My fiance and I have been dating for like 2 years now. We are planning our wedding but the problem is that I earn 3 times what my man earns(I just got the job 3 months ago). Its not his fault because he has all it takes to get my kind of job(good result,intelligence,smartness) but unfortunately,he hasn't found one yet. I love him and he loves me too. We are friends and compatible. He is very happy I earn well but friends and family said I should hold on with the wedding that men have ego issues that I should look for someone that earns more than me to avoid issues in the marriage that this kind of marriages hardly work. How true is this? Please married people, I need ur advice,can it work despite that the woman earns more than the man?

No disadvantages

Just respect him thats all

Remember its nt ur home

Bt d both of u home so helping him is like helping u cos u live in dat home too

Are u willing to respect him should u guys end up marrying? Take a look at my siggy

no didadvantages.



just be submissive and there will be no problem.(I no say make u become mugu to him o)

Smellymouth:
Not again.....I've never heard of any man who has a problem with his spouse earning more than him. All we here is that its somehow emasculating, and the only people who ever say this is.....Yep.....You guessed it, --" WOMEN!! .

Its like the idea of men having issues with this, is an idea which they've made up in their heads because they actually like the thought that it somehow hurts a man's ego. But the truth is it really doesn't.

If it hurt our egos, we wouldn't walk ourselves into a relationship with a higher earning girl.....Its called logic, and it is very black and white.

I love ur thought

cruzita:
no didadvantages.



just be submissive and there will be no problem.(I no say make u become mugu to him o)

I don't have a problem with submitting to him sha

To add to what Hector said, what's your take on him having a stake on your finances and imposing bills on you? Would you take it in good faith if he starts demanding how your money is spent and you taking charge of a higher financial responsibility in the running of the fam or will you revolt?

ronald4lif:
To add to what Hector said, what's your take on him having a stake on your finances and imposing bills on you? Would you take it in good faith if he starts demanding how your money is spent and you taking charge of a higher financial responsibility in the running of the fam or will you revolt?

lwkmd! They thought marriage was easy

Cutehector:
Are u willing to respect him should u guys end up marrying? Take a look at my siggy

Yes I will respect him,I don't think money will make any difference.

lovesmile16:



Yes I will respect him,I don't think money will make any difference.

alright. Go ahead and marry him... ur faith will see u through.


Ur marriage shall be blessed. Infact this day I speak breakthrough in his life that he shall increase in his financial capabilities.


Pls say amen

ronald4lif:
To add to what Hector said, what's your take on him having a stake on your finances and imposing bills on you? Would you take it in good faith if he starts demanding how your money is spent and you taking charge of a higher financial responsibility in the running of the fam or will you revolt?

That's what my family say will happen

Cutehector:
alright. Go ahead and marry him... ur faith will see u through.


Ur marriage shall be blessed

Amen,tnx

Remain the woman he dated and happy enough to share the rest of his life with and your marriage is secure and biko, stop listening to Friends oo...

It should be a blessing to the union,why should I be worried,would I rather she's broke and beggerly? to me its a blessing as long as she doesn't try to usurp authority over me because of her income

Smellymouth:
Not again.....I've never heard of any man who has a problem with his spouse earning more than him. All we here is that its somehow emasculating, and the only people who ever say this is.....Yep.....You guessed it, --" WOMEN!! .

Its like the idea of men having issues with this, is an idea which they've made up in their heads because they actually like the thought that it somehow hurts a man's ego. But the truth is it really doesn't.

If it hurt our egos, we wouldn't walk ourselves into a relationship with a higher earning girl.....Its called logic, and it is very black and white.

Smellymouth gets candid without his meme

lovesmile16:



That's what my family say will happen

The likelihood of that happening is higher than the improbability. You see, money and infidelity are the top factors that generates issues in marriages. When going into a marriage with a man you earn higher than, an African man, you have to reflect on the issue of finances.

It's very unlikely that he won't want to impose bills on you and perhaps want to control your finances, if he's the typical Nigerian man, as he may likely feel gelded by you having more money than him. Whatever thing you do or decision you take could be misconstrue as pride and ego coz you've got more money. One little secret most egoistic men have is to ensure their wives don't have complete financial freedom as that would heist them the privilege to have control over them.

