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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by unitysheart(m): 10:04am On Jul 30, 2017
chiteny:


I see you have absolutely no clue as to what mathematics is all about.

Just to give you a hint, it's about working with numbers accurately. wink

Please get out your calculator and you'll understand what I did calculate. Except you didn't read what Prosper wrote. Or did his dad marry his mum at age 10,which if true would make the dad to be 64 years at this time.

Oya beat that.
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by HaneefahRN(f): 10:04am On Jul 30, 2017
humblenature:
NOW LISTEN. i am going to advise you like one who has seen it all. do not.. i repeat do not ever have issues with ur dad. u can disown your mom but never you ever try shii with ur dad. you belong to ur dad. your mom may be good to u but she is of no use to u and she knows it. i advise u. your dad may not be d best dad but do not joke with him. besides, hoe does his relationship affect u? bros u b man o. no forget say one day u go double date. all men we are all thesame o. leave matter for mattiais. your mom is not innocent. leave them to settke dat thing. your love for ur mom is beclouding ur judgement. reply me first before i continue bros

This comment is dripping with idiocy

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by humblenature: 10:13am On Jul 30, 2017
HaneefahRN:


This comment is dripping with idiocy
your vagiina is dripping with semen

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by humblenature: 10:15am On Jul 30, 2017
Fawklicant:


Exactly. I used to get infuriated whenever one of my neighbours lashed out at his wife for a period. The man would just just insult her at the slightest provocation calling her all sorts of names, pig, idiot etc. And this ugleee man is married to a very pretty woman with a body to die for.
Well, my perception changed when I noticed that the woman is a serial cheat and the man was just lashing out to vent his frustaration and helplessness. This woman would take calls in the kitchen while observing the husband through the peephole and cut such calls whenever the man approached. She would leave the house giggling and smiling while talking on the phone immediately after hubby leaves.

She even made passes at people I know.

I cannot vouch for anybody, let alone a woman. They always have a way of playing victim everytime.
the blessing wey God go bless u dey do press up. thank you bros. women are overrated. they don have a say in society. they are second class citizens both in he eyes of God and man. women are just holes and pits designed for mans pleasure dats all.

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by kumbalo(m): 10:21am On Jul 30, 2017
Benita27:
I've come to the realisation that when there're issues between parents, the "Mother" usually gets sympathy from the kids. There's no smoke without fire. That you haven't caught your mum cheating doesn't mean she may not have cheated on your dad ever. I don't support the domestic violence but this isn't your call but elders. It's disrespectful calling his bluff for him. Let an older person with more wisdom handle this issue, your actions could aggravate things.

The first paragraph of your letter shows you took your mother's side and your dad would see it that way. Why not write him another letter, telling him of the good times you all shared together as a family, and stating why you would love him to change and make things work between him and your mum. Do this then invite the elders to talk to them both.

Most marriages go through this phase over time 'cause "Love" isn't enough. What they need to live with is wisdom.
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by positivetaught: 10:50am On Jul 30, 2017
No don't send the text message, summon enough courage with your brother n have a private meeting with your father,let him know that yes you all respect him as a father just the same way you respect your mum n you also deserved to be respected as young adults too but how his behavior is making you so ashamed, let him know that you are men n wouldn't accept your future wives misbehaving or engaging in adultery but that in such situation you need to be very sure of facts to avoid embarrassing n destroying your own family, challenge him to show you proof so that you can confront your mum but let him also know that you are aware if his acts of adultery therefore he should be ready to change n give peace a chance or else he should be prepared to endure whatever actions you may take thereafter, then gauge n a analyse his response n behavior for further actions while you also talk to your mum to be sure is completely Innocent n to maintain calm as you are addressing the situation, you see most children have more affinity for their mothers wright or wrong n this tend to cause a biased feeling in a mother/father dispute, so you need to be tactful, good luck.
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Abagworo(m): 11:55am On Jul 30, 2017
When you become a father you will understand how it feels for your children to gang up with your wife against you. Why are you so separated from your father but yet try to define him from afar? The solution to all these is in your hands and it's simply by rebuilding good father-son relationship. You can discuss everything with your Dad including his promiscuity and why he believed your mum was unfaithful earlier.

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 12:05pm On Jul 30, 2017
Naija men. 'fiaaaa

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Prevho: 12:10pm On Jul 30, 2017
Midastorch:

yeah, that person cares less, i tried it it too on my dad,he got infuriated and keeps showing everybody the text message lyk i gave a Bleep. myself and my dad did not communicate to each other till lyk 3 years.....even till now i call him lyk once in every 6 months some of these old guys no just get brain.....

That is why I said, it doesn't matter.

