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Bros abeg for the sake of her daughter have mercy

HaneefahRN:

Na wa o. God help nursing in Nigeria. Doctors are really trying to destroy this profession, imagine talking abt a professional course as apprenticeship, when it's not hairdressing or fashion designing. Yet they are the ones tht'll come to the media shouting quackery while they are the same ones stoking the fire of quackery. The health system needs a total overhaul.
Bros, ur fiance is not a nurse, she is a quack. The best thing u can do for her, if u want her to be recognized as a nurse rather than these illegal quacks is send her to sch, either a nursing school or straight for her degree
About the mother-in-law, help her this once but let her know firmly tht u won't be helping out next time, tht u only helped her this once for the sake of God but next time u won't be lenient wt her. So she won't turn u to father Christmas, she'll start putting her debts on

It is annoying mehn

My brother,I weak. I don't mean to sound derogatory but poor people have a problem and that's a fact. I don't know why someone who should be more focused in fixing his life,would be busy putting a girl in the family way and causing problem for the parent of the girl. This is just a pure case of misplaced priorities. But then again,upbringing matters a lot. People from certain backgrounds find it eas to settle and blend into a particular way of life.

badboyphc:
You are even calling face me I face you 'House' Lmao! Man! You need to fix your life first.

Cant talk much

chronique:
My brother,I weak. I don't mean to sound derogatory but poor people have a problem and that's a fact. I don't know why someone who should be more focused in fixing his life,would be busy putting a girl in the family way and causing problem for the parent of the girl. This is just a pure case of misplaced priorities. But then again,upbringing matters a lot. People from certain backgrounds find it eas to settle and blend into a particular way of life.

Don't mind the op playing the victim card here.
A squatter still get time give girl belle.Very irresponsible!
The shame of having to take care of a pregnant wayward daughter is really despicable. Chasing her out to her baby father was the best decision she made.When graduates start behaving like lower animals, one begin to question the value of common sense as regards to education in Nigeria.

For say that woman no sharp, this niggar will continue to sleep without condom with other girls.

cyprus000:
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U may be used to the popular saying of "to forgive is human". it kinda sound lame and unreasonable, especially when a suppose adversery is at your mercy, after suffering hell at the hands of that same person(I feel same way too).

But I tell you
,. Transfering hate/anger in this situation is illogically and unapt, Considering that this woman is not just a stranger,but a family to you, bounded by blood.
Nature and karma may leta dance shoki with that little blessing you feel you have presently, if you decide to go on with ur plans. (Nobody has monopoly over success)
Don't forget that no matter how you may think that her daughter, hate her.
She will always have soft spot for her mother and wouldn't completely support you kicking her mother out, which is ironically a slap to her person...infact, when your other inlaws hear how you treated their daughter. They will never have favourable opinion of you.

Maturity demands that you help her out and make provision for her leaving. By doing so. You have shown her maturity and she will surely regret the way she treated you.
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Before giving her the money, he had to sit her down and let them talk deeply well..
I see the mother-in-law as a careless carefree woman who does things anyhow she likes.

chronique:
I won't sugar coat things but tell you straight up how it is. First of all,know that you constituted yourself into a nuisance when you were a destitute squatting with somebody and still going ahead to impregnate someone else's daughter. It shows how irresponsible you are as a person. Look here,every parent wants the good of his or her child. You don't go around messing up people's children and expecting them to receive you with open arms. No one is expecting you not to have a relationship because you are broke but how much is a condom for God's sake? If you couldn't use your brain to be responsible at that time with the kind of situation you found yourself in,you deserve whatever kind of treatment you got. You simply went to disturb the woman with your wahala. I won't fault her or blame her for whatever she did to you. Nobody wants a useless life for his/her child. The woman was right in sending her daughter that does not have sense,and went to get pregnant for someone that doesn't even have a house to stay in,away. You should be grateful to her for pushing your responsibility to you,and making you man-up. Only God knows what would have happened if she didn't send the girl to you. You can't go and misbehave and now expect someone else to help you clean up your mess.


I'm always upset when I read stuffs like this. This is the nonsense that most people do and end up helping to breed criminals in the society(by producing kids they can't cater for). Not everyone gets lucky like you to repair the damage done. You're tryna sound like a victim here but you're not.

