is this supposed to scare us? Mtchewwww

Not meant to. Just for wisdom receptive peeps to learn from.

Joy1706:

I hope you also noticed how Abraham respected and listened to his wife

YOU READ BIBLE TO SUIT YOUR SELFISHNESS.

1.ABRAHAM LISTEN TO HIS WIFE AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN ( BLOODY MULISM)

2. ADAM LISTEN TO HIS WIFE AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN ( SHAME AND DEATH)

3. SOLOMON LISTEN TO HIS WIFE AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN (BLOODY IDOLS)


SO DON'T USE YOUR MOUTH TO SPILL RUBBISH

Joy1706:

I hope you also noticed how Abraham respected and listened to his wife

YOU READ BIBLE TO SUIT YOUR SELFISHNESS.

1.ABRAHAM LISTEN TO HIS WIFE AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN ( BLOODY MULISM)

2. ADAM LISTEN TO HIS WIFE AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN ( SHAME AND DEATH)

3. SOLOMON LISTEN TO HIS WIVES AND LOOK WHAT HAPPEN (BLOODY IDOLS)


SO DON'T USE YOUR MOUTH TO SPILL RUBBISH

Joy1706:

Must? Do you follow ALL of God's commands? If you don't, you are just a hypocrite

Now you are taking it somewhere else.
Many of you quote the bible during arguments like this, which was why i gave you the authentic position of the Bible.
Nobody can force you to do what God says.

some people just dey carry family matter here. You ursekg gas know.d.right thing na

You are one in a million.

sinizia:
OP, I'm a man and in this 21st century I'm telling you that, that man you described up there is an arrogant prick!! A controlling heartless dùmbfuck who treats you like a slave!!

What nonsense!! If you are not busy and he says you'd dish it out for him, that's okay; but if you are busy and tending to other issue and he insist you dish out for him before he eats, then he's a callous and wicked dùmbfuck!! I pity you. You are in a master-slave relationship!! This is 21st century not 18th century. Dish what?!! What will it cost him to scoop food from a plate? WTF?!! I pity some ladies for real. All my life as a teenager till now, my mom serves my dad (if we are not around to take the food to him and when we're too small to carry the foods to him) but never spoon-fed or dished it out for him and my dad never complained. Is he handless? NO!! So why will he complain that my mom didn't dish out the food to him? What kind of lazy, arrogant, proud pricks do we have these days as men?


And the ladies are the cause of all these. Imagine what the ladies in the FB pics attached are spewing. No iota of self-worth whatsoever!! Imagine one saying "lady if he wants you to spoon-feed him do it o before another lady do it for you." OMG!! Illiteracy and low self-esteem is an incurable disease!! These are the kind of women that would leave their cheating husbands to attack another lady for "snatching" their pussy-mongering husbands. SMH for dumb bytches!!

Timbuktou:


According to the OP, the husband requested complete service. Is that too much for a man to ask for from his wife?

Did you marry for wife so she can service you? Is she a service provider? It's not fair to treat her like she's a piece of furniture or a thing you own ND can give orders too.
To have a happy and habitable home is a two way thing. You need mutual respect. That is trampling all over your wife's sense of human ND self respect. Everywoman deserves to be treated as a queen as much as the men deserve the kingship treatment. If you have not treated her as such, don't expect so much from her. If she will kneel ND serve you, you must have done something equally deserving and not just putting money down now. That already qualifies you for the meal. You get what you give. If a man starts screaming "give me some respect, I am a man" it makes you wonder Is he really a man? You don't ask to be treated in a way or with respect. Honey, you earn it!!!!!
Being a husband doesn't just open that door, you have to get the key and turn it. Respect her ND she will blow your mind

indomie and jet age children see issue wen b problem for marriage ooo....

You fit cook the food to dish am naim b d big Palava.....

As ur Bossman.....i mean husband like am do am else'

Between d guy is old school....He just cant understand say the wife nor get him tym.... Babyman....

Though my Future wife dare not dump food for dinning go busy her life unto sumtin else chai... i enjoy eating wit my folk or make she just dey there....else wahala wa oo

menxer:
This lady sef, you want us to advice you against serving your husband thereby saving your marriage?

You should be ashame for exposing your ignorance of your responsibility as a wife on social media.

You neva chi Chong ching.

I have learnt another one today ooo

You neva chi chong chin

ma, try to do anything to please your man and keep your home. there's no big deal in dishing your husband's meal.all the best
therapistmrs..com

adesbreath:
J


Now your talking, your first post was too direct and u dint reason this way. We should always be positive and hope for better things, and also know how to embrace change and come out at the top.

The post was direct and simple for anyone that chose to read and comprehend it for what it is. You brought your what ifs dimensions which is of no relevance to my original post. My post talks of what is, not what ifs.

dominusgai:


read ur bible well, sarah never even served abraham food, he had servants to do that for him(gen 18:7) . verse 8 shows us he even prepared the milk and butter himself.
Also, he treated sarah like a queen, banishing Ishmeal for her sake.
A man that says e will not eat because his wife did not dish the food b4 him is an inconsiderate idiot that does not hold his wife in esteem. But i dont blame him, i blame his father for teaching him rubbish. If a simple thing like dis will make a man look out, then his wife is walking on eggshell and as a man who saw is mother on eggshells i wud not wish that on any woman. Those kind of men would insist their wives cook 4 dem even wen they see she is hot with fever. God forbid. If dat kind man near my daughter na pump action i go take pursue am. And if a man's criteria for measuring honor is his wife dishing food in front of him, he has low self esteem and should get a new measurement criteria

who said Sarah never served her husband food ever in their marriage? stop being legalistic with the bible. one who calls her husband, my lord, never served him food in their marriage? guy you are immature in analysing events and history.

stop assuming out of context.

