Maychang:

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately, the challenges and how tough it has been as a first born child.

I often heard that many of us go through a lot of challenges which could be fustrating and sometimes, lead to depression.

I also know a handful of my kind who have found it hard in every area of Life- Job, Marriage... infact all areas of life.

I remember how hard it was to scale through secondary school- i remember staying at home for 2 terms for school fees. Even gaining admission to the university was very tough- it was just as though the devil was so interested in my case. After years of struggling , I finally gained admission to the university with many challenges as well.

Now, to the Glory of God Im out of school, Nysc certified, patching up with a small scale company- yet i dont feel satisfied with
what Life has offered me. I feel cheated and its annoying when you have to struggle to get jobs with youths who had graduated at age 20/21... and you are just there looking for vacancies that has no age barrier.

My pastor once said i needed to pray well because the devil targets the first born of the family. he said i had to run to God to rescue me. Well...I did pray for many years but things are worse.

I look at my younger brother sometimes and see how well things went for him; most times without stress. I look at other families as well and see how the younger ones are faring well compared to the Eldest. Its really depressing.

Why is Life not fair to us?

Aint easy sis...all eyes on you(in the voice of 2pac),may God help us all.

ednut1:
First born in Nigeria na assistant parent

Confirm!

JohnXcel:
Hmm...where does one start from ??

To all Firstborns (whether boy or girl); fight like CRAZY!

No matter what circumstances/problems you find yourself, FIGHT, and PREVAIL WITH GOD!

Hustle like you have never hustled before. Believe in yourself and you'll eventually prevail with men.

That's all...

Thank you!

This is how I have been surviving all these years.

its because even d devil is interested in Us
he gets u he has gotten ur entire family

hmm, the Lord will continue to be ur strength

Taryur3:
If I start to talk, the stress wey I pass tru e no go end...my ppu e no go end ....but I thank God today, I won the battle and I turn out to be a responsible elder to all my siblings...even at mid night am always available to answer them cos Papa don pass out.God help us.

gregyboy:


lol.i feel ur pain yea it also happened to me d day i came back from skul wit my younger sister i was flogged like jesus christ and told never to leave your younger ones alone

We learn in the harsh way, while the younger ones observe..

Being the first and only son of 5 children, I am more of an assistant father coupled with the following:

Mentor
Chief adviser
Scape goat (While younger)
Intermediator
Financial backup
Peace keeper
Fore runner
Solution provider

All these with lots of sacrifices.

I am glad doing these because my younger ones respect me alot, holding me in high esteem for this and we are always happy around each other.

Firstborn ehnnn na die check for example my current problem let me list it (2 sisters plus me =3 )
Grandma burial
My school fees next semester
My parent second born admission money I gat support pale
My my last born waec GCE form and preparationfor next year school
Second born needs new phone big Android to be exact
Last born too need Phone before this month end as promised
And me now to top it all I need laptop to get watin dem dey teach me for school


Now imagine all this problem na only 1 of my wahala dey this budget ooo and how much I dey collect sef so now to anybody viewing this my comment abeg u need laptop any body way go dash me him own I go fast and pray for the person till tomorrow cause I need another stream of income ASAP before I feel depressed
#firstbornnobeans

oheni:
chai okpara... shout out to all d last born in d huz

Ndi uwaoma! Lolz.

Op ur problem is ur mistakes yea ur mistakes and the reason ur younger ones succeed is that they don't repeat that mistake.

GloriaNinja:
I'M DOING GREAT, WHAT ABOUT YOU?

Ayam okk ooo...happy you are nt like some ppl wey we go greet and dem go ignore.... May the Lord honour you in return.

ArcFresky:
Be like say I was used as a guinea pig for testing.


I go 6 different school.
Write exams tire......
But at least it was fun, no responsibility at all...

bro u said it all!!!/

Damn !!
dem just use me tay experiment wen everything don spoil!!
dem con tell d other's learn from his mistakes

I just weak AF!!!

Hmm

GloriaNinja:
E NO DEY EASY AT ALL (SPEAKING AS A FIRST BORN)

Being a firstborn too the experience is the same. Spiritually speaking, firstborn used his head to break out from the mother and cleared the way for others coming behind. He is a pioneer, landbreaker, which has its attendant challenges. All eyes are on you. Remember Reuben, Esau, Ishmael etc in the Bible they didn't make it as such compared to their brothers. But prayer can break the evil cord like Jabez

Maychang:

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately, the challenges and how tough it has been as a first born child.

I often heard that many of us go through a lot of challenges which could be fustrating and sometimes, lead to depression.

I also know a handful of my kind who have found it hard in every area of Life- Job, Marriage... infact all areas of life.

I remember how hard it was to scale through secondary school- i remember staying at home for 2 terms for school fees. Even gaining admission to the university was very tough- it was just as though the devil was so interested in my case. After years of struggling , I finally gained admission to the university with many challenges as well.

Now, to the Glory of God Im out of school, Nysc certified, patching up with a small scale company- yet i dont feel satisfied with
what Life has offered me. I feel cheated and its annoying when you have to struggle to get jobs with youths who had graduated at age 20/21... and you are just there looking for vacancies that has no age barrier.

