Dear nairalanders,permit me to use this forum to reach out to the world with my story.I am a young lady of 29years old,I come from a broken home where I happen to be the only child and my mother has long remarried and moved on.I have struggledall these years to make it on my own and God has been faithful,but late last year my fate took a turn for the worst.I was doing a little business that warranted my leaving the house early in the morning.Everyday I usually leave the house early before 5am and walk to the busstop since its a bit far from my place and too early to get bike.its usually dark but safe I thought.On this faithful day,while going to work as usual I noticed somebody walking behind me,I turned and saw it was a man,I continued walking and wasn't too bothered as I thought it was a safe environment and the said man was probably going to work like myself.Nextthing I knew he attacked me and I shivered thinking he wanted to rob me,I pleaded and gave him everything I had begging him to let me go but he dragged me to a conrner and ordered me to pull my clothes showing me a big knife which he threatened to stab me with if I made a sound.I begged and cried but he started been violent and eventually raped me.while ontop of me he reeked of alcohol,the smell and pain I felt that memory is forever imprinted in my memory.it was the most horrible experience of my life.I was stunned and felt like dying.Afterwards he left me in that place and ran off.while I was still writhing in pain,with my undies torn.Suprisingly he didn't steal my phone or anything from me.I eventually called my friend whom we stay with together,she came and took me home.The next phase of my life was the toughest part where I had to go for series of hiv and std test, also with the emotional trials,worse still no one to confide in except my friend because of the stigma associated with rape and also I had virtually no one to tell.I lost touch with the world,my business suffered and eventually collapsed.I entered into my shell and became witdrawn.life became meaningless and everyday suicide became an option.My friend stood by me,talking to me,and helped me erase the thought of suicide.I felt dirty and hated myself,I couldn't see the real me anymore.Fastforward five months later the worst happened,I became very ill and sent to the hospital,I was told I was 5months pregnant.I collapsed,why would fate put me through this ordeal just when I thought I had overcome my trauma.Well in life the will of God will always be done and because my faith rules against abortion and my life would have been at risk I decided to keep the child and face the world.While staying in that house with the pregnancy,the experience started haunting me,my friend had to take me over to her family house to stay with her mum inorder to get closure,give me sanity and some sense of belonging.well,I carried the pregnancy to full term,but exhausted all my life savings while trying to give this child and myself a life.my friend's family helped as much as they could but they are also managing.To God be the glory I birthed my baby,an innocent and lovely child.The reason am reaching out now is that I have nothing anymore.I need financial help so I can give my child a life and pick my life back.my baby is fourweeks old and I am still trying my best but pls someone help me so we don't die of hunger.I am equally reaching out for job but so far nothing and the baby is still so young.I didn't see this coming but it is here now,and am trying my best to be there for my child but I may fail as am cashless.pls I beg u all in Godz name help me.Modz reachout pls,Godbless u all.

Reading.

At first i bought this tory but the concluding part ehn!

Let me just keep kwayet.

Bless you too

sorry for what happened to you if it did. Some men could be animals. After the rape, series of test were carried out and other forms of treatment and i wonder why they did not check for probability of pregnancy or flush the system which is usually done for rape victims.

mexyk:
sorry for what happened to you if it did. Some men could be animals. After the rape, series of test were carried out and other forms of treatment and i wonder why they did not check for probability of pregnancy or flush the system which is usually done for rape victims.

You just spoke my mind. Could this be real?

I don't know.....but ...this smells somehow. Believe me, I want to believe this,...I am trying so hard to understand why next morning pill was not given to you or another something real good.

Op,if your story is true,then I hope you know you will need to provide evidence.
First I don't know why you were not given contraceptives when you got treatment after the incident.Wonder why you or your friend didn't think of it.

Anyway,if you wish to be verified so we know your story is true,let us have some contacts.You can send a PM.

thorpido:
Op,if your story is true,then I hope you know you will need to provide evidence.
First I don't know why you were not given contraceptives when you got treatment after the incident.Wonder why you or your friend didn't think of it.

