johnwizey:
Straight outta my mind. The only difference is dat I will not massage his/her body after the beating instead he/she will kneel down raise his/her hands up and close his/her eyes for two hours

Lol. You're harsh o

I'm just following my mum's methods

Truckpusher:
Every man's reaction would depend on a lot of factors that defines that very society.And this is why we need to raise kids with the ugly bitter truth irrespective of what the world present to them.

As a father you're still in charge any screw ups is your fault and as a mother your value system must be crystal clear after all children learn from parents .
The woman failed in her job.

The child is obviously spoilt.

Ishilove:

The child is obviously spoilt.

And all she wanted was use to those beatings to make up for what she failed to do for years.


Parenting in advance societies are failing everyday yet we don't want to talk about it.

Truckpusher:
And all she wanted was use to those beatings to make up for what she failed to do for years.


Parenting in advance societies are failing everyday yet we don't want to talk about it.

Nigeria isn't exactly an advanced society, but parenting in this present generation is a hot mess

If my child did this.... hmmmmn, he or she will learn how to scuba dive within an hr o... in a septic tank ... 162,000 nor be plate of beans o... hian!

I understand the kind of frustration that led her to beat the child.

But nothing has been achieved.
Even if she lived in a society where beating is allowed, she wouldn't have achieved anything by the beating.

If your child doesn't respect you, beating them won't make them respect you. And what we see here is a clear case of disrespect to the mom.

The questions is why doesn't the child respect the mom? We can't be sure this is the first time she hit him/her so why hasn't that respect grown with beatings?

It Shows the foundations isn't right somewhere and that's not something beatings correct.

I know from experience that beating doesn't stop kids form doing whatever it is they were beaten for.

May god help parents sha.

Ishilove:

Nigeria isn't exactly an advanced society, but parenting in this present generation is a hot mess

Well, I should have said for those that have accepted mordern parenting anyway.

Nigeria isn't civilized yet you have a growing healthy middle class that are exposed and have become acculturated hence you have the same thing that is obtainable there in the civilized nations also obtainable here too by default.

cococandy:
I understand the kind of frustration that led her to beat the child.

But nothing has been achieved.
Even if she lived in a society where beating is allowed, she wouldn't have achieved anything by the beating.

If your child doesn't respect you, beating them won't make them respect you. And what we see here is a clear case of disrespect to the mom.

The questions is why doesn't the child respect the mom? We can't be sure this is the first time she hit him/her so why hasn't that respect grown with beatings?

It Shows the foundations isn't right somewhere and that's not something beatings correct.

I know from experience that beating doesn't stop kids form doing whatever it is they were beaten for.

May god help parents sha.

Well, you've made a valid point watered with every milk of human kindness towards fellow humanity but sorry to say to you that beatings and corporal punishments sometimes straightens some kids until they are able to make rational decisions. But just imagine a society where everything a child does goes , with mild scolding that won't send the same needed message like the crime committed , I can argue that some smart children will manipulate such a system and we've seen cases where evidences like that abound in this same culture where a lot of senseless crime is fast becoming a daily routine.
The system is forcing parents to adopt a particular ideology in raising kids unlike what is obtainable.
During our time , the fear of my mother wouldn't let me even look at that money if she's counting it how much more flushing it down the drain.

E dun set be that nau.

After then whip you finish, you still manage to spoil.

But seriously though why do you think mild scolding is the only other form of punishment apart from beating?

Truckpusher:
Well, you've made a valid point with watered with every milk of human kindness towards fellow humanity but sorry to say to you that beatings and corporal punishments sometimes straightens some kids until they are able to make rational decisions. But just imagine a society where everything a child does goes , with mild scolding that won't send the same needed message like the crime committed , I can argue that some smart children will manipulate such a system and we've seen cases where evidences like that abound in this same culture where a lot of senseless crime is fast becoming a daily routine.
The system is forcing parents to adopt a particular ideology in raising kids unlike what is obtainable.
During our time , the fear of my mother wouldn't let me even look at that money if she's counting it how much more flushing it down the drain.

E dun set be that nau.

jaymejate:
4 naija o, walahi we go open the septic tank that day.

I'll probably flush her too.

cococandy:
After then whip you finish, you still manage to spoil.

But seriously though why do you think mild scolding is the only other form of punishment apart from beating?

Lol, I wasn't spoiled at all, I only used wisdom to exists in a society that was awash with all sorts of thing called humans with lots of negtive energy .
I do not believe in mild scolding at all - my sister use to tell her kids that ''if you do anyhow ,you see anyhow" and her first child understood that language more than anyone else - He did something in school and he got it very nasty and he stopped because that was the third time he did same thing .

Some smart kids won't cause problems even when they wanted to simply because there would be prices just like some adults are only staying away from problems because of getting injured and jail.

