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Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Montaque(m): 10:39am On Jul 22, 2017 |
I feel that the OP's issue is sex. If the girl had given him sex before now, he would ve bolted. That's his problem, he thought he was coming to meet a package prepared for only him after a long wait. 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by adavizeh100(m): 10:39am On Jul 22, 2017 |
that your virgin girlfriend is another person sex machine.... to call off the proposal |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Urukpe: 10:40am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Ask her y did she refuse u sex and give it to other guys and men. Start from there and thank me later |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by saveyou: 10:43am On Jul 22, 2017 |
@OP, I understand your concerns, but let me ask you a question, didn't you also impregnate a lady and asked her to abort it? So why are you having double mind about your gf? You are as guilty as she is, in fact more guilty coz you took d decision to abort your baby but she on the other hand kept the pregnancy and but unfortunately had a still birth. Don't judge coz you are a man and she's a woman. All Sins are equal before God. What u need to do now is go and plead for mercy from God, ask for forgiveness. We will all give account on the last day. Cheers 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Ifebazz(m): 10:43am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg:Honestly, I'd feel very hurt. Not for the stillbirth but the same sex that had always been the issue in the relationship was being meted out with reckless abandon to every Tom, Dick & Harry. What was it with you? She ain't good. |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by tonio2wo: 10:44am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg:U told her ur dark secret, she dint condemn u, she told u hers and u dey para! Why are some men so childish? 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Nobody: 10:44am On Jul 22, 2017 |
She agreed to go ahead with the wedding even with your own dark secret and you don't want to marry her because she told you her own. Some guys are just selfish and self-centered. 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Originalsly: 10:44am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg:Bro... this is called security...and my view is that's her primary interest in you. Sex with you has been off limits... fine with others... but not you....red flags waving in your face. She had a bf.. but got pregnant by another man... what does that tell you? Do you really think marriage will change all of this? ...she'll be a different person? As she is in confession mode... try finding out why to date she refuses to have sex with you but have no problem doing so with others. Whatever the reason given... figure out if the same wouldn't apply after marriage. If in the end... you decide to follow your heart and go blind into marriage hoping for the best.... abeg...before you leap. .. take her to a reputable hospital and have her tested for HIV, herpes and gonorrhea. I have the feeling she is seriously infected and is sparing your life by not having sex with you. Maybe after marriage she'll confess that one....then what? Look well before you leap. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by ritababe(f): 10:44am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Inanna: stop be judgemental here, you called that little secret? lol that's a just a tip of the iceberg for someone to ignore you all this while and now feel comfort in you because of marriage, to me that's not love. even if they later marry she still can't stop having sex with the other guy that got her pregnant because that's the guy she love. 6 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Nobody: 10:45am On Jul 22, 2017 |
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Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by ghuzy01: 10:46am On Jul 22, 2017 |
LolaO:Sense fall on you,I don't know why you can't comprehend the fact that d babe was sharing the kitten over the years to the extent of getting pregnant and keeping it up to 7 months!!!! Omo that one hard gan o .....and our guy still never chop any ponmo.we talking marriage here 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by sherlockhush(m): 10:46am On Jul 22, 2017 |
When it comes to marriage secret starts unveiling, that is the reason why we guys and ladies need to date for long if you do not tolerate. I thought she was a virgin by denying you of sex well it is personal decision on her part. Op ask the date of her first time sex and even her last time. If it is the periods you guys do separate becos of sex, guy run for your life cos she will definitely play a game in that marriage. You both need to go for medicate check up to predetermine the future. Op I will also advice you to look for that girl that had abortion for you, she might even be better than this girl you are have emotion with. Let me tell you the truth, you had a feeling of loving her cos you have not tasted her, I bet you immediately you finish tasting her, that feeling will disappear. Marriage is not the sex feeling becos you can always buy it, marriage is not jus emotion cos it is the sense language, marriage is not pity cos you can loss the hold when all is forgotten , marriage is not becos