Anyway,if you wish to be verified so we know your story is true,let us have some contacts.You can send a PM.

Her stories raised more questions than answers. I think we need to invite detective Ifyalways to use her 'FBI' eyes to investigate. It's unfortunate scammers have made it difficult to to extend a helping hand to those genuinely in need, but it is what it is.

Ishilove:

Her stories raised more questions than answers. I think we need to invite detective Ifyalways to use her 'FBI' eyes to investigate. It's unfortunate scammers have made it difficult to to extend a helping hand to those genuinely in need, but it is what it is.

Yes,her story has loopholes.She should come and defend herself here.

thorpido:
Yes,her story has loopholes.She should come and defend herself here.

Major loopholes. It isn't enough giving us sob stories, no matter how unfortunate they are. We need facts, not fairy tales.

She just registered today...

Ishilove:

Major loopholes. It isn't enough giving us sob stories, no matter how unfortunate they are. We need facts, not fairy tales.

She just registered today...

I noticed that and she hasn't been online since.I hope she comes back to defend herself.
Sob stories just won't work.

thorpido:
I noticed that and she hasn't been online since.I hope she comes back to defend herself.
Sob stories just won't work.

Fingers crossed.

Op, please come and give us the revised standard version of this your story,it is not very clear to the ears.

Yes I registered yesterday but I used to be an ardent follower of nairaland.I read the news here a lot in the past but didn't have an id.when it happened I went for test,I even did a pregnancy test with my urine,it came out negative.I couldnt tell anyone then because I literally had no one to tell.my mum had moved on,I was so confused and frustratedi felt dirty,I just wanted to hide and that is exactly all I did that period.I wouldn't hv asked for help but I have exhausted all I had during childbirth period,infact I never knew it could be so tasking.pls I am not a liar,I am open for verification.Thorpido,I hv sent u a pm,pls I can answer any question on this,I just need help.it was my darkest period in life but the word of God kept me sane and he Jesus can never fail me now.thank u

You didn't know you were pregnant till its 5months? The hospital offered no contraceptives?

Yes I didn't tell them at the hospital I was raped,I just went for various test as advised by my friend.who would I have told is it the doctor?I had no idea how to go about telling people,infact I didn't even know whom to tell.I sunk more in depression and I think that was the hardest part,keeping it to yourself because of fear of been stigmatized.As for the pregnancy,it came as a shock,I kept seeing my period till the fifth month,I had no idea I was pregnant.I wasn't even having the pregnancy symptoms but I was just always tired and crying so I could barely notice.I had to go for test this time a blood test and I was confirmed pregnant.I don't just know why fate put me through all this,I really don't deserve it but as I will always say lord let your will be done.

Kai... na wa o.

Postinor 2 bin no cost o. Sorry ma'am.

U said u noticed u were pregnant after 5 months,hw can dt be possible,since u ve a situation of rape,u didn't panic dt ur menstrual flow didn't show,u just pack up. I smell lies...

chikajesus:
Yes I registered yesterday but I used to be an ardent follower of nairaland.I read the news here a lot in the past but didn't have an id.when it happened I went for test,I even did a pregnancy test with my urine,it came out negative.I couldnt tell anyone then because I literally had no one to tell.my mum had moved on,I was so confused and frustratedi felt dirty,I just wanted to hide and that is exactly all I did that period.I wouldn't hv asked for help but I have exhausted all I had during childbirth period,infact I never knew it could be so tasking.pls I am not a liar,I am open for verification.Thorpido,I hv sent u a pm,pls I can answer any question on this,I just need help.it was my darkest period in life but the word of God kept me sane and he Jesus can never fail me now.thank u

You said you noticed u were pregnant after 5 months,hw can dt be possible,since u ve a situation of rape,u didn't panic dt ur menstrual flow didn't show,u just pack up. I smell lies...