My advice: if you can afford to help her pay up,fine. If you don't want to,no problem. But let me be clear and frank with you. If the reason you don't like her,is because of how she treated her daughter when you messed her up,you're clearly wrong. When your kids grow up,let a homeless young man that can't cater for himself,impregnate your daughter. I'm sure when it happens,you'd understand how your mother-in-law felt.

God will bless you abundantly. Imagine him forming victim. U dey squat for person house still dey do kpekus matter, shior. I over trust my mama OYO.
I pray for all the people who have encouraged him to feel like a victim that same will happen to ur daughters. Then u can take the man in, with ur daughter and grandchild afterall that is what u expect the mother to do.

At op to pay that woman's debt is ur choice but u need to apologise to her for making her miserable. Do u know how many sleepless nights she must have had. No sane mother intentionally starves her pregnant daughter and sends her out. U got her pregnant u don't have a house and still expected the mother to feed her na wa o. U couldn't even cater to her feeding shior. Better do what is right.

To be honest,I'm even surprised and upset that someone can put up something this shameful on nairaland and be proud that he has done something.

EggovinMma:


Don't mind the op playing the victim card here.
A squatter still get time give girl belle.Very irresponsible!
The shame of having to take care of a pregnant wayward daughter is really despicable. Chasing her out to her baby father was the best decision she made.When graduates start behaving like lower animals, one begin to question the value of common sense as regards to education in Nigeria.

For say that woman no sharp, this niggar will continue to sleep without condom with other girls.

daveson07:
My first thread on Nl....
Please pardon my way of writing i aint that a good writer,just a learner
It happens that i mistakenly impregnated a girl some years ago,i wasn't ready bcuz i was a destitute then,my mother in-law was suppose to be taking care of her daughter then,but something really baffles me
My mother in-law was the type that like to evade the responbilities of takin care of her children,to cut the long story short..
She always make life difficult for her daughter during pregnancy,she won't even give her a single meal per day,it was i that was taking care of the girl then,just that she aint living with me bcuz i was managing with one of my friend then,she always insult her daughter that why must she get pregnant for someone so destitute
Eventually she sent her packing to come and be living with me that she can't live with her again,bcuz i normally visit her and she can't stand the sight of me
But the girl love me die,when she brought her luggages to my friends place i was so ashamed so i had to go and borrow money from one man in our area that normally give out money with a huge interest,I used the money i borrowed to rent a face me i slap you single room,we were managing there untill God finally answer my prayer and now God has really favour me.....
Now to why i open this thread,my mother in-law borrowed money from those people they call (gurumi,napo,ship nd so on....)Now she is unable to pay them and she is now living with us for the past two weeks now and they are looking for her all over
She wants me to help her pay at least a little out of the money,actually i'm capable of paying all the money but i don't want to,and am getting bored of her presence,I just need advices from mature mind either to pay the money or chase her out of my house....
Pls I swear this isn't a Fantasy,it's my life story and am typing with tears of Joy and sadness,I need your help urgently Nl brainiacs...forgive my long samon.tnks nd God bless

Don't pay part of it. Pay off everything for the sake of her daughter. You are not the first son-in-law to be so treated. You won't be the last too. Treat her like your mom.

You did not tell us whether you love the girl o , instead you say she love you die. Two, you that was sleeping with woman when you no get house , both of you took risk and you should suffer it together. Good a thing you didt run away like the omo unas I commend you for that. Now your mother in law did the right thing and without her action you will be wifeless today or probably you for don kpeme now but she tamed both of you very well dats why you are lucky today. Finally I advise you and your wife to look for money and save her from that embarrassment. By so Doug you will receive more of Gods blessing Peace.

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The more you help those who have hurt you in their time of need, the more their conscience disturb them.

God may have blessed you so that you will shine in this moment.

I think you should give her all the money.
Your wife loves you when you had nothing; that's a big plus for you.

You are evil or this thread is a fake.
You impregnate a girl, this hurts the mother much and you are here painting the woman like she is a witch. What did you expect her reaction to be: ' thank you for adding to my responsibilities'
Abeg, go and pay her bills ( she took things too far i agree but she was not being wicked, she was a hurt and probably struggling mum).
Do you know d kind of disgrace you n her silly/foolish daughter brought her n worse still u dnt expect any reaction.

hmm....... Some people always forget that ''one good turn deserves another.'' though it's no easy to live with your daughter who is pregnant out of wedlock becos of shame and family name, but I can tell you that she has not committed the greatest crime or sin on earth.