You only gave him excuse to be himself. Most people will even see you as the bad person.

You also gave him a proper way to guilt trip you.
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by autonomous22: 12:45pm On Jul 30, 2017
TonyeBarcanista:
Prosper is that you?
Lol...
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by ebby9z(m): 1:02pm On Jul 30, 2017
Donjazzy12:

You are a very very foolish child to want to confront your Dad this way. This is exactly why my friend believes that male children of today are completely useless and worthless. He has a daughter whom he dotes on and that girl loves her dad so much to the extent she can take a bullet for him. You on the other hand your Dad should have sold you to buy recharge card. You are completely worthless as a son! As far as I am concerned , if you are his only child , then he should count himself childless.

Why all these vituperation? The young man came here for nature advice and you're there judging him as if you fully comprehend what he has gone through. I'll say you're the immature child here and not the boy.

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Lorax(f): 1:03pm On Jul 30, 2017
juman:


Many nigerian fathers are like that.

Mothers are the pillars that hold many households in nigeria. They pay the bills.
Many men are useless fathers.
They keep doing this because they know that if in the future the kids become successful all they need to do is call some elders or relative to plead on their behalf saying it's the devil's handwork. They need to start facing the consequences of their actions so that others planning to act the same way will know what will happen in the future.
You can't expect to reap where you did not sow.
This young man is trying to find a solution now because he still cares for his father. If this should continue he might be forced to hate him, then in the future they will start singing the forgive him anthem, saying he is your father no matter what. That's nonsense.

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by ebby9z(m): 1:07pm On Jul 30, 2017
Guyman02:
Have you ever thought of asking your father the things he would want your mum to start doing that will make him happy and if he will forgive your mum for any perceived wrong she might have done to him in the past.
Don't take sides with your mum as it will only anger your father.
The source of crisis could be a wrong done by your mum which you may not be aware of and which may have infuriated and humiliated him to the point that he finds succour with other women. For you to put all the blames on your father shows your bias probably because she pays most of your bills as you stated.

Tell your mom to be ready to make some serious sacrifices as may be prescribed by your father for a new beginning, it could be financial issues, emotional, psychological or spiritual or she continues to maintain her stand with no solution.

You said she is a born again Christian but there are several cases whereby some women would obey their pastors and disobey their husbands, would spend more time praying or in church activities than attending to the emotional needs of their husbands and this breeds suspicion even when she is innocent.
You are too young to carry this matter on your head.

Wanted to start typing until I saw this very sagacious post. OP, take this advice and save yourself a terrible future

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 1:17pm On Jul 30, 2017
YOUNGSTUNNA:

Thanks for seeing things differently, everyone else is crucifying me.
His mom is not a baby, she's the one to decide either to stay an endure or get kill by a lunatic husband.... or move out... children have no right to interfere in between else the create enmity within the family. the best he can do is sit both of them and talk sense into them, not siding mom cuz she pays 70% of the bills
You even try to sit both of them down.
Me I wont.
I don't have strength to talk to any of them.
They chose themselves and believed they couldn't live without each other.
Let them live with their choices.
Either by separating or by choosing to endure the loveless marriage.
I can't carry wahala of another person on top my head Abeg.
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Rapahel1116: 1:18pm On Jul 30, 2017
THIS IS ONE OF THE PROBLEMS OF NIGERIA TODAY... .
Donjazzy12:

You are a very very foolish child to want to confront your Dad this way. This is exactly why my friend believes that male children of today are completely useless and worthless. He has a daughter whom he dotes on and that girl loves her dad so much to the extent she can take a bullet for him. You on the other hand your Dad should have sold you to buy recharge card. You are completely worthless as a son! As far as I am concerned , if you are his only child , then he should count himself childless.

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Donjazzy12(m): 1:26pm On Jul 30, 2017
ebby9z:


Why all these vituperation? The young man came here for nature advice and you're there judging him as if you fully comprehend what he has gone through. I'll say you're the immature child here and not the boy.
I am sure you think like him. Foolish male children with no sense of wisdom at all. May your children disrespect you and team up with their mum against you. You as so childish, it make me wanna vomit!
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 1:28pm On Jul 30, 2017
Alero3Arubi:

You even try to sit both of them down.
Me I wont.
I don't have strength to talk to any of them.
They chose themselves and believed they couldn't live without each other.
Let them live with their choices.
Either by separating or by choosing to endure the loveless marriage.
I can't carry wahala of another person on top my head Abeg.
lol, na true sha.... I get my own life and marriage to worry aboutgrin

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by ebby9z(m): 1:39pm On Jul 30, 2017
Donjazzy12:

I am sure you think like him. Foolish male children with no sense of wisdom at all. May your children disrespect you and team up with their mum against you. You as so childish, it make me wanna vomit!

