ModestGal:
I realy think environment somtimes makes som ppl bcm introverted

I'd say not quite! The environment may make one more reclusive (and therefore make an introvert more introverted) but I don't think it can solely create introverts of people not biologically predisposed.

DonOms:


I'd say not quite! The environment may make one more reclusive (and therefore make an introvert more introverted) but I don't think it can solely create introverts of people not biologically predisposed.

Proof it pls,i think most Nigerian poor mases personalties are more environmentally determined

People are so many in this group,it makes me wonder why i cant jx find my type in many environment I have been,apart frm primary school which i cant realy remember my personalty then again,through to my JSS2,from my JSS2 upwards till i finish the university, i couldnt get somone with my introverted personalty type,and yet so many ppl are here claiming introversy,i think introversy has categories and my category is kinda realy rare i guess.I do have gentle nd quiet ones in my classes but we still dont fit

ModestGal:
People are so many in this group,it makes me wonder why i cant jx find my type in many environment I have been,apart frm primary school which i cant realy remember my personalty then again,through to my JSS2,from my JSS2 upwards till i finish the university, i couldnt get somone with my introverted personalty type,and yet so many ppl are here claiming introversy,i think introversy has categories and my category is kinda realy rare i guess.I do have gentle nd quiet ones in my classes but we still dont fit

But wait,i remember that in my primary school,I do talk very well,am nt jx categorized as gentle and I do play verywell with some in my classes then,in my jss3,i think thats when I became extremly introverted,I wont talk to anyone throught the day,sleep all through the break time,tuck in my face cx i dnt want anyone to start up a convo with me.....i hate going to the assembly ground,so i will go and hide somwhere,first to enter class and first to leave, I think I later got some friends in my hiding place sha,then i started sport....Time has really passed and I keep unfolding different types of personalty,

ModestGal:

Proof it pls,i think most Nigerian poor mases personalties are more environmentally determined

Okay...

I didn't intend to be assertive nor discredit your position on the matter of introversion and the environment. I know you came to that conclusion rationally.

Truth be told, the argument that introversion and extroversion are caused by nature or by nurture is an age-old argument that both proponents have fought to win. While truly both nature and nurture have influence on personality types, recent studies have favoured the school of thought supporting nature as the cause of either personality.

Now let's consider this scenario: Two children were bullied and isolated and ostracised between the ages of 3 and 11. From the age of 12, they both got into a new environment of inclusion and acceptance. One child becomes reclusive and shy, the other becomes attention-seeking and loose-mouthed (those two outcomes are psychologically very possible of the same early conditioning).

Do we categorically say it was the environment that was responsible for the making of the introvert child while neglecting the outcome of the other extrovert child? No, we wouldn't.

Scientifically, brains of introverts and extroverts have been examined to have more blood flow in certain regions of the brain justifying the personalities. Also, the brain chemical dopamine is confirmed to show reactionary difference between intros and extros - introverts crash when it's too much while Extroverts burst with life.

So finally, while the environment is a good influence on personality, it is hardly conclusive that it is responsible to cause introversion. It sure will make an introvert become more introverted but it will not make an extrovert possess chemical and biological traits of introverts.

Although you could want to argue that: What if our environment is the great influence deciding our biological traits while we are yet babies, only to grow into what the environment has predetermined? I'd say good question. But then, we'd have to conduct more research to support that new hypothesis.

ModestGal:
People are so many in this group,it makes me wonder why i cant jx find my type in many environment I have been,apart frm primary school which i cant realy remember my personalty then again,through to my JSS2,from my JSS2 upwards till i finish the university, i couldnt get somone with my introverted personalty type,and yet so many ppl are here claiming introversy,i think introversy has categories and my category is kinda realy rare i guess.I do have gentle nd quiet ones in my classes but we still dont fit

Lol @ the bolded part. Seriously, I think you're not getting one funny thing about introverts. You may think that other introverts will behave like you and be attracted to each other but no, that's not how it works because it's the nature of introverts.

I remember a lady who posted here a while ago how she doesn't have any friends and always run from those who try to come close. The truth is, most introverts do that so how will two introverts meet and become friends?
Besides, many introverts are good at hiding emotions. So how do you think one can easily figure the other out?

