EfemenaXY:


Many of these guys bring it all upon themselves by believing Love = Money

It all depends on how they portray themselves during the dating stage. If they give the impression they've got bottomless pockets and feel the best way to get a girl is by flashing the cash, then they have no one but themselves to blame when things take a financial downturn and the lady walks out.

It's all about the standards set at the beginning.

Joy1706:
Not all men deserve loyalty. If you were treating me like trash and sleeping around when you had money, and then expect me to stand by you when you're now broke, hahahahhaha ha I laugh in Spanish. The misery I will put you through no go get part 2. Loyalty my ass. By the time I start, na you go pack your bags comot from house. Yes, I'm a very vindictive person and I never forget

VikingsOO7:
Ovoko! I honestly dunno why something as simple as this is turning to a war.
The OP' message is simple. Stick with Your husband no matter how bad things are. Support him, encourage him.

Ffs, is the "For better for worse" vow now a poem You guys just recite in church? Nobody is saying the husband is blameless.
The message is: Don't dump Your marriage when things go bad for Your husband.
Nothing lasts forever.

ucsparks:
can you put up your dp so we guys can knw you and try to avoid you

PaulIdu:


I can't blame any party here because from experience I know 99 percent of Nigerian women marry to take financial burden of their parent and alleviate any small poverty disturbing them , so when the factor that joined them in marriage in the first place is missing they immediate cut rope and tend to move on ..My advise to men is to know the reason why a girl has agreed to marry you, is it because of your job, your looks,your temperament, your ambition or just to prove a point that she can get married.. marry a girl that loves you for no reason and make sure you love her deeply just for that reason ..

VikingsOO7:

My brother, fear Nairaland women. One just have to be prayerful. Angel Gabriel should pls hurry up and blow that trumpet.

Dyt:
Everyone likes to be the saint
Like someone I knoe
The husband and his family claimed she left cos he had nothing
But when he had
Different women, don't sleep home weekends, partying and what not
He became broke
Wife stood by him and even gave him money but he preferred to give the gfs that was still with him
She got fed up and left

Now when you hear the husbands side, you think the woman is evil
But when you hear the wife's side, would you still say what she did was wrong?
Oh you would have said she shouldn't give him money again but stayed


We all have a limit we can take
Be it woman/man

Joy1706:
Not all men deserve loyalty. If you were treating me like trash and sleeping around when you had money, and then expect me to stand by you when you're now broke, hahahahhaha ha I laugh in Spanish. The misery I will put you through no go get part 2.I have Loyalty my ass. By the time I start, na you go pack your bags comot from house. Yes, I'm a very vindictive person and I never forget

Dyt:
Everyone likes to be the saint
Like someone I knoe
The husband and his family claimed she left cos he had nothing
But when he had
Different women, don't sleep home weekends, partying and what not
He became broke
Wife stood by him and even gave him money but he preferred to give the gfs that was still with him
She got fed up and left

Now when you hear the husbands side, you think the woman is evil
But when you hear the wife's side, would you still say what she did was wrong?
Oh you would have said she shouldn't give him money again but stayed


We all have a limit we can take
Be it woman/man

VikingsOO7:
Ovoko! I honestly dunno why something as simple as this is turning to a war.
The OP' message is simple. Stick with Your husband no matter how bad things are. Support him, encourage him.

Ffs, is the "For better for worse" vow now a poem You guys just recite in church? Nobody is saying the husband is blameless.
The message is: Don't dump Your marriage when things go bad for Your husband.
Nothing lasts forever.

ItsQuinn:
even though he becomes very irresponsible and refuse to change

steppin:

Women like are you exactly like Carol Ekanem Danjuma. They don't mind going through crap just to avoid poverty.
Are your folks that poor?

Story for the gods.
Don't know why mumu guys marry ladies like you, when they know it's gonna end up in divorce, if they go broke.

puresaint12:
Trying so hard to justify leaving your marital home, Don't you know how to pray? Or are you an atheist? [b][/b]

ItsQuinn:
even though he becomes very irresponsible and refuse to change?

