I don't know if this is too late but op u surprise me, even if my mum did this I will arrest her, this is pure wickedness
I don't want to believe u are a weakling
Do the needful
Arrest her
Press charges for burglary theft,

No one has the right to break your room in your absence, so deal with it. Nonsense

as much as I hate violence and won't hit a lady, lord knows ama beat the living hell outa that sister that very day she will be sane for some hours, I mean what wickedness, hit my wife unprovoked and thereafter cart away ma certs and destroy ma properties? hells!!! after the beating she'd get a restraining order from a court, and then a family meeting discarding all ties with her,water related or not!!! and op please grow some balls,stop being timid and frightened! you a man,start acting like one; what's the point when you can't protect your loved ones from harms way, your mum,wife,lil kid, it was even your wife that stood up against her, and all through you were watching the drama unfold? too bad man.

omron:
Good morning to all romancelanders
This story am about to share is a real life story
And I would be very glad for matured comments and advice before things goes out of hand
I happens to be the only male child of my family
I got married in the year 2012 to my wife that we were both from the same state Ondo state
Lost my dad few years ago
I lived in oke mosan in Abeokuta
I relocated to Abeokuta with my wife from Osun state when my Dad goes to a great beyond that was 3 years ago.
I changed my job and decided to stay around my mum in her house built by my Dad for sometime before renting my own house so as to ensure that she is not lonely.
I started living in the house for the past two years now with my wife and my baby son who is 3 years now

I have 3 sisters and all of them are married with kids
But I have this one very wicked, stubborn and hard hearted very crucial sister out of my sisters called Funke.
She happens to be our third born while am the last born.
She always feel so proud, possessive,bossy and always wants to take charge of any Affair in the family
She has been like that since her childbirth
She can talk to anybody anyhow,several times she abused my dad in his lifetime. I thought she would change when she get married but this irritating and rabid character keeps growing in her.
To cut the long story short

About 3 weeks ago she came to Abeokuta from lagos where she lives with her husband to visit our mum

And anytime she comes visiting it's quarrel,fights and arguments all of the time

She quarrel with anyone she sees around and most times she took on my innocent wife

So when my mum told me she is coming to stay for a week in the house I told my mum I will move out to rent a guest house for a week till she go back to Lagos because there is no Time she comes and she doesn't fight .
She has disgraced the family enough in our neighborhood so I don't want such to repeat itself

My mum discarded my opinion and assured me there won't be problem.
As if I know, Third day she arrived she came up with her attitude by shouting on everybody in the house
She picked up a serious quarell with me even in the area and started abusing me in the presence of neibors calling me different names, some elderly men came to settle the quarell.
During the duo... She cursed my wife in Yoruba and my wife in her presence returned the curse that it shall not be so in Jesus name.
My sister hearing that bounced on my wife and hit her in the nose and bite her..... In the process my wife got annoyed and bites her on her ear too blood was everywhere both from my wife nose and my sisterr outer ear.
I was having exams that day so after the fight I left the house with my wife and she was to return to her destination in lagos that same day.

As I was going out I locked my room with padlock and when we came back in the evening I was suprised what I saw.
My sister has broken the door to have access to my room....she carried away my wife certificates from her day one till present,and also my pictures from day one during my NYSC my wedding pics,and other important pictures, she wud have absconded with my certificates too if not that I took it to interview that morning.
The most painful and shocking thing she did after that
She bought a new blade and cut almost my wife clothes in the wardrobe and even my son clothes she pieces everything and destroyed my son toys

She even threatened my wife that she will go to to any length that she will separate us.
She has been running around on what she said
But I believe in Almighty God that I serve no evil shall befall me.

I reported her to some family members and up till now she is denying that she did not carry certificates and my photo album neither did she cut my wife clothes..