Na wa o! Didn't know another name for marriage is perpetual slavery.
A man who wants to cheat will cheat even if you lick his ass after he poos!

Deehvahrzz:


Honey, I blame his mother... She should have taught him how she would have loved to be treated. No disrespect meant to anyone at all....

your trash only ends in NL..... selfish feminist.....I wish you the best though....

peppyluv02:
Na wa o! Didn't know another name for marriage is perpetual slavery.
A man who wants to cheat will cheat even if you lick his ass after he poos!

and a woman that wants to cheat will cheat too, even if you give her your ATM card....

Not every woman needs a man's ATM card. He should come and collect mine.

SonOfEl:


and a woman that wants to cheat will cheat too, even if you give her your ATM card....

lionphil:


If u can take like an hour and above to cook for him, is it just 2 mins to dish the food that's the problem? Chai!!!!! Women no get sense at all...fish brains everywhere.

May you live long Oga. I might as well not cook the damn food at all and tell him to go to the kitchen himself...why sweat for 1hr cooking the food, then come to NL to whine about an extra service that will take just 2 mins?? I can't even reconcile where the issue is exactly. Fish brains indeed

peppyluv02:
Not every woman needs a man's ATM card. He should come and collect mine.

empty brag of the week.

dominusgai:


read ur bible well, sarah never even served abraham food, he had servants to do that for him(gen 18:7) . verse 8 shows us he even prepared the milk and butter himself.
Also, he treated sarah like a queen, banishing Ishmeal for her sake.
A man that says e will not eat because his wife did not dish the food b4 him is an inconsiderate idiot that does not hold his wife in esteem. But i dont blame him, i blame his father for teaching him rubbish. If a simple thing like dis will make a man look out, then his wife is walking on eggshell and as a man who saw is mother on eggshells i wud not wish that on any woman. Those kind of men would insist their wives cook 4 dem even wen they see she is hot with fever. God forbid. If dat kind man near my daughter na pump action i go take pursue am. And if a man's criteria for measuring honor is his wife dishing food in front of him, he has low self esteem and should get a new measurement criteria

na how u dey read ur bible

Father Abraham is a humble person....he did not serve himself he served the three angels in d passage u quoted...Sarah was asked to prepared cake ooo... while Abraham prepared d calf.....

The most important issue in this whole matter of husband n wife is d attitude in which dey portray these.... With time Genuine Servitude in some situation makes u incharge of it.
..how else wil u explain this Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant ,


end of story...Dish the food or spoon feed him if there is no love all is nothing.... A husband can cook for himself by himself and you still not have joy n peace in that home....

Baba ehen help me n my siblings wit lovely home oo make how matter nor be social media morning dew...

Deehvahrzz:



1. Did you marry for wife so she can service you?

2. Is she a service provider?

3. It's not fair to treat her like she's a piece of furniture or a thing you own ND can give orders too.


4. To have a happy and habitable home is a two way thing. You need mutual respect.

5. That is trampling all over your wife's sense of human ND self respect.

6. Everywoman deserves to be treated as a queen as much as the men deserve the kingship treatment.

7. If you have not treated her as such, don't expect so much from her.

8. If she will kneel ND serve you, you must have done something equally deserving and not just putting money down now.

9. You get what you give.

10. If a man starts screaming "give me some respect, I am a man" it makes you wonder Is he really a man?

11. You don't ask to be treated in a way or with respect.

12. Honey, you earn it!!!!!

13. Being a husband doesn't just open that door, you have to get the key and turn it. Respect her ND she will blow your mind

1. I think I deserve to be properly serviced by my wife. That's one reason why I'd marry. And I assume any sane woman would want a man who could service her.

2. She better be. I am.

3. Who's talking about treating anybody like furniture here? Stop projecting. Making a request isn't the same as treating someone like furniture.

4. Of course, I agree.

5. Asking someone to do something properly is disrespectful? How about being not properly served, isn't that disrespectful?

6. I agree.

7. If she hasn't treated me as such, she shouldn't expect such from me. Maybe where I come from, proper meal service is regarded as treating the husband like a king. Did that occur to you? Of course, not. The queen's needs must come first.

8. Therefore, I'm purchasing her respect with my performance, right? So, who's the arbiter on how much performance purchases what level of respect? I am so curious to find out.

9. She gets what she gives. Duh.

10. Any man screaming "give me respect" is a psycho and is married to a psycho woman. Because a normal woman would have the sense to respect her husband, or divorce him if she cannot or not even marry a man who deems unworthy of her respect in the first place. The woman is probably madder.

11. I'm glad you say this. So, please, stop asking for respect for this woman and stop telling her to ask for it

12. Apparently, this woman hasn't earned respect. Has she?

13. Maybe if she respected him, he would be blowing her mind right now. Did that ever occur to you? Unless of course, different rules apply to husbands and wives.

Why are you pained? Are you the op's husband or what? I no be Julius begger like your girlfriend.

SonOfEl:


empty brag of the week.

Johnrake69:


Pardon, whats your point? She rarely sees me, I visit my her once a year. Anything she does its out of love and thats the essence. Sorry to say, buh with your current state of mind it will be difficult for a man to stay with you. You need to be schooled on how to keep a man happy. Its not sex, Which of course a man can always get anywhere. Its little things like this that will keep a man. And point of correction am not a spoilt brat. Peace

As long as he's also schooling himself on how to keep me happy. 2 make a marriage ba? Both deserve to be kept happy, yes?