jaybee3:
Make una free Tiwa and Tbillz matter jor

jaybee3:
Make una free Tiwa and Tbillz matter jor

freecocoa:
When it only just got more interesting?

Them say Tbillz is suing Tiwa for defamation of character.

This is one case wey go make sense.

bellong:
Apologies to everybody who have been for or against discussion on the musician's marriage.

I want to believe what is happening between them is not peculiar to them. Thousands of unions both home and abroad are experiencing it. Why then are we paying too much attention to them?

When intending couples do not understand the fundamentals of marriage, why God (doesn't matter you believe in Him or not) established it and unique roles of the individual to make things work as well as the principle of "Help Meet", such marriages are bound to fail as there will be schism, division, clash of interest and power play.

You are ready for marriage when you are ready to think less of yourself but more of the other person. You are ready for marriage when you understand your purpose and the purpose of marriage in itself. You are ready for marriage when you realize that nothing is in black and white, there's always a shade of grey, compromises to be made and at times depending on circumstances, dreams to sacrifice for your family. It is about the end and overall well-being of all.

The most important factor in marriage is Character, when that is lost in any party, the union is doomed. Not being judgemental or anything, I knew from the first day, that their marriage is only a disaster waiting to happen. If you marry a man who doesn't have the leadership and resilient spirit to lead the home in time of storm, such a home will fail. In my opinion, I believe their Union is not worth the energy we have put in it. If I were single, prior to this, I wouldn't even consider them as an example to look up to.

I will rather we discuss and not argue factors to help the married and what the singles need to watch out for before jumping in.

Every Union with a faulty foundation is bound for failure.

oyb:


It's just 2016, Nigeria's year of social media drama. We are not even half way through the year and we have had Pasquale, headies, Linda ikeji/wizkid, Davido sophie and now this. Maybe Caro Danjuma will take it up a notch. Who knows who will be next

Our yeyebrities are keeping us entertained.

crackhaus:

Yes oo, can't wait for Carolyna Hutchings to divorce that her billionaire sugar uncle...

It's about time she and I take our matter to second-base, she keeps telling me she's married and that I should be patient

Can't wait forever mehn

oyb:


Dey there - Tbillz of the magic honey emitting stick is on the case.

sebod:

If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
Nice write up!

crackhaus:

Yes oo, can't wait for Carolyna Hutchings to divorce that her billionaire sugar uncle...

It's about time she and I take our matter to second-base, she keeps telling me she's married and that I should be patient

Can't wait forever mehn

bellong:
Apologies to everybody who have been for or against discussion on the musician's marriage.

I want to believe what is happening between them is not peculiar to them. Thousands of unions both home and abroad are experiencing it. Why then are we paying too much attention to them?

When intending couples do not understand the fundamentals of marriage, why God (doesn't matter you believe in Him or not) established it and unique roles of the individual to make things work as well as the principle of "Help Meet", such marriages are bound to fail as there will be schism, division, clash of interest and power play.

You are ready for marriage when you are ready to think less of yourself but more of the other person. You are ready for marriage when you understand your purpose and the purpose of marriage in itself. You are ready for marriage when you realize that nothing is in black and white, there's always a shade of grey, compromises to be made and at times depending on circumstances, dreams to sacrifice for your family. It is about the end and overall well-being of all.

Ivory Coast professor Honore Kahi, who was pictured carrying a student's baby on his back in class said being a mother should not stop women getting an education, BBC reports.

Prof. Kahi said he offered to take the baby because he was crying and preventing the mother from sitting in class. He said his students were surprised, began to laugh and then took pictures.

Some of those who shared the photos on social media showered him with praises, describing him as a hero. Mr Kahi, who teaches communications at Ivory Coast's Bouake University, said that women should not be discouraged by people's perceptions of what they should be able to do.
"What prevails here is... male chauvinism, he said. and then quoted an ancient philosopher in his interview with BBC Afrique. "It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare. It is because we do not dare that they are difficult.' In our environment we let ourselves be discouraged by others."
He said that when he took the baby and tied him on his back he stopped crying and fell asleep, adding that he learned how to do it by observing how women carry their children.
"In fact, men are able to do certain things, and usually it's the way society sees men that prevents them from doing these things."