we want children cos it will be frustrating as time goes on. Marriage is that unknown, undiscovered , unreasonable reasons in wanting somebody to be part of your life. That when the world ask you why you married this girl you will just smile and start thinking of the answer becos you can't explain it or know the reason 6 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by NoToPile: 10:49am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Lool, you dated her while you both were teens and you expected she will give you sex ? Orishirishi. I am an advocate of no sex before marriage but I think she was wise enough not to have sex in her teenage years, a smart teenager won't have sex simple. She got to the university became more matured and entered a 4 year relationship and ended up having sex, getting pregnant and having a still birth and you are pissed that she had sex with 2 other people. Did you expect her to sleep with you as a teenager. I can see some boys shouting she doesn't love u, she's there for your money blablabla as if they will encourage any of their teenage sisters to be having sex up and down. Your major problem is not the still birth because its not even a secret not to talk of being dark, your challenge is that she didn't sleep with you while you were dating and then went ahead to sleep with someone else years later and that is something you can't deal with but you expect her to deal with your sleeping with her relation and you aborting a baby with another girl. She's smart for saying no marriage no sex because it seems that sex itself is your problem. So you wanted to be having sex with a girl as a teenager abi and you are pissed of she didn't give u but slept with others years later, What won't I hear on Nairaland. Either way No sex before marriage will have sorted all this matter out. That's still the best in all situations. The only thing I can see is sex sex sef. 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by REDDEVILS1(m): 10:50am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg:how old is she? That way I know hw to counsel u |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by begwong: 10:51am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Isn't it better she told you now? She would have allowed you marry her before you hear such or may not ever hear it either! |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by deanmartins(m): 10:51am On Jul 22, 2017 |
It's possible she loves you but not sexually attracted to you. |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Saintsquare(m): 10:52am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Frankyboy1:you were not in the GAME bro,you are gan gan the GAME 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Igbins14(m): 10:53am On Jul 22, 2017 |
madridguy: Honestly, Its brain draining for a girl to refuse you of sex in a relationship for whatever reasons while she bleeps around with other dude. Anyways, this is insulting to my personality. I had a similar experience back in my school days. My first ever girlfriend denied me of sex all through while i was in school, maybe because i was broke then i wouldn't know exactly. But she later got pregnant and now had a son of about nine yes old and now she wanna do anything to have me back and guess what...? My brother, women are different people oooo....so open ur eyes 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by ezewealth(m): 10:53am On Jul 22, 2017 |
There is only one difference between two of you. which is, you are what you are, she is what she is not. I don't see any compatibility in that. Sorry my advice came in puzzle |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Midastorch(m): 10:53am On Jul 22, 2017 |
@Op,forget all these hypocritical ladies,the real truth is most of them are the same except the ...lyk Madridguy said,the girl might be playing on ur emotion...but if not, why will she be with you for four years on and off and refuse you sex but give it to other guys even older men{prolly a married man} let me tell you there are other guys in the picture she thinks are necessary for u to know .try and find out the truth,if she does all these things for real leave her sorry ass..i will even advice u go back to the girl that aborted for you...this girl is a devil..she wouldn't have told u the truth if you did not man up to tell her ur secret and yes it is a ‘’dark secret‘’ she told you.. |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Nov6(m): 10:54am On Jul 22, 2017 |
... As far as i am concerned u just wants to have your way with her,thats all... Its not just about saying i want to marry her,marriage is not a boifrnd/gfrnd thing. Is that a secret,even if it is? You should be glad she even told you,unless you whr concieving in your mind that she is a Virgin,more reason u want d sex thing badly. For me you are the one with a big dark secret period... Kontinue in your confussion,OGA while the time thicks on you. If i am in your shoe which clearly i'm not,i will go ahead &marry her, her kind are rare to comeby for her to even open up to you sef is a plus... 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by kazyhm(m): 10:55am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Inanna: i qouted you because of the word "SILLY" in all honesty....if i were the op ehn. i would have moved on long before now because she do not have feelings for me.......how for fucck's sake will you be refusing me.......and the break and make up self week pesin let assume we 're in a relationship and we both decided it should be a no sex one......thats understandable but only you decided to starved me while its not that you feel its not right.......i consider that a deceit........and the marriage wont be rosy as supposed...... the after math is...she got the op where she want him to be. ......and this is one of the reasons i dont totally blame cheating wifes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by sucre: 10:56am On Jul 22, 2017 |
