wristbangle:
Excellent view ronald4lif. I feel when it comes to companionship with old friends, one should not neglect them totally. Even though they keep bothering you unnecessary for money and all that, just be blunt to them about how tough things are and the best you can do is take them out to a joint and spend what you can afford.

Its surpusing how people like you think they can just sit at the back of their keyboards and type trash and think it makes alot of sense... from your post its obvious you have not stepped foot outside nigeria before.. nonsense..

you should have simply said most Nigerians, don't generalize it bruv

sum peepz can b so "mumuish"

You didn't add that they always complain and get unnecessarily irritated at the way Nigerians drive and disobey traffic rules....as if that's new to them...
A cousin of mine kept doing that, he only stayed 3 years abroad...

ronald4lif:
Who British/American accent epp.

While you've got some of your points aptly articulated some aren't exactly true. The thing is people always reads meaning to whatever thing an abroad returnee does or say. Everything you do and say is misconstrue by many as a display of flatulence and gasconade.

About the issue of restaurant, the food maybe delicious and yummy but the environment was untidy or the seller wasn't neat or the dishes on which the food were served. Some people take into cognisance the overall hygiene and neatness of an eatery before patronising one. When a bourgeoise of Nigeria refuses to patronise such eateries we find it normal but once it's someone resident abroad we perceive it as pomposity. It's not always so.

On the accent thing, I think Nigerians who have never been to the West are the ones who brandishes accent about more than abroad returnees. On personal observation, most ladies I interact with or accost at a public place all want to sound British/American in a bid to appear túsh. For their friends they are being impressive but for someone who can differentiate British accent from the fake ones they appear silly. True some from abroad also wants everyone who cares to know that they have got some British/American accent but residents of Nigeria are more culpable in such act.

Unless you've a place where you live and personally built, hotels are the most convenient for someone coming to spend few weeks. You want your privacy and don't want to live in your family abode coz you've got your own paroles to run. Nothing wrong with that.

One very sad thing most people abroad faces is the difficulty in putting up with old friends. This is so coz most of the time all they want from you is money and if you've got non to spare you tend to avoid them. And when you distance yourself from these old friends they think you're being proud coz life is treating you fine. No, you just think it's better to maintain a distance since you both can't gist and laugh over funny stuff like before without anyone being expectant or thinking you're obliged to help them.

Thank you!! To go back home is just very distasteful now because I will be placed in the spot light and watched and be criticized. And it is even worse because I am a lady.

wristbangle:
Some Nigerians, when they return from abroad often display some nasty and childish habits when they return home, and these silly and childish attitudes are enlisted below;

1. Unnecessary use of foreign accent to intimidate local people

When some Nigerians living abroad return home, they begin to use these foreign accents to create unwanted scenes. They do this to show people that they are not of the same class. A times when you tell them, you can't understand their statement, they will say "Are u deaf"? The ones that annoy me most are those based in cotonou, Ghana, Uganda, china forming British accent. Honestly these ones need serious psychiatric evaluation.

2. High level of Pride

Living abroad is not a guarantee that one will be richer than Dangote or Mike Adenuga so why the overbloated ego? Some will even make it look like they're doing you a favour talking to you. This is common with the ladies.

3. Unnecessary show off

I know of some Nigerians who have lived their whole life abroad and are still able to be casual. But for some, they will wear socks and jacket under the intense sun and will be screaming to people's hearing that they regret coming to Nigeria.

4. They condemn our local dish

When a friend of mine returned from Canada, he told me to take him to a restaurant because he went hungry and I was elated he still has passion for our local dish. I took him to one fascinating local restaurant at Ibadan. When they served us pounded yam/egusi soup complimented with all sorts of assorted bush meats. Instead of eating the meal, he walked out from the restaurant telling me he couldn't eat that shiiit . Honestly, I was embarrassed by his comment.

5. They demand for undue Respect

Some of them are so proud that they will give you this proud look because they feel you want to beg pounds or dollars from them. I really don't blame them, after all it is what they experience often when they visit home as friends, family and even enemies want to benefit from their pocket.

6. Hotel becomes their home

I know most of them prefer lodging in a hotel because they are scared of mosquito bite, non availability of light and other negative factors in their parents' house. Though I wouldn't call this a silly act but I feel staying in your parents' house especially when located in the village will attract more parental blessing.

7. They neglect their old friends

This is common to some abroad based Nigerians. They tend to ignore the friends they left in Nigeria because they feel they have climbed the ladder of greatness. Last year, a very good friend of mine arrived from the UK and what surprised me most was that he refused to come to my house after a week of arrival. I used my church mind to go to his place and he started acting like I came to beg for money. This silly attitude of common with some of them.

8. They condemn our culture and values

It's a pity that some Nigerians are so engrossed with the westerner culture that they view African culture as being fetish and archaic when they returned home. For them to prostrate for elders and even their parents is like displaying stupidity act. This is nothing but outright nonsense.