You will feel disgraced, disappointed, betrayed, let down etc.. But don't condemn her to the harshness of harshness. You don't know what lie in the future.






#today you laugh at someone, tomorrow might be your turn.

if she did not send ur bae packing, ny guy u no go hustle....when she sent her packing, u have to lend money to rent a place ani? and u need to pay back wid interest....whenever u see dat woman...always thank her for d favour she did to u....its one in a million....

badboyphc:
Fukkboy. You no get money you dey give girl belle. I still feel broke with my 6.2 Million in the bank.

Chei. What you were supposed to do was abort that child before you come stress it for no reason in this world.

My 2k.

who discharged u frm Yaba left

[color=#000099][/color]My dear brother thank God that change your story forgive ur mother-in-law that is human-being for you

Guy, settling that woman's debt and probably getting her a place to lay her head is the best sermon you can preach
to her soul on earth. I must also tell you that when you do this, more blessings and open doors will come your way.
I am not a pastor but I have experience by paying good for evil done to me.
Good luck,dude ..

Op...the moment you made the daughter pregnant....you should be the one taking responsibility for her welfare. How can you take care of your unborn without taking care of the mother? You should've been taking the lead and be grateful that her mother be of help. I don't even see why you should even forgive the mother...she did nothing wrong. In the present situation...as you can afford it... why be spiteful and not give the money? You give ...it is a win win for you.... you look good in the eyes of the mother and ehmmm.... gooder in the eyes of the daughter....... and can now regain your privacy by sending the mother packing.

kenny905:
c d rubbish wet u just post, u no even get shame...My friend kick f useless woman out of ur house jor....First rule of karma states that it will always come back to hurt..bitchy huh.....but na u dry pay her d same favor now o.....besides just bcux u impregnated a girl doesn't make her mama ur inlaw bros....

See ehn, in life if you develop the habit of "an eye for an eye it will always hunt you". It may be hard, he should just zero his mind that he's helping a stranger and not think of the past.

What else? the fact is that God bleses us so we can spread his blesin upon us to whosoever needs our help. it dosent mata wat has conspired amongst us in the past. God is de only Judge.

Guy u are just an unrepentant arrogant fellow...did u expect her to shake your hands and congratulate u for getting her daughter pregnant out of wedlock? Do u know the amount of shame she had to face and abuses of being an irresponsible mother for your sake? Is it because we all now take these hitherto taboos as normal trend that u now have the effrontery to question how a mother punishes her daughter for misbehaving? Did she ever complain to u before the shameful pregnancy that her mum was wicked? Guy listen and listen good every human differ and handles situations differently...for the fact that mother "A" would only scold her daughter a while shed a few tears and thereafter proceed to care for her throughout the pregnancy doesn't mean mother "B" would do exactly the same neither does it in anyway suggest that mom "A" loves her daughter more than mom "B" u put the woman through pain and she reacted so don't blame her...now if u like pay her debt if u don't like leave it but know that whether u do it or not that woman is family yes ur wife's mom and shame on her is shame on ur wife and inadvertently shame on U ... It's up to u to either face ur responsibility or jump in here (nairaland) and seek for peeps that will pat your back and say kill her!!! Next time before u have unprotected sex with a girl u will think of the consequences and probability of her being the daughter or a "witch"...No make me vex o

badboyphc:
Fukkboy. You no get money you dey give girl belle. I still feel broke with my 6.2 Million in the bank.

Chei. What you were supposed to do was abort that child before you come stress it for no reason in this world.

My 2k.

wicked and ungrateful people still dey on this planet o, Chai.

abeg make i hear , all these fake christians here claiming forgiveness,how many have they forgiven..women vry wicked,vry inconsiderate,vry inhumane., but they always like favour from men, free favour,even from the person they dealt with ruthlessly.after ridiculing, this young man for pregnanting her daughter,the wicked mother had the heart to even pursue her own daughter out of her house.now she has problems and she is shamelessly living under their roof and expecting him to help him..ma guy send her home,tell her u dont have money, she is not a good woman..

