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Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 2:35pm On May 23, 2017 |
esan1: GOD BLESS YOU BRO HELP OTHERS TOO SHARE AS AM SHARING WITH YOU. |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 2:38pm On May 23, 2017 |
Bobby808:. @ Sir Fabian, I understand your sentiments but disagree with you on so many levels. 1). Kids also listen to their moms and do according to what they are told 2). I have seen many women who brought up their children successfully without the husbands and the children turned out extremely well... Case in point renowned Neuro-Surgeon Dr Ben Carson, world class Basketballer Shaquinille O'Neil - his mother's name is Lucille Harrison... Please use google sir... 3). You don't have to be a beast to get ur kids to fall in line. Instead of shouting, why don't you just raise the value of ur argument... Ur kids will listen. Do you know why white kids will stay indoors when they are told YOU ARE GROUNDED? The parents don't shout... Those 3 words are what white kids detest the most. Please watch the movie KYLE XY and notice how the parents talk and relate with their kids... Do your parenting with love and care...form a bond and see ur kids excel... Parenting is a responsibility given by God... Its not a war... My dad saw it that way and today, he is lonely... U remember his aunt trying to settle a dispute between me and him and she said 'JOE,YOU LOST YOUR SON LONG AGO...' And that was the truth. My own dad was a tyrant who saw happiness in his children's pains... How would u describe a man that keeps beating u for no reason and keeps telling u that he did not beg God to give him kids and ur death will make him glad... Please sir don't bash me... If you want to confirm my story, I am more than ready to allow you meet the who family so you see the damage popsi has done...I was never a bad kid...EVER!!!! BEING A TYRANT IS NOT PARENTING 14 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 2:48pm On May 23, 2017 |
smithsydny:. Thanks bro. I know its my turn to correct their the mistakes so I have learnt to tell any lady I am involved with to never lift a finger on my kids... But give room to love in bringing up my kids... I don't want them to see what I saw... Aside from destroyying the bonds they are supposed to build with u, it damages their self esteem inside and outside the house. Watch closely and u will see that smart kids have their parents backing 100%...they act the way they do cos they know that papa and mama has got their backs... That's how I want my kids - to my unborn sons and daughters... Papa loves you 7 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by rossyc(f): 2:48pm On May 23, 2017 |
While growing up my dad made sure he disciplined us and at the same time bonded with us cos most of the time my mum was away for her school programmes my dad took charge, I mean prepared our meals, washed, cleaned etc.. I always pray to God to give me a husband as caring as my dad... Well am daddy and mummy's gal. 8 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 2:55pm On May 23, 2017 |
bencarson007:yes boss ... When they misbehave u beat there leg and bum and tell them what u did is not correct OK. U do it next I beat your legs.. U now ask them u want that u go hear loud nooooo.. Lol .. U just take them out for play play things tell them big big things. If u pass very well dad will..... Lol. Just tease them surprise them.. The love ehh nah them. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 3:00pm On May 23, 2017 |
bencarson007:wtf!!! Did those words just come out.. For all those saing ya papa is ya papa.. Bible obey ya father and ya mother abi? The same bible said parents don't provoke ya children. Or am I missing something? All this parents wah dey claim don't make unah just respect unah self ooo.. God is not a partial God. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Bobby808: 3:02pm On May 23, 2017 |
bencarson007:But the examples you gave, am sure, are all oyibo people. If we are talking of extreme cases, I will not support, but what the thread is talking about is not about extreme cases. Even if we are talking of extreme cases they are very few. Your points are also ok. Its all right. Bye for now 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Bobby808: 3:08pm On May 23, 2017 |
fabiano09:Agreed but as fathers, we should remember to always rebuke children. It is not out of place to do that especially when many of today children are very fast. Father should know that this jet age is not the best of times. We should remember that till this moment, what a father sees when he is sitting down, the child cannot even if he is on top of the roof. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bukatyne(f): 3:11pm On May 23, 2017 |
Ngokafor: Thank you 3 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Bobby808: 3:14pm On May 23, 2017 |
VanBommel:Allow the bygone go. Better forgive him so that he will last long. You dey hear? 3 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 3:20pm On May 23, 2017 |
Fathering a child isn't a load of work, Some dumb African men make it seem so....You should be a friend as well as a disciplinarian to your kids, seen this in some white homes, and it's achievable here also. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 3:21pm On May 23, 2017 |
KevinDein: Fatherhood is not necessarily a thankless job. Do good and raise your children to do right. Show them the examples by the way You live and treat their mom (even if there are more than one woman). I strongly believe that if i dont mess up, it will be difficult for my sons to snatch my wife in old age. They know it's not possible. Kolewerk. As per discipline, I told my son "I will rather have a successful son that is not too close to me than have bum that loves me to the moon and back" Let no child worry about taking care of me in my old age. I don begin to dey price senior citizens' apartment self and I already told my wife that we should factor that into our retirement plan. I pray that my children all turn out great and mighty but I still want to take care of myself and my wifey till the last person drops. The kids are always welcome to take care of our luxuries but our basic necessities should be covered in our plans. 8 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by VanBommel(m): 3:31pm On May 23, 2017 |
