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| My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Elegantdiva: 7:01am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Pls am introvert..a very serious one. I hardly go out nor go on a date. i feel awkward when a guy ask for a date(i wont say no but i will disappoint at the 11th hr) I am 30yrs.Also i am inlove wif my southAfrican boy whp have been away for 2yrs+ now even thou we did introduction before he left the shores of the country. I live with my parents . i do go to work from there . I equally av a cilent who recently became my frnd .. I find pleasure hanging out with him.. i also like sharing my problem wif him(careerly, relationship ) cux therr is always a new thing to learn from him everyday.... Yday i invited him over to the house, he met my mum and they had discussions.. .. leta i went to see my pastor from there i went to hang out wif him. Too bad i came bk around 9pm... Now my problem. .. My mum also floged me.. She said all sort of tins to me. she was very angry wif me.. Jst dis once i went out... Now my questions are: At my age, is she meant to shout on me for going out ? I like this my cilent, I still want him as a frnd and i wouldnt want my mum to angry wif me again, how do i handle it? lastly i want my parents (my mum)to stop controling nd ordering my life about( i hardly trvl out of my state .be it interview, wedding nor visit to my sisters)i seriously want to take charge over my life. I go to work everyday, whc am not supoz to stay out once is 7pm(no meta d official excuse)..... Pls help me!!!!!!!! i didnt sleep the whole of lastnite 1 Like 3 Shares |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by GboyegaD(m): 7:04am On Sep 28, 2015 |
I will do my best to just give a few tips: When you get home today, bring up yesterday's issue; make your mom understand that at your age, you are old enough to make decisions. She will be shocked and would make attempts to beat you. Just calmly and sternly tell her not to try it. I'm sure the shock would let her stop. However, should you fidget in between, then it is going to be baptism of serious flogging for you. 34 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 7:05am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Move out!!!!!! 39 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by opeano(m): 7:05am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Communication matters. Talk to ur mum abt d way u feel 2 Likes |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by ifyalways(f): 7:06am On Sep 28, 2015 |
30 years old and you still write like 190 in the romance section? Kontinu o 44 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 7:08am On Sep 28, 2015 |
HMMM this is a result of an over protective parents, locking a child indoors 24\7 just in d name of been protective, listen woman ure no longer a child, how can ur parents still flog u at d age of 30? aint u ashame of ur life? u better stand tall and tell them to their face to stop controlling ur life, if possible shout at them, (nonsense) dnt u have brothers? what are they doing abt? and lastly u better go to the market and buy some sense bcaus i c dat u dnt have brains(no ofense) and move the fvck out of the house, rent a place of ur own, make new friends, go out more and to ur boyfriend in south Africa, tell him u want to move into south africa and stay there with him, u better take my advice and arrange ur mess up life. 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by MizMyColi(f): 7:08am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Your parents are the root of your problems. Unless you WISELY take a drastic decision, you are stuck. Do you pray? 7 Likes |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 7:08am On Sep 28, 2015 |
This one is strong ooo... If @ 30 yrs, she still flog u, then its better u take a very big decision either to live alone or get married. She feels ur client with "steal" u from ur south-africa 'husband'. Be wise 4 Likes |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Jadonaldson(m): 7:08am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Morning Everyone FCT Finz again......  Everyone below me shall count a lot of blessings dis week IJN 1 & only Jadon |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by MizMyColi(f): 7:09am On Sep 28, 2015 |
ifyalways: I think she purposely wrote that way to mask her identity. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Cryptingservice: 7:11am On Sep 28, 2015 |
This one is serious oo.. Relocate to another state in my opinion or get a new place for yourself. Damn!!! you 30 already.. Go hard or go home.. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 7:20am On Sep 28, 2015 |
@30 years u still dey chop cane  ....my parents stopped @ 17  .......is she a joke?? which kind mama want beat me @ 30 years... believe me we go beat ourselves oooo...  Come to think of it don't SA or where you are have law against abuse....cos beating a 30 year old lady for going out on a date is Adult abuse  ...as funny has it sound it's true...My honest advice is exhibit the best patience u have for now....calmly tell her u don't wish for dat to continue, tell her u are not grown up and don't forget to mention ur age while talking to her she remember cos I think she forgot and thinks u are 13....if she persist pls move out, even if she stops beating u still need to live her house...two tinz....get married or get an apartment...I will advice u do the later cos its not advice able u rush into marriage no matter wat...it could be worst So sooorrry take heart  6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by hodusglobal(m): 7:21am On Sep 28, 2015 |
1. The guy in South Africa is not ur husband at this moment, because both of you didn't know the time he will return to Nigeria. 2. @30yrs of age, you are getting late to get married...So I'll advised you to let your mom know that you will like to have your own real husband soon, not a husband through the telephone... |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Pidggin(f): 7:22am On Sep 28, 2015 |
@OP, Lolz how do u expect me to believe dis, who will flog a 30yr old? I reckon your mum should be 50+, please next time just respectfully collect the cane from her hands 11 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 7:23am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Oh my good God! your flogged you at 30 Sorry dear |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by menix(m): 7:33am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Introvert abii outrovert, u jst they use style dey cheat on ur southy Fiancé dey form introvert.. Jst open up say to fork d new guy dey hungry u, make we know were ur solution start. Ehh.. to stop momsi frm beating u, threaten her with moving out if she does not realise u re now a big gal.. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Elegantdiva: 7:33am On Sep 28, 2015 |
