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Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by okdaddy393: 9:39am On Jul 10, 2016 |
jnrbayano:we re in a dispensation of grace.....not of works |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by sarutobie(m): 9:43am On Jul 10, 2016 |
emmanwaka:flesh and blood did not reveal this wisdom to you. This encapsulates the entire discussion... 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by Nobody: 9:59am On Jul 10, 2016 |
Greatidonis: Yeah. I'm really sure you're happy you have the kind of wifey you control and bend at will. Not the type that suits your stubbornness. Poor woman. 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by itzsniper(m): 10:04am On Jul 10, 2016 |
chachanga:everytin is go wit God, for godamn sake must w always connect everytin to God? y d black is still far far behind tho 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by hollas2jnr(m): 10:18am On Jul 10, 2016 |
Personally, i think either being lucky or personal brilliance could get it done. Nonetheless, one needs to shine his eyes very well not to be swayed away by love alone. I'll look out for her character #must not nag#, the family, dreams and vision, perspective, spontaneous reactions to events and most importantly, that she isn't materialistic! 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by okdaddy393: 10:20am On Jul 10, 2016 |
echodrum:No, it is not necessary for you to be a believer or a dis-believer to have God's grace actually 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by Flyingngel(m): 10:25am On Jul 10, 2016 |
Marrying today is by the grace of God especially now where our morals has been eroded. I am a married man, pls don't marry because of beauty. Because when the two are together for atleast 5 months if she is not good that beauty will fly away and u will get annoyed at any slight provocation. 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by okdaddy393: 10:38am On Jul 10, 2016 |
still on grace |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by jnrbayano(m): 11:12am On Jul 10, 2016 |
okdaddy393: Did you read my question? When Isaac married Rebecca, which grace was there? If you say it wasn't "grace" that assisted him, then, was Rebecca a bad choice/wife? Mind you, the discourse is on marriage. Not on salvation. |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by chachanga: 2:02pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
itzsniper: Ahh, bros abeg jump down from my bus o. Jump down Abeg, go enter BRT! because, Na wetin dey work for me I dey prescribe. Sorry If the God part dey vex you but If up nor like am, ehn, You fit "GO WITH DEVIL!" 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by chachanga: 2:13pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
echodrum: True, countless irreligious folks have enjoyed marital bliss for since millennia past. But, for religious folk who already have religion as a fixed component of their personality and lifestyle. Inculcating personal faith in the process has been known to be an aid to marital integration. Infact, marital compatibility is a known catalyst to lasting unions. Fables aside, this stuff works for some of us. Kindly, let us be with our beliefs. There's freedom of association ans beliefs, pls. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by chachanga: 2:18pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
jnrbayano: The grace of the "God of Abraham, (I$@@c & Jacob) I guess! |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by echodrum(m): 3:05pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] okdaddy393:you mean people whose marriages fail are couples who do not have the grace of God in their marriages? |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by jnrbayano(m): 4:03pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
chachanga: Lol. If there was such grace, why did Jesus come? Look at this: "For the law was given by Moses, but grace and truth came by Jesus Christ." John 1:17 So I ask again, which grace did Abram use to marry Sarai? |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by PinketteDawn: 6:21pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
Waspy: Abi ohh? Mom will say it's like a package. You get home to open it, whatever you see inside you accept it. Though I don't quite agree with her. You CHOOSE whether to accept it or not. 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by reciprocal(f): 9:49pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
is a thing of luck. besides no man appears bad while wooing a lady ..so how would you know who is good or bad |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by funkymatics(f): 9:58pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
i dont believe in luck (chance) but i know its just God's favour,grace and mercy that helps in choosing right. even the devil wants an angel for a wife so any one can pretend to be good, pretty, rich,well mannered just to get married. A spouse suitable for your past present and future can only be given by God. So plan How you can toast God so that he will make it happen. N.B it's my point of view so don't quote me if yours is contrary, just read and keep reading... |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by PinketteDawn: 10:31pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