daveson07:
My first thread on Nl....
Please pardon my way of writing i aint that a good writer,just a learner
It happens that i mistakenly impregnated a girl some years ago,i wasn't ready bcuz i was a destitute then,my mother in-law was suppose to be taking care of her daughter then,but something really baffles me
My mother in-law was the type that like to evade the responbilities of takin care of her children,to cut the long story short..
She always make life difficult for her daughter during pregnancy,she won't even give her a single meal per day,it was i that was taking care of the girl then,just that she aint living with me bcuz i was managing with one of my friend then,she always insult her daughter that why must she get pregnant for someone so destitute
Eventually she sent her packing to come and be living with me that she can't live with her again,bcuz i normally visit her and she can't stand the sight of me
But the girl love me die,when she brought her luggages to my friends place i was so ashamed so i had to go and borrow money from one man in our area that normally give out money with a huge interest,I used the money i borrowed to rent a face me i slap you single room,we were managing there untill God finally answer my prayer and now God has really favour me.....
Now to why i open this thread,my mother in-law borrowed money from those people they call (gurumi,napo,ship nd so on....)Now she is unable to pay them and she is now living with us for the past two weeks now and they are looking for her all over
She wants me to help her pay at least a little out of the money,actually i'm capable of paying all the money but i don't want to,and am getting bored of her presence,I just need advices from mature mind either to pay the money or chase her out of my house....
Pls I swear this isn't a Fantasy,it's my life story and am typing with tears of Joy and sadness,I need your help urgently Nl brainiacs...forgive my long samon.tnks nd God bless

send her packing jare, she is a wicked woman,she dosent deserve sympathy,cos she has none for fellow human beings.4get all these wailers here claiming forgiveness,ask them how many they have forgiven? She even sent her own daughter packing from her house, now she is shamelessly living under ur roof, and expecting u to pay up her loan the same person she ridiculed and treated badly...send her home..

cyprus000:
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U may be used to the popular saying of "to forgive is human". it kinda sound lame and unreasonable, especially when a suppose adversery is at your mercy, after suffering hell at the hands of that same person(I feel same way too).

But I tell you
,. Transfering hate/anger in this situation is illogically and unapt, Considering that this woman is not just a stranger,but a family to you, bounded by blood.
Nature and karma may leta dance shoki with that little blessing you feel you have presently, if you decide to go on with ur plans. (Nobody has monopoly over success)
Don't forget that no matter how you may think that her daughter, hate her.
She will always have soft spot for her mother and wouldn't completely support you kicking her mother out, which is ironically a slap to her person...infact, when your other inlaws hear how you treated their daughter. They will never have favourable opinion of you.

Maturity demands that you help her out and make provision for her leaving. By doing so. You have shown her maturity and she will surely regret the way she treated you.
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leave this forgiveness issue, women are ruthless they dont deserve forgiveness,cos they dont even have a remorseful heart..he should send her packing..

pay for her den send her packing

Antina:
If u can help her pay part of the money, pls do, and dont forget u call her ur mother-in-law, cos she is. Just thank God for taking u this far. who knws if ur mother-in-law didnt drive her daughter to come to you, u may still be squarting with ur friend.

u women vry heartless,inhumane, ruthless and wicked.but u people always look for favour from men,the same man she ridiculed and scorned, sent her own daughter packing from her house,and now she is shamelessly living under their roof and xpecting him to pay up her debts, let me get ur mouth there i will tear it up.the wicked woman should be sent packing,she deserves no forgiveness or mercy,cos she shows none to her fellow humans...u women re a kind of curse to this world...

alatbaba1:
Don't know why some people forget easily that the table might turn. No condition is permanent. Help her since God has change ur story.

shut up make i hear word,if na u,u go help such a hardhearted mother inlaw that ridiculed and scorned you badly.make una stop claiming good person wey una no be..

What a happy ending story! God has blessed you, you also need to bless people. Be merciful to those that have wronged you. Help her to shame her.

See your mouth! My friend go and pay the money joor. What do u mean?


You were jobless, u didn't pay one dime on her head but u cld afford to screw without protection, impregnate the girl and expect the mother to give you a standing ovation...can u imagine.

U get luck say I no sabi your house where una dey, I for come tell the woman all this things u post here....

Antina:
If u can help her pay part of the money, pls do, and dont forget u call her ur mother-in-law, cos she is. Just thank God for taking u this far. who knws if ur mother-in-law didnt drive her daughter to come to you, u may still be squarting with ur friend.

1 bottle of Heineken for this geh! She too get sense. #correct

Any woman or man who let his or her anger control his emmotions even at the detriments of her kids is not worthy to become a mother inlaw.Bros ask her to leave ur house now...She can't change,wickedness is in her DNA