cococandy:

See who I dey follow talk?

So that's how you regard your woman?
Figures.
If I say you have garri where you're brain is meant to be, that'd be a compliment.

Dominique, are you still wasting your time on this joke of a human being?

Congrats oh Nigerians.
See the results of the kind of training you give your sons.

Lol, I hardly engage in e-argument but this guy needs needs to get a thing or two about regards for women.

dominique:


Lol, you need a reality check. Your likes think their women should worship the grounds they walk on.

My SIL was gisting me about her female colleague whose husband took off because she had the audacity to give birth to their second child through CS. Her mates push out their babies but she had the nerve to give birth through CS that cost him more money. Shortly after the birth, he angrily packed his things and moved out. He expected the wife to crumble and go on her knees and beg him to come back home. For wia? She blocked him out and took care of her children. She resumed from maternity happy,glowing without a worry in the world. Nobody even knew that she had any marital issue except those close to her. Six months after packing out, the husband returned with his tail between his legs. Men like you Deserve to be taught that kind of lesson. A woman should be happy you married her... shior!

You believed this fabricated and exaggerated story... it doesn't add up...

dominique:
A woman already four children to take care of, we don't know how much the man is providing for the care of this children but we know that the economy is not easy and[b] four kids are A LOT[/b]. She's not planning for any more children but her husband comes along and flings an extra one on her without even discussing with he[/b]r and she's supposed to accept it just like that? Even if he discusses it with her and she refuses, [b]he should look for other options. If a woman can open her legs anyhow to any man and she should be able to bear any consequences that comes with it.

Most women on this thread are making "convenient excuses" for the woman, due to gender solidarity.
If they want to be fair, they should make the same excuses for the man ...

...like the mother is a drug addict and has disappeared, leaving the baby helpless
..like the man is rich enough to care for four children so one extra makes no difference
...like if the woman can take care of her own 'four biological' child, why then cant she take care of her husbands single child?
...Like that child could be her fifth child afterall, she is still planning to have one more!
... like the man had discussed it with her and people have pleaded with her yet she was still headstrong!
.. like what other options are open to the man when everyone has pleaded with this witch of a woman yet she wont budge?

You see, l am sure some of you women are boiling right now and feel like using frying pan to scatter my head!
That is exactly how all those "convenient excuses" you'all are making for the woman, sounds like.

Agreed, the man misbehaved by philandering
Agreed, the woman who bore the child should also bear responsibility
Agreed, its never good to beat your wife

... but can we because of all the above reason, condemn an innocent two year old child who has no single responsibility in all the above, to homelessness, at that age.... when the child still has a father who has a house, other children and a family?

Let us conduct a TRUE TEST of INTENTIONS HERE. ... and let us be honest about it because we are just chatting here.

QUESTION:
1.) Let us imagine the child can speak and fight for itself and make choices; Would that child agree to be thrown out by the man's wife?

2.) If you were that child, what would be YOUR OWN decision/position? That the wife is right to throw you out of your fathers house ... or that she should take a chill afterall, nobody knows tomorrow?

If you give yourself a honest answer, God will be your Judge in future.


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iPopAlomo:



Calm your tits... I've in no way made anyone a slave... yes... the baby happened... she(the mother) couldn't take care of her... and I bring her home... my child ooo... not someone else's... my child... to my wife... I'm explaining things then she acts a fool... who goes out the window... the b!tch or the child...?!

yes she's angry... but how does turning the kid out of the house solves the problem... you modern women are sick and lack compassion... it's the truth...

Add "SELFISH and SELF-CENTRED" to that description too!
When it suits them, its OKAy but when it doesn't, it is NOT OKAY!

Funnily, some of them where in the shoes of this child, when they were kids!



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timilinda:


Pls re-read d post. She did nt reject d child bt she REJECTED CUSTODY of d child. She may nt hv denied d child being her husband's, bt she refused being d one to (physically) cater for d child.

WHAT KIND OF FOOLISH STATEMENT IS THIS?
When you throw a child out of his father's house ... you have rejected him.

If she does not want to have anything to do with the child, fine. No bathing, No feeding, not even a good morning smile,...FINE.

But you cant ask a father, who knows 100% that a child is his, to throw the child away.
That will be very inhuman on the part of the father!
He would just be adding a worse crime, to his list of crimes

What would such father tell that child in future, if the child survives?

