raayah:


Very Very bad Advice!

Look, my own mother suffered abuse in the hands of her husband after doing heaven and earth for him. You know what my mother told me one day? She sat me down and said, "Raayah. My husband does not love me, If he did, he will not abuse me like this for no reason".

Weeks after that, She moved out and hasn't looked back. She is planning to return the dowry to his people very soon. Life is so much better for her. No more spending nights at the hospital,(Yes, that's how serious the physical and mental abuse was), no more tears.. Life is good!

If you choose to stay with an abusive man because of the "children" or because you cannot "live independently", then say so. Don't tell women to stay with men with abusive men..
Same advice for men, don't stay with abusive women. They can kill

She dared him by doing what? How many of you will fight an agbero who dares you, or a man who disrespects you, Not a lot!
But when it comes to your wife, she does something wrong, you decide to give her head injury!
All of you justifying this abuse are cowards, yes I said it!

you misunderstood that line read it again.

Her husband never maltreated her, he was a calm man, but She was taking advantage of his calmness to nag always, one day, the man mistakenly hit her, that's what the woman was telling her daughter, that her husband is a gentleman, but She should not take undue advantage of his calmness, your parents case is totally different from this storyline

Happiness87:
you misunderstood that line read it again.

Her husband never maltreated her, he was a calm man, but She was taking advantage of his calmness to nag always, one day, the man mistakenly hit her, that's what the woman was telling her daughter, that her husband is a gentleman, but She should not take undue advantage of his calmness, your parents case is totally different from this storyline

ok.. So if my wife nags me, I should hit her to the extent of injuring her head??

BabyDaddy20:
The girl must be a Yoruba girl.
They're good at nothing.
They're dirt, don't know how to cook, have sex outside their matrimonial home and to crown it all, their pusssy stinks.

Just like your mother's

raayah:


ok.. So if my wife nags me, I should hit her to the extent of injuring her head??

here are the lines

daughter,you see this your husband?
He is a gentleman but don't take advantage of that.
Don't bring out the beast in him.

My daughter,you see this mark on my forehead?

Your father gave it to me.
He tolerated me every time but on that day,He came unexpectedly

It wasn't his intention but i dared him and
he hit me just once

pay attention to the emboldened parts
the woman clearly acknowledged that she was at fault, she has been acting that way, but the man used to tolerate her.

but She went too far that day and the man mistakenly hit him, unexpectedly, she also said that was the only time her husband had laid hands on her.

This is reality, not trying to fantasize perfection. She made her points very clear. Am not supporting any form of maltreatment, but this is real, mistakes could happen and the woman clearly stated that she was at fault hence advising her daughter not to take advantage of his husband's calmness, her point is very clear

raayah:


Very Very bad Advice!

Look, my own mother suffered abuse in the hands of her husband after doing heaven and earth for him. You know what my mother told me one day? She sat me down and said, "Raayah. My husband does not love me, If he did, he will not abuse me like this for no reason".

Weeks after that, She moved out and hasn't looked back. She is planning to return the dowry to his people very soon. Life is so much better for her. No more spending nights at the hospital,(Yes, that's how serious the physical and mental abuse was), no more tears.. Life is good!

If you choose to stay with an abusive man because of the "children" or because you cannot "live independently", then say so. Don't tell women to stay with men with abusive men..
Same advice for men, don't stay with abusive women. They can kill

She dared him by doing what? How many of you will fight an agbero who dares you, or a man who disrespects you, Not a lot!
But when it comes to your wife, she does something wrong, you decide to give her head injury!
All of you justifying this abuse are cowards, yes I said it!

You are not married yet n ur mother hv already taught u "How not to enjoy ur Marriage". My advise 4u is to take the one the good ADVICE by the OP n thank God all ur life.

raayah:


Very Very bad Advice!

Look, my own mother suffered abuse in the hands of her husband after doing heaven and earth for him. You know what my mother told me one day? She sat me down and said, "Raayah. My husband does not love me, If he did, he will not abuse me like this for no reason".

