Guy na you carry yourself enter wahala
Because of parental blessing and tribe you go marry wahala
My cousin's husband didnt get any parental blessing because she was not from their tribe. Rhe guy went ahead and married her. Now 7years later they are happily married, blessed with some lovely kids and now his parents are the ones calling her 'our daughter'

Plankton2017:
she would be 25 this year

What were those attributes that made you love her enough to marry her?

Bro forget all these white wedding nonsense. You're already a married man in the eyes of God and man. Stopping the church wedding will not make her stop being your wife

HolySteph:
Too early to consider breaking off. You're the man now. Study your woman well and handle her hardly. If you want the marriage to last Bros take control. Her parents luxury shouldn't intimidate you. Do what you can do and if she doesn't like it let her do it herself and not her family. Once her family starts involving themselves the way they are doing now, Bros na dem go get say for your own house o!

He should study his wife well? Didn't he study her before marrying?

Anyway love is blind but na inside marriage eye dey clear.

The most important career choice is who you marry....that decision makes or mar your destiny... A broken engagement or a hell marriage? Choose

hopeforcharles:

Guy run , Read my lips RUN and keep running. Bail out bro abandon ship, before life becomes miserable before you kill someone or someone kills you.

Hahahahahahaha. Eeya. So guys go through this? So sorry for this dude. This wife of his wants IG popping wedding, I'm wondering why she hasn't brought up destination wedding ( Dubai, France)since her papa dey sponsor every. Mschewwwww! This dude but you Bleep up, you couldn't convince your folks on just tribal difference between you and your ex, how will he handle this high end wife you already married traditionally?Kai! Am laughing but my heart aches knowing the emotional distress you're in right now.

BUTCHCASSIDY:
Guy na you carry yourself enter wahala
Because of parental blessing and tribe you go marry wahala
My cousin's husband didnt get any parental blessing because she was not from their tribe. Rhe guy went ahead and married her. Now 7years later they are happily married, blessed with some lovely kids and now his parents are the ones calling her 'our daughter'

Real wahala o! -

Plankton2017:
Good day all,

I am a young dude who just did his traditional wedding. I have been having issues with my wife lately. She always nags at the highest pitch of her voice during simple arguments. I provide for the family the best way i can but she never appreciates me. She moved from her fathers mansion in Ikoyi Lagos to stay with me here on d mainland. She always complains how she misses life in Lekki and all that.

Now we are about to start white wedding plans. she never feels am correct. I have a certain budget for things but feel its not standard and its too local.She picks high end stuff from wedding gown to decoration that i and my family cant really afford and this turns to arguments. She once told me that am i so poor? My brethen I do business and my budget for my wedding is 1.5m i stay in a comfortable 2 bed that i pay 800k. I drive a muscle still im not good enuf. My family and I picked a venue for the wedding but she and her family declined that the place is too local. My church hall on d island that agreed for us to pay 300k, now her father wants to pay for a hal in VI thats 2million. She has now been singing it to my ears that her father is doing the wedding so how am i contributing. This pains me a lot. she is always on instagram and shows me people that have benz or expensive diamond which she knows i cant afford. I always tell her not to compare lives with people on IG most of them are fake.

I have been thinking can i continue like this?We argue all the time and wishes we stayed in Lekki. Please folks I was my self before I proposed I didnt Lie or fake anything. Guys am i not good enough??I miss my ex that understood me but wasnt from my tribe and i was not given parental blessings to marry her. Please advice me cos im a very unhappy should I go on with my white wedding? Please advice. sorry for my blunders

If you can put up with the nagging and shenanigans,then go ahead with the wedding,else,run for your life.

SQLmastar:
Eyaa...kpele.
I advice you to cut oof the wedding and ask for a bride price refund ASAP.

well said because he is entering into hell, better to break up now, its not the right woman to spend the rest of ur life with.

....Op sorry but she is clearly way off your league..You had better look for your ex,beg and marry her if you know whats good for you..

