rosalieene:


I wonder why you are just on about the sex!!

When you finally get married to her, you would do it and get tired.

if ur problem is sex, hasten the marriage process

...no his problem is not sex....his problem is the thought of like 250 different other guys that may have been pounding that puna that she has been refusing to give him...

Why would she deny u sex when she's not a virgin and has freely given it to some other persons who do not have a committed relationship wt her. More disturbing is d fact that she has once taken in for someone. Why is she pretending

I think you don't deserve her, not the other way round.

My advice on this simple! Date her and then Taste and see.... after which you still like her then you both can marry, else NO!

You cheated on her with her neighbor(her family member) and she forgave you... you wickedly sent her out of your house without money because she refused to sleep with you and she forgave that one too, she didn't cheat on you,she had the strength to carry a baby unlike you that murdered a poor soul, you are a cheat, a wicked being and a murderer. Let he who is without sin ask such question

Firstly, I don't know what exactly the OP is still doing with that lady. Are u seriously kidding me? she got no love for u man. If there's anyone u should feel like marrying, it should be someone who had always been herself with u, someone who had always felt relaxed in ur arms, someone who had always made u felt at home, no good gurlfriend wanna deny his man sex and still go out there and get all the styles in the world. Abeg, RUN RUN RUN bro

Calling people who have a different opinion than yours morons shows ur up-bringing

teresafaith:
Op has already made a decision and he is looking for who will pat him on the back and encourage him to dump her, but lemme tell you the bitter truth "YOU AN HYPOCRITE"

Well your fellow morons are cheering you on, but know that what we sow is what we will reap

When you said dark secret i was expecting something worse, how is having a stillbirth a dark secret, nobody prays for such at the same time it can happen to anybody

You girls know how to take the demented pussy back to the full who will always accept you back even though he didn't take part in doing the damage.

cococandy:

Well Maybe she wasn't sexually interested in you then.

Don't take it personally.

I know some Guys have a hard time accepting no for answer.

Questions is: Did she get pregnant while dating you or was it in between one of your break ups? If it was during the time she was actively dating you, that means she cheated on you like you cheated on her with her neighbor. Meh. Goose. Gander. End of story. Sorry sha.

However if she got pregnant during one of the times when you guys were broken up, I don't see what the problem is.
Except that you can't imagine why she would want to fvck someone else but say no to you. Well news flash: Sexual attraction is a weird thing. Maybe she didn't have the hots for you then but she does now. Just enjoy the moment

One Word, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE...the only reason she told u was because virginity cannot be hide from ur husband. i swear there is more to her than what she revealed. i hate hypocrite MOFOS

I think you've been played, bro.

Here's the truth.

Even though you think you're a player yourself, pay attention because every player has a coach

She could give everybody else but not you. Why do you think you still want her?

Let me coman be going.

Marry her okay. Love is kind.

You go hear am.

enigmatic741:

Honestly OP, #IMO..I think the only reason she told you the supposed dark secret is because of what you shared (your own secret) as well. She felt comfortable telling you that since she now feels confident based on what you told her...If you didn't tell her yours.. The odds are in your favor that she won't tell you hers as well...She'll feel guilty..

if you build your marriage on deceit(wrong motives & bad foundation) when test & storms come it will collapse. marriage is God's idea. therefore let it be centred around God. So that in the future you wouldn't av to envy someone whose marriage is centred around God. it's not by interlect, money &.....beauty.

Nerdg:
She told me of being pregnant and later had a stillbirth at the 7months.

The background.
I met her when we were teens and have always loved her. She refused me sex and along the line, her neighbor gave me (who is her relation). She learnt about this and we had our first break up.
We both got admission into different universities and couldn't see again.
We later met again and settled with a condition that there would be no sex. This didn't go down well with me and I called it off. This repeated and there was even a time I walked her out of my house because of this issue and didn't give her tfare. My house is like 1hr drive from where she lives.
The issue:
I love this girl to the extent that anytime I thought of getting married, she will come to mind.
Now I have a good job and she's done with school. I proposed to her and she accepted it.
Is about 3 months now, she came on my birthday 3 months ago. That was all. She doesn't come always because she stays with her elder brother and can't leave house just like that.

Note, we haven't had sex till now.

About 2 weeks ago, I told her about how I got a girl pregnant and we had to abort it and that since then I haven't been myself. That it pains me to this day. We talked about it and she was sorry over it.

