Everyone is concerned about ur well being & happiness ur talking about material things & bothering about what the people would think Guy no wonder u never even had a clue about her lying,cheating, backstabbing,vulture nature the whole six years!!! U even dey consider going on with the wedding.. Bros u dull die. Do as u please,u don't need NLers to advice u on anything

Ha

c you o, e be like say u wan join trend of married wey dey train other men pikin ba? Please call it off, God has shown u who she truly is. If to say na single guy sef, e for better. A woman that can b cheating with a married man for years and cannot even call it quits two months to her wedding surely doesnt deserve you. Call it off and let her explain to her family why you did that, if she doesnt want to, you can do the explaining for her. Nonsense!

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

Same question will be asked if after marriage you end up divorcing her

Why not let people say what they have to say now and be at peace and be joyful with yourself for the rest of your life.

We can only advice you but the decision is yours

chiraqDemon:

U possess no chill

lol

listenersky:
I just discovered my fiancee has been cheating on me. I discovered the chats she had with a married elderly man ,she initially denied it but she confessed after I showed her the evidence i had. We have been dating for six years and we did our intro early this year. We have picked the date of our wedding which is in few weeks time. People have been invited.

Her relationship with this elderly man didn't start now, she made me to understand that it has been going on for years. Now she has been begging me to forgive her and not put her to shame because PEOPLE are already looking forward to our wedding day.

Wedding preparations already in place. Infact preparations already 80% done. I'm really in a state of confusion right now because I don't know if I should go ahead with the wedding out of pity. And I am also scared that if I marry her out of pity, I might not love her the way I should as the thought of her being unfaithful over the years will never leave my head And how am I sure she's not cheating with more than one man?

Pls nairalanders, matured advice needed at this time.

How can you marry someone out of pity? You marry for love not for pity. The way you Nigerians think at times ehn?

DukeNija:


Young woman i remember you from a previous thread. I honestly regret arguing with you because now i know you have issues you need to address and this is a honest feedback. I thought you were just being objective the last time, but now i can succinctly say you need to really re-evaluate your values and morals for your own good. You might see this as a personal attack but it is not. I would tell you same if you were close to me.
You seem to have no limit to your level of greed and reliance on men for substance. A woman like you can do anything to get money from a man; you might not know this but you are a ticking time-bomb. I don't know if you are a graduate or working currently, but i'd like to believe you have a purpose in life and God created you to be successful in what you lay your hands on.
I hope you don't advise any young person around you as you seem not to have a conscience as long as money is involved. I felt very sad when i saw your post. It was unbelievable.
Maybe you've been hurt before or just hate men, but there's always a solution to any problem and if you are a christian its even easier.

God help you.

...lol..Called Fabulocity young woman?
...why nah?.she's a babe! .

DukeNija:


Young woman i remember you from a previous thread. I honestly regret arguing with you because now i know you have issues you need to address and this is a honest feedback. I thought you were just being objective the last time, but now i can succinctly say you need to really re-evaluate your values and morals for your own good. You might see this as a personal attack but it is not. I would tell you same if you were close to me.
You seem to have no limit to your level of greed and reliance on men for substance. A woman like you can do anything to get money from a man; you might not know this but you are a ticking time-bomb. I don't know if you are a graduate or working currently, but i'd like to believe you have a purpose in life and God created you to be successful in what you lay your hands on.
I hope you don't advise any young person around you as you seem not to have a conscience as long as money is involved. I felt very sad when i saw your post. It was unbelievable.
Maybe you've been hurt before or just hate men, but there's always a solution to any problem and if you are a christian its even easier.

God help you.

..bro Fabulocity is a nice chick...have patience n pls be nice to her. Cheers!

MrCork:



...lol..Called Fabulocity young woman?
...why nah?.she's a babe! .

Lol. Funny

MrCork:



..bro Fabulocity is a nice chick...have patience n pls be nice to her. Cheers!

No problem. She's just very 'unique'

DukeNija:


No problem. She's just very 'unique'

...thank u sir!

Gr8amechi:

This is a delicate issue, one would have said forgive her and go ahead but there are lots of uncertainty ahead. I will tell you forgiveness is earned, in this case she didn't earn it, she has kept the relationship and want to take it into q without telling you, I feel she never thought you will catch her.
The summary is don't go ahead with her, hard as it may but that's the best for you, if she opened up to confess to you then it shows she had some remorse and respect for you but in this it's shows virtually no iota or respect for anything you represent to her. God give your strength to make the best decision.

abeg, chop kiss

gloria34:
abeg, chop kiss

Thank you dear

Work away now. Don't marry her early the better. She will still cheat.

WebSurfer:
Look at my thread Mehn, I was in your shoes some months ago and thank God I did the right thing.. Just go through my thread to see how soon I was going to get married like you too

Did you call off the wedding/engagement to that lady you proposed to the other day..??

olac21:

Did you call off the wedding/engagement to that lady you proposed to the other day..??

Yes bro. But I cannot begin to talk about that now

listenersky:
her parents are aware already because the man she cheated with is her Dad's friend

What did you decide?

TinaAnita:
Amadioha fall on you if you have also cheated on her without being caught.
You want to call off the wedding simply because she sleeps with a married man? Haven't you slept with a married woman cum oloshos? Do you even assist her financially? That could be one reason she sleeps with a married man as her so-called future husband isn't meeting expectations.

Don't marry her out of pity, it's either you forgive her and let the wedding push through or go jump off the bridge. You cannot claim you aren't cheating on her right now! Na only who them catch be thief jor. All those asking you to walk away are cheats and hypocrites.

Take their advice if you like, na you sabi!