Kimoni:
I read the article below and I thought it was an interesting one. What caught my interest most are the words of the professor. It kept me pondering deeply on my current beliefs and I am asking myself if he is indeed correct about his postulations.

A lot of us, including myself have always believed and I've heard it a lot from peeps on this forum that men and women are naturally created for specific roles e.g women are natural nurturers, men are natural providers/protectors etc But having read this article, I ask myself again, is it really true? Could it be that we think we are naturally good at some specific roles because culturally and historically, our minds have been programmed into believing that we should be better at some roles than the opposite sex and so we evolve in that direction? The words of this professor challenges this "myth" and I want to know if I am the only one questioning my current beliefs. Does this professor's words challenges the "norm" in any way? (Pls keep an open mind to this, don't respond with any mindset).

My question is - do you agree with the professor? Or is there any element of truth/fact in his assertion? That there isn't any limitation to what we are naturally good at if only we can disbelieve our current beliefs about gender roles?


Source: BBC

http://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2016/06/ivorien-professor-pictured-backing.html#more

thorpido:
There are actually anatomical and chemical differences between the male brain and the female brain.Also there are differences in hormones in the male and female which obviously affects response to information and the environment.
For instance,it's been found that the female brain has much more interconnectivity in its electrical wiring in comparison to the male which might explain why women are better in multi-tasking than men.There's no doubt that culture plays a role in perception and orientation but even then some of the cultures were developed by observation of lifestyle.
In the home,there should be flexibility and either sex can take up roles especially when there is a need for it but no doubt,a particular sex generally speaking will do a task better than the other.

Kimoni:


Thanks Thorpido. My next question would be: how much of these anatomical and chemical differences account for gender differences vs the role of cultural and historical factors. If you call it a thesis question, I'll agree with you perfectly

Kimoni:


Thanks Thorpido. My next question would be: how much of these anatomical and chemical differences account for gender differences vs the role of cultural and historical factors. If you call it a thesis question, I'll agree with you perfectly

thorpido:
Serious thesis.How do I go about this research?

Kimoni:
TV01 and Timbuktou, if I get you right, you say that culture only re-enforces the biological/scientific/hormonal differences in the different genders even though there are and will always be outliers. And to prove this, babies naturally exhibit their gender attributes as they grow without being told to do so. hmnnnnnnn

Kimoni:
But what's your take on the Prof's comment that one does not have to confine oneself to the expectations of his/her gender. To him, it's probably more of a mind thing. And yes, I'm a firm believer in the power of the mind.

Kimoni:
Question is:Even if science/culture/hormone/anatomy etc expects me to behave in some way due to my gender, can I possibly deviate from it if I work on my mind?

Kimoni:
TV01 and Timbuktou, if I get you right, you say that culture only re-enforces the biological/scientific/hormonal differences in the different genders even though there are and will always be outliers. And to prove this, babies naturally exhibit their gender attributes as they grow without being told to do so. hmnnnnnnn

But what's your take on the Prof's comment that one does not have to confine oneself to the expectations of his/her gender. To him, it's probably more of a mind thing. And yes, I'm a firm believer in the power of the mind.

Question is:Even if science/culture/hormone/anatomy etc expects me to behave in some way due to my gender, can I possibly deviate from it if I work on my mind?

Oh, to be in Sweden, a feminist paradise on Earth! Gender equality is baked into the nation’s DNA. Swedish women have advantages we can only only dream of – free universal child care, for example. Mothers and fathers get 480 (!) days of parental leave. An extensive welfare system makes it easy to balance work and family life.

The result is that nearly 80 per cent of Swedish mothers are in the work force. (In the United States and Canada, it’s about 73 per cent.) Women also make up 45 per cent of Sweden’s parliament, the Riksdag.

The country is zealously tearing down the barriers that hold women back. Preschools go to extraordinary lengths to encourage non-gendered play. One school is experimenting with a gender-neutral pronoun, “hen,” so that kids will think of one another not as boys or girls but as “buddies.” Gender-neutral toy catalogues show boys playing with dolls and girls playing with water guns. Some Swedish movie theatres have introduced a gender rating for films, called the Bechdel test. (To pass, a movie needs to have at least two female characters who talk to each other about something other than a man.)

