Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,152,460 members, 7,816,079 topics. Date: Friday, 03 May 2024 at 02:59 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / And He Has A 'side Chick' (4649 Views)
Port Harcourt Lady Fights Dirty With Side Chick Snatching Her Husband / Nude Woman Curses Her Husband, His Side Chick In Abuja At Midnight-Facebook User / Wife Floods The Streets Of Calabar With Posters Of Her Husband's Side Chick (2) (3) (4)
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Fhemmmy: 4:35pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
MrsPhyno: [b]I can see you are not getting it . . . . do you read part of the write up where was mentioned that the wife smells of garlic and onion? do you read the part that says the wife was too tired from all the wahala of the weekend and tell the man off, or maybe you didn't read the part where it says the woman was even depressed from the time she realize only one more day left in the weekend after all the wahala . . . . or wait a minute, please read again where she said that the woman just lie down there with the man just doing his own thing. Now again, like i mentioned earlier, the ladies needs to stop accepting wishy washy in their relationship, before the exchange of vows, make sure there are serious talk on how the chores of the house should and would be handled and don't wait till after the wedding (after you have been washing and cooking and worshiping the man) to now wanna lay down some rules. If serious talk were made before the exchange of vows and they both make the work easier and have fun together, it will be lots easier to curb cheating than leaving it to God.[/b] |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Nobody: 4:47pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Fhemmmy:I get what ur saying but I'm saying that none of those are good enough excuses for the guy to cheat. Because she's tired or smells like garlic like which Kain rubbish..... So its still 100% the dudes fault and curbing cheating is not the wife's rresponsibility. She doesn't cheat, she has kept her promise. He cheats, he broke his promise and is a dirty liar finish. Self control is key, just because she smells like garlic doesn't mean he should go outside . that's why he has a mouth, so he can talk about it, instead of becoming an irresponsible scoundrel 6 Likes |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by babysophie(f): 4:52pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
feeekey:Evn ur boo get a boo solves it all. |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by babysophie(f): 4:53pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
RiloKiley:Many do. |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Nobody: 4:56pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: Is it so hard to talk to her about the garlic smell and other stuff? |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by babysophie(f): 4:57pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Babacele:All sagging boobs wre once erect n all standing boobs wil fall someday. Someday d side chick wil also b a wife. 1 Like |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Fhemmmy: 4:59pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
MrsPhyno: They both have a role to play . . . I am not saying and will NEVER say it is good enough for a man to cheat, but inasmuch as it depends on you, leave no room for him to display what he already has in miind, dont help him get there, do you part and if he chose to wag is tail between his legs to another mumbo jumbo, you know it has nothing to do with you as the wife . . . . . |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Fhemmmy: 5:02pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
andromida: Not all women are easy to talk to . . . . . So let the woman too do all those things she did that made the man to commit to her, you wanna tell me if you go on a date with the man before you marry and you know you smell of garlic and onion, you wont take care of it before he picks you up for the date? In one word, what works during dating will always and forever work . . . . . if you use to turn his head with acrobatic hoochie coochie, why stop now all in the name of "We are already married" while in the marriage is even when you need to learn more and profitable moves that will make the man wanna run home after work. The woman needs to make herself a later of discovery that the more the husband think he knows, the more he discovers. 2 Likes |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Babacele: 5:23pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
babysophie:correct Sophie, absolutely. but there is no 1 answer to the provocations that this topic elicits when history, religion, culture and human dynamics are involved. Different folks will engage different strokes but I d subscribe to the spirit n content of the contract between the marital parties ab initio . I'm still learning, though. |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by byvan03: 5:31pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Lol, hilarious, solution? What happens to giving the Eba to who lick your soup? |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Babacele: 5:32pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
babysophie:that is correct Sophie, absolutely. |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by babysophie(f): 6:27pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Babacele:Yeah,so no nid for d wife to worry,its all abt packaging. |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by babysophie(f): 6:36pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Babacele:D answer to evry problem is always within. Provocation will nt change anything,as it has bn an increasingly recurring decimal in d society. D woman shld b more involved in income-generating tasks n she wil v no tym n energy whining over a cheating man. |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Nobody: 6:36pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
that isnt a side chick o! The man is long gone only God can bring this one back home Big joe has been very busy The annoying thing is that when the man is old, sick, haggard & fagged out and the side chicks have all run away, its the wife who will be left to look after him It is well. Anyway let me rant about hair nets I think they are the most unsexy thing invented To what effect Hubby sees you in hair net every night yet oga in the office sees your nice hair everyday let the hair be messed up jare |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Fhemmmy: 6:37pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