@ops, please run for your life. If she really loved u she won't deny u sex and also give it to another for 4 years,secondly a different person got her pregnant. Besides am so certain that's because u ve a good job that's why she wants u. U guys came back again dating for 3 months and she didn't confess her dark part to u,she did so after u ve confessed. Guy that girl ain't love u. Run run run run 2 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by sherlockhush(m): 10:56am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Pls read the op words properly. They both dated when they were in the university. Who knows by then she is having sex. NoToPile: |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Haryourkanmmy: 10:57am On Jul 22, 2017 |
[quote author=Nerdg post=58707491] Did you read the part I said all our break-ups were because she refused sex with me. Why do she do this? My problem is why we had issues because of sex and she's getting it somewhere else?[ coz doesn't want what happened to her in the past to repeat itself... If you love her pls go ahead and marry |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by JennyOfOldstones(f): 10:57am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg:I wonder why men would like sow their wild oats and expect to settle down with virgins. Why the double standard? From your first post, It was implied that she dated someone in school (and it wasn't like she was cheating on you) and probably didn't have sex with him only to see a guy that wanted to marry her and she got pregnant for him and the marriage would have been a done deal but for her parent's intervention, so what's wrong with that? Did you expect her to keep on waiting for you? Someone that equates love to sex? Because she was smart enough not to have teenage sex with you, you now want to hold it against her after so many years. If I was your fiancee and I saw this post, I'd leave your sorry ass. No woman should have time for judgmental jealous men (fuckboys) whose hands aren't clean either 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by YelloweWest: 10:58am On Jul 22, 2017 |
whitebeard:Bless ur heart. I like the fact that this came from a guy. Weldone for good moral. Your mom did a great job. However in this case the girl is even better than the op. She didn't abort. She had a still birth. That's out of her control. 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by shineeye1: 10:59am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Open your eyes guy! Quit this mumu you are forming : that girl is not your destiny wife! By an unexplainable , unimaginable act of divine piloting, providence has shown you a pit you must never fall into. You will ignore this divine grace at your own peril. Your destiny wife , who is a rib off your chest is soon and sure to show up. Thank me later guy! |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by trilobite: 10:59am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg: Your are pissed because your woman was sexually active away from you. were you guys dating at the time? No. were you sexually active yourself? Yes. what is the problem? Listen, I have witnessed a lot of retired olosho weddings and must say you are a lucky man. For a woman to take the risk of loosing her dignity and open up like this she deserves credit. Manipulation or not, this girl make sense. Marry her and what you will get is a lifetime of respect and honor because you have seen her unclothedness and stuck despite. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by Nobody: 11:00am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Originalsly:u wicked small. You just scatterd the whole thing. Tge girl no go like u at all, you are reading straight from her book... The "not a good guy" part caught me...maybe the guy that impregnated her na area father 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by NoToPile: 11:03am On Jul 22, 2017 |
sherlockhush: I read it, the initial line said they were teenagers and she refused him sex along the way while they were most likely still young, He slept with her relation which led to their break up and that was before they gained admissiom and they met again after they got admission and the no sex policy came up again which he couldn't cope with. There is a timeline in this story. Who knows maybe she was not having sex then. His major problem is sex . 2 Likes |
Re: She Told Me A Very Dark Secret, Should I Still Marry Her? by gameboyo: 11:04am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Nerdg: Find someone else to marry. She didn't find u worthy of bin on her, so she doesn't worth ur happiness. She can aswell marry those she might have slept with. Mind u, the two she mentioned may not be the only one she's bin with, yet she found none of them worth marrying except u. |
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