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Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Basseybruce: 11:26am On May 10, 2017 |
ayokellany:.................. Lolz, God will forgive U.................. I dey roll for ground here. Lolllllllllllllllllllz. 1 Like |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Basseybruce: 11:29am On May 10, 2017 |
madone:.................. Let her know:> |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by AlphaT1(m): 11:31am On May 10, 2017 |
madone:Bros ur brain get better sense.... |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by AfricanCalabash(m): 11:31am On May 10, 2017 |
No gold jewelries and u picked a fight, did u ask him whether he has the money- learn to appreciate any present and gift no matter how little He watched porn with your laptop and u picked a fight, an adult you called a future husband, well tnx for informing us that he do not have a laptop but lemme tell it is only a Man that love and respect u will travel all the way to US to visit u leaving his business and other olosho behind bcs he cares for you (the hole is the same whether Ph.D or illiterate). You are so self centered u have Ph.D, Professor, Harvard, Oxford, Cambridge name them, i hope this Man is a graduate before you kill him with your intimidation. To get a good husband this days is not easy Seven yrs is not a joke, however, if he is meant for u from divine he will surely kom back. just pray and ask God for forgiveness. Remember this Man did not run away, he actually went to your family to perform traditional marriage rites! but u and your mother discouraged him 2 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Basseybruce: 11:32am On May 10, 2017 |
OgahBohz:.................. Lol |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 11:32am On May 10, 2017 |
PatriotTemidayo: u fvcking nailed it!!! ,,, dis all she nids to read.. somebody shuld tell nobody to listen |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 11:34am On May 10, 2017 |
Nairalanders ooo. Una don yab the girl finish sotay she deactivate her handle. Sorry dear. Oya come back. We only scolded you to correct and point you in the right direction like families do. My dear, make up with your fiance. I feel he is a good man. But if he doesn't want again, face front...finish ur program and focus on getting another good man there. Truth be told, its not easy to find a suitable down to earth husband material over there. I am not there but I have friends there. You will get o but it may take sometime. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by LePrezident(m): 11:34am On May 10, 2017 |
lustra89: Lol @ substandard sperm |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 11:38am On May 10, 2017 |
slurryeye2:What have you the enlightened one done with your enlightennent?? Make we hear word abeg 2 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 11:38am On May 10, 2017 |
slurryeye2:What have you the enlightened one achieved with your enlightenment?? How has it made black nations better? Make we hear word abeg 2 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Basseybruce: 11:38am On May 10, 2017 |
AfricanCalabash:....................................the HOLE is the same whether Ph.D or illiterate, Sane or Insane.:/[b] AfricanCalabash:....................................the HOLE is the same whether Ph.D or illiterate, Sane or Insane.:/[/b] AfricanCalabash:....................................the HOLE is the same whether Ph.D or illiterate, Sane or Insane.:/ |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Culin(f): 11:39am On May 10, 2017 |
7 years ontop a man. 3months is enough for me to know a relationship that won't lead anywhere. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 11:41am On May 10, 2017 |
grafixdon:Thankyou for showing how hypocritic you are. Buffoon 1 Like |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by ultimateballer: 11:50am On May 10, 2017 |
aribisala0:America is the biggest porn consumer, wtf are you talking about? lol |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by TheFreeOne: 11:52am On May 10, 2017 |
@OP, Will any man visit his fiancee often outside the country spending millions on such trips if he doesn't love her? Hope you are aware some men don't visit their ladies often though living in the same city. If he could spare so much why should the so called 'cheap stuffs' be a problem to you since you live far away and you likely won't need such and he'll surely get you 'better stuffs' over there since you'll be getting married in the US. And for your mum sending them to you shows she likely 'have something up her sleeves' except you are the one being materialistic and requesting for it which shows the kind of person you are and what you think of your man. And you picked a fight because he watched porn? Common girl, I believe he wanted to give you a loving experience that'll make you happy and won't forget easily coming all the way from outside US. Abi why traveled all the way to visit my girlfriend if I can't take her to the