My wife have decided to take the case to police but the families are begging her to be patient but my sister is denying.... Am confused and don't know what to do next. Cos till now she is still denying and she said she can swear with Ogun or anything ... Pls save my family what should I do ?
I will appreciate you all for your comments.....
Thanks all

go rent your own apartment and move in with your wife and report your sister to the police so that you can retrieve your wife's certificates. please, your mother should not go with you to your new apartment so that your sister don't have reason to come to your home and be prayerful. your sister needs psychiatrist evaluation.

alonzoiv:
Your sister is a vampire, werewolf and daredevil combined together in one, and Police cannot solve this issue. A spiritual leader will be more appropriate, even as your sister comes across as a possessed and mentally derailed/unstable person.

Which kind yeye spiritual leader. Get the bi**ch arrested!

omron:
My wife
Blood coming out from her nose

What actually caused the quarrel?
You did not explain in a detailed fashion.

ARE
YOU
A
MAN
AT ALL
?

omron:
Good morning to all romancelanders
This story am about to share is a real life story
And I would be very glad for matured comments and advice before things goes out of hand
I happens to be the only male child of my family
I got married in the year 2012 to my wife that we were both from the same state Ondo state
Lost my dad few years ago
I lived in oke mosan in Abeokuta
I relocated to Abeokuta with my wife from Osun state when my Dad goes to a great beyond that was 3 years ago.
I changed my job and decided to stay around my mum in her house built by my Dad for sometime before renting my own house so as to ensure that she is not lonely.
I started living in the house for the past two years now with my wife and my baby son who is 3 years now

I have 3 sisters and all of them are married with kids
But I have this one very wicked, stubborn and hard hearted very crucial sister out of my sisters called Funke.
She happens to be our third born while am the last born.
She always feel so proud, possessive,bossy and always wants to take charge of any Affair in the family
She has been like that since her childbirth
She can talk to anybody anyhow,several times she abused my dad in his lifetime. I thought she would change when she get married but this irritating and rabid character keeps growing in her.
To cut the long story short

About 3 weeks ago she came to Abeokuta from lagos where she lives with her husband to visit our mum

And anytime she comes visiting it's quarrel,fights and arguments all of the time

She quarrel with anyone she sees around and most times she took on my innocent wife

So when my mum told me she is coming to stay for a week in the house I told my mum I will move out to rent a guest house for a week till she go back to Lagos because there is no Time she comes and she doesn't fight .
She has disgraced the family enough in our neighborhood so I don't want such to repeat itself

My mum discarded my opinion and assured me there won't be problem.
As if I know, Third day she arrived she came up with her attitude by shouting on everybody in the house
She picked up a serious quarell with me even in the area and started abusing me in the presence of neibors calling me different names, some elderly men came to settle the quarell.
During the duo... She cursed my wife in Yoruba and my wife in her presence returned the curse that it shall not be so in Jesus name.
My sister hearing that bounced on my wife and hit her in the nose and bite her..... In the process my wife got annoyed and bites her on her ear too blood was everywhere both from my wife nose and my sisterr outer ear.
I was having exams that day so after the fight I left the house with my wife and she was to return to her destination in lagos that same day.

As I was going out I locked my room with padlock and when we came back in the evening I was suprised what I saw.
My sister has broken the door to have access to my room....she carried away my wife certificates from her day one till present,and also my pictures from day one during my NYSC my wedding pics,and other important pictures, she wud have absconded with my certificates too if not that I took it to interview that morning.
The most painful and shocking thing she did after that
She bought a new blade and cut almost my wife clothes in the wardrobe and even my son clothes she pieces everything and destroyed my son toys

She even threatened my wife that she will go to to any length that she will separate us.
She has been running around on what she said
But I believe in Almighty God that I serve no evil shall befall me.

I reported her to some family members and up till now she is denying that she did not carry certificates and my photo album neither did she cut my wife clothes..

My wife have decided to take the case to police but the families are begging her to be patient but my sister is denying.... Am confused and don't know what to do next. Cos till now she is still denying and she said she can swear with Ogun or anything ... Pls save my family what should I do ?
I will appreciate you all for your comments.....
Thanks all

if by now u did not beat dat ur sister blue-black then u r a weakling.
If by now she never cool of for police cell and bring back ur wife's certificate at least then u knw u r a disgrace.
Infact ur father will b turning in his grave.

