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Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tonychristopher: 7:25am On Feb 13, 2016 |
freshvine: Th ratio of igbo men that married outside is very low even if they will marry they marry from near by tribes like cross rivers and Delta An average well brought up igbo lady wants to marry an igbo man and will marry one but when the bad ones with dirty history doesn't see husband they end up as available becoming desirable Look at tonto 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by BellaElla(f): 8:13am On Feb 13, 2016 |
tonychristopher:Wow, this is astounding. So u mean Igbo ladies like myself that married out of our tribes are bad with dirty histories. Simply incredulous!!!! Your logic is embarrassingly flawed. I wonder where u have been to or how you grew up, your thought process is shockingly backward. If you have mingled at all or worked with big organizations you would know that one great factor that influences choice of life partner is location. It would be foolish of one to pass up on good men or women around them simply because they are from different tribes or because they do not want to be termed wayward. God! I feel retarded even typing this. I have heard lots of ludicrous statements but clap for yourself, this one takes the cake. 37 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tonychristopher: 8:17am On Feb 13, 2016 |
BellaElla: No I am not generalist but I am talking from my own observation ....not that it is all but 90% of the ladies that lack decency or have ruptured history go for the external ....ok lets take for instance an igbo lady that has two kids from different men yet not married ..tell me which igbo man will marry such ? But I strictly tend to follow the injunction of bible Marry your types ...mind you that's me Oh I am even married So follow your heart Thanks 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by thorpido(m): 10:02am On Feb 13, 2016 |
tonychristopher:Now the bolded is flawed,very flawed.Do you mean growing up in the east means being well brought up? A lady who is raised in the west and 'well brought up' necessarily must marry an igbo guy?An igbo lady raised outside of the east and working in a multinational with all the exposure must marry an igbo guy?If she does then she must be bad and with a dirty history? Nna,ogbenye echiche. 2 Likes |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by cococandy(f): 11:22am On Feb 13, 2016 |
SMH tonychristopher: 1 Like |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tonychristopher: 11:30am On Feb 13, 2016 |
thorpido: You people have a way of jumping into conclusion.... Who mentioned growing up in east Where is deductive reasoning pls 1 Like |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by thorpido(m): 11:49am On Feb 13, 2016 |
tonychristopher:The statement you made is conclusive so there's no need to jump here. You're igbo and feel any lady that marries outside of igbo has a problem. That's poor! 10 Likes |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tonychristopher: 12:00pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
thorpido: I never said that I said 90% so get your facts straight and that is the fact 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by thorpido(m): 12:02pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
tonychristopher:How did you arrive at 90%?Can we see your data sheet? 4 Likes |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by Onegai(f): 12:03pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
Oh, so you mean all those Igbo ladies I know whom are not married to Igbo men are suffering and smiling. Chai! Poor ladies, I pray that their content and happy marriages back up so they can marry Emeka, Chukwudi or Nonso, their sins will be washed away and finally be at peace and even make Igbo-Heaven. Later on, they will call themselves Christians and ask for your donations and support in their time of need. Then, your money and your help isn't tribalistic, it's nice and necessary. 4 Likes |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tonychristopher: 12:07pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
thorpido: This is empirical why don't you you do a survey and see for yourself I am not in stats 101 lecture hall As I said Follow biblical injunction and I advise people to stick to their kind It is pointless been the black sheep But whatever sails your boat rock with it The bottom line is 90% of those that maried ....are seen that way My observation dearie 1 Like |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by thorpido(m): 12:22pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
tonychristopher:What's the biblical injunction?I want to learn. 2 Likes |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by TheArchangel(f): 12:44pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
Tonychristopher I understand you perfectly but people that are into intertribal marriages won't like your comments. Though your stats are over the top but I have seen both played out over and again. I do not support Nigerian intertribal marriage......lots of baggages to contend with. Marry a white or non Nigerian instead. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tonychristopher: 12:59pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
TheArchangel: They know these things but will want to play ostrich I pray their work |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by beejaymoore(m): 4:03pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
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Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tonychristopher: 12:43am On Feb 14, 2016 |
