If the man becomes the next Dangote, the lady will be doing everything possible to gatecrash him. I believe that man is not a Dullard but is doing everything to achieve the possibilty

missyadorable:
Same issue I had with my ex.So glad I didn't rush to marry him or ignore the warning signs.Dude lied he was a chemical engr n worked in the rig only for me to find out he had only an SSCE and worked as a cleaner in a ship.

He said he lied to fit into my social class.
What? Lawyer wife + Cleaner husband=GOD FORBID

Oops! I was lucky!! No wonder he was "pushing" for marriage so early in the relationship..Wayo!

Better to be truthful,there are still rich/educated ladies who can marry poor/stark illiterates.Everybody has his/her choice,taste and class.

It's not pride.and even if it is,nothing wrong with it.
Each and everyone of us has a level of pride!

You are very lucky you were being wise. It's so wrong to deceive someone into being with you knowing fully well you want or are in different places in life. She'll just hate you for that lie.

edwife:
Hmmm,when desperation sets in.She was 32 and didn't bother to make adequate inquiries before marrying the fellow.It took her 6 years?


I do understand he deceived her,but if he has provided for the family for 6 years,is there any need for divorce? The death threats probably because she threatened to leave him,this is the only problem here.

This is an entirely different viewpoint tho, yeah....why wait for 6years, obviously she didn't take that long to discover the deception.

GentleToks:


Red alert!!!!!

Boys, the moment you see a lady picking on things like this, run for your future. She is one of those westernised screwed up ladies that would pick on your silly words and demand for divorce at every slight issues..

She never loved the guy in question in the first place. Certificate would ve been the least thing on her mind if she truly love him from onset.

But your are extrapolating from this news just as I am. You are imagining that this woman broke up with her husband because of certificate meanwhile she said assault and threats. For all we know, she could have known about the degree thing all along and went with it but for the insults. But you assumed the worst.

I will not support a Nigerian woman to live with an abuser. Its because you guys love to bash Nigerian women on this website thats why you can't see through your nose.

She divorced him for assault not certificate. In what way is death threats silly words? Please!!

fulanigirl:
It seems like the men on this forum are always ready to call a woman a goldigger. This man deceived her into marrying him but somehow she's the one in the wrong. Everyone knows what they want in life and a partner and he robbed her of it. If I was in her shoes I would've divorced him earlier. I've worked very hard to be financially stable and I wouldn't dream of marrying someone that isn't stable and can't support himself never mind a family.

They also ignored the assault part. But its Nairaland of course. Always find a way to blame women.

jnrbayano:


It is a criminal offence to assault one's spouse and that I know very well but I will have to ask, is this assault as old as the marriage?

What triggered wanting divorce? Can't this assault and threat to live be treated without wanting to divorce?

Which marriage institution is Topsy-Turvy proof?

I bet you are a man so its easy for you to throwaway words like this. No empathy at all.
Have you tried living with a man with twice your strength beating you at every turn. Would you stay! Of course not!

But here you are, telling a woman to stay in an abusive home

Love Machine:
Have you not lied to a guy that you were a virgin even though you are a pro in it?Be sincere.

No! If a guy cannot accept me because I don't have a membrane. Then he can move along with the rest.

agobentim:
The lady is just using the threat to life as an excuse to leave the marriage. That's what mostladies do when they want to leave. Marriage or relationship. Some will tag u being violent or asssaulting them if ordinary Argument ensued and hold you them if they are walking out on you (talking from personal experience). One guy is deceiving her somewhere again because I can see that she has big eyes and she love lies. Let her go, we will see who will suffer. It is because of all diskind long throat that she married late in the first place.

But the guy and the judge prove beyond reasonable doubts that she was infact assaulted. Its there in the post. You would think that if It was a lie, he would deny it

I was a victim of deceit by a lady and had to cancel the traditional marriage and church wedding two days away. The lies and deceits were too much that I cannot longer endure. Among her many lies: She lied to me that she was pregnant and also presented a fake university degree. Though I loved her but could not trust her again and had to cancel our wedding that was to hold in two days time. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

obinnashady:
she will soon reach menopause,so all the demerits go to her considering her age and all

Do women die at menopause?, contrary to 'the nairaland male Bible for women '. I personally cannot wait for menopause to come sef, bleeding every month is tiring.

He goat u self dey talk,am sure that u r talking to those that senior me,younger,and my age mate in ur family including ur mama and papa,ugly pig.

raayah:


I bet you are a man so its easy for you to throwaway words like this. No empathy at all.
Have you tried living with a man with twice your strength beating you at every turn. Would you stay! Of course not!

But here you are, telling a woman to stay in an abusive home

You saw questionmarks littered everywhere in my post and yet responding to it is more herculean than forcasting what I may be talking about. Amazing!

Now, return to all my posts here to read and comprehend.

Obynolee:


I think the major reason for the divorce is that the guy is poor,because if he is financially buoyant, she will not have divorced her despite the deceit and threat to life.My opinion though.

My brother if d guy is rich I knw she 'll never remember d lies he told her in d beginning. Infact na women dey make us lie cos we tell them what they want to hear.

At least he is better than some people without certificate

That Alibi is disgusting.
What do you mean by "after consultation with your Pastor" did your pastor tell you to obtain a woman by trick. Why not tell her who you are and let her make her decision. Afterall, there are many fishes in the ocean.

raayah:


No! If a guy cannot accept me because I don't have a membrane. Then he can move along with the rest.

But you might have told a lie to a guy that has enough cash so that he could accept you for deceiving him?

momentum85:

My brother if d is rich I knw she 'll never remember d lies he told her in d beginning. Infact na women dey make us lie cos we tell them what they want to hear.

