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Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by dytbabe: 2:26pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by 5minsmadness: 2:32pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
He loves you but he is not being satisfied sexually. Maybe he is the quiet type and would have told you once or twice what he likes sexually but you rebuffed him and he was so embarrassed that he never mentioned it again and decided to satisfy himself elsewhere. Watching porn with him is not the answer. Try and dissuade him from it, but more importantly talk to him about his sexual needs and see if you can improve in that department. Tell him about the facebook girls. Show your disappointment but do not turn it into a fight. As for your fake facebook account, i'd say tell him about it but you can still keep communicating sexually with him using it. Since you have already created a channel for him to express himself sexually, you might use it to your advantage by sending and recieving naughty texts and pictures between yourselves. It will be a private sex room for both of you. All the best. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by Henz24(m): 10:39am On Sep 15, 2016 |
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Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by addiction12: 10:23pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
iPrevail:he is the type that will never ask for sex unless I make a move. as am typing this tear is rolling down my chicks because he still send very indecent message online. what else can I do cos have cried my eye out in silence. |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by Nobody: 10:37pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
addiction12: Why do you hide your feelings from your husband? 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by Nobody: 12:20am On Sep 16, 2016 |
Ezedon:If the only thing you do when you have a problem is pray and fast, then my brother, you have a problem 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by addiction12: 7:17am On Sep 16, 2016 |
Mindfulness:we have talked several times about it, all he does is to ignore me. he has this I don't care attitude, no matter what I say, it doesn't mean anything to him. sometimes he got wet as a result of his chats. he even sent money to the lady I was trying to divert his attention from and he told me he was broke when I asked him for money. |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by addiction12: 7:22am On Sep 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:he is only pretending to be quiet. he never ask me anything nor does he ever opened up to me regarding this, he won't just open up exceptt online |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by 5minsmadness: 10:02am On Sep 16, 2016 |
addiction12: Ahhh, so he IS the quiet type. I'm not blaming you or anything, but if he is not willing to open up to you in these matters maybe its because he feels shy about it or he feels he will be judged or called a beast or whatnot. Sex is a very very important part of a man's life. We take it very very seriously. So maybe u can create an atmosphere where he feels comfortable discussing his sexual desires without feeling judged and you will see that you wont have to worry about outside influences anymore. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by 5minsmadness: 10:05am On Sep 16, 2016 |
addiction12: Men dont get wet. You're saying he had this "I don't care" attitude before he got married? Or it started after marriage? |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by 5minsmadness: 10:23am On Sep 16, 2016 |
addiction12: Why haven't u told him about your discoveries? Why are u punishing yourself? Are u afraid of confronting him with what you have found. Pls stop this crying in silence thing, talk to him about it this evening when u r both relaxed and free. Keeping it to fester in your heart is not good for you. Remember you said he is a calm devoted husband who loves you. So if you had never found out about this you wouldn't have been this miserable. Nothing has changed, you have simply discovered what many other married women will discover in marriage, that sex is a very big deal to men and they will find an outlet for it sooner or later. Tell him about your discovery in a calm manner. Show him proof of the girls (i hope u have the proof with you), then ask him why he doesnt express himself like that with you. Most respectable husbands don't express thier sexual selves to thier wives for fear of being laughed at or insulted. Other men have the wrong notion ingrained in them that sex is a dirty thing and feel it will be disrespectful performing thier sexual desires on thier wife. Sha talk about it in a calm, serene, non-judgemental environment. See how it goes. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by Nobody: 10:35am On Sep 16, 2016 |
addiction12: If I were you, I would get busy and focus on myself, my kids, my life, my job (inside or outside the house), socialize and most importnatly my happiness. If anything can help you, then this. Don't let anyone walk all over you and treat you this way. He doesn't respect you so you need to learn how to respect yourself. Keep your interaction with him formal, be polite but reserved. Just interact to organize family life and do as much as you can without him. My two cents. 5 Likes |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by addiction12: 10:54am On Sep 16, 2016 |
Mindfulness:thank you and I appreciate your advise, u seems to really understand my situation. I never expected my husband to be like this. I just have to let him be and focus on my life, am even finding It difficult to concentrate at work. |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by addiction12: 11:00am On Sep 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:he wont just listen. maybe because he doesn't respect my view. that is who my husband his, he believes he knows it all and nothing I say makes sense to him. |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by 5minsmadness: 12:02pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
addiction12: And you prefered this advice. To ignore the problem and become selfish and pursue your own happiness and do things without him thereby increasing the rift between you. He did wrong so you must do wrong as well. I wish you luck. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by 5minsmadness: 12:09pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