Maka gini? Are aware dat she assaulted ur wife? Meaning she assaulted you?

the case dey plain. Biko go n do d needful. If u dont take firm stance here ur wife will start seeing you in a different light.

Jus Negodu!

Sparkle777:
Hmmm, ur sister needs mental and spiritual evaluation. U sef, ur God given spirit told u to leave until she goes bt u no hear. That's how God warns His ppl against death and destruction bt dey dnt heed and subsequently pay dearly then start blaming God.
Nothing spoil sha, no bring police cos of ur mom. Make una no go kill d woman Abeg. Pls forgive and learn since ur Sis has gone back.
As for ur wife, pls protect her and make amends.
Una go dey alright last last

forgive and forget the certificates she stole? Even God doesn't forgive unrepentant persons.

Bahddo:
forgive and forget the certificates she stole? Even God doesn't forgive unrepentant persons.

Trust me, she destroyed it too.
Imprison her beat her, e don go be e don go.

I am feeling the psychological trauma you are facing right now, @ first, i don't think am wrong if i should blame you for living with your Mum, it is never possible for her to leave her husband's house and come to disrupt your peace if you are living alone{when she's not mad}, your mum would be limiting you from taking some steps, which are the best steps you ought to take, your sister needs more than a counsellor, i think she needs a pastor too, move out and stay alone if you love your immediate family. Be checking on mum regularly. Take care Bro.

Sparkle777:


Trust me, she destroyed it too.
Imprison her beat her, e don go be e don go.

then teach her a hard lesson. It's because she keeps getting away with her nonsense that's why she's that way.

WHO GAVE HER THE RIGHT TO COME TO YOUR HOUSE TO TOUCH YOUR WIFE. MY BROTHER IF YOU CAN NOT PROTECT YOUR WIFE WHO ELSE? DID YOU MARRY YOUR WIFE FOR YOUR SISTERS? YOU BETTER FIGHT FOR HER NOW YOU ARE ALIVE. TO ME: IS BETTER FOR HER TO REMAIN SINGLE THAN TO HAVE YOU AS HER HUSBAND.

I'm not married but what I see couples who stay at their family home after marriage is hell, she won't have dared to come to your own house to do such, she only took the advantage of the fact that you are staying at your father's house... Your wife made me happy by challenging her to a fight. Bros go and rent an apartment and own up as a man. If my future sister in law dare me in such manner ehn, I will make sure she eats her shiit as food and drink her urine as water. She demon idiotic sister in law.

omron:

What do u mean by u r d last born and she is older? You dont know by tradition, if u r the only son and have no uncles, you would have been the one to give your elder sisters hand out in marriage? Respecting your sister's age should stop the day she disrespects you.

I dont even care about what your sis did to you, its ur wife i care for. As far as i am concerned you brought this mess upon your wife, you owe your wife a heartfelt apology. What rubbish! First of all it takes a very understanding wife to consent to living in your parents house. Bringing ur mum to ur house would have been a better idea and nobody would have had the guts to disrespect you in your own house. I cant phantom how such a thing could happen and all you can do is run to nairaland, for pete's sake you are a man! And i dont mean it in a supremacy manner but part of the responsibility of a man is to take the initative, be a rallying point of the family and put people in their places when the need arise... right now your sister's place is weeks long all expense paid vacation in a cell.

A mere idiot pretending to be a sister is getting u into such mess. Men bring their ageing troublesome fire for fire mum whom they owe their who life to, to come live with their family and still enforce order and peace... Honestly you sound as though you never performed the role of a man until you got married. Cos i dont understand how come you havent long arranged your sisters scoi scoi when you were younger. Your sister is not possessed, she is just finding someone who can stand up to her and cure her crase...once you do that she would either respect you or forever leave you alone.

A man should be gentle and calm but ready to go crazy when the need arises else he would be trampled upon.