Sweden and the other Nordic nations always seem to lead the rankings of the world’s best countries for women. (Canada is lucky to crack the top 20.) So they’re an ideal laboratory for finding out what women really want. What choices will women make when the playing field is as level as social policy can make it?


I’m afraid the answers will disappoint a lot of people. That includes Sheryl Sandberg, the famous author of Lean In , who wrote, “A truly equal world would be one where women ran half our countries and companies, and men ran half our homes."


The trouble is that the world’s most liberated women aren’t leaning in – in fact, many are leaning back. They work fewer hours and make less money than men, just as Canadian women do. In fact, Swedish women are much more likely to have part-time jobs and far less likely to hold top managerial positions or be CEOs. On top of that, Scandinavian labour markets are the most gender-segregated in the developed world.

Women do make up 25 per cent of Swedish corporate boards, but only because of quotas. The greatest concentration of senior managers, CEOs and other highly paid power women isn’t in Scandinavia. It’s here in North America, where working women’s lives are much tougher.



It turns out that all these family-friendly policies have an unintended impact on the gender gap, as Kay Hymowitz and many others have noted . By making it easy for women to drop out of the work force and work shorter hours, they make it harder for women to progress in their careers. Swedish men have these options too, but they don’t take them. So women don’t advance as far as men. And they are also considered less desirable by corporate employers who need people on the job 24/7.

In any event, only a small proportion of Nordic women choose to work as managers and professionals. Most choose lower-paid, highly gender-segregated work.[b] As Alison Wolf has written in her excellent book The XX Factor , Scandinavian countries “hold the record for gender segregation because they have gone the furthest in outsourcing traditional female activities and turning unpaid home-based ‘caring’ into formal employment.”


[b]Despite vigorous efforts to stamp out gender stereotyping, most Swedish girls would still rather be daycare workers and nurses when they grow up. And boys would rather be welders and truck drivers. And that’s not all. To the extreme chagrin of social engineers throughout Scandinavia, mothers still take the bulk of parental leave. Most men take parental leave only when a certain part of it is designated for fathers only.

Here’s an even more alarming possibility. What if people in the most developed countries are inclined to express greater gender differences, not less?


Studies of people in more than 60 countries around the world have found that much of gendered behaviour is culturally universal – men in all cultures tend to be more assertive and less emotionally expressive, while women are more nurturing and co-operative. But according to one startling research report , the divergence between male and female personality traits is more marked in highly developed countries.


The researchers believe the reason is that people in rich and educated societies are freer to be self-expressive. As writer Christina Hoff Sommers speculated a few months back in The Atlantic, “What if gender difference turns out to be a phenomenon not of oppression, but rather of social well-being?”


I have no idea if this is correct, but it is extremely suggestive. It would, for example, account for the flowering of gay culture across the Western world. It would also explain why highly educated women – ones who have an infinite variety of choices – hardly ever choose to be mechanical engineers.


So, then. Where do women have it better? That probably depends on how you define “better.”
If you define it as “high female pay and occupational success,” you’d choose North America. If you define it as “achieving work-life balance, with broad social supports and plenty of time for family and personal development,” you’d probably choose Sweden. There is no one right answer, only different ones.


As for how you get more women to lean in, I honestly don’t know. It’s hard to make them if they don’t want to.

Kimoni:


I will award you a doctorate degree if you try so you become Double Dr Thorpido

Nobody else that title o

The researchers believe the reason is that people in rich and educated societies are freer to be self-expressive. As writer Christina Hoff Sommers speculated a few months back in The Atlantic, “What if gender difference turns out to be a phenomenon not of oppression, but rather of social well-being

TV: "If you mean that as a woman you should have the chance to join the elite marine corps by passing the exact same requirements as laid down for men. Or a man must not be sneered at if he pursues a career as a nanny, why not? I think there are potential balance and harmony problems even with this type of "equality", but I'm happy for equal opportunity".

TV: "And, if, over time, most settle into the natural norms of the vast majority as I detailed above, no problem".