Bobby808:I've forgiven him, sometimes I try to visit him and raise conversations but at the end he tries to exhibit some attitude that I don't like and the issue arises again 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by chummex(m): 3:33pm On May 23, 2017 |
Nice post. In my opinion, there should be a good balance between being a disciplinarian and a 'friend' to the child in order to foster very solid personality development. Somehow, fathers always seem to provide the former in the home. I love my son to the moon and back; will do anything to see him become the best man he can be, but will not tolerate him or make excuses for him if he acts silly at any point... I only started becoming closer to my Dad when I got married and more so, when I had my son. Perhaps I now understand 'husband'/fatherhood challenges as well as family dynamics better... it appears we understand ourselves better these days 4 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 3:39pm On May 23, 2017 |
Bobby808:@Bobby808, those cases I mentioned are all ordinary cases that became success stories... And with all due respects, what makes a white man different from a black man... Both the Shaq and Bencarson are black people. Parenting has notin to do with the colour of our skin... They are not extreme cases. #Respects bro 5 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by omiaruk: 3:42pm On May 23, 2017 |
vantage001:a very senseless post 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by VanBommel(m): 3:43pm On May 23, 2017 |
bencarson007:when my siblings and I were younger, we used to be very smart and up and going, but as we were growing no happiness, we lost our self-esteem, we were always angry with ourselves and with the world. People see us from the outside and think that all is well but deep inside we knew that all isn't well. We're just trying to develop ourselves but the scar is already there. 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by omiaruk: 3:45pm On May 23, 2017 |
babaireti:their mummy or my wife. Seems you don't love her |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by farouk0403(m): 3:56pm On May 23, 2017 |
Bobby808: Nice one granny, but i think you made a mistake "Hell"?? heaven should be more appropriate. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by omiaruk: 3:57pm On May 23, 2017 |
KevinDein:Mr man, fadahood is not a thankless job.. Even if you see your children once a year, what happens to treating then like royalty for that once? Or call them periodically and form the bond? No good father will be neglected by their kids 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Ngokafor(f): 3:58pm On May 23, 2017 |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Oballer: 4:34pm On May 23, 2017 |
thats why i want a girl too...they always look back no matter whats to their fathers MissCuppy: |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Bobby808: 4:40pm On May 23, 2017 |
farouk0403:Thanks my young man |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 4:57pm On May 23, 2017 |
omiaruk:lol very observant |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Proudlyngwa(m): 5:36pm On May 23, 2017 |
Op your line of reasoning is outdated and fast fading, since the advent of the working mum, the balance of love is shifting. For your information, kids are getting more in love with tech and junk food, and guess who brings it home. Yeah dad. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by abbeyty(m): 5:54pm On May 23, 2017 |
I DON'T STILL DON'T SEE ANY REASON WHY I SHOULD NEGLECT MY FATHER WHILE TAKING CARE OF MY MUM, I TREAT BOTH OF THEM THE SAME WAY THOUGH MY DAD WAS SO HARSH WITH US WHEN WE WERE GROWING UP WHICH I BELIEVE IT FOR OUR OWN GOOD, BUT I WONT TREAT THEM DEFERENTIALLY CUZ OF THAT. |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by soflygerian(m): 6:02pm On May 23, 2017 |
KevinDein:so deep |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by soflygerian(m): 6:14pm On May 23, 2017 |
fastgyal:this is one fyne DADA's gyal |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by aribisala0(m): 6:28pm On May 23, 2017 |
Rubbish your father is not your friend let us leave all these of oyinbo ideas. At the same time children are not a pension scheme. A sensible man should plan his retirement both pension and occupation. Having said that some fathers are nasty but this is often a former of generational trauma where they just replicate their childhood. Regardless of how nice they are power will always change hands. That is natural |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 6:53pm On May 23, 2017 |
it just occurred to me that men actually show love by providing and protecting that's the way their DNA was wired and find it feminish to cuddle n do all those other things. so by providing for and protecting their children a lot of men assume that they have shown all the love in the world only for them later in life to begin scratching their heads and wondering where they went wrong. while women show love by cuddling and doing acts of service ( also in their DNA) just wondering if their DNA is the cause |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by megareal: 6:53pm On May 23, 2017 |
MARKETfund:Agreed, some may forgive but since there simply was no relationship before, it's hard to slip into the role of a caring child . |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Ngokafor(f): 7:26pm On May 23, 2017 |
bencarson007: ...Gosh i feel bad for you already . .. know it wont be easy,but just try and forgive him 2 Likes |
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