kweenkong:
You should talk to her. She regrets a lost love.
Ask the details of the meeting not to quarrel but to work towards your marriage. Tell her the dangers of the ex, reassure her of your love. But let her if she messes up she is gone.

She met up with an ex who never had sex with her but it resurrected old feelings. Let her know the guy might not feel the same and she should think if she is willing to end her marriage for that.

Part of your duties as a husband and leader of your home is guidance. God is ur strength.

Yes because she is a woman and you happen to be one. If the person were to be a man your response will be to call him all sorts of colorful names.
The bible says, 'if a man looks upon a woman (and vice-versa) lustfully, such a man has committed sin in his heart'. This one has moved on from lust to a statement of intent and you are sugar-coating things when the lady is gone already.

Nah! don't be afraid just dey observe. Afterall she said she is happy in her marriage, so why will you be a fear? Even tho you shall fear shall you fear for her?

allthingsgood:


Silly lies. This thing is too long for text! Some pipo just crave cheap publicity

What's so long in that?

If you do any thing different from what kween kong said, you may loose your home or set into motion what you never intended. Do as advised by seasoned men with understanding, not just boys not knowing the repercussion of a decision. Thank you. Best of God in your Marriage 2016.

You should talk to her. She regrets a lost love.
Ask the details of the meeting not to quarrel but to work towards your marriage. Tell her the dangers of the ex, reassure her of your love. But let her if she messes up she is gone.

She met up with an ex who never had sex with her but it resurrected old feelings. Let her know the guy might not feel the same and she should think if she is willing to end her marriage for that.

Part of your duties as a husband and leader of your home is guidance. God is ur strength.[i][/i]

RobinHez:
Jesu!

*wakes up from sleep*

Lol you can't fit kill me with laf.

CALM DOWN. OBSERVE UNTILL U FIND SOMETHING MORE INCRIMINATING.

RobinHez:
Jesu!
*wakes up from sleep*

lmao

Op, wat were u doing wit her phone? Its either u neva trusted her, or u'r insecure n invaded her privacy. Are u sure u wud like her 2 do d same 2 u? Confrontin her s d beginnin of d end, cos no matter how well it ends, u've breached a trust dat might neva b regained. U jst av 2 trust her not 2 bleep tins up, n await ur moment; I assure u, it will come. She says, she's hapi wit u, hold on 2 dat n allow peace.

Bisjosh:
Op just calm down

We all(male and female) always will remember that special someone. Doesn't mean she would cheat on u


Do u also always tell her about everyone u meet?

yinmu. na small small he dey take start

Yieldings:
This is one of the reasons why people need to deal with unfinished business before getting married. If you're still harbouring feelings for an ex, before you get married get rid of them or come to the realization that the r/ship is over, and accept it. She needs to give herself closure and it starts by cutting off the communication with him. You don't need the other party's input before you can get closure. No married woman or man should be texting or calling their ex, especially if it's to talk about your r/ship with them, what happened, what didn't happen, etc. Don't look back unless you want to go back there.

Brilliant mind

kweenkong:
You should talk to her. She regrets a lost love.
Ask the details of the meeting not to quarrel but to work towards your marriage. Tell her the dangers of the ex, reassure her of your love. But let her if she messes up she is gone.

She met up with an ex who never had sex with her but it resurrected old feelings. Let her know the guy might not feel the same and she should think if she is willing to end her marriage for that.

Part of your duties as a husband and leader of your home is guidance. God is ur strength.

1trilliion likes to this. Op take note.

Pls how do I get notifications from nairaland? I've missed opportunities of commenting wen sm1 replies mi comment

missKiffy:
Screen grab the text so that I will believe ur story, too many fake stories here

That can still be fake u knw

Cutehector:
It is a ghen ghen sometin

ZeeBab:
This is the text my wife sent to her ex;

Hey, seeing u 2day gave me immeasurable joy. I was overwelmed with emotions n I fought tears as soon as I set my eyes on u. What really happened dt we cudnt fix? Am very happy in my marriage n am sure u r happy in urs too. Yet, I really can't 4get d genuine love u had for me.That love dt made u keep ur hands off me. Am very proud of u my Special sweetheart. Dts y i simply can't 4get u. U r indeed special to me.

Since you are this s.tupid, you don't need to be worried. Everything is fine with your marriage.

enieme:
Yes u should

worry ke! the year is too young for that. pls

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kweenkong:
You should talk to her. She regrets a lost love.
Ask the details of the meeting not to quarrel but to work towards your marriage. Tell her the dangers of the ex, reassure her of your love. But let her if she messes up she is gone.

She met up with an ex who never had sex with her but it resurrected old feelings. Let her know the guy might not feel the same and she should think if she is willing to end her marriage for that.

Part of your duties as a husband and leader of your home is guidance. God is ur strength.

Nice advice.

Bisjosh:
Op just calm down

We all(male and female) always will remember that special someone. Doesn't mean she would cheat on u


Do u also always tell her about everyone u meet?

what if that 'special someone' some how keeps reappearing. I think the man should just be watchful & @least express more love to her to keep her, cos.......

ZeeBab:
This is the text my wife sent to her ex;

Hey, seeing u 2day gave me immeasurable joy. I was overwelmed with emotions n I fought tears as soon as I set my eyes on u. What really happened dt we cudnt fix? Am very happy in my marriage n am sure u r happy in urs too. Yet, I really can't 4get d genuine love u had for me.That love dt made u keep ur hands off me. Am very proud of u my Special sweetheart. Dts y i simply can't 4get u. U r indeed special to me.