You know him better and should be cognisant of the level of his male ego and if he's the typical "a wife must be submissive always" I think you're heading for a thistly journey and should be careful.

Greatzeus:
It should be a blessing to the union,why should I be worried,would I rather she's broke and beggerly? to me its a blessing as long as she doesn't try to usurp authority over me because of her income

Abi oo,tnx bro

For him eyes you go be slut n proud in d nearest future

ronald4lif:


The likelihood of that happening is higher than the improbability. You see, money and infidelity are the top factors that generates issues in marriages. When going into a marriage with a man you end higher than, an African man, you have to reflect on the issue of finances.

It's very unlikely that he won't want to impose bills on you and perhaps want to control your finances, if he's the typical Nigerian man, as he may likely feel gelded by you having more money than him. Whatever thing you do or decision you take could be misconstrue as pride and ego coz you've got more money. One little secret most egoistic men have is to ensure their wives don't have complete financial freedom as that would heist them the privilege to have control over them.

You know him better and should be cognisant of the level of his male ego and if he's the typical "a wife must be submissive always" I think you're heading thistly and should be careful.

That's true

Lovely comments. Evina, na your area be this o.

Seriously I can't marry a man I earn more dan.. Aw be providing most needs of the family .. Wat of his ego? Aw even be pitying him. Noooo.. I no dey abeg

Smellymouth:
Not again.....I've never heard of any man who has a problem with his spouse earning more than him

You must have been living under a rock.
A lot of men feel uncomfortable at the prospect of marrying a woman who earns higher.

All we here is that its somehow emasculating, and the only people who ever say this is.....Yep.....You guessed it, --"WOMEN!!

Its like the idea of men having issues with this, is an idea which they've made up in their heads because they actually like the thought that it somehow hurts a man's ego. But the truth is it really doesn't.

If it hurt our egos, we wouldn't walk ourselves into a relationship with a higher earning girl.....Its called logic, and it is very black and white.

@Underlined__That's complete gaffe.

Emperessnaughty:
Seriously I can't marry a man I earn more dan.. Aw be providing most needs of the family .. Wat of his ego? Aw even be pitying him. Noooo.. I no dey abeg

Hmmmmmm

@ lovesmile16: Of course it can work. Just keep on respecting him as you have before and there should be no problem.

@ Poster
I can't really comprehend how women see things. I maybe wrong though. In the first place, why do you have to tell a third party what you and your husband to be earn. women just love to talk. However, I'm not telling off your concerns but these are things you can only discover yourself by discussing and studying your man with sometime and not telling everybody you earn times three more than your man..... kapish

There is no disadvantage



D problem lies with u,if u can bring ur cf to submit to him and respect him,then u good to go

shouldnt YOUR MAN be the person to ask that question, instead of listening to friends and family?

MRBrownJ:
shouldnt YOUR MAN be the person to ask that question, instead of listening to friends and family?

My man doesn't seem to have any problem,but won't he start feeling funny later on?

lanre80:
@ Poster
I can't really comprehend how women see things. I maybe wrong though. In the first place, why do you have to tell a third party what you and your husband to be earn. women just love to talk. However, I'm not telling off your concerns but these are things you can only discover yourself by discussing and studying your man with sometime and not telling everybody you earn times three more than your man..... kapish

I didn't have to tell my family,they just knew on their own. There are places u work and people can guess your salary. That's our situation.

lovesmile16:
My man doesn't seem to have any problem,but won't he start feeling funny later on?

if thats how little you think of him, then you have no business marrying this man (whether richer or poorer than him)

@lovesmile16:

Congrats on your new job.

If you have never sat down to discuss how your finances and home should be run, now is the time.

I would appreciate if you can answer the following:

1. What kind of person/wife are you?

A. Do you believe a husband as the head must contribute bulk of the finances while you take care of the home?

B. Do you believe both of you should contribute financially & domestically according to your capacity?

2. Do you tie respect to finance? Do you believe your husband must be a 'man' and always be capable financially?

3. Can you be accountable to your husband? Or do you believe your money yours and you can spend however you like?

4. Does your man believe a man MUST earn more than his wife? After the euphoria of the new job & fat pay, would your man mind been the lower pay earner?