Yesterday, we had a very deep discussion and she revealed to me that she had a relationship at school. They were together for 4yrs. I then asked her if she had ever missed her period. She said yes. But not to this school boyfriend but another man. She wanted to keep the pregnancy but her parents refused because the guy is not a good person. The guy wanted the pregnancy but her family didn't want the guy to marry her. She finally had a stillbirth at the 7th month.

I was stunned. I know she's not a virgin, she told me but I was confused. Sex had always been our problem and I never expected that she had experienced something like this. Now she asked me that she hope she won't regret telling me this. I told her no that she won't regret but I'm stunned.

Please should I still go on with this marriage?

you won't enjoy this marriage, there's no love between both of you. let her go & find your love elsewhere

you fit and match each other, In fact u are birds if a feather. If she can forgive u for having Sex with her relation u shd also forgive her past #nobodyholypass

zed7:
You don't love her. You are just longing for what you are yet to taste. Marriage is not a game. If you can have a sexual relationship with her before marriage and you still feel like marrying her, then go for it!

I think this is the best advice you need .. ����

Thank you very much. Only your advice is sensible here. After degrading the pussy to "after one" and letting other guys enjoy it, the op is the one now left with the leftovers. Meanwhile, she never let him touch her o.

snowlord:
Op Dnt B Dcvd,she Doznt Lov U...Dnt Marry,she Bn Wt Oda Guys Bt Wont Wt U . To her u just a back up,she wil evn reveal more 1c u r married.n blv me u wont b able to deal,dhz more to marriage dan jex lov,doh lov is a nec. part

None of u is a saint here, but it sseemss she refused u sex cos she probably has this sacred honour to the world she dreams to hv wt u. If u love a girl and she accepts u, secret or no secret, guy dis might be ur true wife

DMerciful:
The issue here is the girl said no sex to him while dating but after their breakup, she was giving several men sex! does it mean she doesnt love him enuf to have sex with him like the others after him? she came back to him insisting no sex yet she has been quite loose. U decided to pick the part where you can protect the lady...hmmmm..women liberation!
Now that he is well-to-do, its convenient for her to say yes....she is a manipulator!

Where I can protect the lady

Do I know the lady or do I seem to be playing your ridiculous childish gender play. I am a boy so I defend boys or I am girl, so I defend girls

The issue here is all about SEX. He should have made that crystal clear instead of talking about the abortion and stillbirth because how are those topics even related to each other.

And where the hell did he in his whole write up claim she gave SEVERAL men sex. She came back quite loose, so what? Does that mean it's a must for her to have sex with him. How is love even equal to sex?

My problem with the op is, he is talking about a super super secret, whining about a stillbirth and an abortion when his real problem is "sex"

Is better you go for better to tokunbo not home use claimed to be....

Oboy!!! Na simple case be that. Chop the Kpormor first... If u fall for d well, bounce but if u hang somewhere around the well then it's good 2go...

GUY,RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.Why was she denying You sex all these years while doing it with other men?

I'm not interested in her bulkshit story or whatever happened to her.



My own is; why are you in a relationship and not have sex?



Make I no vex talk sha

wjxavier:
I think you've been played, bro.

Here's the truth.

Even though you think you're a player yourself, pay attention because every player has a coach

She could give everybody else but not you. Why do you think you still want her?

Let me coman be going.

Marry her okay. Love is kind.

You go hear am.

well said bro. the lady dated a guy on campus but still fuccked older men to the extent of getting pregnant. who does that if not unrepentant hoe

zed7:
You don't love her. You are just longing for what you are yet to taste. Marriage is not a game. If you can have a sexual relationship with her before marriage and you still feel like marrying her, then go for it!

you are 100% right ... The op still doesnt realise this but its for real .. right now you dont even know if u love her ..

They will support her cos that how they treat that one guy foolishly chasing them about, thinking they are chaste because they act like one. When pussy is fully used, then they give a chance.

Nerdg:


You're capturing the part you like. However, I wish you can understand the theme rather than a paragraph. Let me help, we had many break-ups only because I tried to have sex with her. Meanwhile she's already sexually active. That's the problem not the stillbirth

Nerdg:
She told me of being pregnant and later had a stillbirth at the 7months.

