video or idontbelievit!!!

OKeokpa:
I think the people asking her to swear are the stupid ones here.
Lemme ask you, was the man also asked to swear he would NEVER sleep with another woman apart from his wife? This society is just a mess. No equal rights anywhere. The men are allowed to sleep around while the women are not. Stupid people.
Let's say the woman even takes such oath only to discover after marriage that her husband is sterile or impotent. What would your advice be?
These people juz irritate me.

That can't happen because they would have been doing it before getting to that stage, except if they have not.

God bless you for this reply. Especially point number 3. You have said it all. More wisdom to u sir. And May God bless you again n again.

quote author=bbmpin post=52017732] There are so many things that you need to take into consideration before judging her action!

How true is the story?(Nigerian bloggers create and inflate stories to drag traffic)

Is she "in"love with him?
Did she really want to marry him? (maybe she needed an excuse to walk away)

Then you also have to look at things "religiously"

Its very possible that she is a "devoted christian" and didn't want to commit herself to such fetish crap (very plausible)

Women are usually faithful in marriage naturally, doesn't make any sense at all for her to create doubts about her commitment to her fiance.
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bbmpin:
There are so many things that you need to take into consideration before judging her action!

How true is the story?(Nigerian bloggers create and inflate stories to drag traffic)

Is she "in"love with him?
Did she really want to marry him? (maybe she needed an excuse to walk away)

Then you also have to look at things "religiously"

Its very possible that she is a "devoted christian" and didn't want to commit herself to such fetish crap (very plausible)

Women are usually faithful in marriage naturally, doesn't make any sense at all for her to create doubts about her commitment to her fiance.

Women are no longer NATURALLY FAITHFUL IN MARRIAGE. They've gone wild as the men. So oga bring that head out of the Sands. You be ostrich??

Assuming the story of true....y didn they ask t husband to swear too?

may b the guy is impotent and they kept it as secret,how do u want that lady to take that kind of thing when she knows that she will have it outside

Ppl still pin their faith n trust in Dat tin called juju,its serious, there is a place were such "crap" ar neutralised!

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Honey Sandy

Nnetriplet:
is that an idoma wedding? maybe she is scared of alekwu

Lolz. That one doesn't happen in Idoma Land though

They should have asked the man to swear first that he will not sleep with another woman except the wife!

liars everywhere

Why should anyone made someone swear? Marriage should be built on mutual trust, if there is none, forget it! By the way, was the man taking the same oath or it was meant to only enslave the woman while the man has freedom to do as he likes knowing the woman has taken an oath?

bbmpin:
There are so many things that you need to take into consideration before judging her action!

How true is the story?(Nigerian bloggers create and inflate stories to drag traffic)

Is she "in"love with him?
Did she really want to marry him? (maybe she needed an excuse to walk away)

Then you also have to look at things "religiously"

Its very possible that she is a "devoted christian" and didn't want to commit herself to such fetish crap (very plausible)

Women are usually faithful in marriage naturally, doesn't make any sense at all for her to create doubts about her commitment to her fiance.

women are usually faithful in marriage naturally? You know nothing Jon Snow.

TrapQueen77:




May I ask... Is palm wine an alcoholic drink?

Nope, the name "palm wine" is a misnomer; it should be palm water.

Tajbol4splend:


Honey Sandy

Halooo

kevoh:

I am not quoting you based on your alleged unfaithfulness or otherwise, it's actually none of my business! I am quoting to correct your error of hasty generalisation or misleading opinion. Phones,modern clothes,internet,electricity,cars,books are not unafrican. I disagree completely. What is unafrican are objects/activities that encourage the dying out of previously held good African tradition and culture. The adoption of English/Arabic full names, the practice of Abrahamic religions, banning of the kids from learning or speaking the native tongue at home e.t.c are all actions that are Un-African.

There's nothing wrong in adopting other people's good inventions like Phones, internet, electricity, cars or books, Western cultures also adopt other peoples inventions, so long it does not erode your tradition. I do not see how using the internet or driving a car erode's ones tradition or make it less the tradition. Modern clothes that cover the body well can be also be adopted or modified. There are not harmful. The Japanese take their cultural practice serious but still wear modern day suits in the office. It does not reduce their tradition one bit. A Nigerian female banker will go to work in her suit but turn up at an owambe party on saturday in Ankara or Adire aso-ebi with her friends to celebrate. Traditional culture and practices are meant to evolve while discard the bad/unfriendly practices.