My pastor once said i needed to pray well because the devil targets the first born of the family. he said i had to run to God to rescue me. Well...I did pray for many years but things are worse.

I look at my younger brother sometimes and see how well things went for him; most times without stress. I look at other families as well and see how the younger ones are faring well compared to the Eldest. Its really depressing.

Why is Life not fair to us?

Op I think you need God.. been a first born doesn't have to hard.. are you born again ?

Being a 'Big Brother' comes with a lot of responsibilities. So many siblings and cousins et cetera looking up to you for guidance and welfare. But would you trade the place of the Big Bro? No Papi.

I know this feeling cos I'm one myself. Being a First born is a world of its own entirely. Only a supportive and united family can make one remain sane as a firstfirst child

Been a first born is a very big burden,only God can change what devil has in stock.but by His grace we all survive the heat...can't even xplain

all eyes are on you...expectations are great

make terrible mistakes...and u become the scum of the family



people frown more at your mistakes than they would an applause, when u make positive strides

Maychang:

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately, the challenges and how tough it has been as a first born child.

I often heard that many of us go through a lot of challenges which could be fustrating and sometimes, lead to depression.

I also know a handful of my kind who have found it hard in every area of Life- Job, Marriage... infact all areas of life.

I remember how hard it was to scale through secondary school- i remember staying at home for 2 terms for school fees. Even gaining admission to the university was very tough- it was just as though the devil was so interested in my case. After years of struggling , I finally gained admission to the university with many challenges as well.

Now, to the Glory of God Im out of school, Nysc certified, patching up with a small scale company- yet i dont feel satisfied with
what Life has offered me. I feel cheated and its annoying when you have to struggle to get jobs with youths who had graduated at age 20/21... and you are just there looking for vacancies that has no age barrier.

My pastor once said i needed to pray well because the devil targets the first born of the family. he said i had to run to God to rescue me. Well...I did pray for many years but things are worse.

I look at my younger brother sometimes and see how well things went for him; most times without stress. I look at other families as well and see how the younger ones are faring well compared to the Eldest. Its really depressing.

Why is Life not fair to us?

Op it is not just about the first born but also about the irst son.

In my culture, the first son carries all the responsibility of taking care of the younger ones, even the parents as well. If a lady happens to be the first born, she is free from any of these responsibilities.

At times I just regret why God made me the first son. I can't enjoy my money. I must cater for my siblings' needs first. It's so frustrating.

holatimmy:
Let me give you mine as a last born

1.You are spoilt when your elder one cooks for you
2.You can't contribute to any decision making in the house.
3.Whenever you are bullied,you get a sorry and a pat on the head.
4.The smallest piece of meat is yours.
5.You should be like your elder ones

Abeg...Being a last born no be beans

To insult you de hungry me.

Can you compare all these challenges with first born face

Hmmmmmmmm. This got me thinking.

Its not easy atall.. You tend to follow a careful path because expectation is on you.
Currently, I'm jobless without a girlfriend just striving to live right and my younger bro is married with two kids. On many occation, family members always remind me of this fact. Just early this month i got furious when my gran mum mention it again with so much pity for me...i was like granny hold it there joor..should i kill myself or do i join badt gang to make money, am i not trying to secure something for myself or do you want me to just get any girl i will not want to marry pregnant just because you think am old enough to be a dad or do you think am happy with my situation? I was really pissed and stormed off.
I tends to withdrew from family members nowadays because they always makes me sad and feel like a failure. My only source of strength is my mum. I believe God will pick my call.

I Have A Very Bad Depression And Anxiety. I Feel As If I Am Tired Of This Life. I Cant Sleep Because Of Fear. Please Who Can Help Me Out Of These Evil Thought? Or Am I Running Mad?

I Have A Dream And I Am Thinking Of Death Everyday. I Cant Sleep And I Am Depressed, I Am Tired Of This Life. Please Who Can Give Me A Solution To My Problem?

First born=Jack of all trade

Lots of responsibilities.

VickyRotex:
I'll wait for my twin brother to come, so we can share. Since we are sharing the position.


On a serious note. Op, you need to get rid of such mindset that first borns find it tough to excel. Guard your heart with positivity and what you so desire to see. Everyone got challenges irrespective of the position they fall in.

Moreover, Your case is different!

Challenge the status quo, if at all there's any in this case. Which I doubt!

u're either not a firstborn or u come from a rich home.

Akinyemi325:
I Have A Dream And I Am Thinking Of Death Everyday. I Cant Sleep And I Am Depressed, I Am Tired Of This Life. Please Who Can Give Me A Solution To My Problem?

. Hey man, don't give up, Holla at me, let's talk, i might be able to help, we've all had or are having similar experiences, how we manage it is different though.

I don't know where to start, but honestly, the firstborn is the GUINEA PIG of the house. M sure some of us know what guinea pigs and white mice are used for in the lab.

I was always the one to be blamed when ever my younger ones do something bad and at the end of the day I get punished