The background.
I met her when we were teens and have always loved her. She refused me sex and along the line, her neighbor gave me (who is her relation). She learnt about this and we had our first break up.
We both got admission into different universities and couldn't see again.
We later met again and settled with a condition that there would be no sex. This didn't go down well with me and I called it off. This repeated and there was even a time I walked her out of my house because of this issue and didn't give her tfare. My house is like 1hr drive from where she lives.
The issue:
I love this girl to the extent that anytime I thought of getting married, she will come to mind.
Now I have a good job and she's done with school. I proposed to her and she accepted it.
Is about 3 months now, she came on my birthday 3 months ago. That was all. She doesn't come always because she stays with her elder brother and can't leave house just like that.

Note, we haven't had sex till now.

About 2 weeks ago, I told her about how I got a girl pregnant and we had to abort it and that since then I haven't been myself. That it pains me to this day. We talked about it and she was sorry over it.

Yesterday, we had a very deep discussion and she revealed to me that she had a relationship at school. They were together for 4yrs. I then asked her if she had ever missed her period. She said yes. But not to this school boyfriend but another man. She wanted to keep the pregnancy but her parents refused because the guy is not a good person. The guy wanted the pregnancy but her family didn't want the guy to marry her. She finally had a stillbirth at the 7th month.

I was stunned. I know she's not a virgin, she told me but I was confused. Sex had always been our problem and I never expected that she had experienced something like this. Now she asked me that she hope she won't regret telling me this. I told her no that she won't regret but I'm stunned.

Please should I still go on with this marriage?

either she cook story or not my dear brother if she can forgive you of your dark side and you are sure you love her....please go ahead and marry her...she's worth it

OP what d hell are you expecting All them HOES gonna come here supporting their bitch mate!!! All them HOES gonna call you an hypocrite!!!! But let me tell you the truth, these HOES won't advice their brothers to marry such a shit of a bitch!!!!

DUMP THAT BITCH!!!!!

Nerdg:
She told me of being pregnant and later had a stillbirth at the 7months.

The background.
I met her when we were teens and have always loved her. She refused me sex and along the line, her neighbor gave me (who is her relation). She learnt about this and we had our first break up.
We both got admission into different universities and couldn't see again.
We later met again and settled with a condition that there would be no sex. This didn't go down well with me and I called it off. This repeated and there was even a time I walked her out of my house because of this issue and didn't give her tfare. My house is like 1hr drive from where she lives.
The issue:
I love this girl to the extent that anytime I thought of getting married, she will come to mind.
Now I have a good job and she's done with school. I proposed to her and she accepted it.
Is about 3 months now, she came on my birthday 3 months ago. That was all. She doesn't come always because she stays with her elder brother and can't leave house just like that.

Note, we haven't had sex till now.

About 2 weeks ago, I told her about how I got a girl pregnant and we had to abort it and that since then I haven't been myself. That it pains me to this day. We talked about it and she was sorry over it.

Yesterday, we had a very deep discussion and she revealed to me that she had a relationship at school. They were together for 4yrs. I then asked her if she had ever missed her period. She said yes. But not to this school boyfriend but another man. She wanted to keep the pregnancy but her parents refused because the guy is not a good person. The guy wanted the pregnancy but her family didn't want the guy to marry her. She finally had a stillbirth at the 7th month.

I was stunned. I know she's not a virgin, she told me but I was confused. Sex had always been our problem and I never expected that she had experienced something like this. Now she asked me that she hope she won't regret telling me this. I told her no that she won't regret but I'm stunned.

Please should I still go on with this marriage?

Why do you want to marry? I mean not just this girl but what is your purpose for marriage?
I am a married man and i had to learn that "Love" should never be the reason for marriage. Thank God I married the right person, not everyone has this "luck".
Purpose must supersede love. Get your purpose straight and you'll know exactly the kind of lady you want to keep as wife.

DICKtator:
What do you mean by "dark" ?

Like "dark" connotes negativity or something sinister.
Change that title to "White" secret

And no, it isn't "black"mail or "black" sheep,

It is "white"mail and "white" sheep. All meanings and references remains the same.
Kindly take note

dark as in :

madridguy:
From your write up I think she's trying to test you and see how you will react to her dark side too. She might as well be hurt to hear the dark side of you and maybe she cooked something up to see your reaction too.

My observation though.

well said, I love that.

You don't even love her, all you want is to sleep with her, I can't count the number of times you mentioned "SEX" alone

You both are cut from the same cloth, you have no right to judge her. Forgive her the same way she forgave you.
Happy Married Life in Advance (with no more dark secrets, hopefully)

ebukahandsome:
I Dont even have a word to say

wetin concern arsenal with this matter?

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