Child: Dad, why did you throw me on the streets when l needed you most?
Father: My wife told me to do so ... because l was too pussy-whipped?

The last man that took such silly decision (Abraham) is making everyone of us pay for his folly, till today.
You wonder why those nut-job Muslims hate Christians? Its that shyte-head called Abraham who could not act like a real man, when occasion demands.

No sacrifice is too great to do, for my own child. That is my own policy in life and ANYONE who does not like it, can take a walk!
I will NEVER walk-out on my own child. ....Never, not even at the point of death



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WHAT KIND OF FOOLISH STATEMENT IS THIS?
When you throw a child out of his father's house ... you have rejected him.

If she does not want to have anything to do with the child, fine. No bathing, No feeding, not even a good morning smile,...FINE.

But you cant ask a father, who knows 100% that a child is his, to throw the child away.
That will be very inhuman on the part of the father!
He would just be adding a worse crime, to his list of crimes

What would such father tell that child in future, if the child survives?

Child: Dad, why did you throw me on the streets when l needed you most?
Father: My wife told me to do so ... because l was too pussy-whipped?

The last man that took such silly decision (Abraham) is making everyone of us pay for his folly, till today.
You wonder why those nut-job Muslims hate Christians? Its that shyte-head called Abraham who could not act like a real man, when occasion demands.

No sacrifice is too great to do, for my own child. That is my own policy in life and ANYONE who does not like it, can take a walk!
I will NEVER walk-out on my own child. ....Never, not even at the point of death



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Pls where in d story was it mentioned that 'she threw d child out of its father's house'? (Pls go back n read d 7th 9th paragraghs) She merely asked him to RETURN D CHILD TO ITS MOTHER. It was also wrong for him to have taken a two-year old from bits mum on d grounds that she 'wznt caring for him properly' (which wz his opinion anyway). How then did she care for it from birth till it wz two? Y did he (d father) nt marry d woman n bring her to his home to cater for d child?

Do u knw that d mother of that child could also sue him for kidnapping her child? What if she wakes up tomorrow n tells him d child wz nt really his, n DNA tests prove its nt? Do u think d law will still grant him custody of that child?

Note: I believe we can discuss n counter posts without resorting to insults.

iPopAlomo:




Nah... not tonight mehn... not tonight... I'm not doing this...

Lol!

This is exactly the reason why some step mothers treat their step children with so much contempt much less when the child is so young and a love child and when the father is around she starts pretending to care for the child


this your gra gra method is going to affect the child because it is the child that is at the middle and the receiving end of the wahala

some women will transfer the unresolved resentment the father did to her on the child and the child will grow up to be a nuisance except for the intervention of God

how can you give a child to someone who is not happy with you much less the mother and expect the person to bring up the child in love. You will just successfully expose the child to so many dehumanising treatment and in your presence she will pretend and the child self esteem will be so dead that she will be afraid to report. Shiooorrr

you need to ask yourself why God put your dick facing down and your brain inside your head facing up.it means that you are meant to think with your brain not your dick

iPopAlomo:



I'm a man... I married my wife... she didn't marry me... I can be with a lot of women... but can she be with a lot of men...?!

if she was a single mother... yes I can be with her... and take care of the child like it's my own...

So what exactly are you fighting for woman...?! cos I'm not hiding anything...

the child belongs to me... if she wouldn't take care of the child... there's the door...

apparently... I'm using my head even as I can't locate the brain as somethings are solve using just common sense... divorce if you can't take care of a love child... q.e.d

I feel the woman didn't make a wise decision. She should have kept quiet and allowed the man do whatever he wants. Take care of the child. When he grows up to an age of knowing his left from his right. Let's say like 9 or ten frustrate him to the extent that he will run away from home. At least if he runs away nobody will say it is your fault. You go dey siddon look

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WHAT KIND OF FOOLISH STATEMENT IS THIS?
When you throw a child out of his father's house ... you have rejected him.

If she does not want to have anything to do with the child, fine. No bathing, No feeding, not even a good morning smile,...FINE.

But you cant ask a father, who knows 100% that a child is his, to throw the child away.
That will be very inhuman on the part of the father!
He would just be adding a worse crime, to his list of crimes

What would such father tell that child in future, if the child survives?

Child: Dad, why did you throw me on the streets when l needed you most?
Father: My wife told me to do so ... because l was too pussy-whipped?