Also, about your comment on unfolding different personalities. I think you're simply moving slightly along the continuum:


This means your personality isn't exactly changing but you're using adaptation and need to slide along the scale. I personally encourage introverts to slide closer to the 'Ambivert' point but never to force it or try to change themselves.

DonOms:


Lol @ the bolded part. Seriously, I think you're not getting one funny thing about introverts. You may think that other introverts will behave like you and be attracted to each other but no, that's not how it works because it's the nature of introverts.

I remember a lady who posted here a while ago how she doesn't have any friends and always run from those who try to come close. The truth is, most introverts do that so how will two introverts meet and become friends?
Besides, many introverts are good at hiding emotions. So how do you think one can easily figure them the other out?

Also, about your comment on unfolding different personalities. I think you're simply moving slightly along the continuum:


This means your personality isn't exactly changing but you're using adaptation and need to slide along the scale. I personally encourage introverts to slide closer to the 'Ambivert' point but never to force it or try to change themselves.

Thanks honey, its called ADAPTATION,its only a silly person that will say,am an introvert,i dont like making friends when they see someone that could upgrade thier financial status through helping e.g someone to help one secure a job in an oil company,you will become friend shaperly

ModestGal:

I am goodlooking

lol. .Are you sure? Upload your D.p Lemme Judge
But seriously speaking, that's why I called it a myth. The dude who quoted me has done justice to my post.

NinjaX:


I acknowledge the truth of this post to an extent, although as with everything, there are always exceptions.

There are many factors responsible for why people are introverts, or become introverts, or even become chronic introverts.

Introversion by Trait. If you are an introvert there are chances that your father, mother or relative is an introvert and you inherited that trait from any of them. Search, probe deeply into your extended family, a distant relative of yours is an introvert.

Introversion by past experience(s). I don't believe that people become introverts by choice. That's false. Like life, it just happens on us, it choose us. Like it's our fate, nature destined us to be that way. Something of that sort. Victims of child abuse, or molestation, or rape, or rejection, or those who have suffered a trauma in the past might plunge into depression, and if they can't recover from that emotional illness, it might subsequently lead them to becoming introverts.

And then we come to Introversion by insecurity/flaws. You know, society has over the course of time defined what is right and what's not, what's acceptable and what's not, and this has become the norm. How society react to these 'flaws' we possess and how we receive these reactions, I mean the way criticism of people affects us plays a significant role in moulding us into introverts. You would definitely strive to reconcile to those flaws; if not today, someday you would, but society, bewitched by nature, would probably not accept you with your flaws. Now, it's you against the world. Of course you can't beat the world and as such, you isolate yourself from that world and find solace in your own world (introversion) perfectly created for you. And I don't blame society, no matter how harshly it behaves towards 'weirdity', since it doesn't have control over its disposition.

My opinion anyway.

Your opinion.Nice and interestIng.You be psychologist??

Omoluabi16:
Your opinion.Nice and interestIng.You be psychologist??

Thanks. Nope. It's a deduction made from personal observation, and as an introvert myself, I believe it provides me a better perspective to view things.

DonOms:


Okay...

I didn't intend to be assertive nor discredit your position on the matter of introversion and the environment. I know you came to that conclusion rationally.

Truth be told, the argument that introversion and extroversion are caused by nature or by nurture is an age-old argument that both proponents have fought to win. While truly both nature and nurture have influence on personality types, recent studies have favoured the school of thought supporting nature as the cause of either personality.

Now let's consider this scenario: Two children were bullied and isolated and ostracised between the ages of 3 and 11. From the age of 12, they both got into a new environment of inclusion and acceptance. One child becomes reclusive and shy, the other becomes attention-seeking and loose-mouthed (those two outcomes are psychologically very possible of the same early conditioning).

Do we categorically say it was the environment that was responsible for the making of the introvert child while neglecting the outcome of the other extrovert child? No, we wouldn't.

Scientifically, brains of introverts and extroverts have been examined to have more blood flow in certain regions of the brain justifying the personalities. Also, the brain chemical dopamine is confirmed to show reactionary difference between intros and extros - introverts crash when it's too much while Extroverts burst with life.

So finally, while the environment is a good influence on personality, it is hardly conclusive that it is responsible to cause introversion. It sure will make an introvert become more introverted but it will not make an extrovert possess chemical and biological traits of introverts.

