Life is too short, tell your friend to do whatever makes him happy.

nyben4eva:
Hello nairalanders,a very good friend of mine came to me a couple of days ago with a detailed epistle of the trauma he faces with his job and how he's opted to quit,but insists on my advice before he hands in his resignation letter:

"I got my job six months after my NYSC and March 2015 was my eight years of working for the company.As an engineer,the job isn't my kind of job as it exposes me to lots of dangers and keeps me away from my family for at least six months every year.
My salary is more than half a million per month,yet I don't find joy doing what I'm been paid to do.

Thinking of my kids each time I leave home for work and how they cry to go with me is such a feeling that makes me wish I never had the job in the first place and at the same time,the thought of how they would fare if I quit without laying a proper foundation for their future makes me reconsider my decision and keep telling myself that I have to keep on going.

Though,I have most of the necessary things to make life a bit easier,but I'm always sad whenever is time to go to work.My wife on the other hand,tries to convince me before I'll finally make up my mind.It has been like this right from the onset,yet things aren't changing.
The most annoying aspect is that of my employers,an American company.They drain every bit of my energy and always remind me of how jobs are very scarce in Nigeria.

Right now,I have a business that could be fetching me at least two hundred thousand naira per month with lots of rooms for expansion and I feel so delighted that I'm going to become my own boss.
The happiness I derive from trying to do my own business is so boundless,but my problem is this: I don't want to go back to the same job once I quit".

Should I ask him to quit or continue with the job?Is happiness more important than pay?I need very intelligent answers, please.

I really understand how your friend feels, I have been in his shoe before,meanwhile, he has to consolidate his business first because nomatherwhat,he has to pick up his family responsibilities as the head and make extra ways to see if he can get another job to his prefered location and above all, pray!pray!!

fortune1968:
ur advice is good but,you must realise dt some women are terrible when it comes to money .d husband notwithstanding .if he will resign,he should do so&handle d business HIMSELF. these women ?...

True some women are terrible when it comes to money.

But she's his wife not his girlfriend. So however she chooses to run her husband's business will have a positive or negative effect on the family.

I would have advised him to hire a manager, but that would be worse considering how nonchalant most Nigerians behave when managing other peoples businesses.

His wife is his best option for now.

I feel ur pains, what i can say is for himself and the wife to come up with a plan. like how long they can hold up with the condition, save frantically, enhance and acquire new skills that would aid him in future. When all this has been acquired he can respectfully quit and focus on other spheres of his life.
To me there is nothing as important as bringing up ur kids in the right way, simply put after amassing all this wealth and having useless and uncontrollable kids what use is that money to u then.

My advise to your friend is to send me the company name, the date he plans to resign and the position he is presently occupying. I will apply immediately he quits. I am looking for such a job especially in an American company.

I work for a French company with less pay. My family is in PHC and I am in Lagos. I have no choice but to slave for the small salary. You are with your family and see them daily and you are complaining. I do not see my family for months. My last child does not even know I am the father.

This country when there is no work and BUHARI is not helping matters.

I see Pregnant Women working for 700naira per day a nd you are complaining, you should be giving thanks to God everyday that your family is taken care of.

mrking3:
Your friend is confused! Obviously from the Last paragraph!! He works with an American company earning that high figure yet, he's complaining! I know people that works like hell in this country and still doesn't earn close to what he claims he earn. Abeg, he should decide for himself!

Your friend has not told us the truth about his job.

op, here are some salient points in your friend's letter:

1. He has been working there for 8 years. That's long enough to be with a company one doesn't really like, more so at the expense of your family. You should even be commended for staying that long.

2. He earns satisfactorily. But it's not about money alone. If your wife is understanding and bear the pain, what about your kids? Your presence is needed at home.

3. He has a business beside - with a good cash flow for that matter (200k at least a month isn't bad at all. That's 4 Monty salary with hard labour of some people). With that he is good to go. But one word of caution: how much is his living expenses? Can it cut it down below the cash flow of 200k? What is his wife doing? Can she support him if peradventure the business fails after his resignation? And more importantly, what stops him from looking for another job while on the job or after he resigns?
If he can answer yes to all or most of the above, he should then resign.

nyben4eva:
Hello nairalanders,a very good friend of mine came to me a couple of days ago with a detailed epistle of the trauma he faces with his job and how he's opted to quit,but insists on my advice before he hands in his resignation letter:

"I got my job six months after my NYSC and March 2015 was my eight years of working for the company.As an engineer,the job isn't my kind of job as it exposes me to lots of dangers and keeps me away from my family for at least six months every year.
My salary is more than half a million per month,yet I don't find joy doing what I'm been paid to do.

Thinking of my kids each time I leave home for work and how they cry to go with me is such a feeling that makes me wish I never had the job in the first place and at the same time,the thought of how they would fare if I quit without laying a proper foundation for their future makes me reconsider my decision and keep telling myself that I have to keep on going.

Though,I have most of the necessary things to make life a bit easier,but I'm always sad whenever is time to go to work.My wife on the other hand,tries to convince me before I'll finally make up my mind.It has been like this right from the onset,yet things aren't changing.
The most annoying aspect is that of my employers,an American company.They drain every bit of my energy and always remind me of how jobs are very scarce in Nigeria.