chikajesus:
Yes I registered yesterday but I used to be an ardent follower of nairaland.I read the news here a lot in the past but didn't have an id.when it happened I went for test,I even did a pregnancy test with my urine,it came out negative.I couldnt tell anyone then because I literally had no one to tell.my mum had moved on,I was so confused and frustratedi felt dirty,I just wanted to hide and that is exactly all I did that period.I wouldn't hv asked for help but I have exhausted all I had during childbirth period,infact I never knew it could be so tasking.pls I am not a liar,I am open for verification.Thorpido,I hv sent u a pm,pls I can answer any question on this,I just need help.it was my darkest period in life but the word of God kept me sane and he Jesus can never fail me now.thank u

Hmmmmmm another lie,u were pregnant and was still seeing ur menstrual flow for 5 months,ur tummy remain flat,no movement of the foetus. Nne menh,i like you already.

LivinaPatrick:
Hmmmmmm another lie,u were pregnant and was still seeing ur menstrual flow for 5 months,ur tummy remain flat,no movement of the foetus. Nne menh,i like you already.

Some women don't usually know they are pregnant at five months,they get to know later if they go for tests while some of us know even if we are two days gone. It differs with the body.
I'm not in anyway justifying the OP's submission,I don't care about her and her story until she's proven innocent. I'm only drawing your attention to the "five months old" whatever.

seriously am confused....
5 months gone,no signs...
this is serious.

LivinaPatrick:
U said u noticed u were pregnant after 5 months,hw can dt be possible,since u ve a situation of rape,u didn't panic dt ur menstrual flow didn't show,u just pack up. I smell lies...

Calm Down it possible for a woman to be pregnant and still See her PERIOD although it abnormal especially when undergoing a traumatic illness

Ok o

obiak4:

Calm Down it possible for a woman to be pregnant and still See her PERIOD although it abnormal especially when undergoing a traumatic illness

chikajesus:
Yes I didn't tell them at the hospital I was raped,I just went for various test as advised by my friend.who would I have told is it the doctor?I had no idea how to go about telling people,infact I didn't even know whom to tell.I sunk more in depression and I think that was the hardest part,keeping it to yourself because of fear of been stigmatized.As for the pregnancy,it came as a shock,I kept seeing my period till the fifth month,I had no idea I was pregnant.I wasn't even having the pregnancy symptoms but I was just always tired and crying so I could barely notice.I had to go for test this time a blood test and I was confirmed pregnant.I don't just know why fate put me through all this,I really don't deserve it but as I will always say lord let your will be done.

You should have told the doctor you were raped. So what if you are judged? Most Nigerians are a bunch of judgemental hypocrites anyway. I believe your story. I know of women who actually did not have the usual pregnancy symptoms and did not know they were pregnant until they went into labor and gave birth. It happens like that to some women. The bleeding you saw during the pregnancy is called spotting.

What is spotting?

Vaginal bleeding during pregnancy is any discharge of blood from the vagina. It can happen any time from conception (when the egg is fertilized) to the end of pregnancy. Light bleeding, or spotting, during pregnancy is common, especially during the first trimester. Usually this is no cause for alarm.

Culled from: http://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancy-concerns/spotting-during-pregnancy/

So basically, you saw blood and thought that you were menstruating not knowing that you were spotting due to pregnancy. Your mistake is not telling the doctor you were raped. They would have been able to give you the morning after pill or some other form of contraceptive to avoid pregnancy. I am very sorry about what happened to you.

PM me and if you have any evidence like receipt from the hospital bills or any other type of proof, send it. I am not one to send money to people just like that without concrete evidence especially because the dishonesty of some Nigerians has made it difficult for me to trust people in this country. Once again so sorry for what happened to you. Please stay strong.