Although you could want to argue that: What if our environment is the great influence deciding our biological traits while we are yet babies, only to grow into what the environment has predetermined? I'd say good question. But then, we'd have to conduct more research to support that new hypothesis.

I agree with you deary,but not totally,**Nature and Nurture**,hmmn,I do believ in nature,but no matter what,I think nuture has more effect than NATURE,after so much argument by both school of thoughts, it was agreed upon that Nature determins the cycle,why Nuture speaks of how much it will be attained in the cycle,that is hereditary says to what extent why the environment says how far the extent could be achieved, I as a person believe more in the ENVIRONMENT,infact to me the environment is the major determinant of personalty,a child born and raised in the ghetto or parks/garage,face me I face you house,market places will only be introverted with 2percent chance,infact,i havent seen any one from that kind of place that is an introvert before,my mother has many friends,bring many friends home with many of thier kids,I will have extremely few chances of being an introvert,In my own point of view,nature is nothing without a good nuture,leaving the extrovert nd introvert side a lil,a child born with high IQ,lets say 160,in one of the poorest village in Africa where they still hold that Polio is a curse frm the gods,children with measles are witches,the child will not live to use the IQ, let me tell a story,due to my likeness for genuis kids,i came across the story of a genius child,for the first one year of her life,no one knew she was a genius,not even a smart child,shes slow at everything her agemate could do easily and quickly,the parent never knew she had an eye problem,the eye problem affected her development and growth,the very say her eyes were corrected and she was given glases that was when she started everythg she ought to have done,three months later,she was found to be a genius,to cut my story short,the eye problem she was suffering from was'nt blindness,a very mild one,but still it affected all her growth and development,the doctor confirmed,imagine that this baby was born in Nigeria by very poor parent that lives in one village without an hospital and with the thinking that Garri is nw 150,rice is 630,tell me what will be the fate of the child.Nigeria is rich with resources,we are blessed country,good land,all these are Naturr, but how are we profiting from it?because we have no Good nuture,we are still importing toothpick.I see nature as trash without nuture,a sexually abused child turn to Ashewo/cheerful giver,even though she was born with low libido,you come from a home where everyone is lousy,you will be lousy my dear,unless environmemt shapes you again, and the most intresting part of nurture is that nuture beget nature with time,for instance You are born lousy,nd with a fighting gene,when you get to a society where adaptation is required or you go to jail (eg US),remembering its the community money that they use to send you to US,and if you enter jail,they will stone your parent at home to death,you will wisen up,after years you transfer the same to your children,after many many years,that gene will dissappear,even now,ugly genes hav started disapearing,you were born with ricket due to poverty out of lacking vitamin D,nd calcium in ur mamas diet,trust me,if that poverty cycle continues,it becomes hereditary,nd after another cycle of proper food intake it leaves the gene.Due to my love for extra smart kids,i hv researched so many people born brilliant that has become dull,dull families that has become better due to nuture,I was born brilliant,but now am dull,so I think without NURTURE,nature is a trash

Omoluabi16:
lol. .Are you sure? Upload your D.p Lemme Judge
But seriously speaking, that's why I called it a myth. The dude who quoted me has done justice to my post.

Am good looking o,nd I am introvert,another thing i notice is that brilliant people are mostly ugly people,i jx dont knw why,especially in my university,and i am proud to say I am different
I will only make you see my pix if you promise to come say somthing different like,introverts are beautiful after showing you

ModestGal:

Am good looking o,nd I am introvert,another thing i notice is that brilliant people are mostly ugly people,i jx dont knw why,especially in my university,and i am proud to say I am different
I will only make you see my pix if you promise to come say somthing different like,introverts are beautiful after showing you

hehe. I'm really not desperate to see your picture. If you say you're cute, then I believe you. Again, I never said introverts are ugly. . Just stated a myth. The O.P herself isn't bad looking. It's good to be different, it makes you stand out

ModestGal:

Am good looking o,nd I am introvert, another thing i notice is that brilliant people are mostly ugly people,i jx dont knw why,especially in my university,and i am proud to say I am different
I will only make you see my pix if you promise to come say somthing different like,introverts are beautiful after showing you

Hasty generalization. Easy there. Why's it that all the brilliant people (both boys and girls) I have met and interacted with, at school, church or at home, aren't ugly, or it's just you? Yeah, so convenient of you to exempt yourself. Who wouldn't?