Right now,I have a business that could be fetching me at least two hundred thousand naira per month with lots of rooms for expansion and I feel so delighted that I'm going to become my own boss.
The happiness I derive from trying to do my own business is so boundless,but my problem is this: I don't want to go back to the same job once I quit".

Should I ask him to quit or continue with the job?Is happiness more important than pay?I need very intelligent answers, please.

seun pls give these fiction ppl dia own section abeg
who in todays naija will be earnin dat much and be angry
mtcheeeèw
iranu

Oga abeg connect me with that your job Op let it also expose me to those dangers....

Leez:

seun pls give these fiction ppl dia own section abeg
who in todays naija will be earnin dat much and be angry
mtcheeeèw
iranu

You are simply wrong, even on my estate, I know at least 2 people who are almost in exactly the same position, and I know how difficult it is. American Oil companies are notoriously demanding, and they can really suck all the life out of you. In the beginning, you will be very excited about the salary they are paying you, but trust me, give it a couple of years of hard labour, and you will literally hate going to work every day.

The same is also true of a lot of the telecommunications companies right now as well. Pressure at work can be extremely damaging to a person's mind, body and psyche. So get it out of your mind that money is the cure to all ills in life, because its simply not true.

Everything is relative - what would you say if I told you that I know an American expat who recently quit his job with one of the major US Oil Companies in Nigeria, because the pressure of the job was so intense that he literally feared he was going to have a nervous breakdown. He was earning $500,000 per annum. Until very recently, when the regulations were changed, he was being paid in USD.

No amount of money is worth one's health, once that goes, no amount of money can ever bring it back. When you are lying on your deathbed, I promise you that for all the money you may have in the bank, you would gladly swap places with a broke, healthy person.

Money isn't everything bro, the sooner Nigerians in general learned that, the sooner will build a much better, friendlier, less aggressive society

Making 200k per mnth is enuf for him to maintain is family,bt for him to quit it depends on him,coz for a prson makn 500k per mnth to quit is job in dis naija...u hav to tink very well

nyben4eva:
Hello nairalanders,a very good friend of mine came to me a couple of days ago with a detailed epistle of the trauma he faces with his job and how he's opted to quit,but insists on my advice before he hands in his resignation letter:

"I got my job six months after my NYSC and March 2015 was my eight years of working for the company.As an engineer,the job isn't my kind of job as it exposes me to lots of dangers and keeps me away from my family for at least six months every year.
My salary is more than half a million per month,yet I don't find joy doing what I'm been paid to do.

Thinking of my kids each time I leave home for work and how they cry to go with me is such a feeling that makes me wish I never had the job in the first place and at the same time,the thought of how they would fare if I quit without laying a proper foundation for their future makes me reconsider my decision and keep telling myself that I have to keep on going.

Though,I have most of the necessary things to make life a bit easier,but I'm always sad whenever is time to go to work.My wife on the other hand,tries to convince me before I'll finally make up my mind.It has been like this right from the onset,yet things aren't changing.
The most annoying aspect is that of my employers,an American company.They drain every bit of my energy and always remind me of how jobs are very scarce in Nigeria.

Right now,I have a business that could be fetching me at least two hundred thousand naira per month with lots of rooms for expansion and I feel so delighted that I'm going to become my own boss.
The happiness I derive from trying to do my own business is so boundless,but my problem is this: I don't want to go back to the same job once I quit".

Should I ask him to quit or continue with the job?Is happiness more important than pay?I need very intelligent answers, please.

Every job has its ups and downs. Does he work in the oil industry ? I believe he should work some more and become a consultant.

Op, ur friend should have gathered more than enough after 8 yrs. If otherwise, then...............

There are things that money cannot buy, and personal fulfilment is on top of the list . . .
#speakingfromexperience

duduade:
I feel for your friend sha
But anyways.
Abeg drop the name of the company here ...

lwkmh omolomo
Do you want to take his place

Well u try just help me with the name and address of the company cos me I need job badly

I did not read your post to d end.. my advice Quit nd let someone else take d job

mrking3:
Your friend is confused! Obviously from the Last paragraph!! He works with an American company earning that high figure yet, he's complaining! I know people that works like hell in this country and still doesn't earn close to what he claims he earn. Abeg, he should decide for himself!

He wasn't complaining about money or that his employers hangs his job over his head., if someone else gets his job he doesn't mind or goes through hell and earn peanuts, What he said was he doesn't derive joy from his work at all.

@ OP I think he should quit @ the 10th year, since he
has time for @ least 3months he can run his business then, while he wife oversees it with the help of a "trusted" manager( if u ever get one lol) the remaining months he isn't around. Also the two years would give him more savings allowance, so as to be able to still stand on his feet if things don't pan.

Also an engineer with an american firm with 8years experience. You go see job, if u do decide to go back to the labour market and not necessarily your former job.

mrvitalis:
This guy is not serious... how can u earn half a million for 8 years and ur investment can only generate 200k a month..
... now I believe some people can't be rich no matter how much u give them

Hmmmmm acidic talk with wisdom in it.