Flyingngel: The word 'good' is very relative. What is not good to A, may be good to B. If a man does not love a woman, the slightest thing she says or does will make her a bad woman to that man. It doesn't mean the woman is a bad woman. |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by PinketteDawn: 10:37pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
Donald7610: It was not love. |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by PinketteDawn: 10:41pm On Jul 10, 2016 |
goodnewscliff: 100% right. You will always know. Just that there is this false hope that the person will change...lol |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by jayney404: 1:09am On Jul 11, 2016 |
You are not lucky, you are mega lucky! Greatidonis: |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by zed7: 6:57am On Jul 11, 2016 |
For those saying it's God's blessings, how come some people doing God's work couldn't get it right. Eg are the two Chris' and others. If God chooses a partner for you then doesn't it contradict the concept of freewill which the bible emphasizes? God doesn't choose for people, we choose ourselves. That's why the bible says he who FINDETH a wife not he who I found a wife for. I still think luck is there. Sometimes we get lucky, sometimes we don't even though we have our individual brilliance and ability to read people. Such abilities have been known to fail. The heart of man is too deep, even we don't know what we're capable of, not to talk of another being knowing. |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by bukatyne(f): 11:54am On Jul 11, 2016 |
@OP: Most people do not discover themselves/ what they want to be before setting out to marry and hence choose the wrong spouse who is not equipped to support them (morally, spiritually, etc.) Our likes & dislikes constantly change so our partners have to be intune to the changes as we are intune with theirs.. There is also the place of 'grace'; 'luck'; 'prayers' etc during choosing. |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by survemeka(m): 1:15pm On Jul 11, 2016 |
Would say a bit of both though your brilliance works better if you are lucky to get the right partner. |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by Nobody: 5:19pm On Jul 11, 2016 |
funkymatics: ....pls sisi, I quoted you as against your wish just bcs after reading ur post I bursted into laughter that Drew's everyone's attention ...pls.. pls you have thought me a lesson today which I'll always apply. so if someone has a contrary view two you're submission he shouldn't quote you. rather he should ...just ...read.. read.. read. ..just read dey goo.....kkkkkkkkkkk... hehee uve killed meoooo thank you for that idea, we are in d learning process everyday. |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by goodnewscliff(m): 6:07pm On Jul 11, 2016 |
MIKOLOWISKA:lol |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by Nobody: 8:07pm On Jul 11, 2016 |
Though I'm not looking for a spouse. When the time comes The Lord will guide me 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by Ask4Info: 9:50pm On Jul 11, 2016 |
Donald7610: Can you share your experience please? Are you still in the marriage? Quote me if you are sharing. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by funkymatics(f): 11:42pm On Jul 11, 2016 |
carmag:I also smiled as I read your comment. and ofcourse it wasn't contrary so you are very welcomed. |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by Missonas(f): 11:37am On Jul 12, 2016 |
echodrum:No he means that failed marriages could come from a number of issues but working with God makes you overcome them.Its takes you to work at it with God |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by TV01(m): 5:08pm On Jul 12, 2016 |
Processor01:Holá Bro'. How far? Hope all is well. I didn't like the OP as it seemed to suggest little that one could do to "risk-proof" ones home. From a purely Christian perspective, I believe and have experienced the following; Ecclesiastes 7:26 And I find more bitter than death The woman whose heart is snares and nets, Whose hands are fetters. He who pleases God shall escape from her, But the sinner shall be trapped by her. It is fitting for a mature Christian man to boldly search for a wife, if he commits his ways to God, he will not go wrong. I actually like to believe that as marriage was instituted by God, he may even intervene on behalf of unbelievers. I never heard of a union that went wrong that didn't flag up potentially damaging issues beforehand. But without discernment or maturity, they can be ignored, or overridden by feelings. I met a few women who at first glance I thought "wifey for sure". But I simply could not ignore the warnings, regardless of what I felt or wanted. Yet still, people from strong families, with a proud heritage and robust marriage culture, will possess the wherewithal to raise and guide their children aright when it comes to marriage. Truly, it is not Brain science, or rocket surgery . Read this post. It's the Emir of Kano defending - or explaining - his marriage to a 4th wife of 18 years. Not that I agree with polygamy, or even the age gap in this case, my point here is the clear elucidation he gives regards marriage tradition and expectation amongst his people. https://www.nairaland.com/2632649/emir-sanusis-response-marriage-saadatu#38507290 Marriage is a serious business, not a pot-luck meal. Treat it as such. TV 1 Like |
Re: Choosing The Right Spouse: Luck Or Personal Brilliance by SenatorJames(m): 12:58am On Jul 19, 2016 |
Work and pray. Working is your duty while prayer delivers your workings to God for final success |
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