mountaintop of orgasms as a man cos if men don't perform you ladies complain. Not saying men cannot perform to expectations without porn but like they say variety is the spice of life I wouldn't want to believe your parents are trying to ruin your marriage before it starts but think and make amends before it's too late cos phd, green card and living abroad doesn't automatically provide a loving / good husband but listening to and understanding your partner matters in relationships. And I hope you'll update us someday that you've work it out with your husband and you are living a happy married life. But if the dude doesn't budge and moved on then you've just cheated yourself of a good/loving man who is the real gold not that box of gold your mum was expecting. Cheers. 5 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by dan56: 11:55am On May 10, 2017 |
Culin: Hmmmmm and you think your guess work will always be right?? 1 Like |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by yhemster(m): 11:57am On May 10, 2017 |
Please ladies you need to understand this, its 2017 and the length of ur relationship will never be a yardstick to getting married. The OP claimed her 7years relationship is out of the window, and she's crying out. . I have heard lots of ladies making this claim as well, that their X years of relationship cannot be thrown out just like that. At the end of the day, they force their way into the marriage. In my school of thought, a bad relationship no matter this number of years is prefer to a bad married life. Back to the issue at hand, I feel for both parties in this relationship. THE DUDE: Its unfortunate that the dude has tried his best to make things work, The OP claimed he travelled to the US to visit her. Thats lot of money invested into travel. Definitely, the dude is comfortable in Naija, have a secured source(s) of income. He probably have lots of admirers around him in Naija. Apart from the fund invested on travel, he must have invested his sleeping hours (different time zone) and some cash on data for video calls and facetime. Also, sending of gift items for birthdays and valentine days (FX isn't cheap). The truth is a guy with this level of achievement needs to be respected and appreciated (if not worshipped, ). THE LADY: She also has invested her sleeping hours, staying focus on her studies (it can be boring sometimes, as it quite difficult to make friends) , not so much on data (one of the cheapest commodities in the US). It is very obvious that the US environment has influenced the lady's attitude towards everythings. She probably thinks her beliefs and opinions abt life should set the tone of the relationship. I laughed, this trend will definitely escalate after the lady have secured her green card and have to invite the guy to the US. I think the OP understands the difficulty to secure a productive relationship in the US community, which seems to be the reason she wants the marriage with the dude by fire by thunder. Some raised a good point, that her parent seems not in support of the marriage with the dude. Since they are the sponsor of the lady's foreign education their opinion will definitely get validated. I'm a sorry to chip in my story, I'm a US passport carrier who's currently in Naija for some business runs. I've lived in the US for more than 8 years and the UK for 2 plus years. I've studied trends of ladies with similar situation and I can confidently say the end result of these people when married is very scary. Well, some guys can be lucky but it's a minute percentage of them. Ladies who relocate to the western country as adult (>16 years old) overuse the privilege of woman power. At the end of the day if the relationship is going to work, the guy has to tread carefully. I will just advise, if the guy makes good income in Naija he shouldn't relocate to the lady yet. He should wait till the lady start earning her income, that's the point when ego rub against ego. He should watch for any change in attitude/ life styles. if the coast is clear, he can go join her and if not, he should sit back and dissolve the union. Both parties should compromise by travelling twice a year. The lady must acknowledge the fact that her boo is a king in Nigeria and he deserve all the respect and appreciation. The dude too must understand he's out of Nigeria, there's going to be some balancing to the role of both parties in the marriage. 5 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by ImaIma1(f): 11:58am On May 10, 2017 |
I don't think watching porn is a trivial thing as you guys make it sound. Seems like it's only the guys adivsing here and you guys believe watching porn is normal?? Secondly, buying cheap items for the wedding list doesn't speak too well about the guy and his family. They themselves agreed that the things they bought were cheap. At least some things should be of good quality. It takes two to tango in a relationship and the lady or guy cannot do all the work. It is obvious that the guy is not what she needs. There are better and more reasonable guys out there and not one that cannot deal with simple issues. Poster pls move on and do not get involved in this donkey years dating. 1 Like |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by kunlexy1759(m): 12:01pm On May 10, 2017 |