ok,am quoting you back to correct your errors! It is contradiction to choose which parts of african tradition to follow/which suit you and say you are traditionally african while still using un-african objects,names(like you gave example) and languages etc...as simple as that...my first quotes that you quoted when you say you disagree completely,do you mean those things are african?because that would be a lie!and then here you are choosing certain parts you think are good(cellphones,modern clothes,etc) for you to follow,and discard the ones you think are bad(englich/arabic names,abrahamic religions etc) <<<all these examples are clearly un african yet you think some are 'good' and others 'bad' ,i'll give you an example to prove my point,if someone uses your sense of reasoning but vice versa(as in says that cellphoes,modern clothes etc are unafrican/'bad'(as in he wants a 'normadic' type of lifestyle) but that arabic,english names,abrahamic religions are 'good'/african as in adding like you added for his reason that they traditions and cultures evolve with time etc) yet says he is traditional following african,would you agree/disagree with him?...cos if your method of reasoning is used it means he is still tradition following..just saying..

Laveda:
Insecured men everywhere. why ask her to swearr when she has a conscience that will judge her when she eventually cheats?

That was just unnecessary.

thats if she has conscience.

fabulous85:
madam proud cheater why not divorce ur husband if you dont love him instead of bragging about cheating. SMH

their's a difference between love,lust and like ,that is why among many other reason,that i dont divorce.a man is foolish,igonarant,arrogant,or in denial if he thinks that a woman will forever be attracted to one man/her husband only.because there are many men wanting to have(i mean physical intimacy!) a woman than vice versa,i mean as in if one had to take two people,lets say one average looking woman and one average looking man,and they are both Hot for the night,so they both stand with a sign that they want a partner for one night stand/whatever,the woman would have the longer line/que...shows my point.therefore in this modern times where...1) women are getting more self sufficient etc...2)there's protection..3)there's contraceptive.it is simple!

Why the woman alone? even if the swearing of a thing is a must it should be both the man and woman. what kinda tradition is that?

I also attended a traditional delta wedding whereby the woman was not asked to swear but a ritual was done on her in case she cheats on her man she will die. i now ask the husband that what if u cheat on your wife, he replied me that nothing will happen that the ritual is meant for the woman alone.

why are we women treated in such an unfair way? I'm not saying we women don't cheat but the men does it too. when there is a temptation too big to resist, anything can happen but lets not be selective in what we do. both men and women can fall victims of infidelity! lets think reasonable and stop shifting this on the woman alone

I can't say she made the right or wrong choice but it depends on the kinda words she was asked to swear in. If i were to be in her shoes and cant take the word in i would do the same thing! Marriage No be by force***

purple3091:
POINT 1:as one poster rightfully said this is simply about men being insecure [that just as he approaches other women his woman can be approached same] and jealousy[that a woman can easily get more intimacy partners than men]...therefore men created all sorts of myths about what would happen if she cheats among other terrible things created/done by men....POINT 2:i am idoma,did the kola tradition thing,do cheat on my husband and have for years,so nothing happens ,has happenned or will happen to me because like many african myths&traditions created by men,its a lie created to induce fear in woman!!!POINT 3: on the african tradition thing,if you are one of those believing in african traditions then please follow african tradition and discard all things un-african(like phones,modern clothes,internet,electricity,cars,books etc) or else you are a hypocrite and contradicting!do you agree?...the point about point 3 is if you claim to follow african tradition(s) then follow it all,dont pick & choose which parts to follow and which not to follow...

. Nothing has happened to you yet, but in my tradition, something must happen to you. Perhapd

TrapQueen77:




May I ask... Is palm wine an alcoholic drink?

may I ask where you are coming from?

ObiOmaMu:
A Nigerian wedding was yesterday cancelled because the bride refused to swear she'll never sleep with another man apart from her husband.
According to Toni who shared the story:

A friend went for a wedding today only to call us and say it was canceled..
Like a "wedding" canceled...
guess why my people

.they gave the lady palm wine and told her to swear that she'll sleep with no other man but her husband.. babe no gree talk
And wedding was called off...
like a WEDDING..
and this did not happen in a movie.


Would you say this bride did the right thing?

http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/12/nigerian-wedding-bride-refused-swear-sleep-no-other-man.html

maybe the guy cannot perform during their little encounter!

What kind of thing is dis. Did dey subject the guy to this same oath?
What happens if the guy dies?
What happens if the lady is no longer interested in the union and decide to leave
If the man has no starting off trust on the lady, why trying to marry her?
The man has a heavy problem. He should first of all go and solve his problem before getting into marriage because, the way he want to enter into the union is the wrong way.
Can the man swear that at no condition must he not provide daily food for the family?
Can he swear to always provide for the woman to the taste of his wife?