Go to her house and replicate whatever she did to you. Adopt any method you can and seize her belongings; valuables, car if she has any and if possible, take away any of her little child at reach. Before you do this, make sure you had taken your family to a safe location. Make sure you hold her to Ransom the same she did to you, then that demon will leave her. ARRANT NONSENSE. I AM PROVOKED ALREADY!

streetzdreamz:
as much as I hate violence and won't hit a lady, lord knows ama beat the living hell outa that sister that very day she will be sane for some hours, I mean what wickedness, hit my wife unprovoked and thereafter cart away ma certs and destroy ma properties? hells!!! after the beating she'd get a restraining order from a court, and then a family meeting discarding all ties with her,water related or not!!! and op please grow some balls,stop being timid and frightened! you a man,start acting like one; what's the point when you can't protect your loved ones from harms way, your mum,wife,lil kid, it was even your wife that stood up against her, and all through you were watching the drama unfold? too bad man.

as in... The guy is such a sissy. Can't stand up for his family.

[quote author=Bahddo post=56196396] then teach her a hard lesson. It's because she keeps getting away with her nonsense that's why she's that way. [/quote.

Any lesson to her wil further kill their mom. Remember? She nids help, any good psychiatric hospital wil do her well. Then prayers also. I ve experienced such. You just can't win. Trust me.
The guy should hav listend to his spirit sooner.

Please report her to the police without wasting your time, but make sure you have witnesses or evidence. I have a sister like that who did same thing to me and i lost my marriage, She even went as far as sold one of my dad's property. It's the police i use to calm her down. She was almost jailed. Till date she has changed. Go to police zone command where the matter will be taken very serious not just a police station where the matter will be taken lightly. Just take my advise and shun the family thing. My sister and i are twin but i still locked her up in police sail and allow police to do their work. she just feel you people have soft spot for her and nothing will happen hence her behavior, Somebody need to teach her a lesson and this is the opportunity. After this case look for place of your own even if it's one room rent for your family because that is what makes you a man and husband. Protect your family if you want to remain a husband, don't make my same mistake, After God your wife and children first. Nobody messes with mine now after my experience. I wish you LUCK.

petersonoking:
WHO GAVE HER THE RIGHT TO COME TO YOUR HOUSE TO TOUCH YOUR WIFE. MY BROTHER IF YOU CAN NOT PROTECT YOUR WIFE WHO ELSE? DID YOU MARRY YOUR WIFE FOR YOUR SISTERS? YOU BETTER FIGHT FOR HER NOW YOU ARE ALIVE. TO ME: IS BETTER FOR HER TO REMAIN SINGLE THAN TO HAVE YOU AS HER HUSBAND.

And if he's killed in the process of fighting? Who will take care of his family? You think a person that can do this is alright?

OP,
Tell your mother to tell her child to return your certificates and refund you money for property lost. Also meet with her husband like a man and tell him everything that transpired. If he's a reasonable man he will be ashamedand do the right thing. If not go to the police station and file a theft report with her name on it, also file an assault report. Get your own apartment and move on with your life. Work on replacing those certificates, I hope you have the photocopies.
Cut off contact with her. Everything can be replaced but not your life. Apologize to your wife on her behalf and that of your family and just move on. Trust me, you will be the bigger person and God will bless you.

[quote author=Sparkle777 post=56196942][/quote]Yimu!!

omron:
Thanks you are right
Not thati don't have money or what it takes to rent house but I don't want my mum to be thinking of being alone.. But with what happened Now I think that is what I will do

Get a house help for your mum. That way she won't feel that lonely

ejosh4:
To be very frank with you, I think your sister is taking advantage of the fact that “There is nothing no one can do to me if I misbehaves". She has grown with this mentality and right now it might be difficult for her to stop.