ayokellany:i tire o. D guy knws he can not please her and her mum when eventually get married 2 her and changed his mind. Find ur own husband make i find my own somewhere. 1 Like |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by aribisala0(m): 12:01pm On May 10, 2017 |
ultimateballer:I . I am talking about consuming porn on another person's computer which they may use for work or which may compromise their life. Your computer could be searched at airports or other places and you don't want to be explaining what you know nothing about So because America is the biggest porn consumer as you claim teachers should consume it on work computers. Some people consume but like to hide the fact that they do so why should another person just decide to use their computer for that giving them a profile they don't want?I cannot explain it to you but those people who have reputational standing do not just browse the Internet for porn foolishly rather they try to anonymize their activities. Surely everyone should have such a right.People have been turned back from US airports for having porn on their phones so do not talk ignorantly |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 12:02pm On May 10, 2017 |
If you're potential PhD and greencard holder in the US and your guy in Nigeria calls off your engagement, then he must be genuinely tired of your BS. If you're still pissed off by banal issues such as gold jewelry, an item you can afford to buy for yourself, then you're not ready for marriage. Trust me on this, there are many more things down the line after marriage that you wont be able to stomach, using this yardstick. Maybe marriage isnt for you. 2 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Gafg: 12:07pm On May 10, 2017 |
I must be sincere with u MISS... It obvious u caused this right from start... You ad forgotten he was going to be ur man somedays. U shouldnt av let material stuff led to wat as actually happened nao cos looking at it nao, u seem to be d one on d loosing side. U might be rich and more sophisticated than him as well as his family but i want u to know, money isnt everyting in a relationship. If u really want to have a sweet family and b happy for d rest of ur life as a woman, u need to bring ur self down to d minimum level, u need to worship ur man as ur mini God after ur parents because ur husband holds d responsibility of taking charge of u since the moment ur parents had given u to him. I hope u settle it out with ur man and i hope u learn from ur mistakes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by kunlexy1759(m): 12:11pm On May 10, 2017 |
This is a very wonderfull message/advice 4 d duo. yhemster: 1 Like |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 12:16pm On May 10, 2017 |
Loisemm: She actually come here looking for "women leaders" to support her. To tell her the guy is a bastard and all. But reality dawned on her. She is really entitled and had something in mind coming here. But she heard a different music.... I observed earlier that she created this thread just to complain. But now she's gone. Baba God I pray that guy never agrees again. Please help him dodge this bullet. 3 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by eyinjuege: 12:18pm On May 10, 2017 |
ultimateballer: Don't use the office/ work laptop to watch porn. Use your personal laptop. Some people go home with their work laptop, phones. Don't use such for personal stuffs, that's carelessness. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by GAZZUZZ(m): 12:19pm On May 10, 2017 |
madone: If you in lagos, I owe you a carton of chillllllled origin. 2 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 12:25pm On May 10, 2017 |
lanrywatt: Guy no be only that .. Make she go church do thanks giving... Marrying that man would have been a big mistake Watching Indecency,no respect for you and u felt he was good enough to be the father of your kids?? Haba ladies .. No matter how much we are in love ,do a simple test ,is he good enough to be the father of your children ? That's all |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 12:27pm On May 10, 2017 |
Loisemm: Make up ke!?? Haba for what ? No let her move on God will send someone better .that man isn't a god choice at all |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by deloon(m): 12:28pm On May 10, 2017 |
madone:I agree |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by solz007(m): 12:44pm On May 10, 2017 |
Life Is Eazi....Just move on, you deserve better# better days/Good Husband ahead and please cry no more you're too pretty for that shiit!! |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by lanrywatt(m): 12:51pm On May 10, 2017 |
nurshah:No mind dem jare. Most of them allow their heart to do the thinking instead of their brain |
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