addiction12: Have u done it to know he wont listen? Have u caught him with girls before and talked to him and he didn't listen? You have already defeated yourself by your assumptions. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by addiction12: 3:24pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:no sis, I hv never seen him with any body that is why this is really affecting me emotionally. I spoke to him about the lady he chat with on Facebook and he told me he met d lady even before he met me nd thier friendship its just casual. He has never brought anyone home nor does he keep out late except his online frnds that he flirt wt to d extent of exchanging thier nude pictures. And I fought with him regarding his chat but he wouldn't listen and that was what led to me opening a fake account just to divert his attention but I won't lie to u, my husband has revealed alot more than I expected to me though da fake account and that was how I got to know he is addicted to porn. |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by addiction12: 3:28pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:what do u want me to do? 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by Nobody: 4:38pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
addiction12: This is not just about pörn but the fact that your husband planned to go on a rendezvous with someone else I think you need to be clear about what worries you the most that he wants to go cheating or he is looking at pörn because they are not the same thing. |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by Nobody: 4:46pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
addiction12: I do understand your situation and I can also understand how the situation is driving you crazy. His behavior is absolutely unacceptable and since you have already tried talking to him and he ignores you and acts like he doesn't care about you and your marriage and additionally disrespects you in the worst ways possible, you better take of yourself before you go insane. Emotional stress can make you sick and even kill you and you deserve better, everyone does. Focus on yourself and your happiness and if he cares, he will come back. If he doesn't, then good riddance to bad rubbish. It would be extremely stewpid to continue stressing and killing yourself because of someone who doesn't give a fvck. Sorry for the harsh word but this is what it is. Life and marriage is meant to be enjoyed. Anyone who tells you anything else must live a miserable life him- or herself. Love yourself! 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by Nobody: 4:47pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness: The man is already pursuing his own happiness on net and possibly with any woman who invites him to Abuja. The woman said she has talked to him before and he does not listen to her. Why should she continue to suffer over a problem she has no power to change when the man with the power to control himself refuses to acknowledge there is a problem? 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by Nobody: 4:54pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness: Caring about yourself, your sanity and happiness is wrong? Licking your husband's azz who treats you like a piece of sh.it is right, isn't it? Sick! 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by Nobody: 5:19pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
hmmmn, life |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by 5minsmadness: 5:50pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
Mindfulness: andromida: Apologies ladies. @addiction12, you married a monster. Divorce him asap. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by Nobody: 6:04pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness: Now you are just being dramatic. No one is suggesting divorce just how to care for her self in this situation not keep focusing on the problem. |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by addiction12: 6:09pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
5minsmadness:tnx but that is not d solution am asking for. I still appreciate your concern |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by everyday: 6:15pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
This woman,what exactly do you want? You set up a fake account to seduce your own husband and you are here complaining. You were able to influence your husband because you know his weak points.Shame on you |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by 5minsmadness: 6:21pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
andromida: No i'm not being dramatic. Why should she continue living on with someone that treats her like sh!t, someone that does not respect her or give her happiness or has never listened to what she says? Someone who is already pursuing his own happiness and making her miserable? He must be a terrible husband and she is doomed if she spends the rest of her life with him. Two wrongs don't make a right. If she is not ready to forgive and seek a solution, if she would rather separate herself more from him, treat him formally and coldly with no love, thdn she will over time create a more toxic environment. Why cohabit in such a miserable existence? She should divorce him. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by freecocoa(f): 6:26pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
But how can someone's husband be addicted to porn? |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by freecocoa(f): 6:29pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
Onegai:People think porn is all real? |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by 5minsmadness: 6:30pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
addiction12: A solution was given to you. Face the problem head on instead of ignoring it or running away from it. Thats the mature thing to do. I believe u are a grown woman. In marriages a lot of obstacles come up, obstacles by far greater than this one, emotional, mental, physical and financial. Marriage is not a fairy tale, it is hard work, scarifice and dedication. You chose to live with this man for the rest of your lives. In this long journey, you will definitely come across flaws and weaknesses. Today its him, tomorrow it could be you. Today its emotional, tomorrow it could be financial. You dont just throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble. If you do then your love is worthless and superficial. Some of the people advicing you gave up at the first sign of trouble and they are divorced today and looking for who to be miserable with. Others advicing you are having far worse problems than you are and are enduring it but they come online to nairaland to vent their frustrations. Yet others are single girls whose idea of love comes from watching telemundo fantasies and reading mills and boon. You married this man. If you feel he isnt worth the trouble of fighting for him, then i wonder why you married him in the first place. Apologies. I have stuff to do. I'm out. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Pls Help My Husband Is Addicted by 5minsmadness: 6:31pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
freecocoa: A sexually starved man will ALWAYS find an outlet. 2 Likes |
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