The matter is as simple as it is complex!

1.First you should be happy that they did not have sex while they were dating. The reason is that if they had sex, and if for any reason you perform less than that guy, then you are in big soup. She will long for it and try to get it at any given opportunity. In this regard, you need to step up your game to ensure that the issue of sexual satisfaction does not arise. You must be able to pleasure her and give her mind blowing orgasms- it is your duty, responsibility and obligation! If you need help in this regard, the FEMALE ORGASM MASTERCOURSE will come to your rescue hhere.http://www.dealdey.com/deals/female-orgasm-master-course-dvd

2. Ensure you don't confront her now and don't even attempt to be angry with her: If you do this, she will try to pacify you and cover her tracks better. That way, it will be extremely difficult for you to know what she is up to. What you should do is to try and be a friend to your wife. Your wife should be so free with you that she can openly discuss anything including her feelings. This is not so easy but with practice, she will get to trust you. UNDERSTANDING & EMPATHY WILL COME TO YOUR RESCUE HERE. When she speaks to you, listenly attentively, don't interrupt her, knod your head, use interjections( e.g waao! Awww, you mean it?, like seriously, tell me more, this is interesting, etc) where necessary to show you are enthralled in her story ( you have to be so I should not even mention feigning attentiveness). Don't be so quick to rebuke her. Encourage her to confide in you, thank her when she does and then you can have a good opportunity to address the issue: telling her the consequences and using relevant examples.

3. Show more love to your wife
This is the bitter truth: your wife definitely misses one or more things about her ex. Things he does which you don't or qualities which he possess but are lacking in you! It can surprise you that she said she is happy with her marriage just to hear what the guy will say ( it is possible though am not saying that for sure, that she only said she is happy in her marriage so that it does not seem that she is really sad about her marriage and wants him back desperately).
It is your duty to love your wife. Love can be expressed in many ways that we often overlook. It can be spending some time with her in the kitchen gisting as she prepares the meal, it can be helping in some house chores, it can be more time to listen to her, can be your interest in her career and professional development, it can be taking her out to the places she love, it can be more interest in her dress sense and grooming, it can be more shopping time together, it can be how much time you really spend in quality pre-intimacy, and for sure most women will appreciate a man that takes time to perform cunnilingus on them and does it well!
Make a honest analysis and improve in any area that needs improvement. Encourage her to SAY WHAT SHE MEAN AND MEAN WHAT SHE SAYS!

This does not guarantee that she will not mess up, but it will surely help you such that if she does, then your conscience will Be free that you did your best!

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Zoe99:
haven't u heard of a woman sleeping with her husband's friend or best friend?the friendship thing still can't solve the problem.

No it won't, but it'll help the man keep an eye on them.

tadmen:

worry ke! the year is too young for that. pls

I concur

this is kind of weird but absolutely normal. in most cases we tend not to be able to let some memories go coz of things and time we shared with our EX. But since you are married to another person makes it improper to send such messages cos it sends a wrong signal to ur partner. Always try to put yourself in ones shoes.

Errrm...Op eh. If I must say anything I'll simply tell you to love your wife more and break her further communication with that ex of hers. Goodluck o[color=#990000][/color]

My first comment on NL. Am going tru such a case. She married yrs back, but the love, affections re still there. For the past months it's like we are renewing our relationship u know, how she is missing me, loves me, wants to be with me, but cannot. I feel same for her. Most times she cries and have sleepless nights. Tells me my influence on her is much, and can't control it. She has resurrected much feelings in me. Over ten years she married we have not seen, nd I don't know how to stop this.

BobbyDean:
what if that 'special someone' some how keeps reappearing. I think the man should just be watchful & @least express more love to her to keep her, cos.......

You are right

Laryne:

Please whats Ayaff?

I have...

Worry dey kill ooooo. Take it easy. Just remember the infamous old fireword and Prof Okafor's laws! May God help you.

[quote author=emorse post=41563936]Ehm, I think this is a serious something o. And it could turn out to be major if not properly handled. Don't blame your wife o. It could happen to anyone. I think its called the ex factor.

If I were in your shoes, I'd become friends with the guy. As the saying goes, keep your friends close but your "enemies" closer. You know, family friends things. Him, his wife and kids - me , my wife and kids. That way, guilt and fear will inhibit the growth of such feelings. This will only work if you're not the jealous type though.[/quote) don't u think what u are saying now would creat room for them to be seeing each other any time day like?

This is a mature response

kweenkong:
You should talk to her. She regrets a lost love.
Ask the details of the meeting not to quarrel but to work towards your marriage. Tell her the dangers of the ex, reassure her of your love. But let her if she messes up she is gone.

She met up with an ex who never had sex with her but it resurrected old feelings. Let her know the guy might not feel the same and she should think if she is willing to end her marriage for that.

Part of your duties as a husband and leader of your home is guidance. God is ur strength.

theyrynsolar:


You are suppose to be locked up in a zoo for Ten months for this stupid talk coming from you... What happened to the part where she said she is happy in her marriage... Or which part of the text depict she wanna have a fling with the guy... Oga Laryne be guided ooo

whattt are you saying lady she practically invited him to make moves on her despite the fact that she is married you should rather scold the woman for even contacting an ex that she obviously has amorous feelings for... BTW happy new year