The last man that took such silly decision (Abraham) is making everyone of us pay for his folly, till today.
You wonder why those nut-job Muslims hate Christians? Its that shyte-head called Abraham who could not act like a real man, when occasion demands.

No sacrifice is too great to do, for my own child. That is my own policy in life and ANYONE who does not like it, can take a walk!
I will NEVER walk-out on my own child. ....Never, not even at the point of death



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If the biological mother cannot take care of the child is it another woman that will take care of the child. Anyway I don't blame the mistress. In her mind she has seen the man doesn't respect his wife so she can dump his child on him and the wife will be doing free nanny services while she shake body, repackage herself and look for another man that his 3rd leg is doing the work of his brain, get pregnant for that one and dump the child somewhere again and continues like that on and on

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Most women on this thread are making "convenient excuses" for the woman, due to gender solidarity.
If they want to be fair, they should make the same excuses for the man ...

...like the mother is a drug addict and has disappeared, leaving the baby helpless
..like the man is rich enough to care for four children so one extra makes no difference
...like if the woman can take care of her own 'four biological' child, why then cant she take care of her husbands single child?
...Like that child could be her fifth child afterall, she is still planning to have one more!
... like the man had discussed it with her and people have pleaded with her yet she was still headstrong!
.. like what other options are open to the man when everyone has pleaded with this witch of a woman yet she wont budge?

You see, l am sure some of you women are boiling right now and feel like using frying pan to scatter my head!
That is exactly how all those "convenient excuses" you'all are making for the woman, sounds like.

Agreed, the man misbehaved by philandering
Agreed, the woman who bore the child should also bear responsibility
Agreed, its never good to beat your wife

... but can we because of all the above reason, condemn an innocent two year old child who has no single responsibility in all the above, to homelessness, at that age.... when the child still has a father who has a house, other children and a family?

Let us conduct a TRUE TEST of INTENTIONS HERE. ... and let us be honest about it because we are just chatting here.

QUESTION:
1.) Let us imagine the child can speak and fight for itself and make choices; Would that child agree to be thrown out by the man's wife?

2.) If you were that child, what would be YOUR OWN decision/position? That the wife is right to throw you out of your fathers house ... or that she should take a chill afterall, nobody knows tomorrow?

If you give yourself a honest answer, God will be your Judge in future.


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SAMBARRY:
This is exactly the reason why some step mothers treat their step children with so much contempt much less when the child is so young and a love child and when the father is around she starts pretending to care for the child


this your gra gra method is going to affect the child because it is the child that is at the middle and the receiving end of the wahala

some women will transfer the unresolved resentment the father did to her on the child and the child will grow up to be a nuisance except for the intervention of God

how can you give a child to someone who is not happy with you much less the mother and expect the person to bring up the child in love. You will just successfully expose the child to so many dehumanising treatment and in your presence she will pretend and the child self esteem will be so dead that she will be afraid to report. Shiooorrr

you need to ask yourself why God put your dick facing down and your brain inside your head facing up.it means that you are meant to think with your brain not your dick

Some step mothers... not all... which indirectly mean you agree some women would actually care for the child... step mothers like Tonto Dike's... is she not a human being...?! isn't she a woman...?!

then you decide to show your woman wrapper side... I pray you end up with a woman like cococandy... you're bleeped...

SAMBARRY:
I feel the woman didn't make a wise decision. She should have kept quiet and allowed the man do whatever he wants. Take care of the child. When he grows up to an age of knowing his left from his right. Let's say like 9 or ten frustrate him to the extent that he will run away from home. At least if he runs away nobody will say it is your fault. You go dey siddon look

if you end up in hell... I know why...

iPopAlomo:



Some step mothers... not all... which indirectly mean you agree some women would actually care for the child... step mothers like Tonto Dike's... is she not a human being...?! isn't she a woman...?!

then you decide to show your woman wrapper side... I pray you end up with a woman like cococandy... you're bleeped...

if you are referring to the cococandy I know she's a very pleasant lady and deserves the best of the best men who knows what having regards for women means

so to the matter tonto was never a love child. Her biological mother died and the father remarried. What's the big deal about that. So it was a different scenario entirely. The father informed the woman of his situation and she was cool with it.tonto wasn't forced on her step mother


the difference is clear.

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iPopAlomo:



if you end up in hell... I know why...

as the gate man of hell fire kindly give me a list of those in hell fire

nonsense. Apart from even love child matter. Let's remove that out of the equation. Can you give your child to someone who you know has unresolved beef with you and hates you and the mother of the child and you can sleep peacefully knowing your child is in safe hands in your absence?