Oh. I thought you sane. Sorry for trying to redeem you. Pls, don't quote me again. Slink back into your dank, musty psychiatry cell where your older generations lived their lives and sired you.

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Donjazzy12(m): 1:39pm On Jul 30, 2017
Prosper24:


Maybe i should wait until after the said family meeting by next month.

If he skips the meeting this time

Or

Continue with his current behavior then I'm done with him.


The most painful thing is, one will keep managing in school while your dad will be sponsoring other women and their children. It pains..


This man has been doing this for years especially when he was still working.


Now he is only receiving pension, why can't him call himself to order instead he is fornicating and sponsoring other women while at the same time accusing my mom of the same fornication.

We have a lot of financial needs.

My dad had money, he was balling but now no investment, incomplete house. The few furnitures we have in the house my mom bought them all.

He married late and close to 30years older than my mom.


That man is a complete failure. So sorry to say but he has refused to take correction.
This boy is very very foolish. Look at how he is rubbishing his father on social media. He is a curse to his father. And his own children will be a curse to him too.
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Donjazzy12(m): 1:41pm On Jul 30, 2017
ebby9z:


Oh. I thought you sane. Sorry for trying to redeem you. Pls, don't quote me again. Slink back into your dank, musty psychiatry cell where your older generations lived their lives and sired you.
And you think you made sense? May your own son disrespect you the way this foolish boy is disrespecting his father on social media. Keep supporting stupish, childish and idiotic male children. Your own curse is still doing press up!
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by ebby9z(m): 1:48pm On Jul 30, 2017
Donjazzy12:

And you think you made sense? May your own son disrespect you the way this foolish boy is disrespecting his father on social media. Keep supporting stupish, childish and idiotic male children. Your own curse is still doing press up!

Only if your wisdom could be closer to your age ; you would have comprehended that I wasn't supporting the boy ( Check out another comment I made on the issue) I was merely telling you to not denigrate the boy that harshly and should have advised him maturely instead of reporting to insults and name calling.

But it seems you weren't properly trained on manners and civility hence your oral diarrhea at everybody you come across. Pls, address it, it's an issue that could ruin your generation's destiny.

P. S I'm normally not a confrontational person in both life and online. But you extremely annoyed me by your incessant albeit unnecessary insult and abuses, especially when you don't fully understand the issue on ground.
Go and sin no more-and grow up. You can't be a child forever.

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Poshij: 1:50pm On Jul 30, 2017
My brother protect your mum ooooo. That was exactly the same thing my mum passed through before she slumped and died in her shop. It's well
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Donjazzy12(m): 1:53pm On Jul 30, 2017
ebby9z:


Only if your wisdom could be closer to your age ; you would have comprehended that I wasn't supporting the boy ( Check out another comment I made on the issue) I was merely telling you to not denigrate the boy that harshly and should have advised him maturely instead of reporting to insults and name calling.

But it seems you weren't properly trained on manners and civility hence your oral diarrhea at everybody you come across. Pls, address it, it's an issue that could ruin your generation's destiny.

P. S I'm normally not a confrontational person in both life and online. But you extremely annoyed me by your incessant albeit unnecessary insult and abuses, especially when you don't fully understand the issue on ground.
Go and sin no more-and grow up. You can't be a child forever.
I was angered by the boys audacity in rubbishing his father on social media. He forgot that he is a man who someday will marry and have kids. He forgot that the law of Karma is especially effective when a child goes against any of his parents for whatever reason.
As for you, duckling, you should also have understood that my anger stemmed from the fact that the idiot was not really looking for advice but support as he has already drafted a letter to his dad.
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by kally90(f): 2:34pm On Jul 30, 2017
Don't send the text please. we have joined faith together and prayed for peace, unity and God's unfailing love upon your family, believing and trusting in him that he has already answered. Show your dad more love,share with him some memories when the family were still happy. Talk to him heart to heart and invite some of his people or your mum siblings to talk to him,especially those ones that he respects. Finally, always put it in prayer.
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Giel: 2:35pm On Jul 30, 2017
dominique:


I totally regret quoting you. It's very obvious that you're a demented human being, imagine justifying infidelity and inhumane treatment towards your fellow human because she came from him rib. Do the world a favour and dont procreate.

why can't you just hide comments like that, such comments deserved to be hidden.
it's just a pity to see such comments.
The guy isn't normal at all
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 2:35pm On Jul 30, 2017
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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by cococandy(f): 2:44pm On Jul 30, 2017
Many Nigerians have fathers like this. Wonder why the half of the society is in disarray. No worthy leadership.
Sorry OP. I'm sure you've gotten enough advice by now