NinjaX:


Hasty generalization. Easy there. Why's it that all the brilliant people (both boys and girls) I have met and interacted with, at school, church or at home, aren't ugly, or it's just you? Yeah, so convenient of you to exempt yourself. Who wouldn't?

Honey,i wasnt talking to you,thanks,and pls,I am not talking about everyday brilliant people,Like the best in my faculty and other faculties,girls mosy especially are ugly,nd am nt jx tlkng,its somthing i wondered why during d last convocation I attended,so pls excuse me

ModestGal:

I agree with you deary,but not totally,**Nature and Nurture**,hmmn,I do believ in nature,but no matter what,I think nuture has more effect than NATURE, ... [truncated],so I think without NURTURE,nature is a trash

ModestGal, that was quite extended. Interesting too I must say, but somewhat off from the initial stance we took. The discourse was to ascertain if the environment had more influence in creating the introvert personality.

The environment is a great influence on behaviour, dispositions, beliefs, tenets and societal inclinations no doubt. Studies prove it. Even I have studied the empiricist philosophy of John Locke and I couldn't agree more that the environment and experience greatly influence and 'create' us. But when we talk of introversion and extroversion, now, that's a topic that requires careful approach because of the abundant biological markers.

I wouldn't want to go too deep on that matter as I fear it may begin to get more abstruse and unnecessary if we go deep into psychological and biological studies/research.

Maybe one day if by chance we have the opportunity on a better platform other than this, we'd do the necessary justice .

Introverts!Introverts!!Introverts!!!

DonOms:


ModestGal, that was quite extended. Interesting too I must say, but somewhat off from the initial stance we took. The discourse was to ascertain if the environment had more influence in creating the introvert personality.

The environment is a great influence on behaviour, dispositions, beliefs, tenets and societal inclinations no doubt. Studies prove it. Even I have studied the empiricist philosophy of John Locke and I couldn't agree more that the environment and experience greatly influence and 'create' us. But when we talk of introversion and extroversion, now, that's a topic that requires careful approach because of the abundant biological markers.

I wouldn't want to go too deep on that matter as I fear it may begin to get more abstruse and unnecessary if we go deep into psychological and biological studies/research.

Maybe one day if by chance we have the opportunity on a better platform other than this, we'd do the necessary justice .

Okay,thanks,i will love a deeper look into it, I love knowing *why I am what I am**
You talk very official,I like that and are you a psychologist student?are you an introvert?

Melsan:
Introverts!Introverts!!Introverts!!!

It seems you have a lot on your mind about introverts

ModestGal:

Honey,i wasnt talking to you,thanks,and pls,I am not talking about everyday brilliant people,Like the best in my faculty and other faculties,girls mosy especially are ugly,nd am nt jx tlkng,its somthing i wondered why during d last convocation I attended,so pls excuse me

Lol. Of course I know. But this is an online forum, and whatever you say is directed to me, by extension. In your faculty... Seems that's a euphemism for "in my opinion".

Well, anything that floats your boat is okay with me, so long as you reach your destination.

Your are welcome.

NinjaX:


Lol. Of course I know. But this is an online forum, and whatever you say is directed to me, by extension. In your faculty... Seems that's a euphemism for "in my opinion".

Well, anything that floats your boat is okay with me, so long as you reach your destination.

Your are welcome.

Ok,one thing i discover is that in many forums I am on nairaland,people dont abbreviate,apart from those Ipob boys and Afonjas,with right punctuations, please are you typing with your laptop, or you ae jx that responsible,or are you an elderly person?because its elderly ones that like to follow rules and regulations. Am jx curious to know pls,nothing else bfr you start insulting me again

ModestGal:

Ok,one thing i discover is that in many forums I am on nairaland,people dont abbreviate,apart from those Ipob boys and Afonjas,with right punctuations, please are you typing with your laptop, or you ae jx that responsible,or are you an elderly person?because its elderly ones that like to follow rules and regulations. Am jx curious to know pls,nothing else bfr you start insulting me again

Lol. Was my previous comment an insult? Sorry, I didn't notice.

To your question. I detest abbreviation and badly punctuated write-ups which is why I try to the best of my ability to keep the standard. I expect whomever I quote to extend the courtesy, but some just don't give a _fuck, so it's either I ignore or swallow the bitter pill. Maybe they are avoiding wastage of time, or just an adopted style. Who knows?