Your response is filled with curse words and suggest's frustration. So any lady a man isn't assisting should go sleeping with another woman's husband to get help?

I pity the man you end up with if this is all you have to offer. The manner you talk about cheating and getting away with it speaks volume.

Until our generation desist from exchanging sex with money, promiscuity will abound

FortuneTeller:


What did you decide?

That niggggah is so so getting married to that chic....he has been talked to by the girl's parents and he has mellowed down....the guy is very unstable and lacks firmness needed to handle a woman.....for his supposed girl to cheat on him for 6yrs without getting caught shows the kind of dullina niggggah the poster is.


Just wish him HML and let him be....e go clear from him eyes soon.

FortuneTeller:


What did you decide?

I have not finally decided what to do.though the wedding is not holding next Month again.no new date for now She calls and cries everyday ,begging me to take her back. She said her whole world is tearing down and she doesn't know where to start from. That she really loves me and that it will never happen again. Seriously the love is no more there, but to go ahead and please she and her Parents is difficult. And the saying that the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know comes to mind also. What of if the next girl I date will be worse? What chance do I have to land a good girl out three? Its a difficult situation I found myself. And only God can help.she strategized by confessing to my Dad and My Sister so they would think she soberly confessed her misdeed. And that made things worse.because if eventually I marry her out of pity,(that's a big IF) ,how will my Family members see her?

listenersky:
I have not finally decided what to do.though the wedding is not holding next Month again.no new date for now She calls and cries everyday ,begging me to take her back. She said her whole world is tearing down and she doesn't know where to start from. That she really loves me and that it will never happen again. Seriously the love is no more there, but to go ahead and please she and her Parents is difficult. And the saying that the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know comes to mind also. What of if the next girl I date will be worse? What chance do I have to land a good girl out three? Its a difficult situation I found myself. And only God can help.she strategized by confessing to my Dad and My Sister so they would think she soberly confessed her misdeed. And that made things worse.because if eventually I marry her out of pity,(that's a big IF) ,how will my Family members see her?

I feel for you bro. Seriously, this is the kinda stuff that makes you wish you hadn't gone so deep. na wah.
she's crying cos she got caught but she's been feeling SHARP all this while and spreading her legs for the OLD MAN. And i tell you... Old men don't waste time to suck fresh blood especially the BAD GUY OLD MEN.
.
How are you gonna do it now?
stand @ the alter and look into her eyes and say "I DO" ?
marry her & spend d rest of ur life happily ever after but your dad & sis knows she's been banging old men even weeks to her wedding? everytime they see her with her innocent face, they smile @ her but they KNOW. do you want to live like that?

I bet you will marry this babe. I have been reading this in my office with my friends and I placed a bet. I have a good feeling am gonna win this bet.

YesNo:



I feel for you bro. Seriously, this is the kinda stuff that makes you wish you hadn't gone so deep. na wah.
she's crying cos she got caught but she's been feeling SHARP all this while and spreading her legs for the OLD MAN. And i tell you... Old men don't waste time to suck fresh blood especially the BAD GUY OLD MEN.
.
How are you gonna do it now?
stand @ the alter and look into her eyes and say "I DO" ?
marry her & spend d rest of ur life happily ever after but your dad & sis knows she's been banging old men even weeks to her wedding? everytime they see her with her innocent face, they smile @ her but they KNOW. do you want to live like that?

I bet you will marry this babe. I have been reading this in my office with my friends and I placed a bet. I have a good feeling am gonna win this bet.

Sure bet. I'm with you. I think dude will go ahead and marry her eventually. Surprised your mates at the office bet otherwise.

alizma:

leave her on two conditions; 1) that you have not cheated on her in those 6yrs. 2) that deep inside you, you can't forgive her. aside these, forgive her and do like you didn't see anything. things like this happens

Tell me dis didnt come from you. I give up on naija ladies

TinaAnita:
Amadioha fall on you if you have also cheated on her without being caught.
You want to call off the wedding simply because she sleeps with a married man? Haven't you slept with a married woman cum oloshos? Do you even assist her financially? That could be one reason she sleeps with a married man as her so-called future husband isn't meeting expectations.

Don't marry her out of pity, it's either you forgive her and let the wedding push through or go jump off the bridge. You cannot claim you aren't cheating on her right now! Na only who them catch be thief jor. All those asking you to walk away are cheats and hypocrites.

Take their advice if you like, na you sabi!

I shake my head for your future husband ... chai

poseidon12:
Of course, you should go ahead and marry her. Just don't come back here lamenting later. God is trying to save you but you are doing your best to resist. What a question.

Lol

LeanonGOD:
You deserves a bag loaded with us$ award.

The best post on this thread .... Poster bolt before it is too late.

Rapture4real:

My dear even a God fearing pastor will tell you don't marry her.You will.appear foolish and stupid at the end of d day.A lady that kept that away from you will be a torn in your flesh.Many years of immoral relationship and she still wanted to hide.She can't eat her cake and have it.She will still do more after wedding.Don't marry her

The height of it all is that the lady was/is sleeping with her daddy's friend. Haba! Abomination of the highest order.

Infact, the poster needs dirty slap to reset his brain to default for asking this question.

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

what about people who don't show up on their wedding? what is bad is bad, dnt marry out I'd pity.

trust me she wont die.

WebSurfer:


Yes bro. But I cannot begin to talk about that now

Why did you call it off?Cos I remember I congratulated you on that thread

kaziblake:
Why did you call it off?Cos I remember I congratulated you on that thread

My dear..her dirty secrets was exposed, followed by violence and other things

WebSurfer:


My dear..her dirty secrets was exposed, followed by violence and other things

Wow!it is well.