BellaElla: One I have lived outside Nigeria for years and I didn't get complacent to marry them...so its not location dear it complacency and lack of knowing what you want I have also worked in a big bank for years ...maybe a Nigerian quoted bank isn't what you meant and in Lagos for that matter ..so the choice of partner didn't change ....still focus Now maybe you think that parents are illiterate ..hell no very educated both pops and mumsy so it not upbringing I think you were either complacent or infatuated then But I tell u..in marriage love is the least thing to consider ... There are better stuffs like compatibility and cultural synergy..love grows But wishing u the best.... Hey today is val ! 1 Like |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tonychristopher: 12:45am On Feb 14, 2016 |
TheArchangel: I hope I want hard with the truth 1 Like |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tonychristopher: 12:48am On Feb 14, 2016 |
KanwuliaExtra: Lol But anioma is igbo or is there any difference 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by KanwuliaExtra: 3:20pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
tonychristopher: If you can ask this kain kwaystion, it means you do NOT know ANYTHING about NIGERIA OR NIGERIANS! 2 Likes |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by freshvine(f): 3:33pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
KanwuliaExtra: Anioma is not Ibo. It's a coincidence they speak igbo dialect, bear igbo names, have igbo traditions and customs and mostly dress like igbos. Oh! Anioma geographically is not in the North, not in the West amongst yorubas but neighbors to the igbos. 2 Likes |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by missKiffy(f): 5:51pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
jashar:Don't mind him joor, nothing wrong in telling ur man your glad u married him. Be expressive depending on how you feel, too much of everytin is not bad, this is ur husband we are talking abt, not a fiancee or bf 2 Likes |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tintingz(m): 6:26pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
tonychristopher:It is only an "illitrate" and few educated dimwit people that sees many thing wrong in inter-tribal and inter-racial marriage(according psychology facts). From generalizing to stereotypes. All these cultural ish as been programmed to our brain and thinking that when someone marries from another tribe he or she has lost it. As if marrying from same tribe guarantee happy marriage. People lost their culture and language not because of inter-tribal marriage but because of not teaching our next generation the culture and language. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by jashar(f): 6:41pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
missKiffy: I know. I was being polite. |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by KanwuliaExtra: 9:19pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
freshvine: Gbam!!!!! Let us just say. . . Anioma na 'diluted Igbo'! Unlike the 'concentrated' ones! |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by freshvine(f): 9:35pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
KanwuliaExtra:You got me there. Very funny woman you are. You're very free with life... |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by KanwuliaExtra: 9:38pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
freshvine: Oh yes o. . . Very free with life o. Nothing bothers me. . . . Always happy! Because life is always gooooooooooooooooooooooooood to me! 1 Like |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by freshvine(f): 10:01pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
tintingz: Stop attacking the young man, he knows what he's saying. Inter tribal marriage is hardly a success more so we're in this generation where marriage vows ain't taken serious anymore. It's good and best to marry from one's tribe. MERIT : 1. NO identity crisis 2. Home is built around the Man. 3. It removes suspicion and confrontation. 4. Inlaws are treated as Inlaws not visitors 5. It foster bond and unity as custom and traditions guide the family 6. Woman cannot run away with kids since tradition is held as a value system. DEMERIT MARRYING INTER ETHNIC 1. identity crisis 2. Clash of custom and values 3. Losing children to a partner during crisis 4. It promotes suspicion and competition 5. Women usually don't express themselves fully as everything is alien to them 3 Likes |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tintingz(m): 11:55pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
freshvine:Can you read what you just posted again?? Are you telling me all these does not happen when someone marry from same tribe? I have said it earlier, we have been programmed to believe in what you posted.(ref. Sociology) Advantages of inter-tribal marriages. - National unity - Multilingual - A child can claim both tribe. - Expose to multi-culture - No tribalism DEMERIT MARRYING INTER ETHNIC 1. identity crisisWe all know men are the heads of the family. 2. Clash of custom and valuesAn ijebu man will still have problem with his ijebu wife when it comes to household customs. My parents are both ijebus so I know what am saying. 3. Losing children to a partner during crisisDoesn't that happen when couples divorce? 4. It promotes suspicion and competitionHusband earns million, wife earns million won't there competition? 5. Women usually don't express themselves fully as everything is alien to themDo women have a say when it comes to Africa tradition? It takes love and discipline for a marriage to last. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by funmercy1(f): 1:22am On Feb 15, 2016 |
tonychristopher:I'm with u dere more than 90, 1 Like |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by funmercy1(f): 1:28am On Feb 15, 2016 |
tonychristopher:anuty, u no need 2 vex it's d truth I can give u up to 7 marriages I kw, just 1 good as in no history...... It's d truth |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by pharmagba: 6:20am On Feb 15, 2016 |
tonychristopher:Your comment says all about you You've still got a lot to learn about marriage It's not about you it all about the other partner 3 Likes |
Re: Inter-tribal Marriages,....... How Did It Turn Out For You by tintingz(m): 6:54am On Feb 15, 2016 |
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