not flog per say but her choice of words .. I cant g attend any wedding wifout her permission.. Frankly i hope to move out of the house once i get another job outside my state. am not yet 30 but am close to it. lastyr, my dad complned to my brother abt locking myself up in d room and he is woried how i intend to get married wen i dont go out.. All i need is help...i love my mum so much .i wouldnt want to hurt her but i can go on with did type of life.. My south African boy still complns dat i dont live up |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by menix(m): 7:37am On Sep 28, 2015 |
avasweet: My fellow alaye.. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by twixx(f): 7:37am On Sep 28, 2015 |
lol like others have said discuss with your mom, this is not normal (her flogging you) make sure you tell her if it happens again she will regret it ( bluff) if possible start saving up so you move out, get a self contain and take control of your life you are 30 not 13 |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Elegantdiva: 7:38am On Sep 28, 2015 |
menix.. Very funny.. Bleep who? Sex is a turnoff for me and my guy knows that very well .. before i go on a date, i do inform him. He knows evrry of my steps and moves... He is my first love , first man in my life, I cant cheat on whom i love. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 7:44am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Sorry sweetie, I don't want to say you are under a spell because I've met a lady that is older than me, almost 30. We went on a casual date. Few hours later, she started complaining that her mum would be worried. I was like, "at your age?" Listen you are no longer a baby, you should be thinking of raising your own family. Let your mum know that. Stand firm in decisions that will help you achieve that by going to good places, making new friends and engaging in voluntary activities. You might meet Mr. Right there. Lest I forget, talk to your priest or pastor, I don't want to start insinuating things that might be true after all. This is a wicked world! |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 7:48am On Sep 28, 2015 |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by thorpido(m): 7:51am On Sep 28, 2015 |
All i have to say is that you need to grow up and take charge of your life. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by SporaD8: 7:55am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Op must either be the only child or the last child. That your momma sha, It is her type that will readily ruin their daughters marriage just to continue keeping her as companion. She knows how to stay in her husband's house yet denied you the chance of getting yours. Your dad and Bf already allude to that fact so the ball is in your court - its time you release yourself from your mothers apron. |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 7:56am On Sep 28, 2015 |
I can tell you really love your parents. I'm 29 got lots of friends on fb and WhatsApp but I keep my circle small in person. I can relate with the whole "working and going straight home" aspect. I am like that too. Only difference is I have my own apartment. But I had some issues with my family also, as we all do. Plus being half Samoan n growing up on my mother side more than my Igbo, the females rarely get to go out. Just telling you this so you know your not alone, I get the introvert part. At your age though, your mother should have a bit more respect for you. Your a grown woman. Maybe she feels because you still live in her house you are still deemed a child. It time to have some courage my sister, and show her you are capable of being independent and taking care of yourself. I suggest moving out and making a life for yourself on your terms. If family really are family, they will stand by you regardless. It may take some time in some cases, but they eventually come around. All the best in life dearie. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by menix(m): 7:58am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Elegantdiva: Madam, before u know it, his absence will ignite d fire in the presence.. |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 8:27am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Elegantdiva:what kinda help do you need exactly? Most parents are that controlling when you still live with them and they fend for you. . I feel you should learn to socialise more.. Get good friends around your vicinity. .. Your SA guy complains you don't live up? How? Btw, when is he coming back to complete the marriage ceremony? |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 8:37am On Sep 28, 2015 |
When you behave like a 20year old, you get treated as one. Someone did your introduction already, and you are frolicking with some dude without defining your relationship/friendship. You invited him over. He spent some time with your mum and you still went to hang out with him at night till 9pm. Your mum is pissed you donot know what you want or what you're doing. You either call off your engagement with the SA guy and be with this new guy or keep the new guy at arm's length. You can't deny the fact that you two are more than 'just friends'. 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 8:50am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Ur mum beat u @30?? Free urself o jare..... I guess u are still dependent,I don't pray to still be under my parents roof at 24...nt to talk of 30. |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by montezz(f): 8:51am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Jeez! Being flogged at thirty? Eleyi le gan o! Stop acting lyk an overgrown baby and get ur ass out of dt house. U wil neva gain freedom till u give ur mum some space...if i were u,i won't hint her on my plan b4 moving out. Dnt even let her knw ur plz until she understands dt u r no longer a child. |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Elegantdiva: 8:56am On Sep 28, 2015 |
He is jst a frnd..rather like a big bro cux d age diff is very much.. my help doesnt not revol around w dis issue only... My southy man is seriously compln dat i dont live up..(my mum taking charge over my life , at every lili tin we do, i always bring in my mum) so do my dad. i remember i went for an interview, ,as at abt 7pm she has already runing down my ba3 and the interview ended up very late cux of my lateness(fiixing lunch for her) ...i remember how many interview i av missed becux she doesnt want me to live outside my present location. I also remember how many jobs i bounced becux she tinks d job will expose me to men.....All i want is how to live up without hurting her |
| Re: My Mum And I...i Wept The Whole Of Lastnite by Nobody: 9:04am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Elegantdiva:Nawa ooo Are you their only child? |
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