Interesting, just a few questions have you really experienced lack, no money for food, school fees, hospital bills etc if u have then I guess u will be happy u now can afford all these, Just see the smile on your children's face when buy them ice cream, chocolate as enough reason to be happy and anytime you go to work u remember it is where you get the money. Just try and make people happy with the resources you have, spend time with your loved ones make sure you have a really good time with them and also remember the money from the work is partly responsible.
Finally, when u go to work try to add value, seek to improve the way work is done, try to achieve new levels of perfection in your job surpassing previous performances. It works
Remember your parents too, make them happy, try to do things that will make your mum dance once in while

martineverest:
I wud rada earn 250k and be happy than earn millions @ xpense of happiness

I will rather earn millions and create happiness for myself than earning 250k struggling.

nyben4eva:
Hello nairalanders,a very good friend of mine came to me a couple of days ago with a detailed epistle of the trauma he faces with his job and how he's opted to quit,but insists on my advice before he hands in his resignation letter:

"I got my job six months after my NYSC and March 2015 was my eight years of working for the company.As an engineer,the job isn't my kind of job as it exposes me to lots of dangers and keeps me away from my family for at least six months every year.
My salary is more than half a million per month,yet I don't find joy doing what I'm been paid to do.

Thinking of my kids each time I leave home for work and how they cry to go with me is such a feeling that makes me wish I never had the job in the first place and at the same time,the thought of how they would fare if I quit without laying a proper foundation for their future makes me reconsider my decision and keep telling myself that I have to keep on going.

Though,I have most of the necessary things to make life a bit easier,but I'm always sad whenever is time to go to work.My wife on the other hand,tries to convince me before I'll finally make up my mind.It has been like this right from the onset,yet things aren't changing.
The most annoying aspect is that of my employers,an American company.They drain every bit of my energy and always remind me of how jobs are very scarce in Nigeria.

Right now,I have a business that could be fetching me at least two hundred thousand naira per month with lots of rooms for expansion and I feel so delighted that I'm going to become my own boss.
The happiness I derive from trying to do my own business is so boundless,but my problem is this: I don't want to go back to the same job once I quit".

Should I ask him to quit or continue with the job?Is happiness more important than pay?I need very intelligent answers, please.

I smell big lies!!! Bros jux spare us this shit,tell us u're d one in this story period!

I wont contribute any advice unless he tells us how much he gives to his wife every month..how much he gives to his parents.church.and other expenses in a month.then finally how much does he save from his earnings every month.he should be able to tell us how much he has in his account now.how much is his company currently worth.THIS AND MANY MORE answers would lead us to a very good end

I recommend that he needs a professional counsel.There is a way out of that.Is a matter of knowing the right thing to do.Let him come or call for councel by calling 07082638957

CrazyMan:
A lot of young Nigerian graduates earn far less under more terrible working conditions and still hope and believe things will get better someday.

Eight years is enough time for him to have saved something reasonable to become a boss of his own considering what he earns per month.

My advice is that he should start the business while maintaining his current job, put his wife there and monitor his profit after removing his capital, cost of maintenance, tax and other expenses.

If he's happy with that he sees, then he can happily quit his current job,

Good luck.

An intelligent comment!

Brugge:
The truth is there is more to life than money but on the other hand life could be more comfortable with money.

Most people will not understand why in the midst of poverty and anguish someone who is supposedly well off is still unhappy and complaining. This life is just once, you don't want to spend the productive and most active stage of your life being unhappy. The problem with being unhappy with your job is that sooner or later it sips into every other aspect of your life, and will ruin it.


I think your friend should talk to a therapist to start with. I am sure when he is through with his sessions he will figure out what exactly the problem is, and if it means making adjustment or changing a job then he should do it. There is no point going to a job you don't like just because of the money, for how long is he going to live like that before he losses his mind?

As going to tell him same. Let the "friend" go see a psychologist.
He's rich enough to have in-depth personal sessions.
I'm sure he'll find a middle ground along the process.

Please, tell your friend to continue with the job for at least 6more months. Ensure that his business can generate 500 thousands per month before resigning from that job,

Here are my reasons.

1. It will be difficult for him and his family to jump from 500 thousand to 200, if not careful they may go bankrupt. God forbid.

2. He needs to speak with his spouse so they can cut down their usuall budgeting process.

3. I think one will prosper in that very job or business that you do with passion and joy.

8 years building another man s dream @ the expense of your health, time with family and u are used like a slave. sorry man, just wake up and follow your dream

mrvitalis:
This guy is not serious... how can u earn half a million for 8 years and ur investment can only generate 200k a month..
... now I believe some people can't be rich no matter how much u give them

so you think he does not have family,he didn't build his own house and cars? Think wise and beside what is 8years

While so many graduates in Nigeria are unemployed someone is here talking about resigning a well paying job. Life is just unfair, life is black. Lord have mercy.

bros let's switch places/job for a year so that I can understand it from your perspective, then I can give my advice *smiles*