5minsmadness:


Some women are so filled with bitterness and guilt that they see all threads as female bashing threads. None of them came out to praise the op's mother for her steadfastness and courage, all they saw was op bashing a woman for leaving her matrimonial home even when its obvious from the story that it was the wrongest time to do so as that was when the man needed her the most.
They are quick to praise the deserter and insult the one that stayed to support her man. And yet they say they are the ones being victimised.

Lol in spanish!

Esetim:


Did you carry out a survey before arriving at 99%? Lets be careful how we generalize because you definitely haven't met that number of women.

PaperLace:

That's all, even here on NL, a thread on how to make your woman happy_ they come in angrily, saying all you need is money.
A rich man beats his wife: she married him because he has money, so she deserves it.
A poor man beats his wife: she definitely said something to deserve it.

At a point, I convinced myself they were typing rubbish for the likes.

Onegai:


You don't get, I started counting threads a while back bashing women or telling them to change for the better. Then I tried comparing it to threads extolling women. The ratio was 10: 0. Not one male moniker thought to say "hey, we have great women", it was all just insults and putting down in nasty and petty manner.

They don't even realise how bad is to constantly feed yourself negative ideas about a gender, it means when you eventually do get married, you will go in thinking it is a battlefield, that every little issue will become an avenue for a vicious fight. With that mindset, your marriage is dead on arrival. You cannot keep saying "she is evil and bad" and then think you will meet a pretty girl, marry her and one day NOT say the same thing about her. You are what you consume.

Do you know I met some guys on NL who are married and they said they're disgusted by Family section guys? I've met 3 now who call them "small boys" and one went to say I should stop coming to this section because my mind would be poisoned.

No-one is saying the blogger's friend's wife didn't do wrong, all we are saying is "why is it only the wife, only the mother we hate everytime?" Even on Child Molestation threads, they will blame the mother of the victim and random girls for not agreeing to sleep with the perpetrator. On a Domestic Violence thread, it is the victim's fault for marrying a wife beater and annoying him, oh she must have been chasing his money and didn't see "them good guys". On the thread where the NYSC guy's mother sold akara or food to send him to school, filled with comments like "our girls cannot do this". There are so many women contributing positively to their families, they are not celebrated, but the menfolk go on to publicly "try and teach them and hope they will hear word".

It's madness.

5minsmadness:


Did the storyline mention the man being irresponsible and 'unwilling to change'?

It was a story about a man desperately seeking a job. That man didnt sound lazy. His wife left him at his lowest point.

The op then remembered his father who lost his job and because of it became depressed, yet his wife stood by him.

Both stories show both a good woman and a bad woman.

How did it turn to an apparent female bashing thread as presupposed by some certain ladies if they didnt react out of guilt?

PaulIdu:


I have a lot of female friends and I hear them talk you know

thorpido:
I agree it's bad and that was why I made that statement of singing the song,'where is the love'.I was actually asking the MEN where the love is because i've observed the bashing and putting down of women and I understand the frustrations and anger that comes with it and the reactions of the ladies to it.

Family section used to be for matured and married people but a lot of boys who probably moved from romance section have infiltrated the section and that's the reason for a lot of childish and irrational comments.I want to believe some do it just for some evil fun,the same way they do tribal bashings.However,overal it's still a bad thing because it could poison some impressionable young readers who might think it's cool to treat women with disrespect.

VikingsOO7:

I will have to hear from Your husband fess.

5minsmadness:


But its the topic we are all talking about isnt it? We are not talking about irresponsible men or men who kill thier wives are we? So why bring something unrelated to the topic? We are talking about a good man who lost his job. Should his wife leave him for greener pastures or should she stand by him in his difficult times?

misspicy:

That is the best time to leave any man who was not responsible when he had the money.

No man can have his cake and eat it and yes 98% of threads are bashing women,why can't y'all men create threads praising women?.

How has the bashing solved the problems?
Bunch of frustrated men na hin full NL

ItsQuinn:
Men too need to learn and know how to endure and keep to their marriage vows provided their life isn't at risk and they would see the best in their woman when things change

misspicy:

Will the storyline mention it?
They all want to be vindictive and make women the devil,they will never tell us what led to it.

There can't be a reaction without an action

puresaint12:
Trying so hard to justify leaving your marital home, Don't you know how to pray? Or are you an atheist? [b][/b]

misspicy:

True talk.


I don't expect to see women bashing on family section,but I am always disappointed because even the assumed men(who will paint their own wives as angels on earth) will join in on the parade…


Could be for fun or trolling

Starieangel:
Hmmmm.... Maybe she was a full house wife. God forbid dt I become a full house wife.In dis generation, women should be working, doing sumtyn to contribute to the upkeep of her family. Hw can u leave ur husband because he lost his job? Was the job/salary the reason u got married to him? Marriage is nt a child's play pls. Na WA o. May God nt give us more than we are able to bear. It is well.