Weeks after that, She moved out and hasn't looked back. She is planning to return the dowry to his people very soon. Life is so much better for her. No more spending nights at the hospital,(Yes, that's how serious the physical and mental abuse was), no more tears.. Life is good!

If you choose to stay with an abusive man because of the "children" or because you cannot "live independently", then say so. Don't tell women to stay with men with abusive men..
Same advice for men, don't stay with abusive women. They can kill

She dared him by doing what? How many of you will fight an agbero who dares you, or a man who disrespects you, Not a lot!
But when it comes to your wife, she does something wrong, you decide to give her head injury!
All of you justifying this abuse are cowards, yes I said it!

I advice my friends not to marry any girl that grew up under separate homes. And you are one of such girls. No offence intended.

raayah:


Very Very bad Advice!

Look, my own mother suffered abuse in the hands of her husband after doing heaven and earth for him. You know what my mother told me one day? She sat me down and said, "Raayah. My husband does not love me, If he did, he will not abuse me like this for no reason".

Weeks after that, She moved out and hasn't looked back. She is planning to return the dowry to his people very soon. Life is so much better for her. No more spending nights at the hospital,(Yes, that's how serious the physical and mental abuse was), no more tears.. Life is good!

If you choose to stay with an abusive man because of the "children" or because you cannot "live independently", then say so. Don't tell women to stay with men with abusive men..
Same advice for men, don't stay with abusive women. They can kill

She dared him by doing what? How many of you will fight an agbero who dares you, or a man who disrespects you, Not a lot!
But when it comes to your wife, she does something wrong, you decide to give her head injury!
All of you justifying this abuse are cowards, yes I said it!

So what you're insuniating is that your daddy is a beast? and your mum usually nag to constantly get the beating of her life? You're still very young,I'll advice you not to follow your mother footstep so that you won't have a beast as husband...

alrahmanonline:

So what you're insuniating is that your daddy is a beast? and your mum usually nag to constantly get the beating of her life? You're still very young,I'll advice you not to follow your mother footstep so that you won't have a beast as husband...

Yes he is.. why should I lie to myself? There are good people and bad people everywhere. Unfortunately, he was a bad man!

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lonelydora:


I advice my friends not to marry any girl that grew up under separate homes. And you are one of such girls. No offence intended.

That's ok! Everyone has preferences.

beey2:


You are not married yet n ur mother hv already taught u "How not to enjoy ur Marriage". My advise 4u is to take the one the good ADVICE by the OP n thank God all ur life.

I will not take OP's advice.. Thank you!

freshvine:


My dear thumb up for your orientation concerning gender equality and respect. Your mom did good.

My advice to you in this life is NEVER tolerate any form of abuse whether physical or emotional from your future husband. Just kick him out from your life and look for another man. If they cannot be Perfect let them rot in hell like your mom ex husband.

To you never verbally abuse your husband, if you do and he responds back, dump his ass cos if you allow him the pleasure of responding someday he might go physical.

Keep it up and do not hesitate to dump any man who has the audacity to be irrational at any point in time. Women in the West have embrace single motherhood, baby mamas why can't we enact same here or even surpass their record?

Did someone just say this or am i dreaming... keep changing husband like clothe you hear? E go soon red for you

raayah:


Abi ooh...Its even much better if the man knows how to work it in the bedroom.... It will be explosive!!

you are right.

One thing I know, my own mother didn't teach me to allow a man hit me. That's not love.

raayah:


Yes he is.. why should I lie to myself? There are good people and bad people everywhere. Unfortunately, he was a bad man!

you never answer the part that your Mummy nags constantly..

raayah:


Very Very bad Advice!

Look, my own mother suffered abuse in the hands of her husband after doing heaven and earth for him. You know what my mother told me one day? She sat me down and said, "Raayah. My husband does not love me, If he did, he will not abuse me like this for no reason".

Weeks after that, She moved out and hasn't looked back. She is planning to return the dowry to his people very soon. Life is so much better for her. No more spending nights at the hospital,(Yes, that's how serious the physical and mental abuse was), no more tears.. Life is good!