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by cococandy(f): 2:45pm On Jul 30, 2017
Dumbfvck
humblenature:
I thank God for using you to vindicate me.. foul mouthed creatures. evil like their mother eve. tell me. did God create woman? did he breathe life into her? the answer is no.. woman was formed from d rib of man. she is breathing the life of man.God never created her like he created man. so listen man is the bringer of life so u belong to ur dad. the air you breathe is your dads life. bro i repeat, never ever you succumb to womens ways. they easily evoke pity but dont be decieved. many people are in prison today because of the wily ways of women . beware. even adam was destroyed by a woman and everything the world is facing today is because of eve a woman. bros.. i advise you to call your dad aside and ask him to tell you what he knows dat u dont know.. i am sure he will tell you enough to full your ears. instead of running from him, move closer to him.

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by cococandy(f): 2:47pm On Jul 30, 2017
I thought there's no possible way people could get dumber.

I stand corrected
humblenature:
LISTEN EVERYBODY. let me educate u all before some ignorant ignoramus come here and spew trash. SATAN is the ruler of this world . and he hates anything male. he loves females so much because eve obeyed .since then he has formed a relationship with women that has flourished over the years. why do u think there is mammy water , queen of coast? do u hear king of coast?.why is the word witch popular than wizard? why is jezeebel and delilah very popular in bible? listen God uses men , satan uses women . believe it or not. thats why u hear pastors and reverend fathers and nkt pastoresses and reverend mothers. devil is not happy with man(male) because man is Gods direct creation. woman was only made from man. hence d weakness. let me educste u more. why do u think we celeberate women more than men here on earth? womens day, mothers day, different music eulogizing women even after men have suffered too.? its because devil supports them once you serve devik devil will promote you here on earth. whenever u see a man and woman quarelling, never support the woman. woman are not meant to talk were a man is. they were made from the bone of our bones and from the flesh of our flesh. we are lord and master over them . they dont have a say when we are around .and in family matters , they are under thier husband. and that is were they belong. even when the man is bad. they shuld either pray to God for chsnge but never stand uo to him. and so also his offsprings.. so pls dont decieve yourselves that times have changed. Gods word has never changed. the life woman breathes is not directky from God like he did to the male, but they breathe the life of the male through his rib.. woman be warned. una dey talk too much.

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Seastar(m): 2:53pm On Jul 30, 2017
To be very candid with you, this is a serious situation and very rampant these days, many families are into this issues but prefer to just keep their problems under their garments. U have been born, so are Ur siblings, we don't get to choose our parents, if we do, we would have chosen better. U have the power to write a good fate for urself bro, don't let the devil taunt the grace u have for exploit due to family issues, I am a living experience, my dad married three wives yet he still have lots of women he sees outside, everyone minds his/ her business just to keep peace, its not like we get everything we need from him at all times though, for the sake of posterity, we learnt to groan inward alone and not voice out.
The Yorubas have an adage that I can translate thus that if a child hasn't gotten enough power(weapon), he can not ask for what killed his father..... I would say you should only fight when u have gotten the power to.... This I believe should ginger you to find your way to the top quick( not via illegal means), but you should become more hardworking and focus to reach the peak of your career so as to deliver your mum and Ur siblings.. don't fight your dad.... Let him come back to beg... Show him the reason to and he will crawl before Ur mum.... God is the one that can help u through time awfully difficult time, trust and cling unto God... He is definitely able and capable of doing anything.... Remember don't send any msg, it can arouse another issue I believe.... U are bless bro

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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by poppop: 3:42pm On Jul 30, 2017
Prosper24:


After carring out my research and investigations about the happenings in our family which has over the years been a threat to the unity, progress and stability of our coexistence as one family, i beg to state that:





1) Because you have decided for over 4 years now to frustrate, humiliate and disorganize my mother who happens to be your wife with all kinds of accusations,insults and disgrace for a reason best known to you. And:

2) Because you have derived more pleasure in carrying the bordens of your concubines and that of their children to the detriment of your own family even when you are aware of the sufferings and debts in your family.

I want to make it clear that as a result of this, i have taken it upon myself not minding how it will effect me to suspend anything that has to do with the both of us till futher notice to enable you have more finance and less opposition to continue with those activities of yours that gives you pleasure but i find disgraceful, irritating and odious to me.

Thank you.....

Please Don't mind my English and focus on the write up, na vex i dey use right all this stuff...

Hear me and hear me well, DONT SEND IT
Leave them alone because if you do, you will be the one to apologize tomorrow once your parents make up...

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