@ OP I think you are mixing with the wrong people because most of the Nigerians I know when thy come back to Nigeria, they become very humble, don't mind getting their hands dirty, love village live and crave for Nigerian food.

But I still prefer Nigerian foods now. So everything u put up here is an irrational conclusion called fallacy.

They prefer to stay in hotels because dem no want that village winch anywhere near them.
He knew you would come visiting, the guy could tell a long throat a mile away. Lol

Op e be like say your janded friend wey u de expect gifts from put u on a serious long ting

The guys will want to sleep with all the gals in the country.


As if they were denied of puss.y back there in the states.

This is not true

Pls check my signature and join the common sense forum

wristbangle:


Lol. Bros. Your uncle still have the naija trait na. I know of somehow condemning bush meat saying lamb meat is the best.

bros going abroad makes you somewhat civilized. fact remains that bushmeat / grasscutter is simply eating RATS. you have to leave nigeria before you can appreciate the stupidity of some things done in nigeria. it is what it is.

this is so unlike you...what happened NL got to you too?

redcliff:


Stoopid post... and stooopid you

Op has inferiority complex.

Who naija epp

God package ma visa for me jor make i come back do all 8 of those traits u hate.... Lubbish

Keep been local champion.......

I come read comments , partially true though

fireforfire:


Mtchewwwww. ....

D Rant of a jealous man

Bad belle spotted

Real local champion bad belle

Him type na im dey go babalawo to cage dat him abroad friend

Bleep em!
Mind your business.
Seems like you walk around looking for people to judge.

ronald4lif:


Bros, it's not about going to joints or say parting away with few thousands, no that amounts to nothing. Some of these friends don't even need those few thousands or drinks etc. They want and expect you to assist in stabilising them up with a business, which could run into a hundreds of thousands or million(s). That's the problem.

And even if you've got a few millions as a hustler you have other priorities than shortchanging yourself of such amount of money. Maybe you're saving to construct your own house even if it's a 3bed bungalow or planning to get married and need to prepare yourself with the challenges that comes with the union. No one will distance themselves from an old friend just coz of drinks or little stuff like that, it's more deeper than those stuff.

you sure sound like someone who is experienced in this matter. Do you live abroad?

ronald4lif:


Bros, it's not about going to joints or say parting away with few thousands, no that amounts to nothing. Some of these friends don't even need those few thousands or drinks etc. They want and expect you to assist in stabilising them up with a business, which could run into a hundreds of thousands or million(s). That's the problem.

And even if you've got a few millions as a hustler you have other priorities than shortchanging yourself of such amount of money. Maybe you're saving to construct your own house even if it's a 3bed bungalow or planning to get married and need to prepare yourself with the challenges that comes with the union. No one will distance themselves from an old friend just coz of drinks or little stuff like that, it's more deeper than those stuff.

Gbam, before you condemn just travel and see.

Jacko01:


Real local champion bad belle

Him type na im dey go babalawo to cage dat him abroad friend

Hehehehe..... u dey mind am?

Many of dose issues he raised are out of point.
Instead of him to pray For favour in his own life ,he's here hating on dose struggling in d cold,snow etc to make a living.

As for me, if everyone back home can believe in their hand, believe they can be blessed here and ignore most of these set of persons when they return home, common sense will return to their head.

OP forget that Food matter
I dey chop Semo, Eba and Nigerian Jollof rice anyhow for here
My friends no dey joke with me about those food
Where I dey?
Ghana Ghana now Abi Ghana no be abroad

U seem t have very silly friends in my opinion cos not so many do dat dese days with so many traveling to just visit.
And staying @ ur parents house doesn't translate to parental blessings, u can b blessed even if u decide to stay @ d hotel. Dese ppl re grown ups too and can choose to stay in a hotel room instead of being @ home.

wristbangle:
Some Nigerians, when they return from abroad often display some nasty and childish habits when they return home, and these silly and childish attitudes are enlisted below;

1. Unnecessary use of foreign accent to intimidate local people

When some Nigerians living abroad return home, they begin to use these foreign accents to create unwanted scenes. They do this to show people that they are not of the same class. A times when you tell them, you can't understand their statement, they will say "Are u deaf"? The ones that annoy me most are those based in cotonou, Ghana, Uganda, china forming British accent. Honestly these ones need serious psychiatric evaluation.

2. High level of Pride

Living abroad is not a guarantee that one will be richer than Dangote or Mike Adenuga so why the overbloated ego? Some will even make it look like they're doing you a favour talking to you. This is common with the ladies.

3. Unnecessary show off

I know of some Nigerians who have lived their whole life abroad and are still able to be casual. But for some, they will wear socks and jacket under the intense sun and will be screaming to people's hearing that they regret coming to Nigeria.