There are several ways to deal with such kind of women, One of such is using her emotions to your advantage. One of the weakest part of a woman is her emotion. For the mere fact she is your sista gives you an advantage cos u know her darkest moments which you can use to witchunt her soul. There are things you tell a woman and you break down her soul. Tell her how her action have made her a laughing stock in d community. In doing this you must not show any form of aggressiveness, it must be done when u alone with her with a calm voice and a smiling face. She wud see u as a devil @ first ......
But then she wud think over it moments she is alone ..... And am sure it would make her feel guilty......And such behaviours wud b reduced drastically

Emotions ke? Is that kinda person ready to change? Abi u no hear say na so shey dey from small? Best thing na 2 put her 4 guard room 4 2wks. Dat kind matter, na life-changing beating go instill d fear of the Lord. Who emotions epp?

U should leave ur family house and rent ur own apartment.u don't know wat ur sister will do wit the credential.she can take it to babalawo (GOD forbid that).ur sister said she will go extra miles to distroy ur home.Report to the police,so that the will teach her a lesson of her life.

[quote author=dingbang post=56187321]Are you not a man? U ought to beat sense into her.. Jeez..[/quote


Real men don't beat

Sparkle777:
Any lesson to her wil further kill their mom. Remember? She nids help, any good psychiatric hospital wil do her well. Then prayers also. I ve experienced such. You just can't win. Trust me.
The guy should hav listend to his spirit sooner.

his mother promised nothing would happen, nothing could be farther from the truth. If the sister's lunacy hasn't killed the mother, neither would the man's lesson.

The mother wasn't there to prevent or solve anything. The same mother raised the monster he calls his sister, with this same pampering and living in denial. She still wants him to live in denial until his sister kills his wife and child and maybe him too.

His mother should take the back seat, she was missing in action so this isn't about her anymore.

poshestmina:
Whaaaaaat? God knows i can't joke with my certificates with ANYBODY ! after how many stressful years ? Your wife shouldn't involve police ,she should involve Army and sars! what rubbish! .ur sister is a criminal and should be treated as such ,who breaks into people's house in their absence ? .I dnt care abt ur family palava ,make sure your sister provides those certificates before she runs away .

Honestly I agree with the poster above any Military personnel in the house should help a brother. If she is mad once she is handled the way she deserves she will produce the certificates and pay for damages for all she destroyed.
Sorry Bro .

omron:
My wife
Blood coming out from her nose

Nawa oo

[quote author=misscowmilk post=56197580][/quote]try am for my house na..

poshestmina:
Whaaaaaat? God knows i can't joke with my certificates with ANYBODY ! after how many stressful years ? Your wife shouldn't involve police ,she should involve Army and sars! what rubbish! .ur sister is a criminal and should be treated as such ,who breaks into people's house in their absence ? .I dnt care abt ur family palava ,make sure your sister provides those certificates before she runs away .

....

God bless you for that comment you alone have said it all, op you should do what this young lady have said asap..

She's demonic

Tokziby:


My dear friend, Violence never stops violence, it only brew more and before u know it, many things will get destroyed. There is no where in the world that violence is used to stop violence, its only dialogue than can bring peace. The gentility of a tiger does not make him stupid. The only way to defeat a violent person is through patience and strategy. By the time he packs his belongings and leave for another place with no one to know where he lives. And when they come in contact its only greetings that ends their conversation. By the time no one gives her attention and people face their business, do u think she will still have the right to attack anyone without any form of provocation. The most deadliest weapon that can defeat a woman is to deny them attention. There is an adage that says," never argue with a stupid person cos he will bring u down to his level and beat u with experience". Same thing goes for a violent person. All u need is to do the opposite, deny them the environment required to create more violence and go ur own way.
The woman is a typical psychopath that thrives in violence

is it not ignoring they've been doing all this years that turned the sister into an animal and makes her think she can misbehave any how she likes .some elders in my place says it's madness to be doing the same thing and expect a different result and that's exactly what is happening in Nigeria. We have been dealing with the same problem using the same approach that's why nothing is working instead Nigeria is sinking deeper into more problem after problem. His case doesn't require gentle man approach of ignoring. That's not how you deal with touts to get off your back, you use extreme violence. You stoop to their level and give them counter violence if not the harassment and disrespect will continue in a worse dimension