Hi Nairalanders, is it okay if couples have different political views? Like supporting different Political parties?

Would it be normal?

And there won't be an Argument or fights between them.

There will definitely be an argument.

I don't see how having different ideologies will lead to fights as far as both couples respect each other's opinion. I'm sure you're asking this question because we're in a country where people can curse and even kill you for daring to think differently from them. if husbands and wives can support different football clubs or belong to different religions then why not different political parties.

Afam4eva:
I don't see how having different ideologies will lead to fights as far as both couples respect each other's opinion. I'm sure you're asking this question because we're in a country where people can curse and even kill you for daring to think differently from them. if husbands and wives can support different football clubs or belong to different religions then why not different political parties.

A good point.

Couples holding different political views is healthy but not admirable, just like couples supporting different football clubs or practice conflicting faith.

Just imagine a partner supporting another fellow who share same view with him/her over an argument/debate with his/her spouse. Not cool at all!

Afam4eva:
I don't see how having different ideologies will lead to fights as far as both couples respect each other's opinion. I'm sure you're asking this question because we're in a country where people can curse and even kill you for daring to think differently from them. if husbands and wives can support different football clubs or belong to different religions then why not different political parties.

There may not be fights as such but there will be discord leading to separation/divorce.
Couples need to be COMPATIBLE on basic issues of outlook on life.
I think that I have seen a report whereby majority of US couples share the same political party/ideology.

seguno2:


There may not be fights as such but there will be discord leading to separation/divorce.
Couples need to be COMPATIBLE on basic issues of outlook on life.
I think that I have seen a report whereby majority of US couples share the same political party/ideology.

Exactly!

Partners MUST be the number one fan of their other half if peace and happiness are to reign supreme in the home. Otherwise, they will only tolerate each other at best (if well managed)

A partner with different fundamental ideology with his spouse will only endure his "agreement to disagree" but not enjoy "unity in oneness".

just a nice mouth job between them, everything will be fine

There will definitely be . But, it can be controlled.

nigeriasmack:
just a nice mouth job between them, everything will be fine

Boss, why not go to Romance section and spare this thread of childish comment? Please, let's learn to sustain intellectual discuss.

Thank You

Apologies for my harsh words

There is nothing bad about it but women by their nature the moment they love you, they love everything about you include your religion, political party, football club e.t.c.

Yes Couple can support different political view, it now depend on how they managed it.

TonyeBarcanista:
Boss, why not go to Romance section and spare this thread of childish comment? Please, let's learn to sustain intellectual discuss.

Thank You

Apologies for my harsh words

i do try to discuss with you in a rational way.

in japan there is a saying "there is no cold-faced couple after one night sleep" which means, every divergence between them , could be solved on bed.

if a couple can not talk their divergence out , they may deal with it in a subtle way, a way given by god, after one night sleep ,even 2 idiots will be harmoniously coping with each other

nigeriasmack:


i do try to discuss with you in a rational way.

in japan there is a saying "there is no cold-faced couple after one night sleep" which means, every divergence between them , could be solved on bed.

if a couple can not talk their divergence out , they may deal with it in a subtle way, a way given by god, after one night sleep ,even 2 idiots will be harmoniously coping with each other

Thank you for your words.

if I get you correctly, you are saying that the couple will compromise and align at the end of the "night"… Right?

seguno2:


There may not be fights as such but there will be discord leading to separation/divorce.
Couples need to be COMPATIBLE on basic issues of outlook on life.
I think that I have seen a report whereby majority of US couples share the same political party/ideology.

Not necessarily stereo-type to be, the fact there is that Both partner can have different political views, infact the two partners cannot put all their eggs in one basket.

I have seen and know many couples that have different political views, infact its a fun in their families between Mother and father before their children, come see analysis and at the end the family enjoy the funs thereof

Its alright to have different political views.

The couples had different background and upbringing, hence its not expected to have the same thinking all the time.

Marriage is not a bondage.

engineerboat:
Not necessarily stereo-type to be, the fact there is that Both partner can have different political views, infact the two partners cannot put all their eggs in one basket.

I have seen and know many couples that have different political views, infact its a fun in their families between Mother and father before their children, come see analysis and at the end the family enjoy the funs thereof

Are you talking about parties devoid of any ideology but simply for sharing our national cake?

How many have heard of divorces based on INCOMPARTIBILITY or drifting apart i.e. not for infidelity issues oh.
I guess we are all about our bellies not about using our brains to form ideas about life, living and societal values hence we remain in eternal doldrums behind the whites and yellow people.

seguno2:


Are you talking about parties devoid of any ideology but simply for sharing our national cake?

I don't think he meant it that way! read his post again...

TonyeBarcanista:
I don't think he meant it that way! read his post again...

I read it and I see that he is not talking about the serious issue of political ideologies being the basis of party affiliation.
Otherwise he would not be talking of "eggs in one basket" nor would he talk about having fun at the end of discussions on party differences.
This is why many call APC a progressive party with no clue of the essence of the ideology.

seguno2:


Are you talking about parties devoid of any ideology but simply for sharing our national cake?