No you too reason am . talk more of an angry woman who feels cheated

I

SAMBARRY:
as the gate man of hell fire kindly give me a list of those in hell fire

nonsense. Apart from even love child matter. Let's remove that out of the equation. Can you give your child to someone who you know has unresolved beef with you and hates you and the mother of the child and you can sleep peacefully knowing your child is in safe hands in your absence?

No you too reason am . talk more of an angry woman who feels cheated

The same wife I married... Or another woman... unresolved beef and she's still living with me... guy get sense nah...

SAMBARRY:
if you are referring to the cococandy I know she's a very pleasant lady and deserves the best of the best men who knows what having regards for women means

so to the matter tonto was never a love child. Her biological mother died and the father remarried. What's the big deal about that. So it was a different scenario entirely. The father informed the woman of his situation and she was cool with it.tonto wasn't forced on her step mother


the difference is clear.

Next

funny this came out from you... the same step mothers you bashed in previous post... if she wanted to act a b!tch... won't she...?! if she took your bleeped up suggestion... maltreated tonto till the point she ran away from home... who would stop her... some women reason better than you...

and it's obvious all this sentiment is to get the attention of cococandy... Fucking woman wrapper... she's married... allegedly though...

SAMBARRY:
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see who I'm arguing with... when you get married... 30 years in... come back and edit this post... if nairaland still exist... nah your type God dey throw ashawo give...

You love her... you married her... you found out she's my regular LovePeddler... let's see what you resulted too...

fucking idiot... living behind the fantasy of a quote... do not quote me ever again...

iPopAlomo:
What would it cost the woman to care for the child...

no need to batter anybody... but if she was my wife... she knows she's packing out that same day...

Shay me way get plan to even adopt children... that aren't even mine... just to care for the child... e don turn to work...

Fucking witch... women are women's greatest enemies... it's obvious she would turn the girl to housemaid sef... she as she resemble kirimanje...

I hope when your wife brings to your matrimonial home a child fathered by another man you will be understanding enough to take care of the child. What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

iPopAlomo:


we know the type of woman you are... so if I came home with an adopted kid... you'll turn the child to a maid... more reason why I do baby mamas than wife...

This is not an adopted child. This is a child borne out of the man's lack of self-control. See how useless your life is, promoting baby mamas over legitimate wives.

whirlwind7:
Traditional African customs have put most women in a disadvantage, especially those with randy husbands. If it were not so, this man wouldn't dream of bringing a love child to his matrimonial home.
To beat up his wife on top of it, is just too much to stomach. It is disheartening to learn that your spouse is cheating on you. But suddenly bringing home a child you fathered with another woman, and still expect your wife to "act obedient and responsibly" is the height of insensitivity.

And for the policeman who said its purely a family affair, that's nothing strange. No one expects animals in uniform to suddenly become human.
Battery and physical assault is clearly involved in this. It has become a criminal issue. Plus a helpless and innocent child who would bear the brunt of the entire episode.
Such a pity!

I hate it when people try to get talk down on African traditions even under the customary law... If a man beats his wife... The family has the right to section the man..... Read things fall apart by China achiebe when they dragged the wife beater to the local court and also I study customary law don't paint our traditions evil

iPopAlomo:
That I married any of you b!tches... I am actually doing you a favour... you ladies need to get that into your heads...

Your true colours are showing. I pity the woman who will make the mistake of getting married to you. Actually I pray you remain single because I wouldn't wish you to get married to my worse enemy.

I am done arguing with an air head. Happy independence day

iPopAlomo:



see who I'm arguing with... when you get married... 30 years in... come back and edit this post... if nairaland still exist... nah your type God dey throw ashawo give...

You love her... you married her... you found out she's my regular LovePeddler... let's see what you resulted too...

fucking idiot... living behind the fantasy of a quote... do not quote me ever again...