LivinaPatrick:
Hmmmmmm another lie,u were pregnant and was still seeing ur menstrual flow for 5 months,ur tummy remain flat,no movement of the foetus. Nne menh,i like you already.

Don't be quick to judge. Not all pregnant women experience typical pregnancy symptoms like morning sickness, a portruded stomach, etc. It is called cryptic pregnancy.

What is cryptic pregnancy?

A pregnancy where there is little or no detectable hCG in the mothers system. The fetus MAY go undetected by mother and doctors, until delivery. Some of these women do not know that they are indeed pregnant and some of them DO KNOW, but the medical community refuses to recognize that these pregnancies exist. Among pregnant women, 1 in 450 doesn't know her status until week 20 or later, and 1 in 2,500 is oblivious until she actually goes into labor.

The TV show "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" is essentially about women who experience cryptic pregnancies. The women on this show do not realize they are pregnant due to negative tests, continued periods, little or no symptoms and the fact that they believe their doctors, when they are told they are not pregnant.

Many of these women were told they could not have children, they are on birth control or even have had their tubes tied. Some of these women, do not believe the doctors. Instead, they trust themselves and what their bodies are telling them. Because of this, they are faced with going through an entire pregnancy without prenatal care, without medical confirmation of the pregnancy, without support from friends and family (due to not being believed) and in the end, frequently being forced to deliver at home without any assistance.

Culled from: http://www.crypticpregnancysupportgroup.com/what-is-a-cryptic-pregnancy-and-what-causes-it.html

The TV show "I didn't know I was pregnant" shows on DSTV. Chika is lucky she found out she was pregnant at 5 months. Some don't even know they are pregnant till they give birth.

To read more on this, I recommend this article by the Australian newspaper The Sydney morning herald:
http://www.smh.com.au/national/health/why-it-is-possible-to-not-know-youre-pregnant-until-the-baby-arrives-20141022-119u3i.html

chikajesus:
Yes I registered yesterday but I used to be an ardent follower of nairaland.I read the news here a lot in the past but didn't have an id.when it happened I went for test,I even did a pregnancy test with my urine,it came out negative.I couldnt tell anyone then because I literally had no one to tell.my mum had moved on,I was so confused and frustratedi felt dirty,I just wanted to hide and that is exactly all I did that period.I wouldn't hv asked for help but I have exhausted all I had during childbirth period,infact I never knew it could be so tasking.pls I am not a liar,I am open for verification.Thorpido,I hv sent u a pm,pls I can answer any question on this,I just need help.it was my darkest period in life but the word of God kept me sane and he Jesus can never fail me now.thank u

I have replied your PM.Provide the documents like i requested and your case will be followed up.

*To any lady who ever gets raped,please present yourself at a hospital and TELL the doctor you were raped.Nothing wey doctor neva see,no hide am.
You will need to be screened for veneral diseases,given HIV drugs for prophylaxis and contraceptives to prevent pregnancy.

OKADAAAAAAAAA! Abeg take me away from here....just go!!!

Ishilove,

How can a woman, e pregnant for 5 months and not be aware?

Godzchild, I am highly disappointed in you. You were helped by well meaning Nairalanders when you cried out for help, so why these stories na? You said you were in a relationship with your son's father so why this?

please before people start pairing me with whom am not,I have never been on this forum to beg before,I went through this ordeal.I didn't know I was pregnant sir,I got your message at thorpoido and I am open for scrutiny.you can verify me to where I stay,my name is chika and I am genuie.I will send my documents to mod,its just that I hardly have access to internet.Thank you.

chikajesus:
please before people start pairing me with whom am not,I have never been on this forum to beg before,I went through this ordeal.I didn't know I was pregnant sir,I got your message at thorpoido and I am open for scrutiny.you can verify me to where I stay,my name is chika and I am genuie.I will send my documents to mod,its just that I hardly have access to internet.Thank you.

I know you are Godzchild but I will not argue further, my candid advice to you is to find something doing, I believe God will prosper you if you do