lexiconkabir:
Same experience i had when i started growing my beards(almost 7months now) i had so many negative remarks, even within myself i was having whispers from shaytan that i am no more attractive like i used to be, whenever such thoughts come, i will say "Alhamdulillah, less fitna" because i wont have to battle with girls, another thing that kept(and is still keeping) me going is the words of shaykh solih alfawzaan;

"Shaytan tempts the men to shave their beards and women to pluck their eyebrows"

Anyway, this is fp worthy .....salaam alaykum sister Mukina2 do the needful...

AideeSheks:


Asalam Alaykum brother. I don't comment much here but I've been following on ur pieces. I'm also experiencing this same problem. Convinced myself to start keeping my beards about 4 months back. Honestly, it's been really difficult. Probably the toughest decision I've ever made. Even getting my family and friends to understand and support me in this is proving quite tough. And I also get these whispers from shaytan occasionally. I hope they do not overwhelm me one day. Most times, I just pray to Allah to strengthen my iman.

lexiconkabir:


Wa alaykum salaam warahmatAllaah, ofcourse its difficult, even difficult than cutting the trousers(talking from experience), but insha Allaah if you keep going you'll feel good about the beards, just make sure it is neatly kept, as for me i comb and oil whenever i have the chance to, it makes the beards look good, as for your family, with time they'll understand you, shaytan is just trying to make you feel bad, and as for your friends, walk with friends that has the same ideology as yours...


A quick tip, keeping the beards is scientifically recommended for men as it prevents cancer, you can research to confirm, so if thats the case, why will i for any reason shave my beards??

Khayrul kalaam, kalaamullaah, wa khayrul Hadi, Hadi Muhammad! So if you agree that the best of kalaam is that of Allaah and the best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad, then keeping the beards shouldn't be difficult, cuz Muhammad himself asked us to keep it..

AideeSheks:


Jazakallahu khairan. I'll try to implement some of these tips u've mentioned. They're really helpful.

May Allah continue to increase us in faith

I really appreciate this.

Contact17:
@ AideeSheks

You are doing the right thing. I ask Allah to ease your situation and reward you for your patience. Don't worry about the negative remarks people make. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also said: “The believer is not harmed by a thorn or anything greater, but Allaah will raise him in status thereby, or erase a sin thereby.” Muslim (2572).

I don't know if this will help but I will post it anyways. Try talking to your family members and explain the rulings.

https://www.nairaland.com/3253646/parents-potential-parentsjump

lexiconkabir:
Same experience i had when i started growing my beards(almost 7months now) i had so many negative remarks, even within myself i was having whispers from shaytan that i am no more attractive like i used to be, whenever such thoughts come, i will say "Alhamdulillah, less fitna" because i wont have to battle with girls, another thing that kept(and is still keeping) me going is the words of shaykh solih alfawzaan;

"Shaytan tempts the men to shave their beards and women to pluck their eyebrows"

Anyway, this is fp worthy .....salaam alaykum sister Mukina2 do the needful...

AideeSheks:


Asalam Alaykum brother. I don't comment much here but I've been following on ur pieces. I'm also experiencing this same problem. Convinced myself to start keeping my beards about 4 months back. Honestly, it's been really difficult. Probably the toughest decision I've ever made. Even getting my family and friends to understand and support me in this is proving quite tough. And I also get these whispers from shaytan occasionally. I hope they do not overwhelm me one day. Most times, I just pray to Allah to strengthen my iman.

Demmzy15:
Masha'Allaah Akhee, as for me my beard is kinda of scanty but Insha'Allah by next year it'll be full. With that I'll be able to keep it, even in Nigeria today, beard is now the new packs(muscle). If you never get, forget it you're a small boy but if you have it, you're wise!!!

In school now and I think in the society in general, jumping trousers are now the latest swags. As Muslims, we need to propagate this dressings, so as we can end indecency. Many including non-Muslims now dress this and keep the beard, I pray Allaah bless us all as we all strive to keep and propagate the sunnah.

hafeezibnfattah:
MaashaaAllaah! BaarakaLlaahu feekum. Really happy with all these testimonies. Started implementing the sunnah like 5years ago and AlhamduliLlaah all those threats and embarrassment were overcame. From dressing to greeting and other masaail, it's not easy in yoruba land. May Allah ease it for the beginners and those still striving.

Rosheedah:
Contac.t17 I'm really happy for you oh...Barakallahu feeh sis
In sha Allah I hope and pray i graduate to Hijab soon too

lexiconkabir:


Rosheeda my babysister's namesake, whats causing the hindrance? If you dont mind me asking....

Rosheedah:


Awww really
But To be honest lexicon.kabir ....no reason perse oh
Infact amidst my friends,I'm the only one using scarf....Almighty Allah should just give me the grace to get there

Bimpe29:
Waaleikum sallam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

Contact17, you are a model. Your experience is not rich but educative and helpful.

However, you lied in your piece, when you wrote ''My dad walked up to me and said contact17 take this scarf''

lexiconkabir:


I pray Allaah makes it easy for you, cuz the hijab is an obligation and not a choice......try to fight your nafs(soul) and command it, dont let it command you, so pls and pls try your possible best, try this, wear a full hijab then look at yourself at a full mirror....lets start from there..

Rosheedah:


Ohkay Jazakumullahu khairan bro
Aamin!!

lexiconkabir:


Wa iyak, be rest assured that i will mention you after sometime to ask you it youve tried my suggestion, so make sure you try it.........dont mind me, I'm persuasive