Nope, you did not get my point of ascertion. Partners have their reasons for whichever parties they support and different parties give lives to the family in one way or the other.

But at the bolded, out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.
decipher that.

seguno2:


Are you talking about parties devoid of any ideology but simply for sharing our national cake?

Please i will direct you to re-read again.

this time around, with a clear mind devoid of (what you are thinking it should be)

seguno2:


I read it and I see that he is not talking about the serious issue of political ideologies being the basis of party affiliation.
Otherwise he would not be talking of "eggs in one basket" nor would he talk about having fun at the end of discussions on party differences.
This is why many call APC a progressive party with no clue of the essence of the ideology.

The eggs in one basket could simply mean "variety in opinion" or something.

truth is spouses with different ideologies could live healthily but it is never fun. The best tag team is a man/wife, and the worst opponent is ones partner.

seguno2:


I read it and I see that he is not talking about the serious issue of political ideologies being the basis of party affiliation.
Otherwise he would not be talking of "eggs in one basket" nor would he talk about having fun at the end of discussions on party differences.
This is why many call APC a progressive party with no clue of the essence of the ideology.

I know your type. Why bringing in APC this, APC that. must you mention Party name.

what is wrong in couples after hot arguments on their different political ideologies in the presence of their children, coming back together and calm the situation before their children again.

You want them to continue the argument and start beating each other right. Weldone, its not meant to be.

TonyeBarcanista:
The eggs in one basket could simply mean "variety in opinion" or something.

truth is spouses with different ideologies could live healthily but it is never fun. The best tag team is a man/wife, and the worst opponent is ones partner.

Thanks boss,

Infact it is not compulsory that husband and wife must have the same political ideology.

"Putting all your egg in one basket", because my Husband is in party "A" i must be in party A, even though i am not convinient with it, whether what they do in the said party A i right or wrong, that amount to putting your egg in one basket.

TonyeBarcanista:
The eggs in one basket could simply mean "variety in opinion" or something.

truth is spouses with different ideologies could live healthily but it is never fun. The best tag team is a man/wife, and the worst opponent is ones partner.

You see why I came to my conclusion about his post?

engineerboat:
Thanks boss,

Infact it is not compulsory that husband and wife must have the same political ideology.

"Putting all your egg in one basket", because my Husband is in party "A" i must be in party A, even though i am not convinient with it, whether what they do in the said party A i right or wrong, that amount to putting your egg in one basket.

Before you marry your wife, you would have courted for some time, not so?
During courtship you will determine your COMPATIBILITY on basic issues of life and how people relate in the society, the role of government etc, not so?

seguno2:


Before you marry your wife, you would have courted for some time, not so?
During courtship you will determine your COMPATIBILITY on basic issues of life and how people relate in the society, the role of government etc, not so?

How does that make it compulsory that I and my wife should have the same Political ideology.

It is not automatic to be, man.

And how discussing how to relate with people in the society, automatically mean both should be in the same party

engineerboat:


I know your type. Why bringing in APC this, APC that. must you mention Party name.

what is wrong in couples after hot arguments on their different political ideologies in the presence of their children, coming back together and calm the situation before their children again.

You want them to continue the argument and start beating each other right. Well done, its not meant to be.

My Boss,

on the bold, it is not something that is fun a bit. Humans are shaped by their ideologies, people with ideological differences usually set a boundary and lines. I am sure a man/woman wouldn't want their other half to "always watch it".
Couples are meant to be ONE, If they can't share simple ideology or agree to share one, then what makes them couple?


I understand your point and I must admit that it is "healthy" if both aren't to the extreme BUT never ideal/desirable.

seguno2:


You see why I came to my conclusion about his post?

Yes! It is no fun from my own perspective.

I am glad we all saw what happened when Aisha expressed anti-Buhari sentiment. Even in America, couples are aligned to same party, prominent couples.

TonyeBarcanista:

My Boss,

on the bold, it is not something that is fun a bit. Humans are shaped by their ideologies, people with ideological differences usually set a boundary and lines. I am sure a man/woman wouldn't want their other half to "always watch it".
Couples are meant to be ONE, If they can't share simple ideology or agree to share one, then what makes them couple?


I understand your point and I must admit that it is "healthy" if both aren't to the extreme BUT never ideal/desirable.

Here is an analogy, Husband who does not like a kind of soup, but the woman who will want to satisfy her man will not coop that soup for the man, but decide to cook it separately for herself alone. what do you say about that. does that mean there is no agreement between the two of them

seguno2:


You see why I came to my conclusion about his post?

You see one thing you need to understand is this.

Whatever differences that might arises as a result of your different Political idealogy which will bring about some differences. "YOUR FAMILY (Children must be put into consideration)" and that come to the calming the situation before your innocent children. and i still stand by it that Couple can have different political ideology/view so far they can manage that and not allow it to affect their family.

engineerboat:


Here is an analogy, Husband who does not like a kind of soup, but the woman who will want to satisfy her man will not coop that soup for the man, but decide to cook it separately for herself alone. what do you say about that. does that mean there is no agreement between the two of them

Boss, the problem is that the issue of food has to do with health and "stomach" preference but unlike Ideology that affects our behavior and disposition