4. They condemn our local dish

When a friend of mine returned from Canada, he told me to take him to a restaurant because he went hungry and I was elated he still has passion for our local dish. I took him to one fascinating local restaurant at Ibadan. When they served us pounded yam/egusi soup complimented with all sorts of assorted bush meats. Instead of eating the meal, he walked out from the restaurant telling me he couldn't eat that shiiit . Honestly, I was embarrassed by his comment.

5. They demand for undue Respect

Some of them are so proud that they will give you this proud look because they feel you want to beg pounds or dollars from them. I really don't blame them, after all it is what they experience often when they visit home as friends, family and even enemies want to benefit from their pocket.

6. Hotel becomes their home

I know most of them prefer lodging in a hotel because they are scared of mosquito bite, non availability of light and other negative factors in their parents' house. Though I wouldn't call this a silly act but I feel staying in your parents' house especially when located in the village will attract more parental blessing.

7. They neglect their old friends

This is common to some abroad based Nigerians. They tend to ignore the friends they left in Nigeria because they feel they have climbed the ladder of greatness. Last year, a very good friend of mine arrived from the UK and what surprised me most was that he refused to come to my house after a week of arrival. I used my church mind to go to his place and he started acting like I came to beg for money. This silly attitude of common with some of them.

8. They condemn our culture and values

It's a pity that some Nigerians are so engrossed with the westerner culture that they view African culture as being fetish and archaic when they returned home. For them to prostrate for elders and even their parents is like displaying stupidity act. This is nothing but outright nonsense.

A lot of Nigerians wear very unpractical clothing, I'm not sure if that has anything to do with being abroad.

It'll be 30 celcius and you'll see someone in a three-piece suit.

And I don't think some of the other things that go on in Nigeria should be accepted. People cry about 'corruption' as the cause of Nigeria's problems or 'bad leadership' when the real issue is how most people in Nigeria think, or rather do not think. There is an attraction to being proudly irrational in Nigeria that is perplexing at times.

Nigeria has everything needed to make a wonderful nation, it's only the mindset of a segment of the population who are in the way.

what appears disgusting to you might look appealing to others.. is a free world and anyone can choose to be who he want to be. being proud of your origin is a matter of choice, is not a necessity. 99% of ppl who claim to be proud being Nigerian would be the first to jump into a free plane to USA or Canada if given a visa. mostly Nigerians claim to be proud just to look righteous in the eyes of the public, meanwhile it is hard to find a Nigerian who will die for this country...

Plata hating is bad for the health

akpamfet:
You didn't add that they always complain and get unnecessarily irritated at the way Nigerians drive and disobey traffic rules....as if that's new to them...
A cousin of mine kept doing that, he only stayed 3 years abroad...

Nigerians do disobey traffic laws, they seem to love to ignore road lanes. If something is wrong then it should acknowledged that the practice is wrong so that it can be corrected.

sukkot:
bros going abroad makes you somewhat civilized. fact remains that bushmeat / grasscutter is simply eating RATS. you have to leave nigeria before you can appreciate the stupidity of some things done in nigeria. it is what it is.

Abeg. Grasscutter, antelope and other bush meats aside rats, snake, bats are much better than those abroad premature meat.

LOL.

Why eat anyhow in Nigeria? The hospital bills when you get back to base and get sick is too much even for an ordinary malaria. God forbid if your insurance denies coverage. It is not as if you can run to the nearest Pharmacy to get medications like they do in Nigeria. One night in ICU will set you back at least $10,000. By the way, African restaurants are always booming in diaspora. Who are the ones patronizing them? Nigerians in Nigeria?

Peers are subject to envy. Exchange pleasantries but mind your business. Just like the OP, they looking for every excuse to criticize your actions to support the harboured envy. They do poison the ones around them. What makes you think you are safe?

One can only grow by aligning with people that are better than him/her. You can choose to hang around your peers and be the king of the hood but you end up limiting yourself.

Truth be told. You are exposed. Some things Nigerians take as normal (bribery, no electricity,etc) may be very irritating. Voice your concerns and you will be termed "forming".

It is always best to err on the side of caution.
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You made some good points, but let me quickly say this " after doing odd jobs you don't expect that individual to retun home and start throwing money around all in the name of "I'm based abroad" as per the accent, pride et al. It has been the norm so what do you expect.
Lastly don't genralize not everyone does that some are very nice, humble generous.

all are true, one of my friend returned from america,i quickly rushed to his house,nothing he gave me.since that time when someone returns back home i can go to their house.if you want to help me come to my house.

seunny4lif:
OP forget that Food matter
I dey chop Semo, Eba and Nigerian Jollof rice anyhow for here
My friends no dey joke with me about those food
Where I dey?
Ghana Ghana now Abi Ghana no be abroad

U still dey house na. Even though Ghana na abroad but make u go country like Russia or Ghana, u go miss semo and egusi soup sharp sharp