Also, it's required of a good citizen to adhere to laws governing wherever he finds himself, so I'm just being the good citizen if you want to look at it that way.

Lmao@ afonjas and Igbos. That shit always cracks me up.

ModestGal:

Okay,thanks,i will love a deeper look into it, I love knowing *why I am what I am**
You talk very official,I like that and are you a psychologist student?are you an introvert?

Talk official? Lol. I guess I'm not a big fan of "informal." I'm Introverted, yes. Self-taught Behavioural Psychologist and Philosopher.

DonOms:


It seems you have a lot on your mind about introverts

Hmmmm#lips sealed#

DonOms:


Talk official? Lol. I guess I'm not a big fan of "informal." I'm Introverted, yes. Self-taught Behavioural Psychologist and Philosopher.

Self taught? Woow,goodluck bro

NinjaX:


Lol. Was my previous comment an insult? Sorry, I didn't notice.

To your question. I detest abbreviation and badly punctuated write-ups which is why I try to the best of my ability to keep the standard. I expect whomever I quote to extend the courtesy, but some just don't give a _fuck, so it's either I ignore or swallow the bitter pill. Maybe they are avoiding wastage of time, or just an adopted style. Who knows?

Also, it's required of a good citizen to adhere to laws governing wherever he finds himself, so I'm just being the good citizen if you want to look at it that way.

Lmao@ afonjas and Igbos. That shit always cracks me up.

Funny you,nice write up, I guess I will start doing same too,am just addicted to trying to save time, because I believe time is everything, am even better than most of my chat mates,cx thier own abbreviation is hell,but still we understand each other, now, I will try my best to be watchful

ModestGal:

Funny you,nice write up, I guess I will start doing same too,am just addicted to trying to save time, because I believe time is everything, am even better than most of my chat mates,cx thier own abbreviation is hell,but still we understand each other, now, I will try my best to be watchful

Time is everything indeed. But you end up losing on all sides some times, in a bid to save the time you so much cherish. What's important is know when to be in haste.

I believe every educated individual with perfect digits should type properly. The media craze has _fucked things up and still keeps _fucking up things. So, if I may ask what aspect of your introvert life is the most challenging?

NinjaX:


Time is everything indeed. But you end up losing on all sides some times, in a bid to save the time you so much cherish. What's important is know when to be in haste.

I believe every educated individual with perfect digits should type properly. The media craze has _fucked things up and still keeps _fucking up things. So, if I may ask what aspect of your introvert life is the most challenging?

Hmmn,i hv many challenges,but i dont knw if its introvert related,infact i nver tot of myself being an introvert,I mean mayb bcx am nt in psychology anythg,I dnt even think whethr am an introvert,extrovert or ambivert, but I knew my personalty was crazily different,It ws after my NYSC dat I started hvng d tot of being an introvert
One of my challenges is that am someone too mean,too focused,my mum do tell me dat one day I will kill myself due to I dont back off,when I hav am aim I wanna achieve,I dnt back off until I achieve it,before I used to think its a good thing,but nw looking back and seeing how I have tortured myself,I wanna try and put a stop now.
Another challenge i face is dat is either am over seriois or am under serious,when i see people who are average in seriousness,i do envy them,I cant jx stay at the middle of things,its eithr good or am bad,I cant be normal.
Another is that everyone says am nt caring,but am caring deep within me,they aint jx seeing it,calling,texting,greeting,paying visits,is nt jx my thing,doin those things is stress for me,I wish to do those thgs but I jx dont,I wish to go out but I dont,for the past two weeks I hvnt seen sun,always indoor,I hv only bim to lik three weddings,and they are ones they did in our house,am sure on my wedding day no one will com as my friend or from my side,I jx pray the grooms family wnt start thinkg am wierd,cx am truly wierd.
So mny challenges my friend,I wil b in d room frm morning till night etc.Am jx too extreme that no one can understand,I dnt think ppl see me as being introverted,they all see me as being wierd and crazy

ModestGal:

Hmmn,i hv many challenges,but i dont knw if its introvert related,infact i nver tot of myself being an introvert,I mean mayb bcx am nt in psychology anythg,I dnt even think whethr am an introvert,extrovert or ambivert, but I knew my personalty was crazily different,It ws after my NYSC dat I started hvng d tot of being an introvert
One of my challenges is that am someone too mean,too focused,my mum do tell me dat one day I will kill myself due to I dont back off,when I hav am aim I wanna achieve,I dnt back off until I achieve it,before I used to think its a good thing,but nw looking back and seeing how I have tortured myself,I wanna try and put a stop now.
Another challenge i face is dat is either am over seriois or am under serious,when i see people who are average in seriousness,i do envy them,I cant jx stay at the middle of things,its eithr good or am bad,I cant be normal.
Another is that everyone says am nt caring,but am caring deep within me,they aint jx seeing it,calling,texting,greeting,paying visits,is nt jx my thing,doin those things is stress for me,I wish to do those thgs but I jx dont,I wish to go out but I dont,for the past two weeks I hvnt seen sun,always indoor,I hv only bim to lik three weddings,and they are ones they did in our house,am sure on my wedding day no one will com as my friend or from my side,I jx pray the grooms family wnt start thinkg am wierd,cx am truly wierd.
So mny challenges my friend,I wil b in d room frm morning till night etc.Am jx too extreme that no one can understand,I dnt think ppl see me as being introverted,they all see me as being wierd and crazy

I can totally relate with all you said. When my mind is set on a goal I make sure I give it my all in order to get an excellent result. I hate average, anything I go into, I want it to be just perfect. I can't settle for less, so I always weigh the pros & cons before I venture into any engagement. If I perceive that the odds of being successful is higher, I go on with it, otherwise I backoff and look for another thing to invest my time and effort in. I admire your persistent spirit. That's a virtue, being able to stay focus on something to the end of it. Don't allow anything to break that spirit. You are gonna need it someday.

As far as I can remember looking back at my early teenage years, I have always seen myself as an introvert even though I didn't know what to term my personality then; I was a loner, a one man army. I love being in solitude, away from the talking, noise, people, completely shut myself from the world. That place of quiet is like paradise between both worlds.

I can stay in the room for days reading, playing games, watching movies, listening to music, surfing the net, and of course thinking. Lol. Though I do venture out at intervals to exchange pleasantries with neighbours, friends and to answer duty-calls. As the only introvert in the family, it's a bit difficult to fit in and cope with all the drama. I play and chat with my siblings when I want to but when it's getting much I just jokingly tell them to go away and let me have some quiet. These days my parents are beginning to welcome the idea that I'm going insane. Lol. And Nairaland ain't helping matters with the funny posts I read here everyday. You know, there are some posts you will read that they are so hilarious and you can't help but burst out laughing like hell. This usually happens when I'm arguing about religion. After earning strange looks from my parents and sister too many times, I've learnt to surf NL in private. Lmao. I wonder if nairalanders use Nl in public places. The mad stares alone would knock your senses back to reality.

Friendship. This is the hardest part of my introvert life. I find it difficult keeping and nurturing relationship between friends, family members. It's difficult for me to trust someone except if our friendship has gone far beyond stages of doubt. I'm trying sha. I hate making friends despite the fact that people always come close cos I'm scared of hurting someone with my non-charlant attitude. I lost a dear friend because of this. I still have her contact on facebook as well as her cell number but I don't know if I should call her or just let things die slowly. It's been a year since I last saw her. I really feel terrible because of this. Answering calls is a nightmare. Texting is okay. I don't like niceties. Please just skip the needless pleasantries and go to the fucking_ point.
Life goes on still.

NinjaX:


I can totally relate with all you said. When my mind is set on a goal I make sure I give it all my all in order to get an excellent result. I hate average, anything I go into, I want it to be just perfect. I can't settle for less, so I always weigh the pros & cons before I venture into any engagement. If I perceive that the odds of being successful is higher, I go on with it, otherwise I backoff and look for another thing to invest my time and effort in. I admire your persistent spirit. That's a virtue, being able to stay focus on something to the end of it. Don't allow anything to break that spirit. You are gonna need it someday.

As far as I can remember looking back at my early teenage years, I have always seen myself as an introvert even though I didn't know what to term my personality then; I was a loner, a one man army. I love being in solitude, away from the talking, noise, people, completely shut myself from the world. That place of quiet is like paradise between both worlds.