...but i can smell your type from miles away..You wanted to upgrade yourself and not mingle with 'hungry' ladies who will 'disturb' you for recharge card abi??. Ndo is your name now.

automatix:
Marriage is not by force. I have always said it and I will say it again: The single factor that will keep a woman in my house is HER character. Not the amount of kids she has for me. If she messes up, she has to leave. I might sound hash or wicked but I can not trade my peace of mind and sanity for ANYTHING.


One thing I HATE is women who quarrel over little things and will not listen to a some plea bargain.

You had better let that girl go before it is too late. You are clearly not her man. Any woman who does not listen to your voice is not yours but someone's else. Yes, they have that particular guy they fear and respect.

I detest people who are inconsiderate. A woman who does not see you as a man enough is not for you and from all indication, she isn't even planning with you. What will you and her live on after wedding? Una go open mouth for air abi? Bros, you likely allowed beauty to blind you. Let me tell, most of these pretty Nigerian girls are stupidly arrogant. The not so pretty ones are much humble in comparison.

My advice is cut your coat according to your cloth ooo. You know where the shoe pinches most. Good luck.

...Point of correction..He allowed the girl's tribe and WEALTH to cloud his eyes ....He had a caring,understanding girlfriend but threw it away on the alter of tribe and selfish interest...Now he is being burned,he is crying.

..The op was simply myopic with his spousal decisions..period.

Between you and her, there was/is dishonesty somewhere now see


Well, except you get as rich or richer than her father, you may forever be at loggerheads!

Even if you decide to end it, she may have a brain reset and calm down! But still,

Happiness is key! You may never be happy in this
Pray you make the right decision for both of you!

My guy I'm gonna advice u like a brother...if u continue woth this so called marriage...you'll die b4 ur time and she'll probably cheat on u with high class dudes.. (that's if she ain't doing it already)..she has no respect 4u...she's a spoilt Bratt...With all these complains abt our girls...i ain't sure if I'm gonna get married at all...cos i like my stressless life...

my guy cut ur coat according 2 ur size....this one is oversized coat oo....read d handwriting on d wall....NO MAKE MISTAKE WHEN OTHER DEAD GUYS DON MAKE... u beta let her go.....a million responsible girls r out there that will appreciate ur effort...this one go kill u with nag....like they say 'HELL IS WAY MORE BETTER THAN AN UNHEALTHY MARRIAGE'....a word is enough 4 d wise...GOOD LUCK...

Flexherbal:
Both of you need to see a counselor.

bross i get u...but in this case counseling ain't gonna work..this is who she is....bross u beta opt out b4 d rain of regrets pour on u....
what r u still doing there....I THINK BEING SINGLE AS A MAN IS THE BEST THING THAT CAB EVER HAPPEN 2 ANY BROTHER....most women nawadays no de add anything 2 a hustler life

Hmm bros, don't ever allow the bride family to sponsor your wedding or else your nightmares will have no end. I am a living example. ASAP. The rest is history now. A man will always be a man, dnt allow any one take that from you.

Obviously you didn't go for your level, i see hell on heaven with this picture you created. With how her family feel you can't carry the responsibilities that comes with a white wedding. Nawa oo it is well.

Pleaseeeeeeee put THE WEDDING ON HOLD OR YOU CAN QUIT.

SHIKENA....

Ngokafor:


....Op sorry but she is clearly way off your league..You had better look for your ex,beg and marry her if you know whats good for you..

...but i can smell your type from miles away..You wanted to upgrade yourself and not mingle with 'hungry' ladies who will 'disturb' you for recharge card abi??. Ndo is your name now.

Hungry ladies make bad wives too why not just decent ladies ?

shanicemel:
Hmm bros, don't ever allow the bride family to sponsor your wedding or else your nightmares will have no end. I am a living example. ASAP. The rest is history now. A man will always be a man, dnt allow any one take that from you.

I don't get you mean your family's giving your husband tough time or calling shots. Am curious about this

Hmmm

@ Plankton2017 something tells me your babe does not work.
Jobless ladies are the hardest to please because they don't know the value of money.
You are doing fine. Find a working class lady who will appreciate you.

eyinjuege:
Na wah o.