I can't beat my child like that oooo.
But sure I will whine his/hers anti clockwise for a minute! That's all.

On a more personal note, I hve only ever spanked my son thrice in 6yrs and to be honest I don't think it did any good, I think parenting these days has become a jig saw puzzle only very few people have been able to NEARLY solve... kids these days are too exposed and "wise" for their age.

Am a modern day individual and I think it's babaric to hit a child and in this case it doesn't warrant it at all. Just simply give am shovel make e dig d soakaway simple. I rest my case.

To me, I no need do anything cos them no born am well make he/she try am and I don't think Nigerian trained children does stuffs like this. This made me remember one of Basketmouth's joke that:

In the white people country, if a girl is angry with his boyfriend she goes around the boy's house breaking stuffs and the guy will be like baby I'm sorry BUT if na em girlfriend or any Naija boy girlfriend wey dey angry with the guy wey she come carry glass cup say em wan break say em go tell her holding his ear that IF YOU BREAK AM I go beat the hell outta you.

such things can't happen in Nigeria

haaa me? i will jst pledge d child to d landlord as d rent nd will neva regret any chiii

babythug:
This is not good at all....

I'd probably run out of the house onto the main street just to avoid reacting!!!!!!!!!!!!

shoro niyen!!

When will these neighbours start minding their business.

D child has a wicked mind.
D mum no beat am well.

She for use better cane give the child spotting waves for bom bom as he deliberately did it to pain d mum.

I would beat that child with cane.

Ishilove:
Nairalanders: How would you react if your child deliberately flushed N162,000 house rent money down the toilet because you refused to watch a movie with him/her?

Note that $720 is about N162,000 in Nigerian currency.

You can't solve American Problem with Nigerian mentality

Walahi na for jaw I go blow d child...unless d child is bw 1-2yrs

Those saying beating a child doesn't correct the child are just wrong. Speaking for myself, if not for my dad's flogging only God knows what I would have become. My dad didn't flog with canes but wires. The fear of those wires made me conscious of everything I was doing. If you're not awake by 6am, the wire would wake u up. N it seemed like as d day goes by the pain increases. It really helped shape my life.

Ishilove:
I came across this story online and I was flabbergasted.

Danielle Whipple, a 24 year old single mother was arrested for beating her child who flushed their rent money down the toilet because she (the mum} refused to watch TV.

The woman's neighbours reported to the police because they heard the child crying and heard the sound of smacking. When police arrived at the scene, they found Whipple' child, whose gender and age was not released, with a black eye, a bleeding nose and a red handprint on the face.

Subsequently she was arrested and now faces a charge of felony child abuse.

Now, I am in no way in support of child abuse, but i want to throw it to Nairalanders: How would you react if your child deliberately flushed N162,000 house rent money down the toilet because you refused to watch a movie with him/her?

Note that $720 is about N162,000 in Nigerian currency.

Obviously, my child cannot do this because I must had stared early enough to train him/her well

I will find a way to open the socker away to retrieve the fund first cos your landlord won't take excuse of that nature. Now that the matter is in court, she might get pardon on moral ground

Idowuogbo:
Bleeding nose and black eye ke? Na baseball bat she use wooze the pikin? That's too much mehn! Beating won't change nada! I go use hot iron tattoo 720 for the pikin body.

Jokes aside, i'll house arrest that child and deprive him/her of treats.

Ms Ogboyenyen it been a while. Where have you been all these days? Hope you are fine?

In as much as I dnt encourages excessive beating of child I think this child needs such to help him drives away that evil spirit that lead him to flush a whole one year rentage fee . Infact that child deserv to sleep on the street for one night just for him to no what it takes to put roof over his head but again if the child is between 1-5years I will so flog his nash . Anyways our 9ja children no fit try vex reach that height na.

A 24 yr old single mother and the child action gives me an insight that the child might be within the 6 yrs old bracket. The mother is failing, and must have allowed the child to develop sense of entitlement. Spanking the child is very appropriate in the short term and then deprive the child of other luxuries in the long term to let the punishment sink. Bodily harm in the process of spanking should not be encouraged sha.

lol....gobe
God knows that child of mine must recieve serious beating and punishment.
All these white people pikin sef.

bigfrancis21:
I totally understand that the mother acted out of frustration or anger. $720 is quite an amount to throw down the drain like that. However, the major issue is parents are not allowed to hit their kids heavily, especially if it results to body damage or psychological after-effects. Spanking is permitted, especially as a form of correction to let the child know that it did something not right. Where it gets bad is when the spanking becomes excessive, frequent or the child suffers physical or emotional damage as a result.

It is usually said that black mothers spank their children more often than white mothers.

Ur child will do d same 2u so you'll know hw it feels.u dnt even knw if d woman is a widow or she borrowed d money.I'm not in support of extreme violence afterall beating d child won't bring back d money.the child tho deserves d beating