Mr man in getting wisdom get understanding

tontos father was previously married to tontos mother before she died and then he remarried. Tonto was never a love child. She was not a product of a sexcapade or an unplanned quickie that resulted in pregnancy. She was born by 2parents in a home unfortunately the mother died and he remarried someone who was ready to accept and love his daughter BASED ON AGREEMENT.tonto wasn't dumped on her unexpectedly after several years of marriage

THAT IS THE DIFFERENCE

DO YOU UNDERSTAND ABI DOES YOUR BRAIN HAVE HOLES THAT IT IS UNABLE TO RETAIN INFORMATION NI?

iPopAlomo:



funny this came out from you... the same step mothers you bashed in previous post... if she wanted to act a b!tch... won't she...?! if she took your bleeped up suggestion... maltreated tonto till the point she ran away from home... who would stop her... some women reason better than you...

and it's obvious all this sentiment is to get the attention of cococandy... Fucking woman wrapper... she's married... allegedly though...

Aude:


I hope when your wife brings to your matrimonial home a child fathered by another man you will be understanding enough to take care of the child. What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

you are confused... really confused... my house... my child... I can always bring my child in... there's no scenario change...

SAMBARRY:
I feel the woman didn't make a wise decision. She should have kept quiet and allowed the man do whatever he wants. Take care of the child. When he grows up to an age of knowing his left from his right. Let's say like 9 or ten frustrate him to the extent that he will run away from home. At least if he runs away nobody will say it is your fault. You go dey siddon look

There's no way you can justify this statement... if you were Tonto Dike's step mom... I know what you would have done... quite quoting me... I don't roll with animals in human skin...


even cococandy won't subscribe to this bullpoo you just wrote down without thinking...

iPopAlomo:



The same wife I married... Or another woman... unresolved beef and she's still living with me... guy get sense nah...

my dear ipop alomo.please pop CIMMON SENSE NA.it is free of charge. GOD gave us free. He didn't collect a dime from us

that a woman is obviously saying she's not going to accept custody of the child and you beat her up to the level you don turn am to dense person do you think there's no LIKELIHOOD THAT SHE WILL NOT TRANSFER HER BEEF WITH YOU ON THE CHILD

there are wicked step mothers and there are sweet step mothers but any wicked step mother you see is wicked because she is transferring the beef she has against either the mother of the child or the father

as for trying to get cococandys attention I only have a soft spot for her brain and ways of reasoning nothing more. I know she doesn't have sexual attraction for me the same way I don't have for her

SAMBARRY:
Mr man in getting wisdom get understanding

tontos father was previously married to tontos mother before she died and then he remarried. Tonto was never a love child. She was not a product of a sexcapade or an unplanned quickie that resulted in pregnancy. She was born by 2parents in a home unfortunately the mother died and he remarried someone who was ready to accept and love his daughter BASED ON AGREEMENT.tonto wasn't dumped on her unexpectedly after several years of marriage

THAT IS THE DIFFERENCE

DO YOU UNDERSTAND ABI DOES YOUR BRAIN HAVE HOLES THAT IT IS UNABLE TO RETAIN INFORMATION NI?

were you there when they signed an agreement... guy shut up... your brain is on reboot... common sense dictates she cares for her... another woman wouldn't...

iPopAlomo:



There's no way you can justify this statement... if you were Tonto Dike's step mom... I know what you would have done... quite quoting me... I don't roll with animals in human skin...


even cococandy won't subscribe to this bullpoo you just wrote down without thinking...

yes . The motive of frustrating him is that I have done enough free nanny service its time to leave home and go and look for your mother who is probably somewhere having a good time.

ABI how will someone have sex, get pregnant, birth the child and is not ready to take care of the child. If you know that you still want to chop life unhindered then you use preventive measures not to get pregnant abi ewoni aye monkey dey work baboon dey chop. Shiorrr

SAMBARRY:
yes . The motive of frustrating him is that I have done enough free nanny service its time to leave home and go and look for your mother who is probably somewhere having a good time.

ABI how will someone have sex, get pregnant, birth the child and is not ready to take care of the child. If you know that you still want to chop life unhindered then you use preventive measures not to get pregnant abi ewoni aye monkey dey work baboon dey chop. Shiorrr

Leave the husband... divorce no be option again... you is a b!tch ass nigga... dude lemme... I'm not gay abeg...

iPopAlomo:



were you there when they signed an agreement... guy shut up... your brain is on reboot... common sense dictates she cares for her... another woman wouldn't...

I don't have to be there before my common sense tels me tontos step mother knew he was once married with a child before she agreed to marry him and his child which is different from two individuals who married as spinster and bachelor with no child from anybody anywhere and all of a sudden in the middle of marriage they forcefully dump a child on you to take care of without any regards for her feelings like she's an emotionless and unfeeling log of wood