tearoses: Gbamly Said . . . . |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by montezz(f): 6:46pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Fhemmmy:I get the point you are coming from.....I hope you know dating and marriage(parenting) is totally different. She can be up and doing while dating him because the kids aint the picture. What the writer wrote in the article shows the woman is a very busy type(could be a full housewife/career type). Why can't the man help out with the kids? What happens to the lovey dovey they played in the bath tub while dating? Can't he playfully lead her to the bathroom and wash the'onion and garlic odor' off her body and give her the hot and crazy sex he gives the side chick. Marriage involves two people and both should strive to make things work..not some guy running outta his home,touring a 'sophisticated wanton' around the city. Some women are hard to talk to...I agree. But the man in the op's post never made a move to improve the relationship till he got caught. 1 Like |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by montezz(f): 6:48pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
tearoses:Hmmmmmm. Noted ma'am! |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Fhemmmy: 6:49pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
montezz: I totally agree with you BUT that was why i said many discussion ought to take place before wedding night . . . .Such as: 1. Would they have to hire assistance to help 2. What could be the man's duty from all the home chores 3. Date nights And so one . . . .Once all that is agreed on and the man breaks them, it will be easier to talk to the man and let him retrace his steps but when a woman while dating the man washes his clothes, go to his house and cook for him and do all chores for him while the man and his friends just sit and watch soccer, then dont expect much after the "I DO" |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by montezz(f): 6:53pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Fhemmmy:You are absolutely right! Some men are bound to cheat even when everything you listed above is in place. Marriage is just so complicated and it scares me to the bone. |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Fhemmmy: 6:55pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
montezz: Agreed and that was why i said earlier that, as the woman do your part so as for the man that would cheat not to see you as a reason why you did . . . . Same goes for the man not to allow the woman to point fingers at him as reason why she cheated. . . . |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by montezz(f): 7:01pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Fhemmmy:Hmmmm. Thanks! |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Nobody: 7:02pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Many times its just an excuse for an affair some men with beautiful wives still have affairs Looking after kids and raising a family is not easy And if the husband does not help with any chores then the wife is left to do everything Then you get some husbands who even though don't help at all in the house still refuse any house helps there are only 24 hours in a day and the woman is exhausted Ive seen where the woman is up before 5am bathing kids and cooking packed lunch while hubby is snoring in bed he gets more sleep than she does How wont she age and look haggard? If you want your wife to be looking lovely and sexy all the time, then provide a conducive environment and make her happy inu didun lo mara ya Family planning is also important Some people say they want to have all their kids while they are young if you have 4 kids under age 6 then you should expect your wife to be tired unless she is Victoria Beckham. 3 Likes |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by SAMBARRY: 10:15pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Is that so
|
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by profneyo(m): 10:38pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
MrsPhyno: Castrated loun loun |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Nobody: 11:16pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
profneyo:no chill abi |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by bukatyne(f): 11:19pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: You cannot compare the responibilities in dating to marriage na especially when kids start coming although I agree that a lot of people do not necessarily go deep during courtship. I think the cultural belief that a woman is solely responsible for building the home while the husband is a sleeping financial partner (never mind that women contribute a lot financially to the home) is a very serious problem. Rather than look for the next lady to cheat with, why doesn't the husband in the OP really drill down and look for a permanent solution to the problem? OK, wifey doesn't have time for him because she is overworked/ cannot prioritize/ lays too much emphasis on mundane tasks/ cannot multitask etc. What is the solution? Take the kids to school myself/get a maid/clean up immediately/ help her prioritize/ pick up some/more chores/ teach her how to delegate etc. To what end? Spending more time together and having more quality time/sex/discussions together etc. Yes, some women are Jezebels however how many women will you tell.... Babe, I noticed we don't spend much time together in bed/watching a movie/to talk etc. due to chores and the kids. I am thinking we should stop/I pick up etc. that they will not appreciate? If he spends half the time he used in courting and nurturing the relationship with his side babe to nourish his marriage, don't you think it would blossom more? IMHO, anyone who under the guise of 'my spouse is not meeting my needs' cheat is indirectly saying I am no longer interested in this marriage because cheating never solves any problem I just watched Dumebi and Bitter leaf Cynthia which buttresses my point. Dumebi wanted above all her husbandman's love and admiration and went about it in funny ways. Instead of her husband to channel her need into good, he was ready to throw the towel and cheat Not very Frank will be fortunate enough to meet a reformed Cynthia to do his work; often times, he has to do his work himself. 4 Likes |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by profneyo(m): 11:30pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Nobody: 11:36pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
profneyo:professor neyo, i would sleep but i have too much energy gnight anyways sha |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by Fhemmmy: 3:07am On Dec 09, 2015 |
bukatyne: Will be back tomorrow to respond..... eyes half closed |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by cococandy(f): 6:28am On Dec 09, 2015 |
It's just a nice story. There's no solutions outlined in it. |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by cococandy(f): 6:30am On Dec 09, 2015 |
Apt tearoses: |
Re: And He Has A 'side Chick' by cococandy(f): 6:31am On Dec 09, 2015 |
@bold, This too. bukatyne: |
What My Sister Did To Her Ex (pictures) / Your Wedding Night / I Beat Up My Husband Because He Is Irresponsible
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 91 |