ItsQuinn:
She should definitely stand by him....but describe "good man".... what has he been doing for the past 8 years?

5minsmadness:


But the story was not of a man who wasn't responsible was it?

You ladies quickly see the worst thing in men and then you miraculously expect men not to see the worst in you. Lol.


As far as i can remember, the ladies started the bashing on nairaland. They insult guys at the drop of a hat then cry wolf when the guys retaliate. Guys have simply caught up on the insults, that's all. I doubt most guys here are interested in bashing women but we learnt to do so from the female folk online. I know i did.

Stop bashing guys and guys will stop bashing you. Simples.

Back to the story for instance.
Honestly tell me why the ladies in the first page responded the way they did. A story was told of a man who had fallen upon difficult times. He was not said to be irresponsible. It takes a lot from a proud man to beg but there he was, begging for a job. His wife left him. That's wrong. The op now remembered his mother and how she stood by her husbamd when he lost his own job, even when he was depressed. Thats a virtuos woman. That deserves praise. Yet they left her and went to bash the Op's father. Why would they behave in such a rude and uncultured way? If someone bashed your father here now, would you take it lightly? Why did they respond that way if they were not already primed to be bitter towards men generally?

5minsmadness:

For the past 8 years he couldn't get a job.
.if you are familiar with the job market e.g post nysc, you will understand how frustrating that can be. See graduates carrying concre cos they cant find work to do.

Do you even know what concre is?

ItsQuinn:
But is it understandable to leave your husband when he's using your hard earn money for oloshos?

ItsQuinn:
I understand .....especially in this recession times .....yes i do know what it is

Check your email.

5minsmadness:


But the story was not of a man who wasn't responsible was it?

You ladies quickly see the worst thing in men and then you miraculously expect men not to see the worst in you. Lol.


As far as i can remember, the ladies started the bashing on nairaland. They insult guys at the drop of a hat then cry wolf when the guys retaliate. Guys have simply caught up on the insults, that's all. I doubt most guys here are interested in bashing women but we learnt to do so from the female folk online. I know i did.

Stop bashing guys and guys will stop bashing you. Simples.

Back to the story for instance.
Honestly tell me why the ladies in the first page responded the way they did. A story was told of a man who had fallen upon difficult times. He was not said to be irresponsible. It takes a lot from a proud man to beg but there he was, begging for a job. His wife left him. That's wrong. The op now remembered his mother and how she stood by her husbamd when he lost his own job, even when he was depressed. Thats a virtuos woman. That deserves praise. Yet they left her and went to bash the Op's father. Why would they behave in such a rude and uncultured way? If someone bashed your father here now, would you take it lightly? Why did they respond that way if they were not already primed to be bitter towards men generally?

ItsQuinn:
But is it understandable to leave your husband when he's using your hard earn money for oloshos?

ItsQuinn:
But is it understandable to leave your husband when he's using your hard earn money for oloshos?

5minsmadness:


Lol
What you just defined up there can be summed in one word.
PARANOIA.
you feel everyone is out to get you until proven otherwise.

5minsmadness:


Let me answer this.
A man that doesnt have a job and uses the money the woman sweated for to visit ashawo is not a real man. A real man would be ashamed his wife is going out to get the daily bread, a job he should be doing. A real man wont be able to sit in the house doing nothing, His conscience won't let him do it, he would rather go out and beg or clear grass or carry concre if he is not physically challenged. A real man will quickly go into depression if he cannot cater for his family because he feels he is letting his family down.

A lazy or irresponsible man does not deserve the wife to stay with him. The money she brings home should be for herself and her kids. That will make the lazy or irresponsible man jump up to his respobsibilites.

chibuzorAbia:
Inter tribal marriages are worse when disaster like a job loss occurs.

ItsQuinn:
I understand .....especially in this recession times .....yes i do know what it is

5minsmadness:


Sorry pls
Are you saying you have never seen a thread where the women start bashing the men first?

misspicy:

[b]It is understandable that the bashing is not going to stop anytime soon,but I totally disagree that women started it.
Nairalanders have been bashing famales a long time ago,only recently like last two years that females got enough courage to type back,infact a moniker like that trolled me severally until I responded by bashing him too,even though,I initially ignored.
The (f) are just reacting because there is a limit one can take insultive remarks even if it was not directed to one.

Eg myself,most threads are not affecting me but I am forced to type something in defence of my gender.

Now to the ladies on the frontpage,I don't think anybody commended the lady on what she did,they were only against the norm of bashing women,call it paranoia but that is what this thread is aimed at,and its not surprising that many (m) monikers are out in their droves to add fabricated stories to the Initial post already.

Bottom line-------->
The men should create threads praising women as much as they create threads bashing them for a change.[/b]

5minsmadness:

Someone has to be mature and stop the bashing first.
Anyway. I hear you.