But you're married already na.

Better let your wife understand clearly now, and let her face reality that all that comparisons, kolewerk.

Abeg, didn't she know your level when you were dating? Infact, tell them you're not ready for any white wedding yet.
Let them give you a couple of years to buy a house in Lekki.
There's no point wasting more money doing an elaborate church wedding on a marriage that's dead on arrival.
Just make do with your traditional jeje, and do some "watchful waiting" as things pan out.

Op, this ^
Take it. Wait and watch. It will either calm her down or make her leave.

Hmm

This wife is not mature. As for those saying: 'this is how daughters of rich men are/should be', abeg, tell us something else. The first time you tell me you miss Lekki is the day I will let you know that Lekki was once a bush and show you swampy waterfront areas to reset your brain.


Figurative.

Poster your wife is just a spoilt brat , what does she love about you then, if she can't stoop low to your level. Abeg find a woman of your class that will cherish your effort. Else you will be answerable to her family for the rest of your life. The girl is still living in wonderland of her parents. Hope she is earning a living though

OP.

INSTAGRAM BIG GIRL na im you wan marry. someone that can frustrate your whole life just so that she can
take a picture and post it on Insta and FB.

and.......... there is no where in this story that you mentioned about how you love her or she loves you and you
guys really want this marriage.

I am going to assume that you will not leave her even if we give you 1000 pages of advice.

fasten your seatbelt sir, you are in for a very LONG ride, and her dad is the driver.

Nawa this is looking like a DOA marriage. May God help us all. Why parents still have to impose on their in marriage still baffles me. Yea they want your overall interest but shouldn't be to the detriment of both parties. You guys need to reach a decisive conclusion before it goes out of hand. And your fiancee needs to adjust, it's marriage we're talking Here, it's a together forever affair o, na till death do us things. That's why I say even to myself that marriage is a long time affair to be hooked up with the one who makes life unbearable

Dude I don't know if you can see this but send me an email if you can...was in a similar situation ...let's talk .

I feel you man ...take it easy .

Your wife is too materialistic, forget the fact that she is from a rich family, I know women that married muddle class men and yet they are from rich family, they humbled themselves and they are happy with their husband the way he is

She doesn't love you enough, she wants to impress people and that kind of life is very bad.


I will advice you to tell her that you don't want the wedding again, that you can't cope with her materialistic nature, and you won't kill yourself trying to make her happy.

If she change, go on with the wedding but don't accept any help from her people, you will be insulted later if you do accept it.


cc: Plankton2017

my dear,as a woman like her,these attitude you are seeing now will never change, we naturally nag(either to make or mar you),it will continue until you grant her request,she will kip making references,comparing and complaining, why not sit her down and talk to her,she thinks you have the money and doesn't want to spend it.She seems to me like one who doesn't think of the future due to her background, I advised my husband then "my dear,don't spend all your money on a day celebration,after the wedding, we will start begging for food to eat,no one will render help even the so called family and friends you were trying to impress" TALK TO HER,THE RESULT WILL DETERMINE YOU DECISION

Ngokafor:



...Point of correction..He allowed the girl's tribe and WEALTH to cloud his eyes ....He had a caring,understanding girlfriend but threw it away on the alter of tribe and selfish interest...Now he is being burned,he is crying.

..The op was simply myopic with his spousal decisions..period.

Ah... Thanks for the correction ma'am

eyinjuege:
Na wah o.

But you're married already na.

Better let your wife understand clearly now, and let her face reality that all that comparisons, kolewerk.

Abeg, didn't she know your level when you were dating? Infact, tell them you're not ready for any white wedding yet.
Let them give you a couple of years to buy a house in Lekki.
There's no point wasting more money doing an elaborate church wedding on a marriage that's dead on arrival.
Just make do with your traditional jeje, and do some "watchful waiting" as things pan out.

Married ke... I just pray I do not jam this kind of woman ooo. Na that day she go know say... anything that has a beginning has an end. Period.