Why don't you just date a woman that will accept you as you are?

raayah:


Do women die at menopause?, contrary to 'the nairaland male Bible for women '. I personally cannot wait for menopause to come sef, bleeding every month is tiring.

hahahaha..but that's ur pride as a woman.

raayah:


Do women die at menopause?, contrary to 'the nairaland male Bible for women '. I personally cannot wait for menopause to come sef, bleeding every month is tiring.

u sef...fine babe no pimple,u no wan born fine fine babies abi?

daretodiffer:


She also chopped his kpomo. It takes two to tango. The marriage could have been based on love. However I am not surprised, the first thing mentally unstable men think of when a woman is the victim, is how she could have brought it upon herself.

babes...her kpomo was eaten for 6 good years,which might even be the main reason why the guy lied in the first place,am looking @ a scenario where this woman is one who loves or goes after only Educated men,and the guy deviced a perfect means to chop that 'kpomo'.trust me,guys are bad like that.

Steve Jobs’ Last Words -

I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world.
In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success.

However, aside from work, I have little joy. In the end, wealth is only a fact of life that I am accustomed to.

At this moment, lying on the sick bed and recalling my whole life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in, have paled and become meaningless in the face of impending death.

In the darkness, I look at the green lights from the life supporting machines and hear the humming mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of god of death drawing closer…

Now I know, when we have accumulated sufficient wealth to last our lifetime, we should pursue other matters that are unrelated to wealth…
Should be something that is more important:

Perhaps relationships, perhaps art, perhaps a dream from younger days ...
Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me.

God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth.

The wealth I have won in my life I cannot bring with me.
What I can bring is only the memories precipitated by love.
That’s the true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on.

Love can travel a thousand miles. Life has no limit. Go where you want to go. Reach the height you want to reach. It is all in your heart and in your hands.
What is the most expensive bed in the world? - "Sick bed" …

You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear the sickness for you.
Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – "Life".

When a person goes into the operating room, he will realize that there is one book that he has yet to finish reading – "Book of Healthy Life".

Whichever stage in life we are at right now, with time, we will face the day when the curtain comes down.

Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends...

Treat yourself well. Cherish others.

missyadorable:
Same issue I had with my ex.So glad I didn't rush to marry him or ignore the warning signs.Dude lied he was a chemical engr n worked in the rig only for me to find out he had only an SSCE and worked as a cleaner in a ship.

He said he lied to fit into my social class.
What? Lawyer wife + Cleaner husband=GOD FORBID

Oops! I was lucky!! No wonder he was "pushing" for marriage so early in the relationship..Wayo!

Better to be truthful,there are still rich/educated ladies who can marry poor/stark illiterates.Everybody has his/her choice,taste and class.

It's not pride.and even if it is,nothing wrong with it.
Each and everyone of us has a level of pride!

wonder what you are feeling like,go get a life

Did Steve really say all these?

Babyphinas:
Steve Jobs’ Last Words -

I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world.
In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success.

However, aside from work, I have little joy. In the end, wealth is only a fact of life that I am accustomed to.

At this moment, lying on the sick bed and recalling my whole life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in, have paled and become meaningless in the face of impending death.

In the darkness, I look at the green lights from the life supporting machines and hear the humming mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of god of death drawing closer…

Now I know, when we have accumulated sufficient wealth to last our lifetime, we should pursue other matters that are unrelated to wealth…
Should be something that is more important:

Perhaps relationships, perhaps art, perhaps a dream from younger days ...
Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me.

God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth.

The wealth I have won in my life I cannot bring with me.
What I can bring is only the memories precipitated by love.
That’s the true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on.

Love can travel a thousand miles. Life has no limit. Go where you want to go. Reach the height you want to reach. It is all in your heart and in your hands.
What is the most expensive bed in the world? - "Sick bed" …

You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear the sickness for you.
Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – "Life".

When a person goes into the operating room, he will realize that there is one book that he has yet to finish reading – "Book of Healthy Life".

Whichever stage in life we are at right now, with time, we will face the day when the curtain comes down.

Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends...

Treat yourself well. Cherish others.

what a poser!

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tonytony208:
It is clear the lady married certificate and financial buoyancy and not the man. This means she could have married just any dog as long as the dog has certificate and money. Why are women so blind and selfish? What if certificate gets burnt and money finishes? You will go for another man, abi? It is clear women don't really love men; they only love what the man has to offer, even if they have nothing to offer on their part aside sex, as if sex is the only thing a man is looking for in a woman. Many of them see relationship and marriage as poverty alleviation program. So disgusting!

So, what now happens to peeps like us that are searching for true love?

Keep searching- like it really exist

obinnashady:
babes...her kpomo was eaten for 6 good years,which might even be the main reason why the guy lied in the first place,am looking @ a scenario where this woman is one who loves or goes after only Educated men,and the guy deviced a perfect means to chop that 'kpomo'.trust me,guys are bad like that.

The man kpomo eaten for good 6 years. Some women sleep with men for sex despite having serious bfs

What's there in saying the truth?it only implied that the marriage was contracted based on the fact that he read masscom and not on the basis of love. [color=#006600][/color]

Gues, your man is beating you too o. Your dp tells me so.

daretodiffer:


The man kpomo eaten for good 6 years. Some women sleep with men for sex despite having serious bfs

olatricia:
Gues, your man is beating you too o. Your dp tells me so.

Aren't you a silly boy?

The guy try na.. Shebi dem say him get O'level Degree.. Degree na Degree.. Besides some top government officials don't have it n couldn't present deres when de where called upon. Abeg make d woman carry her sack bag go bck 2 her husband house.. Aisha survived it for 26 yrs.. She too can.. #meanwhile,jamming up#No-Love Remix##

fulanigirl:


Why don't you just date a woman that will accept you as you are?

Why not!!! But d question is would she really accept me d way I am?