If you choose to stay with an abusive man because of the "children" or because you cannot "live independently", then say so. Don't tell women to stay with men with abusive men..
Same advice for men, don't stay with abusive women. They can kill

She dared him by doing what? How many of you will fight an agbero who dares you, or a man who disrespects you, Not a lot!
But when it comes to your wife, she does something wrong, you decide to give her head injury!
All of you justifying this abuse are cowards, yes I said it!

The men are two different people my dear,


Your mothers husband is abusive and not a gentle man, he beats your mother all the time.

But

The advisers husband is a gentle man, he does not hit a lady, the adviser only did something wrong and dared him,not just once,but countless times, and d man made a mistake of doing what he regretted ever doing, and dat is hitting her once. he never did that again.


The adviser knew it was her fault, thus, advising the dota never to tow the same part she towed which warranted her getting that mark.






My take is dis, do your part and leave d rest to God.






I am not saying that women should not leave an abusive marriage. But u are only trying to paint the advisers point of view bad, which is very wrong. Your mothers case is different from the advisers case.


The adviser,never advised her dota to stay in an abusive marriage, she only advised her NOT TO BRING the beast out of a GENTLE husband.

D adviser only brought out d beast in her husband, but your own mothers husband is already a beast. And that is two different things and scenerios and should not be judged as same.





Please give credit to good works and not tarnish it with an entirely different version of another story.











And many other people and ladies, who are not ready to be a good wife "Liked" d post.









NAIRALANDERS,please, stop taking advices from anyone that grew up in a broken home. They are devilish and I don't blame them because it is never there fault.

Boyooosa:

and some are MURDERERS.

Pls can somebody help me to convert the post to MP3 so dat i transfer it to my Fiancé's phone...plsssssssssss!

Amustical:
Nairaland moderators are politician.... If this post did not make a front page I where again. Or what is cretarial for Front page? Lalasticlala any answer?

Your written English is bad....please, upgrade yourself.

raayah:


Very Very bad Advice!

Look, my own mother suffered abuse in the hands of her husband after doing heaven and earth for him. You know what my mother told me one day? She sat me down and said, "Raayah. My husband does not love me, If he did, he will not abuse me like this for no reason".

Weeks after that, She moved out and hasn't looked back. She is planning to return the dowry to his people very soon. Life is so much better for her. No more spending nights at the hospital,(Yes, that's how serious the physical and mental abuse was), no more tears.. Life is good!

If you choose to stay with an abusive man because of the "children" or because you cannot "live independently", then say so. Don't tell women to stay with men with abusive men..
Same advice for men, don't stay with abusive women. They can kill

She dared him by doing what? How many of you will fight an agbero who dares you, or a man who disrespects you, Not a lot!
But when it comes to your wife, she does something wrong, you decide to give her head injury!
All of you justifying this abuse are cowards, yes I said it!

Im really sorry about your mum having to go thru this. God knows its the most unkind thing a man can do to someone he calls his partner. Much as we would like to blame him this story i beg to say is one sided. Women can be a real pain in the brain when they want to be. Being insensitive to your husband to the extent of this, seriously it takes two.

You sha wont come and say there was nothing between both of them when they decided to tie the knot? Did the man just wake up one day and decided to start beating the woman?

Besides love and money i think marriage quotes carry the most advises given to anyone - i stand corrected.
If both parties understood and accepted they were both responsible for the break down to this point, trust me this wouldnt be an issue. You honestly think theres any couple that doesnt have their own fair share of issues and challenges?

Sure blame it on the man afterall hes the head. When the bible says it is better to stay in the corner of a roof than with a nagging woman, did you think it was just to make the pages full? Once again i apologize for the way things went with her, but if you as a person dont begin to address these issues and have a better understanding with a clear view of marital values, its only going to repeat the cycle again with you, im sorry to say. Please understand i do not say these things to spite or anger you, but if it takes just this to help you realise the steps youre taking as unfair to even yourself please let it be. You think shes happy having to return dowry and stuff?

Think about this deeply.

You cant go into marriage with this psyche itll destroy a lot of things.