OK,like the wedding was canceled?
There are many reasons that could be attached to it,m sure the 'husband to be' knows about it

Believe this trash and you can believe that Buhari will fix Naija economy! Nawa for bloggers!

eldoradoxx:
. Nothing has happened to you yet, but in my tradition, something must happen to you. Perhapd

even in whatever tradition you are,nothing would happen to me...anyway men need to know the facts:women do cheat,and can cheat even easily than men(its all about what is in demand,which is pusssy more than cocck),the difference is that women hide it more when cheating because men are violent & egotistical,among other reasons for hiding it!

ojun50:
Hw i wish they will test yoruba girls nd boys like that too

these ones can cheat!!

Did the husband first swear?

First before we go on this merry-go round, I want you to define (in your terms not dictionary) what you understand as Un-African, so I will understand your angle of argument better.

purple3091:
ok,am quoting you back to correct your errors! It is contradiction to choose which parts of african tradition to follow/which suit you and say you are traditionally african while still using un-african objects,

You missed the whole point of my premise, which is Traditions sometimes have to evolve/adapt and discard useless practice to remain relevant.

Female Genital Mutilation is a harmful tradition previously/still practiced and does not suit modern world and the victim. Would you call this a contradiction or cherrypicking if I insisted as an authority in your family to mutilate the female genitals of all your girls all in the name of tradition and irrespective of whether you uphold the tradition or not?

purple3091:

for you to follow,and discard the ones you think are bad(englich/arabic names,abrahamic religions etc) <<<all these examples are clearly un african yet you think some are 'good' and others 'bad' ,i'll give you an example to prove my point,if someone uses your sense of reasoning but vice versa(as in says that cellphoes,modern clothes etc are unafrican/'bad'(as in he wants a 'normadic' type of lifestyle) but that arabic,english names,abrahamic religions are 'good'/unafrican) yet says he is traditional following african,would you agree/disagree with him?...cos if your method of reasoning is used it means he is still tradition following..just saying..

There's a lot of mumbled words in your post making it difficult to squeeze a meaning out of it. I'd assume you are in a hurry typing and probably preparing for church or something. Anyway, back to the above:

As usual, you still miss the premise of my point, if someone chooses to do away with cellphones and cars and prefers the nomadic lifestyle, let's use a fulani for example, it does not in any way erode any of his tradition. He still remains a 100% fulani who enjoys his nunu. If he decides to use cellphones speak to his family members in other parts of Nigeria, practice modern day ranching and use cars to transport his cows to Lagos to make profit has any of this stopped him from being fulani?

But when the fulani man makes a rule to henceforth call himself Akinyode Akinjide and other members of his family a full yoruba name, prevent his kids from learning the fulani language and other related cultural activities that erode his identity. You know what that means for his people in the next 200 years.

Exciton:


Hehehehe. Please, I'm "thying" to know, what in Bleep's name is this?

Just a colloquial meaning "wish I had known"

kevoh:
First before we go on this merry-go round, I want you to define (in your terms not dictionary) what you understand as Un-African, so I will understand your angle of argument better.


You missed the whole point of my premise, which is Traditions sometimes have to evolve/adapt and discard useless practice to remain relevant.

Female Genital Mutilation is a harmful tradition previously/still practiced and does not suit modern world and the victim. Would you call this a contradiction or cherrypicking if I insisted as an authority in your family to mutilate the female genitals of all your girls all in the name of tradition and irrespective of whether you uphold the tradition or not?




There's a lot of mumbled words in your post making it difficult to squeeze a meaning out of it. I'd assume you are in a hurry typing and probably preparing for church or something. Anyway, back to the above:

As usual, you still miss the premise of my point, if someone chooses to do away with cellphones and cars and prefers the nomadic lifestyle, let's use a fulani for example, it does not in any way erode any of his tradition. He still remains a 100% fulani who enjoys his nunu. If he decides to use cellphones speak to his family members in other parts of Nigeria, practice modern day ranching and use cars to transport his cows to Lagos to make profit has any of this stopped him from being fulani?

But when the fulani man makes a rule to henceforth call himself Akinyode Akinjide and other members of his family a full yoruba name, prevent his kids from learning the fulani language and other related cultural activities that erode his identity. You know what that means for his people in the next 200 years.

the merry go round as you call it,started when you quoted the other quote of mine(the first you quoted) and gave contradicting opinions of what is african and not,my point on point 3 in the intial quote you quoted was that when some one says they follow african tradition,they should do so fully,without cherry picking yet still say " i am an african tradition follower" while ...1) having an english,arabic,or whatever un-african name...2)following un-african religion..3)using un-african objects...3)dressed in clothes not africa...4)etc.for me i never say am a traditional african following because i know its logically untrue,am modern. also before i answer any of your questions in this post,answer the 2 ones i asked first

I will the last one to bilieve this kind of shits....nonsense