ItsQuinn:
even though he becomes very irresponsible and refuse to change?

montezz:

Nairaland is another world entirely. Ahn ahn! Nothing pesin no go see.

VikingsOO7:

My brother, fear Nairaland women. One just have to be prayerful. Angel Gabriel should pls hurry up and blow that trumpet.

5minsmadness:


Did the storyline mention the man being irresponsible and 'unwilling to change'?

VikingsOO7:

The topic is bout supporting Your husband in trying times.
Uw.

puresaint12:
Do you believe your husband can be VERY irresponsible and refuse to change?? If not,don't quote me again!

Onegai:


You don't get, I started counting threads a while back bashing women or telling them to change for the better. Then I tried comparing it to threads extolling women. The ratio was 10: 0. Not one male moniker thought to say "hey, we have great women", it was all just insults and putting down in nasty and petty manner.

They don't even realise how bad is to constantly feed yourself negative ideas about a gender, it means when you eventually do get married, you will go in thinking it is a battlefield, that every little issue will become an avenue for a vicious fight. With that mindset, your marriage is dead on arrival. You cannot keep saying "she is evil and bad" and then think you will meet a pretty girl, marry her and one day NOT say the same thing about her. You are what you consume.

Do you know I met some guys on NL who are married and they said they're disgusted by Family section guys? I've met 3 now who call them "small boys" and one went to say I should stop coming to this section because my mind would be poisoned.

No-one is saying the blogger's friend's wife didn't do wrong, all we are saying is "why is it only the wife, only the mother we hate everytime?" Even on Child Molestation threads, they will blame the mother of the victim and random girls for not agreeing to sleep with the perpetrator. On a Domestic Violence thread, it is the victim's fault for marrying a wife beater and annoying him, oh she must have been chasing his money and didn't see "them good guys". On the thread where the NYSC guy's mother sold akara or food to send him to school, filled with comments like "our girls cannot do this". There are so many women contributing positively to their families, they are not celebrated, but the menfolk go on to publicly "try and teach them and hope they will hear word".

It's madness.

5minsmadness:


Did the storyline mention the man being irresponsible and 'unwilling to change'?

It was a story about a man desperately seeking a job. That man didnt sound lazy. His wife left him at his lowest point.

The op then remembered his father who lost his job and because of it became depressed, yet his wife stood by him.

Both stories show both a good woman and a bad woman.

How did it turn to an apparent female bashing thread as presupposed by some certain ladies if they didnt react out of guilt?

puresaint12:
Lol as in, I don taya

ItsQuinn:
even though he's irresponsible? ....answer the question

puresaint12:
Do you believe your husband can be VERY irresponsible and refuse to change?

kaybee09:
With this kind of comments from nairaland women. Honestly I give up.

ItsQuinn:
Not referring to the topic, generally speaking

VikingsOO7:

See below.

ItsQuinn:
Its very possible, if he becomes irresponsible and refuse to change, is it okay for me to leave him

I will have to hear from Your husband fess.

Laredojohn:
Hmm it's rather sad, nowadays some gals are ready to be there when the going is good, the moment everything turns the other way round that are ready to bring all sort of principles to twist the vow they took, "for better for worse for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part" they give reasons while the vow can't be followed...I take a clue from my mum and sis, despite all my mum went thru, she endured, provided her life wasn't at risk, now she is as strong as ever, my dad now has no choice than to give her the respect she deserves...how many gals of nowadays are ready to endure hardship, only a few, even in mere relationships we guys know what we have faced from the female folk, kudos to my sis who after barely less than a year to her marriage, her husband lost his job, she never gave up, she stood firm supported her family, endured till everything changed and he started making a living and even doing far more better than his previous job happily living in their home, what if she had left as some will do, what would have become of her Gals of nowadays need learn and know how to endure and keep to their marriage vows provided their life isn't at risk and they would see the best in their man when things change.