I can stay in the room for days reading, playing games, watching movies, listening to music, surfing the net, and of course thinking. Lol. Though I do venture out at intervals to exchange pleasantries with neighbours, friends and to answer duty-calls. As the only introvert in the family, it's a bit difficult to fit in and cope with all the drama. I play and chat with my siblings when I want to but when it's getting much I just jokingly tell them to go away and let me have some quiet. These days my parents are beginning to welcome the idea that I'm going insane. Lol. And Nairaland ain't helping matters with the funny posts I read here everyday. You know, there are some posts you will read that they are so hilarious and you can't help but burst out laughing like hell. This usually happens when I'm arguing about religion. After earning strange looks from my parents and sister too many times, I've learnt to surf NL in private. Lmao. I wonder if nairalanders use Nl in public places. The mad stares alone would knock your senses back to reality.

Friendship. This is the hardest part of my introvert life. I find it difficult keeping and nurturing relationship between friends, family members. It's difficult for me to trust someone except if our friendship has gone far beyond stages of doubt. I'm trying sha. I hate making friends despite the fact that people always come close cos I'm scared of hurting someone with my non-charlant attitude. I lost a dear friend because of this. I still have her contact on facebook as well as her cell number but I don't know if I should call her or just let things die slowly. It's been a year since I last saw her. I really feel terrible because of this. Answering calls is a nightmare. Texting is okay. I don't like niceties. Please just skip the needless pleasantries and go to the fucking_ point.
Life goes on still.

*These days my parents are beginning to welcome the idea that I'm going insane. Lol**, This you said is very funny, Theres this thing I do that i dnt knw if many ppl does, I think alot,imagining things,putting myslf in sevral placesI was addicted to doing it that i could do it for long,aftr som hours,i will sucesfully put myself in it,dreaming nd feeling my imaginations real,but not sleepingi dnt knw if you get my point,I dont do dat anymore nw,i mean bcx i dnt wanna run mad,but its d sweetest thing I do,and one of my reasons for not needing friends or playmates, all I do is imagine one,dscusing anytopic and I will hv it,infact,i even draw out d typ of friend i want,white,black,yellow,green,its really crazy,now dat we hv social medias, I cant play with my phone,my tab all day.bt i dnt engage in useless chats.Sinc morning,i hv bn reading about a girl dat commited suicide,i could do dat till evening,I guess i need a pstchologist to help me with what to do with my life

Hi everyone,pls i need the help of a psychologist that could help me in determining what to live the rest of my life doing, I mean job,etc, am begging,someone shld pls help
Talent,gift i hv searched if i really hv any,I dnt knw but I think i dont no matter how i try to convince myself,thier are things I do dat makes me happy, I only see myself good at something I wanna be good at, not that those things are in me,with all my readings,and researches, am coming to belive talent is a myth,I beliv being a genius in something is real,being extra ordinary super brilliant is real,nd some physical features enable some to do some things better than others,e.g being an athlete,the say that everyone has some hidden talent,is something i belive is false,especially as regard some things.I knw this is not the best place to discuss this,pls pardon me.Thanks

ModestGal:

*These days my parents are beginning to welcome the idea that I'm going insane. Lol**, This you said is very funny, Theres this thing I do that i dnt knw if many ppl does, I think alot,imagining things,putting myslf in sevral placesI was addicted to doing it that i could do it for long,aftr som hours,i will sucesfully put myself in it,dreaming nd feeling my imaginations real,but not sleepingi dnt knw if you get my point,I dont do dat anymore nw,i mean bcx i dnt wanna run mad,but its d sweetest thing I do,and one of my reasons for not needing friends or playmates, all I do is imagine one,dscusing anytopic and I will hv it,infact,i even draw out d typ of friend i want,white,black,yellow,green,its really crazy,now dat we hv social medias, I cant play with my phone,my tab all day.bt i dnt engage in useless chats.Sinc morning,i hv bn reading about a girl dat commited suicide,i could do dat till evening,I guess i need a pstchologist to help me with what to do with my life

@ run mad. Hahaha. Wanna err on the side of caution now. Yeah, matter of fact, I imagine and dream up nice fantasies every day especially if I'm idle. And I continue fantasizing late into the deep of the night and it becomes so real that I get caught up in the whole thing. I can cofidently assert that I have visited more than 10 countries...in my dreams of course. After long hours of daydreaming seeing people again kind of irritate me. Believe me it will seem like you have been separated from people for a very long time. I can tell almost all introverts do this daydreaming stuff.