Worst thing I've ever read in my life

freshvine:


To you never verbally abuse your husband, if you do and he responds back, dump his ass cos if you allow him the pleasure of responding someday he might go physical

And it is at this point that I knew feminists cannot be reasoned with...
So you want to abuse men but if they respond, dump his a$$ right...where's the equality in that I wonder?

Advice for fools.

raayah:


Very Very bad Advice!

Look, my own mother suffered abuse in the hands of her husband after doing heaven and earth for him. You know what my mother told me one day? She sat me down and said, "Raayah. My husband does not love me, If he did, he will not abuse me like this for no reason".

Weeks after that, She moved out and hasn't looked back. She is planning to return the dowry to his people very soon. Life is so much better for her. No more spending nights at the hospital,(Yes, that's how serious the physical and mental abuse was), no more tears.. Life is good!

If you choose to stay with an abusive man because of the "children" or because you cannot "live independently", then say so. Don't tell women to stay with men with abusive men..
Same advice for men, don't stay with abusive women. They can kill

She dared him by doing what? How many of you will fight an agbero who dares you, or a man who disrespects you, Not a lot!
But when it comes to your wife, she does something wrong, you decide to give her head injury!
All of you justifying this abuse are cowards, yes I said it!

Calm dwn... She didnt say she shld kip quiet when abused

She is giving an advised based on d type of man.. And obviously.. It is a good man..

Not a drunkard or a woman beater.. So calm dwn

Nice advice

raayah:


ok.. So if my wife nags me, I should hit her to the extent of injuring her head??

Plz read and understand

raayah:


Very Very bad Advice!

Look, my own mother suffered abuse in the hands of her husband after doing heaven and earth for him. You know what my mother told me one day? She sat me down and said, "Raayah. My husband does not love me, If he did, he will not abuse me like this for no reason".

Weeks after that, She moved out and hasn't looked back. She is planning to return the dowry to his people very soon. Life is so much better for her. No more spending nights at the hospital,(Yes, that's how serious the physical and mental abuse was), no more tears.. Life is good!

If you choose to stay with an abusive man because of the "children" or because you cannot "live independently", then say so. Don't tell women to stay with men with abusive men..
Same advice for men, don't stay with abusive women. They can kill

She dared him by doing what? How many of you will fight an agbero who dares you, or a man who disrespects you, Not a lot!
But when it comes to your wife, she does something wrong, you decide to give her head injury!
All of you justifying this abuse are cowards, yes I said it!

You said it all my dear

Nice one

BabyDaddy20:
The girl must be a Yoruba girl.
They're good at nothing.
They're dirt, don't know how to cook, have sex outside their matrimonial home and to crown it all, their pusssy stinks.

Thats harsh

raayah:


ok.. So if my wife nags me, I should hit her to the extent of injuring her head??

I was thinking of replying but what I can see is you're looking at this through heavily tinted glasses and no matter what anyone says, your opinion would not shift one bit.
It's obvious that you do not know the effects of verbal abuse and think guys should be robots that can handle "stereotypical nagging women" without any display of emotion...

raayah:


Very Very bad Advice!

Look, my own mother suffered abuse in the hands of her husband after doing heaven and earth for him. You know what my mother told me one day? She sat me down and said, "Raayah. My husband does not love me, If he did, he will not abuse me like this for no reason".

Weeks after that, She moved out and hasn't looked back. She is planning to return the dowry to his people very soon. Life is so much better for her. No more spending nights at the hospital,(Yes, that's how serious the physical and mental abuse was), no more tears.. Life is good!

If you choose to stay with an abusive man because of the "children" or because you cannot "live independently", then say so. Don't tell women to stay with men with abusive men..
Same advice for men, don't stay with abusive women. They can kill

She dared him by doing what? How many of you will fight an agbero who dares you, or a man who disrespects you, Not a lot!
But when it comes to your wife, she does something wrong, you decide to give her head injury!
All of you justifying this abuse are cowards, yes I said it!

i wonder if u even read the post.

Why won't the husband give her uppercuts? If she can dish out this kind of foolishness to her daughter you can imagine the foolishness she would have displayed in the marriage. The husband has my utmost support. No be only mark, he should have broken her cockroach bones, and saved us from her foolishness. Nansense!